the permanency of marriage i. god’s part in marriage, matt. 19:3-6 a. god joins in marriage, v. 6...

THE PERMANENCY OF MARRIAGETHE PERMANENCY OF MARRIAGETHE PERMANENCY OF MARRIAGETHE PERMANENCY OF MARRIAGE

I. GOD’S PART IN MARRIAGEI. GOD’S PART IN MARRIAGE, Matt. 19:3-6, Matt. 19:3-6

A. A. God joins in marriageGod joins in marriage, v. 6, v. 6 B. B. God commands the husband and wife to “cleave” God commands the husband and wife to “cleave” to one anotherto one another, v. 5, v. 5 C. C. These facts are seen in Rom. 7:2-3; Mk. 6:17-18; These facts are seen in Rom. 7:2-3; Mk. 6:17-18; Jno. 4:16-18 Jno. 4:16-18 D. D. God alone can loose one from marriageGod alone can loose one from marriage, Rom. , Rom. 7:2-3; Matt. 19:97:2-3; Matt. 19:9


A. A. God joins in marriageGod joins in marriage, v. 6, v. 6 B. B. God commands the husband and wife to “cleave” God commands the husband and wife to “cleave” to one anotherto one another, v. 5, v. 5 C. C. These facts are seen in Rom. 7:2-3; Mk. 6:17-18; These facts are seen in Rom. 7:2-3; Mk. 6:17-18; Jno. 4:16-18 Jno. 4:16-18 D. D. God alone can loose one from marriageGod alone can loose one from marriage, Rom. , Rom. 7:2-3; Matt. 19:97:2-3; Matt. 19:9



II. BENEFITS OF THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP II. BENEFITS OF THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP

A. A. Loving companionshipLoving companionship, Eph. 5:25; Titus 2:4; Matt. , Eph. 5:25; Titus 2:4; Matt. 9:15; 22:2-3; Gen. 23:1-29:15; 22:2-3; Gen. 23:1-2 B. B. Sexual satisfactionSexual satisfaction, Heb. 13:4; 1 Cor. 7:2-5, Heb. 13:4; 1 Cor. 7:2-5 C. C. The proper relationship for the birth and raising The proper relationship for the birth and raising of childrenof children, Gen. 1:28; Eph. 6:4; 1 Tim. 5:14, Gen. 1:28; Eph. 6:4; 1 Tim. 5:14 D. D. The relationship in which to grow oldThe relationship in which to grow old, Gen. 23:1-2, Gen. 23:1-2 E. E. For the general good of husband and wifeFor the general good of husband and wife, Gen. , Gen. 1:26-28, 31; 2:181:26-28, 31; 2:18


II. BENEFITS OF THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP II. BENEFITS OF THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP

A. A. Loving companionshipLoving companionship, Eph. 5:25; Titus 2:4; Matt. , Eph. 5:25; Titus 2:4; Matt. 9:15; 22:2-3; Gen. 23:1-29:15; 22:2-3; Gen. 23:1-2 B. B. Sexual satisfactionSexual satisfaction, Heb. 13:4; 1 Cor. 7:2-5, Heb. 13:4; 1 Cor. 7:2-5 C. C. The proper relationship for the birth and raising The proper relationship for the birth and raising of childrenof children, Gen. 1:28; Eph. 6:4; 1 Tim. 5:14, Gen. 1:28; Eph. 6:4; 1 Tim. 5:14 D. D. The relationship in which to grow oldThe relationship in which to grow old, Gen. 23:1-2, Gen. 23:1-2 E. E. For the general good of husband and wifeFor the general good of husband and wife, Gen. , Gen. 1:26-28, 31; 2:181:26-28, 31; 2:18



II. BENEFITS OF THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIPII. BENEFITS OF THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP

