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Created for Parents by Michele Borba To Help Raise an UnSelfie Generation
Abookguideisalsoavailableforeducatorsonhowtoimplementempathy-buildingstrategiesinschools.Seewww.micheleborba.comforafreePDFandtocontactDr.Borbaforspeakingormedia.
A Parent Discussion Guide
For
UnSelfie By Michele Borba, Ed.D.
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Facilitating an UnSelfie Parent Group
Teens today are 40 percent less empathetic than theywere 30 years agowith dangerousimplicationsforchildren.First,ithurtschildren’sacademicperformanceandleadstobullyingbehaviors.Also,itcorrelateswithmorecheatingandlessresilienceaswellashamperingtheirabilitytocollaborate, innovate, and problem-solve—all vital skills for the global economy. UnSelfie: WhyEmpatheticKidsSucceedinOurAll-About-Me-World,pinpointstheforcescausingtheEmpathyCrisisandsharesarevolutionary,researched-based,nine-stepparentingplanforreversingwhatDr.Borbacalls“the“SelfieSyndrome.”ThisguideisdesignedtohelpparentsdiscusshowtoapplythestrategiesinUnSelfietoraiseempathetic,courageous,caringchildrenwithskillstothriveina21stcentury,digital-drivenworld.
How to Start a Book Group for UnSelfie
• IdentifyparentsinterestedinformingabookclubtodiscussUnSelfie.• Eachmember shouldorderacopyofUnSelfie:WhyEmpatheticKidsSucceed inOurAll-AboutMe
WorldbyMicheleBorba(Touchstone,2016,ISBN:978-1501110030fromyourpreferredretailer.Itisavailableinhardbound,e-bookoraudioformat.
• Determinethespecificdays,times,placesandfrequencyforyourgroupmeeting.• Assignadiscussionleaderorrotatetheroleateachdiscussion.• Askparticipantstoreadthechapter-to-be-discussedpriortoeachmeeting.• Usethequestionsprovidedtofacilitatediscussions.Somegroupsaskeachparticipanttodevelopone
questionforeachmeeting.Thekeyistomakeyourmeetingsmeaningfulforparents
4 Ways to Divide UnSelfie Discussion Content and Meeting Frequency
There are several ways to divide your discussion content. Here are four possibilities, but choose thenumberoftotalbooksessionsbasedongroupconsensusandneeds.1. 9meetingsdiscussingonechapterpermonth.Mostbookclubsmeetonceamonthanddiscussa
differentchapter inUnSelfie.Sincethereareninechapters,themeetingswouldtakeninemonthstotal.
2. Traditionalbookclub-onemeetingtotal.Meet justonceanddiscuss issuesparticipantsfindmostrelevant.
3. Twochapterspermeeting; fourmeetings total. YoumightdivideUnSelfie into four sectionsanddiscusstwochaptersateachmeeting
4. ThreetotalsessionsdividedintohowtoDevelopEmpathy,PracticeEmpathyandLiveEmpathy:ThefirstmeetingwoulddiscussHowtoDevelopEmpathy(Chapters1,2,3,4);Sessiontwo:HowtoPracticeEmpathy(Chapters5,6,7);Sessionthree:HowtoLiveEmpathy(Chapters8,9).
NOTE:Pagenumbersinthee-bookformatmaydifferfromthisguidedesignedforthehardcopyofUnSelfie.How to Teach Kids the Empathy Skills and Habits in UnSelfie
Dozensofempathy-buildingskillsareprovidedinUnSelfieandboxedareasofeachchapterdiscussion.Parentsshouldchoosethosedeemedimportantfortheirchildren.Usethismodeltoteacheachskill.1. SHOW.Askillislearnedbestifyoushow(nottellorlecture)whatitlookslike.Somodelitforthe
child!Pointitoutincontext.Provideexamplessothechildcanseeitandcopyit.2. ROLEPLAY.Roleplaytheskillwiththechildsoheunderstandswhatitlookslikeinaction.3. PRACTICE.Skillsarelearnedbestthroughrepetitionandgenerallytakearound21daysofpracticeto
bemastered.Findvariouswaysforthechildpracticetheskill.4. REINFORCEORCORRECT.Correctanyerrorsincontextandpraiseyourchild’sskill-buildingefforts.5. STEPBACK.Onceyourchildhasmasteredtheskillandcanuseitwithoutyourguidance,teachthe
nextempathy-builderandthenthenextandthenext!
