Pathways to CareersThe 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens

Starter

In your Journal or a separate sheet of paper…1. Write down the nicest thing your best

friend has ever done or said to you.2. Write down the meanest thing your

worst enemy has ever done or said to you. (Don’t use actual bad words)

3. Write down the meanest thing your best friend has ever done or said to you. (Don’t use actual bad words)

4. Write down the nicest thing your worst enemy has ever done or said to you.

The Stuff Life is Made Of“On their deathbed nobody has ever wished they has spent more time at the office.”

What do you think they wished they had spent more time doing?What do you think you will say when you are on your death bed?

Your Relationships

Rate your relationships from 1-5 (1 bad; 5 Great)

1.Friends2.Parents or guardians3.Significant other (if you have one)4.Teachers

Previous Information

In Habits 1-3 we discussed1. Be Proactive- take control of your life,

don’t let other people run you2. Begin With the End in Mind- have goals

and work toward them3. Put First Things First- Now that you

have goals, prioritize your actions to accomplish those goals

These are all internal actions

Habits 4-6- External

Each have to do with relationships1.Habit 4- Think Win-Win2. Habit 5- Seek first to understand,

then be understood3. Habit 6- Synergize

Relationships

The key to mastering relationships is mastering yourself first- that was the first 3 Habits

What makes a successful relationship?

Who is usually the problem in your relationship issues?

Why are relationships important? Personal happiness- who wants to

hang out with people who don’t enjoy themselves

Family happiness- who likes the parents that always nags; who likes the teenager who always complains

PROFESSIONAL HAPPINESS- being able to get along with others will determine how successful you are in your career or job

Today- January 10

Starter

Write down the last bit of gossip you heard about someone. Don’t use names, just write what was said (don’t use bad words either)

The Relationship Bank Account It works like a checking account

Positive things improve a relationship Negative things hurt a relationship

A strong and healthy relationship is always a result of steady deposits made over a long period

Three Things about the RBA1. You have a Relationship Bank

Account with everyone you meet2. You can never close an RBA once it

opens3. Deposits evaporate (are forgotten)

and withdrawals turn to stone (never forgotten)

Continually make small deposits into the RBA with people

Keeping Promises

Read Excerpt page 134 (Sean)- 135 (ends with again)

Keeping Promises

Build Trust By keeping small commitments and

promises Do what you say you are going to do Give out promises sparingly

Too many promises stretch your ability to keep up (Yes Man!)

If you can’t keep a promise Tell the person Tell them why, they will understand if you

mean it

Do Small Acts of Kindness Read the excerpt on page 136-137

(When I was in 9th grade)

“one kind word can warm three winter months”

~Japanese saying

Do Small Acts of Kindness To build friendships

Keep your promises Do small things that make others happy

They don’t have to be all the time They don’t have to cost money They don’t have to be big

It can be as simple as a compliment or just saying “hi”

Do Small Acts of Kindness Read the example on page 137

If you have something nice to say… SAY IT!!!

Be Loyal

Read the paragraph on page 138 (as a junior)

Be loyal to people not only when they are with you, but when they are not. Don’t talk behind people’s backs

Be Loyal

Not being loyal hurts you in 2 ways1. It is a withdrawal from the PBA of

people hearing you.- If you are talking about your friend when

they are not around, what will you say about these guys when they are not around?

2. Invisible withdrawal- somehow people know when you have talked bad about them

Be Loyal

Gossip Girls do it more than boys (we use

physical aggression) It makes the gossiper feel powerful-

reputations in the palm of your hand Is a sign of insecurity Usually aimed at someone who

Looks different Is confident Thinks different

Be Loyal

Read the story on page 139 (the summer following)

Be Loyal

Keep secrets Avoid gossip

You can talk about others, but do it in a constructive way

Stick up for others Read passage on page 140 (one day)

Listen

Just listening to someone can be the greatest and easiest deposit into the RBA Most people don’t listen Listening heals wounds (read top of

page 141) Helps build friendships

Say your Sorry

Saying your sorry makes a deposit into an overdrawn RBA

Lets people know you are willing to admit you are wrong

It is hard to admit you when you are wrong

Don’t let pride get in the way Don’t let fear get in the way Saying sorry disarms people who are mad Read bottom of 141

Set clear expectations

We have a tendency to try to be nice.

We often say things that DON’T hurt feelings, even when we don’t mean it

This leads people on Let people know what you can/can’t

or are willing/not willing to do upfront.