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Think not lightly of good, saying, "It will not come to me.”
Drop by drop is the water pot filled.
Likewise, the wise one, gathering it little by little,
fills oneself with good.
Dhammapada 9.122
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Positive Neuroplasticity Training:
Turning Everyday Experiences Into Lasting Inner Strengths
Rick Hanson, Ph.D. The Wellspring Institute For Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom
www.RickHanson.net www.WiseBrain.org
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Class 1:
The Essence of Positive Neuroplasticity
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Introduction
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Think not lightly of good, saying, "It will not come to me.”
Drop by drop is the water pot filled.
Likewise, the wise one, gathering it little by little,
fills oneself with good.
Dhammapada 9.122
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Classes of PNT
1. The Essence of Positive Neuroplasticity 2. Having, Enriching, and Absorbing Experiences 3. Linking Positive and Negative Material 4. Growing Strengths for Safety 5. Growing Strengths for Satisfaction 6. Growing Strengths for Connection
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What We’re Doing in PNT
1. Learning how to deliberately internalize beneficial experiences in implicit memory 2. Using internalization skills to cultivate what would be beneficial in your mind 3. Exploring different ways to encourage beneficial states and traits ! #1 is the most important here.
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Challenges and Resources
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Pick a partner and choose an A and a B (A’s go first). Then you’ll take turns, with one partner mainly speaking while the other person listens, exploring these questions:
What are some of the challenges in your life these days? (in the world, body,or mind)
What mental resources do – or could – help
you with these challenges?
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A Taste of Taking in the Good
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Positive Neuroplasticity – How to Take in the Good: HEAL
Activation
1. Have a beneficial experience.
Installation
2. Enrich the experience.
3. Absorb the experience.
4. Link positive and negative material. [optional]
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Have a Beneficial Experience
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Enrich It
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Absorb It
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Link Positive and Negative Material
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Have It, Enjoy It
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Let’s Try It " Notice something beneficial in awareness.
" Have the experience – more in the foreground. " Enrich it – sustain it, feel it in your body. " Absorb it – receive it, imagine or sense it’s sinking in.
" Create the experience of gladness or gratitude. " Have the experience. " Enrich it. " Absorb it.
" Create the experience of feeling cared about. " Have the experience. " Enrich it. " Absorb it.
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Growing Inner Strengths
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Inner Strengths
" Understandings
" Capabilities
" Positive emotions
" Attitudes
" Motivations
" Virtues
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Pick a partner and choose an A and a B (A’s
go first). Then you’ll take turns, with one partner mainly speaking while the other person listens, exploring this question:
What psychological resources – inner
strengths – would you like to develop in yourself (perhaps through this program)?
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Inner Strengths Are Built From Brain Structure
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Mental activity entails underlying neural activity.
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Repeated mental activity entails repeated neural activity. Repeated neural activity builds neural structure.
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Learning – changing neural structure and
function – proceeds in two stages: From state to trait From activation to installation From short-term memory buffers to long-term storage
The Neuropsychology of Learning
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Inner strengths are grown from experiences of them or related factors - activated states - that are installed as traits.
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You become more compassionate by repeatedly installing experiences of compassion. You become more grateful by repeatedly installing experiences of gratitude. You become more mindful by repeatedly installing experiences of mindfulness.
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Most experiences of inner strengths – resilience, kindness, insight, mindfulness, self-worth, love, etc. – are enjoyable.
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Without installation – without turning passing mental states into enduring neural structure – there is no learning, no change in the brain.
Activation without installation is pleasant,
but has no lasting value. What fraction of your beneficial mental
states ever become neural structure?
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Pick a partner and choose an A and a B (A’s go first). Then you’ll take turns, with one partner mainly speaking while the other person listens, exploring this question:
What are some of the good facts in your life these days?
! As the listener, keep finding a genuine gladness about the good facts in the life of your partner.
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The Three Ways to Engage the Mind
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In the Garden of the Mind
1. Be with what is there 2. Decrease the negative 3. Increase the positive
Witness. Pull weeds. Plant flowers. Let be. Let go. Let in. Mindfulness is present in all three.