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SUGGESTED QUESTIONS TO DISCUSS INTRODUCTION: The Hidden Advantage of Empathy
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1. WhataboutUnSelfiepeakedyourinterest?Whatdoyouhopetogainfromthesediscussions?
2. Howwouldyouanswer:“Whatdochildrenreallyneedtobehappyandsuccessfulintoday’sworld?”(pgxiii).Doyoubelieveempathyis integral to children’s future successhappinessandwell-being?Despitescience,whydomanythinkempathytobeasoftskill?
3. Teenstodayare40percentlessempatheticthanthirtyyearsago.Haveyouseenachangeinyourchildorhisfriends’characterandbehaviorthatmightindicatetheSelfieSyndrome?(pgxiv).
4. UnSelfiedescribesseveralfactorsthatcontributetotheEmpathyDeficit.Whichculturalfactors/parentingstylesdoyouthinkaffectkids’empathycapacities?Whichfactorscanparentsreallycontrol?
5. Stepintotheshoesoftoday’skids:Whatinvisibleandvisiblemessageswouldyouseeaboutourourculture? Are they ones that would nurture an empathy and help to produce a generation of“Unselfies”oraremorelikelytoexacerbatetheSelfieSyndrome?
6. Whichofthenineessentialhabitsdoyoufeelaremostcrucialfortoday’s21stcenturykids?Whichhabitsareyouinstillinginyourchild?Whichmightyoubeoverlooking?(pgxix)
7. Howcouldparentsteachempathyhabitsinsuchawaythattheirchildrenmasterthemandnolongerneedourreminders?Howmightyounetworkwithotherparentstocultivatechildren’sempathy?
8. Whatskillswillourchildrenneedtosucceedintheglobaleconomywhenjobsoftomorrowdon’texisttoday?Whatshouldparentsbedoingtopreparekidsforaworldofrapidchange?
9. Howwouldyoudefinean“Unselfieworld?”Whatwouldanempatheticfamily,school,community,nationlookandsoundlike?Howdowecreateempathyinthoseteachableparent-childmoments?
10. Whatbehaviorswouldadultsdisplayinanempatheticculture?Whatoftenisyourchildseeingadultsmodelcourage,empathyandcompassion?Howoftendoesyourchildseeyoumodelempathy?
11. Whatisyourhopeincultivatingempathyinyourchildren?
PART I: DEVELOPINGEMPATHYChapter 1. Empathetic Children Can Recognize Feelings
1stEMPATHYHABIT:Teachingemotionalliteracytohelpchildrenrecognizeandunderstandthefeelingsandneedsofothers
Correspondstopages3to24inUnselfieEmotionalliteracyiswhatmotivatesachildtocare,anditallstartsbytuningintofeelings.Identifying,understanding,andexpressingemotionsaretheskillskidsneedtoactivateempathy.Itturnsoutthatkidsschooledinfeelingsaresmarter,nicer,happierandareresilientthanchildrenwhoarelessliterateintheirEmotionalABCs(page7),anditisateachablehabit.• CommonSenseMediafindsthattheaveragechildispluggedintodigitaldevicesaboutninehoursa
day.Whatimpactdoesadigitaldeviceshaveonkids’empathy?Howdoyouknowifyourfamilyis“toopluggedin?”
• Whatwayscanparentsreclaimconversationwithchildreninadigital-drivenworld?Pages18-20listswaystosetdigitallimits.Howareyousettinglimits?Howdowehelpchildrendevelophealthy
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relationshipswithpeers,especiallywhenface-to-facecontactisbreakingdownandtheinternetismeaner?
• Onestudyfoundthat62percentofkidssaidtheirparentsweretoopluggedin(page10).Howwouldyourkidsdescribeyourdigitalhabits?Howcanparentssetabetterexamplefortheirkids?
• WhywasMaryGordon’sRootsofEmpathyapproach(page3)successfulinincreasingchildren’sempathy?Whatarereal,meaningfulwaystohelpyourchildexperienceempathy?
• Mothersaremorelikelytodiscussemotionswithdaughtersthansons.Whatimpactdoesithaveonboys?Doyounoticethetendencyinyourfriendsoryourself?Whatwillyoudotoreducethepink-blueemotiondivide?
• Tuningintofeelingsisanessentialpartofgoodparentingandlaysthegroundworkfordevelopingcloserelationshipswithourkids.Howcoulddevelopingempathyenhanceyourrelationshipwithyourchild?Howcanparentscultivatetheirempathysotheymodelempathytotheirchildren?