III. WHY DO MARRIAGES FAIL?III. WHY DO MARRIAGES FAIL?

A. A. Because marriage is viewed as a purely human Because marriage is viewed as a purely human arrangementarrangement B. B. Because of a failure to recognize God intended Because of a failure to recognize God intended for marriage to be permanentfor marriage to be permanent, Matt. 19:4, 6, Matt. 19:4, 6 C. C. Because the marriage is based on something Because the marriage is based on something other than loveother than love, Eph. 5:25; Titus 2:4, Eph. 5:25; Titus 2:4 D. D. Because of sexual problemsBecause of sexual problems, Heb. 13:4, Heb. 13:4 E. E. Materialism; financial problemsMaterialism; financial problems, 1 Tim. 6:6-10, 1 Tim. 6:6-10 F. F. A failure to keep courtingA failure to keep courting


II. BENEFITS OF THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIPII. BENEFITS OF THE MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP

III. WHY DO MARRIAGES FAIL?III. WHY DO MARRIAGES FAIL?

A. A. Because marriage is viewed as a purely human Because marriage is viewed as a purely human arrangementarrangement B. B. Because of a failure to recognize God intended Because of a failure to recognize God intended for marriage to be permanentfor marriage to be permanent, Matt. 19:4, 6, Matt. 19:4, 6 C. C. Because the marriage is based on something Because the marriage is based on something other than loveother than love, Eph. 5:25; Titus 2:4, Eph. 5:25; Titus 2:4 D. D. Because of sexual problemsBecause of sexual problems, Heb. 13:4, Heb. 13:4 E. E. Materialism; financial problemsMaterialism; financial problems, 1 Tim. 6:6-10, 1 Tim. 6:6-10 F. F. A failure to keep courtingA failure to keep courting

THE PERMANENCY OF THE PERMANENCY OF MARRIAGE (II):MARRIAGE (II):

WHAT WILL HELP WHAT WILL HELP PRESERVE MARRIAGE?PRESERVE MARRIAGE?

“…“…Quarrelsome couples were punished in such Quarrelsome couples were punished in such manner until harmony was once again restored to manner until harmony was once again restored to their household.” (their household.” (Criminal Museum,Criminal Museum, Rothenburg Rothenburg ob der Tauber)ob der Tauber)

WHAT WILL HELP PRESERVE MARRIAGE? WHAT WILL HELP PRESERVE MARRIAGE?

I. REMEMBER THAT MARRIAGE IS FROM GODI. REMEMBER THAT MARRIAGE IS FROM GOD, Gen. , Gen. 2:24; 1 Pet. 3:1, 7; Eph. 6:4; Josh. 24:152:24; 1 Pet. 3:1, 7; Eph. 6:4; Josh. 24:15

II. PUT YOUR MATE ABOVE EVERY OTHER HUMAN II. PUT YOUR MATE ABOVE EVERY OTHER HUMAN BEINGBEING, Matt. 19:5 , Matt. 19:5

III. BUILD EACH OTHER UPIII. BUILD EACH OTHER UP, Rom. 14:19; Prov. 31:28, Rom. 14:19; Prov. 31:28

IV. CONSIDER AND MEET YOUR MATE’S NEEDS TO IV. CONSIDER AND MEET YOUR MATE’S NEEDS TO THE BEST OF YOUR ABILITYTHE BEST OF YOUR ABILITY, Eph. 5:25; Titus 2:4; 1 , Eph. 5:25; Titus 2:4; 1 Cor. 7:1-5Cor. 7:1-5

V. COMMUNICATIONV. COMMUNICATION

Communication Helps:Communication Helps:

•Focus on what is right or the best course instead of Focus on what is right or the best course instead of on winning the argumenton winning the argument•Listen to understand Listen to understand •Spend time discussing problems and issues you Spend time discussing problems and issues you each think are importanteach think are important•Be sincere Be sincere •Don’t let anger influence how you speak to your Don’t let anger influence how you speak to your matemate•Recognize that arguments are a legitimate way to Recognize that arguments are a legitimate way to communicatecommunicate


VI. LEARN TO SAY “I’M SORRY” AND “PLEASE VI. LEARN TO SAY “I’M SORRY” AND “PLEASE FORGIVE MEFORGIVE ME,” Eph. 4:32; Mk. 11:25-26; Prov. 18:19; ,” Eph. 4:32; Mk. 11:25-26; Prov. 18:19; 19:2219:22