“Being with” is primary – but not enough. We also need “wise effort.”
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Velcro for Bad, Teflon for Good
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In the Garden of the Mind
1. Be with what is there 2. Decrease the negative 3. Increase the positive
Witness. Pull weeds. Plant flowers. Let be. Let go. Let in. Mindfulness is present in all three.
“Being with” is primary – but not enough. We also need “wise effort.”
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Have It, Enjoy It
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Class 2:
Having, Enriching, and Absorbing Experiences
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Elements of Experience
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Elements of Experience
" Thought – belief; perspective; expectation; image; memory; idea
" Perception – sensation (e.g., relaxation, vitality); sight; sound; taste; smell
" Emotion – feeling; mood
" Desire – want; wish; hope; value; drive; motivation; purpose; dream; passion; determination
" Action – behavior; posture; knowing how to
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Having Beneficial Experiences
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Positive Neuroplasticity – How to Take in the Good: HEAL
Activation
1. Have a beneficial experience.
Installation
2. Enrich the experience.
3. Absorb the experience.
4. Link positive and negative material. [optional]
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The Two Ways To Have a Beneficial Experience Notice one you are already having. " In the foreground of awareness " In the background
Create one.
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How to Create A Beneficial Experience Look for good facts in:
1. Immediate situation 2. Current or recent events 3. Stable conditions 4. Your character 5. The past 6. The future 7. Bad situations 8. The lives of others 9. Your imagination
10. Care about others 11. Directly evoke a beneficial experience 12. Produce good facts 13. Share about good facts with others
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Turning a Good Fact Into a Good Experience " Bring awareness to your body.
" Soften and open yourself.
" Be a little active in your mind, recognizing aspects of the good fact that naturally elicit an experience.
" Imagine how another person might naturally feel in response to the good fact.
" Have kindness for yourself, encouraging yourself to have a beneficial experience.
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Positive Neuroplasticity – How to Take in the Good: HEAL
Activation
1. Have a beneficial experience.
Installation
2. Enrich the experience.
3. Absorb the experience.
4. Link positive and negative material. [optional]
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Reflections So Far
You can notice or create a beneficial experience. There are lots of ways to create experiences. Beneficial experiences are usually based on facts. Recognizing good facts does not deny bad ones. Good facts about yourself are facts like any other.
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Enriching Beneficial Experiences
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How to Enrich an Experience
" Duration – 5+ seconds; protecting it; keeping it going
" Intensity – opening to it in the mind; helping it get big
" Multimodality – engaging multiple aspects of experience, especially perception and emotion
" Novelty – seeing what is fresh; “don’t know mind”
" Salience – seeing why this is personally relevant
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Absorbing Beneficial Experiences
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How to Absorb an Experience
" Enriching makes the experience more powerful. Absorbing makes memory systems more receptive by priming and sensitizing them.
" Intend and sense the experience is sinking into you. " Imagery – Water into a sponge; golden dust sifting
down; a jewel into the treasure chest of the heart " Sensation – Warm soothing balm
" Giving over to the experience; letting it change you
" Letting go of resisting, grasping, clinging: “craving”
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The good life, as I conceive it, is a happy life. I do not mean that if you are good you will be happy;
I mean that if you are happy you will be good.
Bertrand Russell
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Care and Concern for Yourself " Bring to mind someone you are for. Find a sense of caring,
seeing suffering and worth, feeling support, being an ally. Know this stance toward someone.
" Apply this stance, this feeling, toward yourself.
" Recognizing your difficulties and burdens. Seeing softness and vulnerability inside like in any other person. Recognizing your stress, worry, frustration, hurt, pain.
" Finding warmth for yourself, the wish that you not suffer and instead be truly happy, determined to have a good life as best you can.
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Class 3:
Linking Positive and Negative Material
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It’s Good to Take in the Good
" Development of specific inner strengths " General - resilience, positive mood, feeling loved " “Antidote experiences” - Healing old wounds, filling the
hole in the heart
" Implicit benefits: " Shows that there is still good in the world " Being active rather than passive " Treating yourself kindly, like you matter " Rights an unfair imbalance, given the negativity bias " Training of attention and executive functions
" Sensitizes brain to positive: like Velcro for good
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Keep a green bough in your heart,and a singing bird will come.