• Emotionalliteracyiscitedasakeytomotivatingkidstocare.Whatwayscanyoucanhelpyourdigitalnativeunderstandfeelingsandtuneintoothers(pg20-24)?
EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTEMOTIONALLITERACY1. 4TRule:NoTexting,Tapping,TalkingonacellorTVviewingwhenothersarepresent(pg17):To
tuneintoemotionsandnotletdigitaldeviceshinderface-tofaceconnections.2. AlwaysLookattheColoroftheTalker’sEyes(pg17):Topickuponfacialexpressions,voicetone,
andemotionalcues.3. NametheFeeling,PoseQuestionsthatTuneInToFeelingsorMatchtheWordwiththeGesture
(pg17):Tobuildafeelingvocabularyandhelpchildrenrecognizefeelingsandneedsofothers.Chapter 2: Empathetic Kids Have Moral Identities
2ndEMPATHYHABIT:Developinganethicalcodesochildrenwilladoptcaringvaluesthatguidetheirintegrityandactivityempathytohelpothers
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• Howhaveculturalvalueschangedthatmightaffecttoday’schildren’scharacter?Whatfactorsareincreasingnarcissism?(pg28).Doyouseeariseinyouthentitlement?Ifso,why?
• Ourmessageshelp“depositprosocialimagesinourchildren’sidentitybankssotheycandefinethemselvesascaring,responsiblepeoplewhovalueothers’thoughtsandfeelings”(pg27).WhatkindsofdailyactionscanparentsdotonurturepositiveMoralIdentitiesintheirchildren?
• Whydo“two-thirdsofadolescentsranktheirownpersonalhappinessasmoreimportantthantheirgoodness?”(pg27).Whatareyoudoingtohelpyourchildrecognizethevalueofcaring?
• Howcanparentshelptheirchildrenfindtheir“respectfulvoice”(pg42)inadisrespectfulworld?• Howwepraisehelpskidsdefinethetypeofpeopletheybelievethemselvestobe.Wrongpraisecan
increasenarcissism.Howmightyouusethescience-backedstrategies(pg33)?• Howdoyouthinkyourchildwoulddescribeyourfamily’svalues?Whatdoyouhopeyourchild
wouldsay?Howcouldyouapplythestepsto“CreatingaCaringFamilyMantra”(pg38)?• Page42asks:“IfIweretheonlyexamplemychildhadtolearnMoralIdentity,whatdidshelearn
today?”Howcanparentstuneuptheirbehaviortoexemplifysocialresponsibilityandcaring?EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTMORALIDENTITY1. HowtoREFUSETemptations(pg36-37):Tobuckpeerpressureandstickupforbeliefs.2. “Isthatme?”tests(pg43):Tosticktomoralidentityandconscienceintryingtimes.3. Self-Talk(pg43):Tocountertauntsandadheretopersonalcodeofethics.4. TheKINDRule(pg44):Toguideinnermoralcompassbothonlineandoff.
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Chapter 3. Empathetic Kids Understand the Needs of Others
3rdEMPATHYHABIT:Instillingperspectivetakingsochildrencanstepintoothers’shoestounderstandanother’sfeelings,thoughtsandviews
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• Doyouagree(pg49):'Children’sempathyissparkedbyactiveface-to-faceexperiences-notlectures'?Canyourecallateacher’slessonthathelpedyouunderstandanother’sperspective?Ifso,whywasitmemorable?Howcanyouprovidesuchauthenticexperiencesforyourchild?
• Page70states:“It’seasierforchildrentoempathizewithpeopletheyknow,oraresimilarto,sowidenyourchild’sperspectivebyexposinghimtopeopleofdifferentbackgrounds.”Howcouldyouwidenyourchildren’sSocialHubssotheyaremorelikelytoempathizewithpeoplewhoare“different”or“notlikethem?”Whatareyoudoingtobroadenyourchild’sempathyhorizons?
• Science finds thatdisciplinecanstretchor shrinkchildren’sperspective takingabilities (pg50-60).Whereonthe‘stretchorshrink’spectrumwouldyousayyourdisciplinepracticesfall?Whichpracticesdoyoubelieveparentsshouldusetonurtureempathy?Aretheydifferentfromhowyouwereraised?
