trust the invisible ingredient mysterious and mercurial global mentorship baltimore june 2012
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TrustTrustthe Invisible the Invisible IngredientIngredient
mysterious and mercurialmysterious and mercurial
Global Mentorship Baltimore Global Mentorship Baltimore June 2012June 2012
Villains - disloyal, Villains - disloyal, manipulative, manipulative,
self centred greed, self centred greed, harmful intention harmful intention
Betrayal Betrayal
Heroes - inner conviction and purpose for theHeroes - inner conviction and purpose for thegreater good, steadfast faith, resilient couragegreater good, steadfast faith, resilient courage
and triumph with confidence and humility,and triumph with confidence and humility,standing in the power of their idealism. standing in the power of their idealism.
TrustworthyTrustworthy
A trustworthy character A trustworthy character opens our heart.opens our heart.
Trust nurtures creativity, Trust nurtures creativity, love and love and freedom.freedom.
worry Confusion aggression
Bullies Liars Teaser backbiters
Excluders Underminers
Mockers
worthlessness
lonely
Hurt sadnessalienation
Fear
depression
violence
ANGER
they exp
erience
Environment and Atmosphere
.....are KEY....SAFE ZONES Human
Environments are DEGREES
of.....
CHAOS
CREATIVEZONES
violence continuumassertive
irritated
frustrated angryaggressive
abusive
violent
bullying
teasing exclusion
undermining
mental
emotional
physicalspiritual
be
feel
thinkplay
learn
relate
understand
believe
Think of someone:Think of someone:
1)1) ...whom you don’t trust....whom you don’t trust.
2)2) ...whom you kind of trust....whom you kind of trust.
3)3) ...whom you fully trust....whom you fully trust.
How do you feel about them? How do you feel about them?
What is your attitude towards them?What is your attitude towards them?
What happened to make you to think What happened to make you to think
about them in these ways?about them in these ways?
How do you treat them?How do you treat them?
This is the
This is the
Power of T
rust
Power of T
rust
Be the Be the Gardener Gardener – plant seeds and – plant seeds and nurturenurture them, them, trustingtrusting they will grow in their own time they will grow in their own time
into bud, flower and seed - as is their nature.into bud, flower and seed - as is their nature.
are characterised by humour andare characterised by humour andjoyfulness - collaboration,joyfulness - collaboration,
reliability and cooperation. reliability and cooperation. forgivenessforgiveness
Deep Listening, care & safety.Deep Listening, care & safety.Encouraged individuality, Encouraged individuality,
creativity and risk. creativity and risk.
High Trust High Trust EnvironmenEnvironmen
tsts
LearnersLearners
LeadersLeaders
TeamsTeams
CurriculumCurriculum
LocalLocalCommunityCommunity
Corporate Corporate
ResilientResilient
ResonantResonant
CollaborativeCollaborative
RelevantRelevant
Engaged Engaged
SponsorsSponsors
Local Local Area NetworkArea Network
LANLAN
What a High TrustWhat a High TrustEnvironment looks like, Environment looks like,
applying aapplying afilterfilterlenslens
the principlesthe principles
Unconditional TrustUnconditional Trust Blind FaithBlind Faith
Trust is like the ocean,Trust is like the ocean,Fish only notice it Fish only notice it
when it is not there.when it is not there.
Proactive TrustProactive Trustfriends, allies, family, work, friends, allies, family, work, teams, society, government,teams, society, government,Institutions, religion ...Institutions, religion ...
atmosphere
atmosphere
Sticks and Stones Sticks and Stones
will break my heartwill break my heart,,and reduce my and reduce my trusttrust!!
can break my bones and names …can break my bones and names …
language
language
High Trust High Trust Environments Environments
EncourageEncourageOpportunitiesOpportunities
Confidence to Confidence to risk & express risk & express creativitycreativity
supportsupport
1.1. Integrity – characterIntegrity – character
CredibilityCredibility
The Speed of Trust by Stephen M R Covey
2. Intent - agenda2. Intent - agenda
3. Capabilities – competence3. Capabilities – competence
4. Results – track record4. Results – track recordstr
uctu
re
struc
ture
Proactive Trust is an atmosphere Proactive Trust is an atmosphere built:built:
•Organically - Organically - slow and steadyslow and steady, , not not like a lightlike a light switchswitch
•by showing our by showing our humanityhumanity – be authentic – be authentic
•by by workingworking with with imperfection and mistakesimperfection and mistakes
•with less authoritarian control and morewith less authoritarian control and more understandingunderstanding - respecting difference - respecting difference
• not not pretendingpretending everything’s okay - tell the everything’s okay - tell the truthtruth in a way that others hear you in a way that others hear you. .
• by empowering people to be the by empowering people to be the individualsindividuals they are meant to bethey are meant to be
• People - People - LeadersLeaders who find the right people who find the right people for the right job at the right time – loyalty, for the right job at the right time – loyalty,
commitment, grit.commitment, grit.
• Seeing Life through the Seeing Life through the LensLens of building trust of building trust
Human RightsHuman RightsMy Rights My Responsibilities:My Rights My Responsibilities:
For For youyou to claim and enjoy your Human to claim and enjoy your Human RightsRights,,II mustmust take take responsibilityresponsibility for the way I treat you. for the way I treat you.
For For meme to claim and enjoy my Human to claim and enjoy my Human RightsRights,,YouYou mustmust take take responsibilityresponsibility for the way you treat me. for the way you treat me.
Empathy, Understanding, Assertiveness, Respect
Context: There has never before been a time in
human history, that this privilege has been available to
human beings. Justice, Courage, Friendliness, Trust, Honour
High Trust High Trust Environments OfferEnvironments Offer
Naming Virtues not Shaming
Mentorship not Censorship
Restitution not Retribution
Cooperation not Conflict
Inclusion not Exclusion
Assertive not Offensive
Curious not Furious
Joy not Fear
Be a Virtues and Values Be a Virtues and Values GardenerGardener
Plant seeds and nurture them, Plant seeds and nurture them, trusting they will grow in their own timetrusting they will grow in their own time
into bud, flower and seed into bud, flower and seed as is their nature.as is their nature.
be the scaffolding – be the supportbe the scaffolding – be the support
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The 5 Strategies of the Virtues Project
Makes human rights - personal
Honours – Equality (same same…)
(…but) different – empathy, tolerance
Grows relationships of TRUST - credibility
Restores Culture – self worth, purpose
Builds Unity in Diversity - Ubuntu
Nurtures Conscience & Empowers Resilience