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December ’11FEATURE ARTICLES

A family that gives together, grows togetherInstilling family philanthropy

Take out the trash: kids and chores Helping kids lend a hand around the house

Dental drama: Managing kids' dental anxiety

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6 Editor’s Notes

8 Dear Dana Help, my spouse is a humbug!

10 Your Money’s Worth Charitable Organizations Spotlight

12 What your teenager wishes you knew Managing your teen's rebellion while

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Dear Dana: Getting along with the holiday Grinch in the family

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The other night my husband and I were watching the Discovery Channel, which we watch frequently now that we’ve cancelled our extended cable. I don’t think I’ll ever stop being surprised at how my tastes are changing as I age. Have I really turned into someone who watches documentaries for entertainment and scoffs at pop icons? The answer is yes, and to be honest, I’m proud of it, even though my 16-year-old self would

be horrified. All those aspirations of becoming the “hip” mom, down the drain. . . .

But back to the excitement of the Discovery Channel. We were watching a special that replicated a study done by Stanley Milgram in the 1960s, regarding authority and personal conscience. Participants are ordered by an authoritative figure to administer electric shocks to an unseen subject, who is an actor and can be heard reacting to the “pain” of the shock. Even though the unwitting participants had been told previously that they could stop whenever they wanted to, most obeyed the authority figure, who was dressed as a doctor and ordered them to continue, rather than taking a stand and refusing to continue. (The results of the 50-year-old study were generally consistent with the recent experiment.)

It would be easy to lose faith in humankind after watching regular people inflict pain on an innocent person, but there is a complex human response in this particular circumstance. As humans, we are built to feel and show compassion, but one could argue that we are also built to obey social convention and authority. How else would a trusting child learn to heed their parents, or a convicted felon change their ways? As humans, a basic trust in authority (with a healthy dose of skepticism, as is the American way) is essential to maintaining an orderly society. The trick is to blend that basic trust with compassion and a bit of rebellion when needed.

See page12 to read a local teen’s take on rebellion, in our returning regular column, “What Your Teenager Wishes You Knew.” It will give you a whole lot of perspective, even if being hip is still far out of reach.

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Dear Dana is a regular, interactive feature in Vancouver Family Magazine. Each month, professional mediator Dana Greyson tackles tough questions with insightful advice and suggestions.

DEAR DANA

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Dear Dana, The Grinch, also known as my not-so-better-half, makes our home very un-Merry every Christmas. I’m not sure what’s worse, getting yelled at, or the silent treatment. From Thanksgiving until January 2, I get one of those about anything and everything holiday-related. If it was just me, I could deal with it, but this is not the family tradition I want for our children. In the past, I just ignored it. Last night, his griping turned into our shouting match, over something as stupid as the store Santas. Afterward, I realized our daughter locked herself in her room to escape. I need a -- better way to deal with Mr. Grinch

Dear BWTDWMG,In the interest of happier holidays for your household, Dr. Al Bernstein, PhD, a Clark County-based anger expert, Clinical Psychologist and author agreed to offer advice on this touchy subject. Dr. Bernstein’s written numerous books on dealing with anger, including “Emotional Vampires: Dealing With People Who

Drain You Dry” (McGraw-Hill, 2000). Anger, he explains, is a way of asking for something indirectly. It can rear its ugly head “actively” or “passively,” and the strategies differ for diffusing each.

Stopping the yellingActive anger is easier to identify, and thus easier to diffuse. Your husband expresses anger by yelling.

Dr. Bernstein recommends asking in a calm voice, lower and slower than Mr. Grinch’s, “What would you like me to do?” He adds, “This simple, unexpected question is absolutely the most useful tool you will ever find for dealing with an angry person. To answer this question, they will have to stop and think, which is precisely what you want them to do.”

If other half is unable to calm down, or you are not able to react calmly, put the discussion off. If he keeps repeating himself, or there appears to be an endless barrage of issues, delay the discussion.

You want to be in a place where you can genuinely hear what he wants, which is different than being on the receiving end of his expression of displeasure. However, resist the almost irresistible temptation to give your side before fully understanding what he wants, and checking in with him to see if you get it. Listening is not the same thing as agreeing with him. It’s just the first step in finding out what he wants.