• Whichage-by-agestrategywouldyouconsiderusingoradapting(pg65-70)toexpandyourchildren’perspectivetakingabilities?Whatotherstrategiesmightyouconsider?
EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTPERSPECTIVETAKING.1. SOLER(pg61):Fivekeylisteningskillstoboostempathyandpayingattentiontotheother.2. LookandListenfortheEmotion(pg61):Playingdetectivetolookandlistenforthefeeling.3. PutYourselfinTheirShoes(pg62):Toimaginetheotherperson’sperspective4. DescribeTheirSide(pg62):Toparaphraseaspeaker’sperspectiveandincreaseempathy.5. “IWonder”(pg66):Tostretchperspectivetakingwhenencounteringsomeonenew.
Chapter 4. Empathetic Kids Have a Moral Imagination
4thEMPATHYHABIT:Instillingamoralimaginationsokidscanuseliterature,filmsandemotionally-chargedimagesasasourceofinspirationtofeelwithothers
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• “Bookscanbeportalstounderstandingotherworldsandotherviewstohelpingourchildrenbemoreopentodifferencesandcultivatenewperspectives.”Whichbookswereyourchildhoodfavorites?Whichresonatewithyourchild?Wereyousurprised(pg78-80)onthepowerofliteraryfictiontoactivateempathy?Howcanyoufindbooksthatpullyourchild’sheartstrings?
• Posingtherightquestionscanhelpkidsvicariouslystepintosomeoneelse’splace.Whatstrategies(pg80)mighthelpyourchildseetheworldfromotherperspectives?
• Aroundeightiswhenkidsgenerallystopreadingforenjoyment,andalsowhenwetypicallystopreadingaloudtothem.Howcanyouusetheideas(page86-87)toinstillinyourchildagreaterloveofreading?
• Haveyouconsideredstartinga“Parent-ChildBookClub?”Ifso,howwouldyoustart?• Whichage-by-agestrategy(orothers)intriguedyourinterest(pg88-91)?
EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTMORALIMAGINATION.1. Ask“WhatIf?”(pg84):Tothinkaboutacharacterfromthechild’sperspective.2. “HowWouldYouFeel?”(pg84):Tohelpreflectastowhetherthechildsharedsimilarexperience.3. Switch‘Me’to‘You’:(pg85):Toswitchfrom“me”thinkingto“we”thinking.
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PART TWO: PRACTICING EMPATHY
Chapter 5. Empathetic Children Can Keep Their Cool
5thEMPATHYHABIT:Masteringself-regulationtohelpchildrenlearntomanagestrongemotionsandreducepersonaldistresssotheycanhelpothers
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• Researchsaysthatself-controlisabetterpredictorofadultwealth,healthandhappinessthangradesorIQ?Doyouagree?Ifso,why?Aretoday’schildrenbeingraisedtohaveself-control?
• Areyounoticingachangeinchildren’s(andadults)abilitytoregulatetheirself-control?Ifso,whatdoyouattributetheincrease?Howwelldoyourchildrenmanagetheiremotions?
• Whatareyoudoingtohelpyourchildrenlearnhabitsofself-regulation?• UnSelfiedescribesapproachesthatnurturechildren’sself-regulation(likestress-management,yoga,
meditation,mindfulness).Didanyinterestyou?HaveyouconsideredaParent-ChildYogagroup?• Schoolsareembracingmindfulnesspractices(pg106-108).Wouldyouconsideradoptingthe
approachinyourhome?Howmightyoustart?Aretherewaysyoumightjoinotherparents(suchasinplaygroups,scouting,playdates)toteachself-regulationpracticestoyourchildrentogether?
• Whichage-by-agestrategy(pg106-116)wouldyouconsiderusingwithyourchildren?Whatotherself-regulationstrategieshaveyourtried?Howwouldyouknowiftheyworked?
EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTSELF-REGULATION1. JustBreathe(pg110,113):Tolearnmindfulbreathingandincreaseself-regulationabilities.2. BellyBreathing(pg111):Tolearnbreathcontroltocreateaninstantrelaxationresponse.3. LearnaCoolDownStrategy(ImagineaCalmPlace,Self-Talk,or1+3+10)(pg113-114):Toadopt
aself-regulationhabitwhenstresskicksin.4. GratitudeBreathing(pg114-115):Tousemindfulbreathingtoincreasecompassionandgratitude.