Lao Tsu
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Centering Practices
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Pick a partner and choose an A and a B (A’s go first). Then take turns exploring each question before moving on to the next one:
What helps you feel safe? What helps you feel satisfied? What helps you feel connected?
! Focus on how to authentically cultivate this experience in your mind, though you could also talk about how to resource your mind to take the actions that would give you this experience.
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Positive Neuroplasticity – How to Take in the Good: HEAL
Activation
1. Have a beneficial experience.
Installation
2. Enrich the experience.
3. Absorb the experience.
4. Link positive and negative material. [optional]
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Centering Practices
" Feeling already safe
" Feeling already satisfied " Feeling already connected
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Key Resource Experiences
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Our Three Fundamental Needs
Safety
Satisfaction
Connection
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Needs Activated by . . .
Safety – Unpleasant; aversion; threat Satisfaction – Pleasant; opportunity;
loss Connection – Heartfelt; attraction;
rejection
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Needs Met by Three Systems
Safety – Avoiding harms Satisfaction – Approaching rewards Connection – Attaching to others
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Needs Feel Met: Responsive Mode
" When we feel basically safe – not disturbed by threat – the Avoiding system goes Responsive, with a sense of peace.
" When we feel basically satisfied – not disturbed by
loss – the Approaching system goes Responsive, with a sense of contentment.
" When we feel basically connected – not disturbed by
rejection – the Attaching system goes Responsive, with a sense of love.
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The Responsive Mode Is Home Base
In the Responsive “green zone,” the body defaults to a sustainable equilibrium of refueling, repairing, and recovering.
The mind defaults to sustainable equilibrium of: " Peace (the Avoiding system) " Contentment (the Approaching system) " Love (the Attaching system)
This is the brain in its homeostatic Responsive, minimal craving mode.
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Needs Don’t Feel Met: Reactive Mode
" When we feel unsafe – disturbed by threat – the Avoiding system goes Reactive, with a sense of fear.
" When we feel dissatisfied – disturbed by loss – the
Approaching system goes Reactive, with a sense of frustration.
" When we feel disconnected – disturbed by rejection –
the Attaching system goes Reactive, with a sense of heartache.
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The Reactive Mode Is Leaving Home
In the Reactive “red zone,” the body fires up into the stress response: fight, flight, or freeze; outputs usually exceed inputs; long-term building projects are deferred.
The mind fires up into: " Fear (the Avoiding system) " Frustration (the Approaching system) " Heartache (the Attaching system)
This is the brain in its allostatic, Reactive, craving mode.
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Coming Home, Staying Home
Positive experiences of core needs met - the felt sense of safety, satisfaction, and connection - activate Responsive mode.
Activated Responsive states can become
installed Responsive traits. Responsive traits foster Responsive states.
Responsive states and traits enable us to
stay Responsive with challenges.
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Can You Stay in the Green Zone When:
Things are unpleasant? Things are pleasant? Things are heartfelt?
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Some Types of Resource Experiences Avoiding Harms " Feeling basically alright right now " Feeling protected, strong, safe, at peace " The sense that awareness itself is untroubled
Approaching Rewards " Feeling basically full, the enoughness in this moment as it is " Feeling pleasured, glad, grateful, satisfied " Therapeutic, spiritual, or existential realizations
Attaching to Others " Feeling basically connected " Feeling included, seen, liked, appreciated, loved " Feeling compassionate, kind, generous, loving
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The Evolving Brain
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Pet the Lizard
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Feed the Mouse
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Hug the Monkey
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Linking Positive and Negative Material
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“Negative” Material
" “Negative” material includes pain, discomfort, worry, helplessness, anger, frustration, disappointment, drivenness, addiction, loneliness, insecure attachment, hurt, jealousy, resentment, inadequacy, shame
" Comes from the presence of the “bad” and the
absence of the “good” " Activated explicitly and implicitly
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How Linking Works
" Activated negative material associates to whatever is also present in awareness.
" When negative material leaves awareness, these associations are reconsolidated in memory.
