THE “ WHO CARES “ ATTITUDE

IN THE MELTING POT OF MALAYSIAN HEALTH AND STRATEGIES

BY DR SALINA ABDULLAH

INTRODUCTION

1.Unwed mothers (Unwanted pregnancies ) ,

2. Unwed fathers and

3.Abandoned ( Unwanted ) babies

are the 3 human lives that are involved in the birth of a child out of wedlock .

Parents , Health care workers and Welfare officers advice the pregnant mother that they are doing something beautiful and noble for their child by giving the child up for adoption . This ‘martyr’ mindset may cause depression and secondary infertility if the eventual adult does not see it that way .

Family separation is traumaticfor everyone involved, and if there is a way to keep the biological mother,biological father and child together, it should be found.

OBJECTIVE

HEALTH INSURANCE POLICY

1. This policy exists from the 18/52 gestation until 32/52 . The unwed mother ‘s Antenatal Health is taken care of (insured) during this crucial period .She need not try to terminate her pregnancy or be forced by her peers ( the parents , neighbours , society ). We can put an end to FIRST TRIMESTER ABORTIONS AND 3RD TRIMESTER RISKS

2. The policy will give the child a MEDICAL CARD whereby the child’s health needs will be taken care of

3. The policy will give the biological mother the ‘ PAYOR BENEFIT ‘ whereby the mother is insured and enjoys all the health benefits .

4. The best part is the child enjoys education upto to university and will have some money for himself by age 25 yrs .

5. These benefits can help the couple to be together and marry later and remain as a family

6. Should the woman remarry she continues to enjoy the Payor Benefits . She need not suffer the abuse of her new husband and her child . There have been cases of murder too.

CONCLUSION :

Every woman undergoes a sense of insecurity when the biological father is not beside her. Her emotions soar out of the roof throughout the 40 weeks of her pregnancy .These attached emotions are hard to handle and when night falls and she has to go to bed alone how will she overcome these issues?

An Unwed Mother undergoes all these emotional turmoil …. The only difference being her feelings are not recognized .She has no right to these feelings because she is made to regret her pregnancy firstly by parents and then society . She is made to feel inadequate.

The initial reaction by parents to abort the child influences the pregnan twoman to do what they order as she would never need to regret allowing the pregnancy to progress. But is this the end to their escapade? No someone else comes along and history repeats itself . This time she decides to take matters into her own hands and inevitably being unable to manage on her own without parental support she gives the child away to be fostered so that the link is completely broken .This is where child trafficking occurs and the child is even sold to another country .

Choose to have him (the biological father ) in the family set up.

Donors :

1. www.mosit .org.my has come out to help finance ,

2. RHB

3. Tokio Insurance

4. Prudential Insurance

ATTACHMENT :

Attached is a copy of study of 55 Unwed mothers who stayed with me in my Home during their pregnancy .

They were selected to stay in my Home only because they were abandoned by their parents , boyfriends and society at large .

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