Chapter 6. Empathetic Children Practice Kindness
6thEMPATHYHABIT:Developingandexercisingcompassiontoincreasechildren’sconcernaboutthewelfareandfeelingsofothers
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• DidHarvard’ssurvey(pg124)astothevaluesteensdeem“mostimportant”surpriseyou?Whatvalueswouldyourchildsaymatter?Doyouagreethat“achievementandsuccess”aretrumping“kindnessandcharacter”?(pg124)Howcanparentshelpkidsrealizethatkindnessmatters?
• Doyouagreethatkindnesscanbestretchedlikeamuscle?Whydomanyparentsthinkthatkindnessisafixedtrait?Howcanyouhelpyourchildpracticekindness(suchasonpg129-135)?
• JessicaandMarkinitiatedSecretKindnessBuddies(pg136)tofocusonkindnessandgiving.Arethereotherfamilyrituals(suchasthoseonpg135-139)youwouldliketotrywithyourkids?
• “Kidslearnkindnessbestthroughexample”(pg134).Ifyourchildhadonlyyourexampletowatch,wouldhecatchkindness?Howcanparentsbemoreintentionalaboutmodelingkindness?
• Wereyousurprisedbythefindingsonrandomactsofkindnessstudieswithchildren(pg127)?HowcouldyouapplySonjaLyubomirsky’sfindingswithyourfamily?(Afewideas:pg129-132).
• Whatbooksandfilmshelpkidsunderstandkindness?Howcouldparentsshareselectionsamongstsomorechildrencanbeexposedtotheirmessagesaboutkindness?
• IsstartingaKidKindClub(pg139)somethingyoumightconsider?Ifso,howmightyoubegin?
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EMPATHYSKILLSTOCULTIVATEKINDNESS1. TheTwoKindRule(pg132):Tohelpchildrenpracticekindnessandexpandtheirkindnessmuscles.
Thisskillhasfivesteps;teacheachstepseparately).2. KindnessRituals(pg136-139).Topracticekindnessandhelpchildrenadoptacaringmindset.
Chapter 7. Empathetic Kids Think “Us” Not “Them”
7thEMPATHYHABIT:Cultivatingcollaborationtoactiveempathyandhelpchildrenworkwithotherstoachievesharedgoalsforthebenefitofall
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• Howhasthedeclineofunstructuredplayaffectedchildhood?Howmuchfreetimedoesyourchildhavetolearncollaborativeskills?
• Howmightparentsjoinforcestousethecooperativegameideas(pg163),mixupthesocialscene(pg162)ormovienights(pg162)toboosttheirchildren’scooperativeskills?
• Howareyoustrengtheningyourchild’scollaborativeskills(likeplaygroups,teammembership,familymeetings)?Whatfamilyprojects(pg164)mighthelpyourfamilyworktogether?
• HowcouldyouusetheFamilyMeetings(pg154)topolishyourchild’ssocial-emotionalskills?• Howhasstiffcompetitionaffectedempathy(pg148)?Areyoumorelikelytopraise“thewin”or
yourchild’s“camaraderie”(pg162)?Howcanparentshelpkidsgraspthatteamworkcounts?• Weempathizewiththose“likeus.”Howcanyouexpandyourchild’sCircleofConcern(pg150)?• Whatcommunityresourcesmightyouusetoexposeyourchildtomorediversity?Howdowehelp
childrenunderstandracismandinjusticehappeningintheworld?
EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTCOLLABORATION.1. Takea“STAND”toSolveProblems(pg155):Tolearntosolveproblemspeacefullyandconsider
otherpeople’sfeelingsandneeds.Eachofthefivestepsshouldbetaughtasaseparatehabit.2. TakeaRealityCheck(pg158):Tolearntolistenforcategoricalstatementsandhaltstereotypes.3. Encouragers(pg163):Tosupportothers,inspirecollaborationandbeateamplayer.4. FACTConversationStarters(pg161):Tostartdialogues,buildrelationshipsandfocusonothers.5. DisagreeingRespectfully(pg163):Tolearntodisagreerespectfullyandkeepcommunicationopen.6. DecisionMakersandDealBreakers(pg163):Toresolveconflictsandboostcooperation.
PART THREE - LIVING EMPATHY
Chapter 8. Empathetic Kids Stick Their Necks Out
8thEMPATHYHABIT:Promotingmoralcouragetoemboldenkidstospeakout,stepinandhelpothers
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• Whichparentingstylescurtailorstrengthenchildren’smoralcourage?Howdoesover-rescuingorahelicopterstyleimpede?Whatisyourstyle?Ifyouareinarescuemode,howmightyoustepback?