" This means that positive material can soothe, ease, put in perspective, and even replace negative material.
" Examples: pain held in spacious awareness; telling a friend about a problem; self-compassion for an upset; feeling cared about alongside feeling hurt
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HEAL by Taking in the Good
1. Have a beneficial experience.
2. Enrich it.
3. Absorb it.
4. Link it with negative material. [optional]
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Conditions for the Link Step
" Divided awareness; holding two things at once
" Not hijacked by negative; if so, drop negative
" Positive material is more prominent in awareness.
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Degree of Engagement with Negative
" The idea of the negative material
" A felt sense of the negative material
" The positive material goes into the negative material (e.g., soothing balm, filling up hollow places, connecting with younger layers of the psyche).
! Throughout, the positive material remains more prominent in awareness.
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Skills with the 4th Step
" Be on your own side; you want the positive to win. Perhaps imagine inner allies with you.
" Be resourceful. It’s OK to be creative, even playful. " If the negative gets too strong, drop it; return to positive.
" Get a sense of receiving the positive into the negative.
" End with just the positive.
" Start with positive or negative material.
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Class 4:
Growing Strengths for Safety
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Multi-Purpose Inner Strengths
" Being on your own side
" Centering
" Calming
" Love " Feeling cared about " Feeling caring " Self-compassion
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Self-Compassion " Compassion is the wish beings not suffer, with
warm-hearted concern. Compassion is sincere even if we can’t make things better.
" Self-compassion simply applies this to oneself.
" To encourage self-compassion: " Get the sense of being cared about. " Bring to mind beings you care about. Find
compassion for them. " Shift the compassion to yourself.
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“Anthem”
Ring the bells that still can ringForget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everythingThat’s how the light gets inThat’s how the light gets in
Leonard Cohen
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Reflections on Fear
" Fear is normal. Avoiding harms is fundamental.
" Much anxiety is unnecessary and unreasonable.
" We tend to overestimate threats and underestimate opportunities and resources.
" People can be afraid . . . to give up fear.
" Remember that you can give up unnecessary anxiety and still remain appropriately cautious, watchful, and strong.
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Class 4: Strengths for Safety
" Feeling protected
" Feeling alright right now
" Handling threats in a Responsive way
" Centering in peace, contentment, and love
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Extra Strengths for Safety
" Feeling strong
" Sense of agency, efficacy
" Relaxation
" Seeing threats and resources accurately
" Finding refuges
" Dropping directly into peace
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Feeling Protected
" Protections in your setting
" Resources inside you and in your life
" Other beings who could help protect you
" Imagining a wall, a shield, a force field protecting you
" Feeling as safe as you reasonably can
" Needless anxiety falling away . . . No need to struggle with anything unpleasant inside you or out in the world . . .
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Feeling Basically Alright Right Now
" Tuning into the body’s signals that all is well right now
" Aware of breathing going fine . . . the heart beating . . . awareness itself keeps on going no matter what arises . . .
" Letting go of the past, not worrying about the future. Noticing that at least in this moment you are OK.
" Being alright, you can let go of any need to struggle with anything unpleasant.
" Feeling alright sinking into places inside that haven’t . . .
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Reactive Approaches to Pain or Threat
" Disturbing and depleting bodily systems
" Overestimating threats and underestimating resources
" Fear, anger, immobilization, helplessness
" Fight, flight, freeze
" Strong sense of I-me-mine
" Vicious cycles in relationships
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Responsive Approaches to Pain, Threat
" Sustainable outflow, intensity, pace
" Centered, grounded, in balance
" Fear or anger contained in mindfulness, calm, strength
" Perhaps positive emotions (e.g., confidence, vigor)
" Less sense of I-me-mine
" Assertive, firm; cautious but not cowed
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Strengths Supporting Responsive Approaches to Pains and Threats
" Recognizing costs of Reactive mode; knowing you can deal with challenges Responsively
" Multi-purpose: on your own side, centered, calm, love
" Feeling strong, agency, protected, alright, relaxed
" Seeing threats and resources accurately
" Finding refuges
" Peace in your core
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Pick a partner and choose an A and a B (A’s
go first). Then take turns exploring this question:
What inner strengths do – or could – help you deal with challenges to safety (things that make you feel anxious, angry, or helpless) in Responsive ways?