VII. LEARN TO LIVE WITHIN YOUR MEANSVII. LEARN TO LIVE WITHIN YOUR MEANS, 1 Tim. , 1 Tim. 5:8, 14; 1 Cor. 4:2 5:8, 14; 1 Cor. 4:2

VIII. LEARN HOW TO HAVE FUN TOGETHER! VIII. LEARN HOW TO HAVE FUN TOGETHER! Eccl. Eccl. 9:9; Prov. 17:229:9; Prov. 17:22

IX. COMMITMENTIX. COMMITMENT, Matt. 19:4-6, 9, Matt. 19:4-6, 9

Author and business leader Fred Smith: “One of my Author and business leader Fred Smith: “One of my treasured memories comes from a doughnut shop in treasured memories comes from a doughnut shop in Grand Saline, Texas. There was a young farm couple Grand Saline, Texas. There was a young farm couple sitting at the table next to mine. He was wearing sitting at the table next to mine. He was wearing overalls and she a gingham dress. After finishing overalls and she a gingham dress. After finishing their doughnuts, he got up to pay the bill, and I their doughnuts, he got up to pay the bill, and I noticed she didn't get up to follow him. But then he noticed she didn't get up to follow him. But then he came back and stood in front of her. She put her came back and stood in front of her. She put her arms around his neck, and he lifted her up, revealing arms around his neck, and he lifted her up, revealing that she was wearing a full-body brace. He lifted her that she was wearing a full-body brace. He lifted her out of her chair and backed out the front door to the out of her chair and backed out the front door to the pickup truck, with her hanging from his neck. As he pickup truck, with her hanging from his neck. As he gently put her into the truck, everyone in the shop gently put her into the truck, everyone in the shop watched. No one said anything until a waitress watched. No one said anything until a waitress remarked, almost reverently, ‘He took his vows remarked, almost reverently, ‘He took his vows seriously.’” seriously.’” (from David J. Riggs, (from David J. Riggs, http://www.public.usit.net/ driggs/brief.htm)driggs/brief.htm)

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I. REMEMBER THAT MARRIAGE IS FROM GODI. REMEMBER THAT MARRIAGE IS FROM GOD, Gen. , Gen. 2:24; 1 Pet. 3:1, 7; Eph. 6:4; Josh. 24:152:24; 1 Pet. 3:1, 7; Eph. 6:4; Josh. 24:15

II. PUT YOUR MATE ABOVE EVERY OTHER HUMAN II. PUT YOUR MATE ABOVE EVERY OTHER HUMAN BEINGBEING, Matt. 19:5 , Matt. 19:5

III. BUILD EACH OTHER UPIII. BUILD EACH OTHER UP, Rom. 14:19; Prov. 31:28, Rom. 14:19; Prov. 31:28

IV. CONSIDER AND MEET YOUR MATE’S NEEDS TO IV. CONSIDER AND MEET YOUR MATE’S NEEDS TO THE BEST OF YOUR ABILITYTHE BEST OF YOUR ABILITY, Eph. 5:25; Titus 2:4; 1 , Eph. 5:25; Titus 2:4; 1 Cor. 7:1-5Cor. 7:1-5

V. COMMUNICATIONV. COMMUNICATION


VI. LEARN TO SAY “I’M SORRY” AND “PLEASE VI. LEARN TO SAY “I’M SORRY” AND “PLEASE FORGIVE MEFORGIVE ME,” Eph. 4:32; Mk. 11:25-26; Prov. 18:19; ,” Eph. 4:32; Mk. 11:25-26; Prov. 18:19; 19:2219:22

VII. LEARN TO LIVE WITHIN YOUR MEANSVII. LEARN TO LIVE WITHIN YOUR MEANS, 1 Tim. , 1 Tim. 5:8, 14; 1 Cor. 4:2 5:8, 14; 1 Cor. 4:2

VIII. LEARN HOW TO HAVE FUN TOGETHER! VIII. LEARN HOW TO HAVE FUN TOGETHER! Eccl. Eccl. 9:9; Prov. 17:229:9; Prov. 17:22

IX. COMMITMENTIX. COMMITMENT, Matt. 19:4-6, 9, Matt. 19:4-6, 9

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