• ThestoryofRockyLyon(pg178)describeshowaparenthelpedherchildfindhisinnerhero.Howareyouhelpingyourchilddevelopmoralcourage?Whatelsemightyoudo(pg180)?
• Whichofthefivereasonscurtailsyourchildandpeersfromhelpingbulliedpeers(pg172)?What
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canparentsdosokidsfeelmorecomfortablecomingtoyouorotheradultsforhelp?• Whatfamilycourageritualcouldyouusetoempoweryourchildtofacesetbacks(pg189)?• Howcanparentshelpchildrenbemorelikelytostepintohelporcomfortothers?• KidsneedheroestoinspiretheirMoralCourage.Whoareyourchild’sheroes?• Whichbooksorfilmscouldhelpkidslearntosticktheirnecksoutforothers(pg188)?Areyou
interestedinstartingabookclub(pg188)withyourchild’sfriendsandparents?• Whichmoralcouragebuildersmightyouuse(pg183-189)withyourchild?Howcouldparentsjoin
forcestohelpchildrenlearnUpstanderstrategies?
EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTMORALCOURAGE1. STANDUPforOthers(pg181-182):Tomobilizemoralcourageandstepintoreducebullying.Each
strategiesshouldbetaughtasaseparatehabit.2. PositiveSelfTalk(pg183):Tooverridethefearresponseandbuildmoralcourage.3. MentalRehearsal(pg183):Tousevisualizationinreviewinganactivitysoreducestress.4. ChunkIt(pg183):Tosetgoalsinextremelyshortchunkstoreducestress.5. 2-3-4BreathingorDragonBreaths(pg184):Togetoxygentothebrainforinstantrelaxation.6. UseYourHEART:Tohelpthosewhoaredistressed.Eachstrategyshouldbetaughtashabit.7. S.O.S.SafetySmarts(pg187):Toavertdangeranddecideifit’ssafertostepinorwisertogethelp.
Chapter 9. Empathetic Kids Want to Make a Difference
9thEMPATHYHABIT:CultivatingaltruisticleadershipabilitiestomotivatechildrentomakeadifferenceforothersandbecomeChangemakers
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• Doyoubelievethatempathyissomethingkidsarebornwithoratraitthatcanbedeveloped?HowcouldthatanswerhaveasurprisingimpactonwhetherchildrenbecomeChangemakers?(pg201).
• Doesyourchild(oryou)believethatempathyissomethingyou’rebornwithorsomethingthatcanbedeveloped?Howcanyouusethesteps(pg201-202)toteachyourchildthatempathystretches?
• Doyouagreethatfame-driven“heroes,”amaterialisticworld,andanover-helpingparentingstylecanlimitachild’saltruisticpotential(pg195-198)?Whatelsecanshortchangealtruisticurges?
• HowmightyouusethePerlyn’ssixsteps(p205)tohelpyourchildbecomeaChangemaker?• Whatcommunityresourcesmightoffermeaningfulserviceopportunitiesforyourchild?• Howmightyouusetheeightstrategies(pg208-211)tohelpyourchilddevelopaltruisticleadership?• Howcouldyoustretchyourchild’scomfortzonetoinclude“different”experiences(pg212)?• Howcanparentsworktogethertoraisekidswhowanttobettertheworld?
EMPATHYSKILLSTOBOOSTALTRUSITICLEADERSHIP.1. FACE(pg203):Toshowconcernandclosetheempathygap.Eachskillshouldbetaughtseparately.2. ABCsofStressManagement(pg211):Tocopewithemotionaldistressandfighttheempathygap.3. StartWithOne(pg208):Tobuildself-efficacyandrealize“Icanmakeadifference.”
MICHELE BORBA, Ed.D., is an internationally renowned educational psychologist and an expert in parenting,bullying, and character development. She is an award-winning author of 22 books including Unselfie: WhyEmpatheticKidsSucceedinOurAll-About-MeWorldtranslatedinto14languages.SheisaregularNBCcontributorwhohasappearedover140timesonTodayandhasbeenfeaturedonDateline,TheView,Dr.Phil,NBCNightlyNews,Fox&Friends,Dr.Oz,andTheEarlyShow,amongothers.FollowheronTwitter@micheleborba
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