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Coming Home
Peace
Contentment
Love
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Class 5:
Growing Strengths for Satisfaction
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Multi-Purpose Inner Strengths
" Being on your own side
" Centering
" Calming
" Love " Feeling cared about " Feeling caring " Self-compassion
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Class 5: Strengths for Satisfaction
" Sense of accomplishment
" Finding beauty
" Imagining the rewards of something you’d like to help yourself want
" Handling opportunities and losses in a Responsive way
" Centering in peace, contentment, and love
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Extra Strengths for Satisfaction
" Noticing something already pleasant
" Gratitude
" Gladness
" The fullness of this moment
" Taking pleasure
" Finding enthusiasm and passion
" Making good plans
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Class 5: Strengths for Satisfaction
" Sense of accomplishment
" Finding beauty
" The fullness of this moment
" Imagining the rewards of something you’d like to help yourself want
" Handling opportunities and losses in a Responsive way
" Centering in peace, contentment, and love
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Pick a partner and choose an A and a B (A’s go
first). Then you’ll take turns, with one partner mainly speaking while the other person listens, exploring these questions:
What are some of the things you have
accomplished in your life? Including lots of seemingly small things.
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Explore this setting for things that are beautiful
to you: sounds, sights, tastes, touches, and smells. Look for little things.
Really take in the sense of beauty.
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Liking and Wanting
" Desire (positively or negatively valenced): " Liking: enjoying, preferring, valuing, “nice to have” " Wanting: pressure, tunnel vision, insisting, “must have,”
addiction, craving; different from simple determination, passion, ambition, aspiration, commitment
" You can like without wanting and want without liking.
" Liking without wanting: heaven; wanting without liking: hell.
" Dealing with the unpleasant, pleasant, heartfelt, and neutral on the basis of liking without tipping into wanting is the essence of the Responsive mode.
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Pick a partner and choose an A and a B (A’s go first). Then you’ll take turns, with one partner mainly speaking while the other person listens, exploring these questions:
What do “liking” and “wanting” feel like for
you, and the differences between them?
What helps you pursue what you like without tipping into pressure, drivenness, and other aspects of wanting it?
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Liking and Wanting
" Desire (positively or negatively valenced): " Liking: enjoying, preferring, valuing, “nice to have” " Wanting: pressure, tunnel vision, insisting, “must have,”
addiction, craving; different from simple determination, passion, ambition, aspiration, commitment
" You can like without wanting and want without liking.
" Liking without wanting: heaven; wanting without liking: hell.
" Dealing with the unpleasant, pleasant, heartfelt, and neutral on the basis of liking without tipping into wanting is the essence of the Responsive mode.
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Encouraging Motivation
" In some ways, the key to life is helping yourself learn to want things that are good for you that you don’t yet want.
" It is said that wisdom is choosing a greater happiness over a lesser one.
" To help your brain want and choose that greater happiness, associate anticipated rewards with whatever you want to encourage, by: " Before doing it, imagine the rewards of it. " While doing it, focus on the rewards of it. " After doing it, recall the rewards of it.
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Strengths Supporting Responsive Approaches to Opportunities and Losses " Seeing costs of Reactive and possibility of Responsive
" Multi-purpose: on your own side, centered, calm, love
" Sense of accomplishment, beauty, fullness of this moment, rewards of what you’d like to encourage, pleasure along the way, gratitude, gladness
" Finding enthusiasm and passion
" Making good plans and drawing in needed resources
" Contentment in your core
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Pick a partner and choose an A and a B (A’s
go first). Then take turns exploring this question:
What inner strengths do – or could – help you deal with challenges to satisfaction (things that make you feel frustrated, disappointed, or grieving) in Responsive ways?