For example, maybe he just wants to complain about how much he hates Christmas and everything that goes with it. You can let him know that you understand that, and agree that it must be hard for him, given how pervasive it is. However, perhaps hearing him complain every night about it, especially if he’s yelling, is not something you believe you can do or want to subject your children to. You can still ask what he wants you to do, and how you can support his feelings, while also requesting he respect your and your

children’s needs for civil conversations. You might need to spell out what uncivil conversation is, such as speaking for more than five minutes, uninterrupted, or using louder than an “indoor voice.”

Dealing with “hidden” or “passive aggressive” anger Hidden anger is less about what’s said and more about anger shown in more subtle ways, like sighing, sarcasm, crossed arms, rolling eyes, and the silent treatment. Dr. Bernstein describes it ironically as “the way ‘nice’ people get

Asking, “What would you like me to do?” is absolutely the most useful tool you will ever find for dealing

with an angry person.

Hidden anger is less about what’s said and more about anger shown in more subtle ways, like sighing, sarcasm, crossed arms, rolling eyes, and the silent treatment.

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angry.” Its subtler nature can be more damaging, since it is felt, yet often goes unchallenged because it’s more difficult identify and confront.

Carefully observe what behavior you’re seeing “Mr. Grinch” exhibit, specifically describe it to him, and what you believe it “says.” This will likely take some steely persistence on your part. Expect avoidance, denial and excuses, as if you’re successful, it will require his ‘fessing up that he’s upset, and what it’s about. You may have to try over a couple separate conversations to get him to engage. A mutually workable solution might take some bargaining, yet is a worthwhile investment in openness and family harmony.

“Darling,” you might start, “When I asked you to take Sarah to see Santa, you walked away and that’s the last I heard from you for the evening. Is it something you don’t want to do? If so, can we figure out how to fairly divvy up our family’s holiday to-dos? I could really use your help, and the kids would love to spend more time with you. What would you like to do?”

Touching Mr. Grinch’s Heart

If this is truly a “Bah Humbug” holiday dis-spirit, is there some deeper issue to delve into? Why does your honey hate the holidays? Rather than picking off case-by-case issues, is there a way you can find out the big picture, the story behind what’s driving it? Does he feel left out? Is he haunted by some Christmas past? Is the extra excitement just more than he can handle, and he needs to carve out some extra quiet time? What can some loving conversations uncover, and maybe even shift, or at the very least, help you to accept? Maybe Dr. Seuss was onto something after all.

What About Your Daughter?

Check in with your daughter about how she feels about what happened. Reassure her it’s not to do with anything she did, and that you and her daddy are working on more grown-up ways to handle it when you get upset.

Still stuck?

For more detailed ideas on dealing with your spouse’s anger:Visit Dr. Bernstein’s website, www.albernstein.com•Ask your doctor for a therapist recommendation, and •go on your own if he won’t go with you.

Wishing you all in “Whoville” a joyous holiday season and a terrific 2012!

A monthly Vancouver Family Magazine columnist since 2007, Dana Greyson’s purpose is to embrace life fully, inspire others and change the world. Curious? Check out www.danagreyson.com.

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I am convinced: we are born to make a difference. As a child, I remember learning about Andrew Carnegie, John D. Rockefeller and other incredible philanthropists whose enormous financial contributions made revolutionary advances in the fields of medicine, education and science. Their generosity struck a chord in my heart, and I remember dreaming of becoming so wealthy that I, too, could make a huge impact. Unfortunately, once I began to earn a paycheck, I became painfully aware of how little I had to give. In comparison to those philanthropic giants, my potential contributions seemed foolish and ineffective. I was afraid to give.

Then I shifted my focus to the local community and discovered a world desperately in need of donations great and small. So, I gave what I could to a local homeless shelter. Gently used linens and clothes here, a few dollars there. When combined with the contributions of others, I began to see individual lives being blessed and transformed. Thanks to small but significant gifts, hungry children were fed and homeless families had a warm place to rest. And I began to experience the indescribable feeling that comes from giving to others.

Now as parents, it’s important to me and my husband to instill an attitude of generosity in our kids, especially during the holidays. We encourage them to give what they can to a worthy cause, and we help them to see the positive impact

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When entering the hallways of any high school in the country, all eyes are assaulted with a crazy mix of colors, hair styles, and strange outfits that make most parents wonder why their children would pay for something so ridiculous, let alone wear it. The teens may just be wearing these clothes for one reason: their parents don’t approve.

