the value of a father

Do You Know Me?

What Went Wrong?• "I am not your father! I am your

manager! And don't you ever forget that.”

• He said that he had often cried from loneliness and would sometimes vomit when he saw his father.

The Value of A Father• In a single-parent home where the

mother is the head of the home, a child is 30 percent more likely to become involved in drugs, alcohol, and violence.

The Value of A Father• In a two-parent biological home,

but where there is a fairly poor relationship with the father, a child is 68 percent likely to become involved in drugs, alcohol, and violence.

The Value of A Father• In a two-parent biological home

where the child has a good to excellent relationship with the father, a child is less than 6 per cent likely to become involved in drugs, alcohol, or violence.

Source: Columbia University Columbine High School Study

The Value of A Father• FBI Post-Columbine study

–Researchers carefully studied the lives of 17 previous school shooters

–“Every shooter was white, middle-class, and from a home in which the father was either absent, distant, or not involved in the parenting process.”

The Value of A Father• Johns Hopkins study

–After 30 years of research involving 1377 graduates,

–Remarkably, the sole common link was the lack of closeness to one's parents, especially the father.

The Value of A Father• Johns Hopkins study Conclusion

–A child raised in a loving, intimate family relationship, especially with the father, can handle stress much better as they grow older. Relationships are the key.

Deuteronomy 6:4-9• "Hear, O Israel: The Lord our

God, the Lord is one! 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. 6 "And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart.

Deuteronomy 6:4-9• 7 You shall teach them diligently to

your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.

Deuteronomy 6:4-9• 8 You shall bind them as a sign on

your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. 9 You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates

Deuteronomy 6:4-9• "Hear, O Israel: The Lord our

God, the Lord is one! 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.

Saint Augustine

• “Love God, then do as you please.”

Deuteronomy 6:4-9• 6 "And these words which I

command you today shall be in your heart.



This is relationship

RELATIONSHIPS

BELIEFS

VALUES

ACTIONSVisible

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2007 MTV Survey• 13 – 24 years old • “What makes you happy?”

– The top answer – spending time with family!

–Nearly three-quarters of 1280 youth surveyed said that their relationship with their parents makes them happy.

RELATIONSHIPS

BELIEFS

VALUES

ACTIONSVisible

Invisible

Socrates• “Fellow citizens, why do you

turn and scrape every stone to gather wealth and take so little care of your children to whom one day you must relinquish it all?”



This is relationship

Ephesians 6:4

“I just wanted a dad. A father who showed me love, and my father never did that. He never once said, 'Michael, I love you.”

Ephesians 6:4 • Fathers, do not provoke your

children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord. (NLT)

Some quotes and statistics from --

Apologetics for a New Generation by Sean McDowell

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