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Coming Home
Peace
Contentment
Love
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Class 6:
Growing Strengths for Connection
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Multi-Purpose Inner Strengths
" Being on your own side
" Centering
" Calming
" Love " Feeling cared about " Feeling caring " Self-compassion
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Class 6: Strengths for Connection
" Happiness at the good fortune of others
" Feeling already connected
" Feeling of worth
" Empathy, given and received
" Engaging relationships in a Responsive way
" Centering in peace, contentment, and love
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Extra Strengths for Connection
" Feeling cared about " Feeling caring " Self-compassion " Generosity " Knowing that you are a good person " Sense of community " Healthy boundaries " Compassionate assertiveness " Not taking things personally
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The Tip of the Root
" In the fourth step of TG, you could try to get at the youngest, most vulnerable layer of painful material.
" The “tip of the root” is commonly in childhood.The brain is generally more affected by the negative experiences that occur in early childhood than by ones occurring later in life.
" Prerequisites " Understanding the need to get at younger layers " Compassion and support for the inner child " Capacity to “presence” young material without flooding
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Pick a partner and choose an A and a B (A’s go first). Then you’ll take turns, with one partner mainly speaking while the other person listens, exploring this question:
What are some of the good facts in your life these days?
! As the listener, keep finding a genuine gladness about the good facts in the life of your partner.
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Feeling of Worth
" It is natural and important to feel that you have worth as a person – which does not mean arrogance or ego.
" You develop this sense of worth through: " Others including, appreciating, liking, and loving you " You respecting yourself
" Take in experiences of being: " Capable, skillful, talented, helpful " Included, wanted, sought out, chosen " Appreciated, acknowledged, respected " Liked, befriended, supported " Loved, cherished, special
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Pick a partner and choose an A and a B (A’s go first). Then you’ll take turns, with one partner mainly speaking while the other person listens, exploring this question:
What was that practice like for you, exploring feelings of worth?
! While listening, be as empathic as you can with your partner.
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Strengths Supporting Responsive Approaches to Closeness and Rejection " Seeing costs of Reactive and possibility of Responsive
" Multi-purpose: on your own side, centered, calm, love " Feeling of worth " Feeling cared about " Self-compassion " Feeling caring; empathy " Compassion for the other person " Autonomy " Clarity " Acting with strength and with heart
" Love in your core
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Pick a partner and choose an A and a B (A’s
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What inner strengths do – or could – help you deal with challenges to connection (things that make you feel hurt, inadequate, resentful, hostile, or lonely) in Responsive ways?
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Pick a partner and choose an A and a B (A’s go
first). Then you’ll take turns, with one partner mainly speaking while the other person listens, exploring these questions:
What are the key benefits for you from this training? What are your key intentions for the days and weeks ahead?
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In the Days Ahead
" Make taking in the good an informal daily habit
" At the end of any formal practices – meditation, exercise, journaling, prayer, yoga, walking the dog – take a few moments to take in the benefits
" Know what your current “vitamin C” is – and look for opportunities to feel it and internalize it
" Be mindful of the hedonic tone of experiences – unpleasant, pleasant, heartfelt, neutral – and help yourself tip toward the green zone about them
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Think not lightly of good, saying, "It will not come to me.”
Drop by drop is the water pot filled.
Likewise, the wise one, gathering it little by little,
fills oneself with good.
Dhammapada 9.122
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Coming Home
Peace
Contentment
Love
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Suggested Books See www.RickHanson.net for other great books. " Austin, J. 2009. Selfless Insight. MIT Press. " Begley. S. 2007. Train Your Mind, Change Your Brain. Ballantine. " Carter, C. 2010. Raising Happiness. Ballantine. " Hanson, R. (with R. Mendius). 2009. Buddha’s Brain: The Practical
Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom. New Harbinger. " Johnson, S. 2005. Mind Wide Open. Scribner. " Keltner, D. 2009. Born to Be Good. Norton. " Kornfield, J. 2009. The Wise Heart. Bantam. " LeDoux, J. 2003. Synaptic Self. Penguin. " Linden, D. 2008. The Accidental Mind. Belknap. " Sapolsky, R. 2004. Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers. Holt. " Siegel, D. 2007. The Mindful Brain. Norton. " Thompson, E. 2007. Mind in Life. Belknap.