Everyone on this planet has a rebellious streak. It makes people do things for the sole purpose of being different or making someone mad. This rebelliousness comes through in some major ways. It might be in their appearance, or in breaking the rules, or in my case, listening to music my parents would rather I not listen to.

Rebelling is a normal behavior for teenagers, and if parents shut down any rebelling, there could be serious consequences for the teenager: either the teen will become entirely compliant and never really develop their own identity, or they could become overly rebellious and fall into terrible habits such as drugs. Now, doing something just because your parents don’t want you to is pretty stupid, but this behavior is just something that teenagers go through. When parents take immediate action and try to force their kids to be “normal,” or wear what they think is right, or only listen to certain music, the child feels trapped.

Rules are there for a reason, and giving children no rules isn’t good either, but letting them have some leeway is good. For instance, I regularly attend church, and I am strong in my faith, but I love listening to bands that are against the social convention. I like Rage Against the Machine, a band whose ideal is to rebel against the government, but that does not mean that I’m going to start flipping cop cars. My parents allow me to listen to my own music and do my own thing generally, and I feel like I have grown into my own person, which is important for when I head off to college in the near future. If children are forced to follow too many rules, when they leave for college and have almost absolute freedom, they could cut loose and do things they might regret later.

Not all rebellious teenagers are bad people, heading down the wrong road. Rebellion is something all teenagers go through

and must be allowed to go through. If they are suffocated, things only get worse. Tattoos do not mean that young people are destined for death in bar fight. Managing some freedom at this age can help teenagers in the future and will serve to make them better people. Absolute freedom can lead to bad habits now, so finding a good balance is key. Parents should talk with their teens about freedom and family rules. Tell them why they can’t wear certain clothes or watch certain movies or get a tattoo. It will help things along greatly.

Jacob M. is a senior at Vancouver Christian High School. He is the student body president, plays sports, and enjoys playing bass and listening to music in his free time.

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By J. Maury Harris Amidst the barrage of frenetic consumerism directed toward kids there have always been bastions of compassion, like purple dinosaurs and large yellow birds, to tell our young ones that “Sharing is caring.” and “Everyone needs a helper.”

But as our little ones grow up, these influences often go the way of the dinosaurs or become for the birds. Even well-intentioned parents often lose social relevance to the Justin Biebers, Gossip Girls and Twilights of today’s teen scene, which can leave parents wondering how to raise caring kids. As with most parenting challenges, there are many ways to get the job done, but volunteerism and philanthropy are two of the most effective. Heart of the Donor, a study released in 2010, shows how Americans interact with nonprofits and concludes that parents have a major influence on their children’s future charitable behaviors. The research revealed that parents who participate in philanthropy and discuss charitable behavior will raise children who are 125 percent more likely to become involved as adults.

This data doesn’t come as a surprise for Scott and Marjorie Schneider of Brush Prairie. They see themselves as active examples and hope to raise their two daughters, 13-year-old Rebecca and 10-year-old Elizabeth, in the same way. “It’s important to learn those lessons early on so that it’s effortless to continue those actions when you get older,” Scott says. “It becomes something you want do, rather than something you have to do.” Scott, a radiation oncology physician at Northwest Cancer Specialists, said his family incorporates charity in their lives by giving both time and money to local causes. In October, he went to the 78th Street Heritage Farm to help pick some of the 75,000 pounds of carrots that were donated to the Clark County Food Bank. Marjorie also teaches by example. She is a volunteer member of the Board of Directors for Columbia Dance and also serves on the Education Committee at their family’s temple, Congregation Kol Ami. While volunteering shows children the direct impact of giving back, the Schneiders found another tool that teaches this notion, while also providing immense returns for their family. With a recommendation and a bit of seed money from Scott’s parents, Anne and Richard Schneider, the family opened a Donor Advised Fund at the Community Foundation for Southwest Washington. “I find it very helpful to earmark funds and put them into a place that is designated for that purpose,” Scott explained. “The Community Foundation supports a lot of local, community

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The Schneider family in Alaska, summer 2011. From left to right: Elizabeth (10), Scott, Marjorie, and Rebecca (13). The Schneiders use a Donor Advised Fund at the Community Foundation for Southwest Washington to manage their philanthropic endeavors.

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nonprofits and is an educational tool of sorts, because their staff provides the knowledge and expertise on which nonprofits need funding and how we can give to them in meaningful ways.” According to Sarah Nevue, Vice President of Development at the Community Foundation for Southwest Washington, Donor Advised Funds are a simple, flexible and efficient way for young families—who are busy caring for children, establishing careers, or earning degrees—to make informed and impactful gifts to charity. “We focus on defining and meeting a donor’s charitable goals,” Nevue says. “That might mean facilitating family meetings or developing long-term plans, but we also provide assistance with ground-level tasks like processing applications, conducting research and scheduling site visits.”

Nevue says the Community Foundation takes care of the regular paperwork so families can focus on what’s most important. What’s that? Harnessing the meaning and fulfillment of giving to instill a sense of purpose and passion in their children, strengthen family values and establish a family legacy that can last for generations to come. By emphasizing thoughtfulness in making gifts, the Schneiders have helped their girls define and utilize their unique passions and strengths to make personal impacts in the community. Marjorie says their approach provides a $500 allocation for the girls on their birthdays. This year, Rebecca chose to direct her gift toward purchasing audio-visual equipment for a nonprofit dance studio, and Elizabeth recommended a gift to purchase new books for her school library.

“I’m lucky to have the opportunity to help others,” Rebecca

says. “It makes me happy to know that I’m giving other kids the chance to dance and have fun for a long time.” The hands-on approach gives them ownership of their gift and stimulates more interest in giving, because nothing is more motivating than giving to a cause that touches you personally. For the Schneiders, giving also created an opportunity to reflect on their spiritual beliefs with their children. Giving is part of the Jewish tradition represented in the phrase “tikkun olam,” which calls for believers to heal the world, not merely because of biblical law, but also to avoid social chaos. “It was surprising to know how personal it could be for the girls,” Marjorie says. “It’s a really positive experience choosing causes that have personal meaning to us, because it urged us to think and talk about the impact and what that means with our kids.” This type of exploration is often very moving according to Nevue. It allows families to discover and compile their shared ideas and interests surrounding charitable giving and can even define core family values. She also believes that the sooner parents engage in the conversation the better. This allows philanthropy to become a part of your child’s development, which makes it easier to discuss as they grow up. It’s also important to start early, because including senior family members is very important in creating a more complete, personal story for your family philanthropy. Through this comprehensive history, children begin to identify with and take pride in their family legacy. Finding this shared vision takes a lot of work and sometimes requires careful planning, a grant recommendation process crafted for a family’s specific needs and a commitment to personal involvement on the part of key family members. “Family philanthropy is a topic that can be addressed in the context of family meetings or retreats,” Nevue explained. “Sometimes it’s also helpful to tap a facilitator to stimulate multi-generational collaboration in creating a philanthropic vision that everyone can buy into.” The Schneiders’ vision revolved around helping their neighbors and building their community, so a Donor Advised Fund at the Community Foundation for Southwest Washington matched

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Together with Kohl’s and ACTS Oregon, the Tom Sargent Safety Center at OHSU Doernbecher is launching a yearlong car seat outreach program to help reduce the number of children exposed to improp-er car seat use. Each month, certified child passenger safety technicians will check car seats for correct instal-lation, damage, recalls, and size/age appropriateness.

Car seats are available due to a generous donation from Kohl’s. These events are free to the general public.

What: Bring your car seats in your family vehicle for inspection to ensure they are being used correctly and properly installed. Replacement car seats may be available to families, when deemed necessary. Proof of financial assistance, i.e. WIC, Oregon Health Plan etc. and valid Oregon ID are required.

Where: Gateway Kohl’s Department Store: 10010 NE Halsey St, Portland

When: Saturday, December 3, 2011, car seat check up 10 a.m. to 1 p.m.

Learn More!We’ll hold several of these programs this fall. To find out when and where a car seat check up event is happening in your community, please visit the OHSU Tom Sargent Children’s Safety Center website:

www.ohsu.edu/childsafety

The Kohl’s Car Seat Community Outreach ProgramLearn how to properly install your child’s car seat.