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Key Papers - 1 See www.RickHanson.net for other scientific papers. " Atmanspacher, H. & Graben, P. 2007. Contextual emergence of mental states
from neurodynamics. Chaos & Complexity Letters, 2:151-168.
" Baumeister, R., Bratlavsky, E., Finkenauer, C. & Vohs, K. 2001. Bad is stronger than good. Review of General Psychology, 5:323-370.
" Braver, T. & Cohen, J. 2000. On the control of control: The role of dopamine in regulating prefrontal function and working memory; in Control of Cognitive Processes: Attention and Performance XVIII. Monsel, S. & Driver, J. (eds.). MIT Press.
" Carter, O.L., Callistemon, C., Ungerer, Y., Liu, G.B., & Pettigrew, J.D. 2005. Meditation skills of Buddhist monks yield clues to brain's regulation of attention. Current Biology. 15:412-413.
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Key Papers - 2
" Davidson, R.J. 2004. Well-being and affective style: neural substrates and biobehavioural correlates. Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society. 359:1395-1411.
" Farb, N.A.S., Segal, Z.V., Mayberg, H., Bean, J., McKeon, D., Fatima, Z., and Anderson, A.K. 2007. Attending to the present: Mindfulness meditation reveals distinct neural modes of self-reflection. SCAN, 2, 313-322.
" Gillihan, S.J. & Farah, M.J. 2005. Is self special? A critical review of evidence from experimental psychology and cognitive neuroscience. Psychological Bulletin, 131:76-97.
" Hagmann, P., Cammoun, L., Gigandet, X., Meuli, R., Honey, C.J., Wedeen, V.J., & Sporns, O. 2008. Mapping the structural core of human cerebral cortex. PLoS Biology. 6:1479-1493.
" Hanson, R. 2008. Seven facts about the brain that incline the mind to joy. In Measuring the immeasurable: The scientific case for spirituality. Sounds True.
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Key Papers - 3
" Lazar, S., Kerr, C., Wasserman, R., Gray, J., Greve, D., Treadway, M., McGarvey, M., Quinn, B., Dusek, J., Benson, H., Rauch, S., Moore, C., & Fischl, B. 2005. Meditation experience is associated with increased cortical thickness. Neuroreport. 16:1893-1897.
" Lewis, M.D. & Todd, R.M. 2007. The self-regulating brain: Cortical-subcortical feedback and the development of intelligent action. Cognitive Development, 22:406-430.
" Lieberman, M.D. & Eisenberger, N.I. 2009. Pains and pleasures of social life. Science. 323:890-891.
" Lutz, A., Greischar, L., Rawlings, N., Ricard, M. and Davidson, R. 2004. Long-term meditators self-induce high-amplitude gamma synchrony during mental practice. PNAS. 101:16369-16373.
" Lutz, A., Slager, H.A., Dunne, J.D., & Davidson, R. J. 2008. Attention regulation and monitoring in meditation. Trends in Cognitive Sciences. 12:163-169.
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Key Papers - 4
" Rozin, P. & Royzman, E.B. 2001. Negativity bias, negativity dominance, and contagion. Personality and Social Psychology Review, 5:296-320.
" Takahashi, H., Kato, M., Matsuura, M., Mobbs, D., Suhara, T., & Okubo, Y. 2009. When your gain is my pain and your pain is my gain: Neural correlates of envy and schadenfreude. Science, 323:937-939.
" Tang, Y.-Y., Ma, Y., Wang, J., Fan, Y., Feng, S., Lu, Q., Yu, Q., Sui, D., Rothbart, M.K., Fan, M., & Posner, M. 2007. Short-term meditation training improves attention and self-regulation. PNAS, 104:17152-17156.
" Thompson, E. & Varela F.J. 2001. Radical embodiment: Neural dynamics and consciousness. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 5:418-425.
" Walsh, R. & Shapiro, S. L. 2006. The meeting of meditative disciplines and Western psychology: A mutually enriching dialogue. American Psychologist, 61:227-239.
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Where to Find Rick Hanson Online
Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence www.rickhanson.net/hardwiringhappiness
youtube.com/drrhanson
facebook.com/rickhansonphd
Personal website: www.rickhanson.net
Wellspring Institute: www.wisebrain.org