Feature Article: A Family that Gives Together (continued)

Open a charitable fund, and start growing your Family Philanthropy.•

Dedicate charitable contributions instead of giving gifts during the holidays.•

Register your family to visit and support patients in treatment. •

Go shopping with your kids for toy drive or food donation items.•

Sign-up your family to volunteer serving food at a soup kitchen.•

Make a donation, but also make a point to discuss why you give with your children.•

Invite elderly neighbors or less fortunate families to a holiday dinner.•

See page 10 to learn about Your Money’s Worth columnist, Davi Nabors’s favorite local charitable organizations.

perfectly. It served their needs by providing them access to in-depth knowledge of local issues and organizations, while also allowing their daughters to stay connected to the community even as they grow up and branch out. As for the giving itself, it even equips the girls for their personal responsibilities and success.

“By encouraging children to apply their time, talent and treasure, parents are also teaching many valuable lessons,” Nevue says. “Two that come to mind are sound financial management and the ability to attain abstract goals.” Through their charitable giving, the Schneider’s can continue to come together and even engage future generations by passing

on the philanthropic torch. There’s no stronger bond or greater enrichment in Scott Schneider’s opinion. “It’s wonderful to experience the joy of making a difference in the community together, and by sharing a common purpose it makes our family stronger and draws us closer together.” J. Maury Harris is a Washington State University graduate and a longtime resident of Brush Prairie. He is a strong advocate of supporting community involvement through your own personal strengths and assets. Currently, he serves on the Board of Directors for the Salmon Creek Watershed Council and works full-time as the Marketing and Communications Specialist for the Community Foundation for Southwest Washington.

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Feature Story: Take Out the Trash: Kids and Chores


Ashley checked the over-flowing trash can, again. “Jon, you need to empty the trash. How many times do I have tell you?” Does this scenario sound familiar? As parents, having your kids learn and complete chores is not always easy, but it is an important dynamic for raising healthy kids. There are a variety of chores and tasks that have to be done to run a family household. Teaching and assigning your kids to complete chores has many benefits. “Kids learn responsibility, follow through, and a work ethic from chores, says Tina Tessina, Ph.D., psychotherapist and author of “Money, Sex and Kids; Stop Fighting about the Three things That Can Ruin Your Marriage” (2008). Younger Children Can Help

Small children love to work with their parents. When you are doing dishes, push a chair up to the sink and allow

your child to stand next to you and help. A young child can help wash dishes, dry plastic dishes or pots and pans. As you are doing the chore, tell him how important his work is to the entire family. Young children can help tidy up. They can fold towels and wash cloths. They can carry their clothes to their room and may need some help to put away their clothes. “This is often more complicated than doing it yourself but it’s a great time to give the kids the idea that they are part of helping the house to run,” says Tessina.

Consider the age of the child when assigning chores. You do not want to frustrate them by giving them too difficult of a chore. However, most children can do more than their parents expect them to. Make Assignments When a child is learning a new chore, it is important for a parent to walk through each part of the chore step by step. For example, to teach a child to empty the trash, divide the chore into small incremental steps. Have your child pull out the trash bag as you stand next to them. Instruct her to tie up the trash bag and show her how to put a new trash bag in the trash can. Ask her why she thinks a new trash bag is needed. Walk out to the garage and help her put the full trash bag inside your garbage can. You may have to stand alongside of your child more than one time. Consider it time well invested in your child and in their future work ethic. A family chore system can be as simple as assigning daily and weekly chores to each child to an elaborate chore chart. Certain chores such as sweeping floors, vacuuming, and feeding pets can be rotated on a weekly or monthly basis to cut down on the monotony of them. Have a family meeting and discuss the importance of family team work and how each chore is an integral part of family life.

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You and your spouse can make a list of the different chores and have your kids select chores they would like to perform. Some chores can be directly assigned to a specific child. You can also determine if there are any chores above and beyond the daily chores that your child can do to get paid. Keep a list of them around for a motivated child. Your family can set up a reward system or have allowance connected to completed chores. Some parents explain that dad does not get paid if he does not work. If chores are completed, more privileges are given such as staying up later or having more computer time. Talk about Chores

“Family chores is a clear demonstration of everyone’s responsibility to help the family function,” says Tessina. Talk about how important it is to have a clean house. When a room is clean and picked up, it is calmer and less stressful for everyone. While you and your child are making a salad, discuss cooking and how important healthy meals helps bodies grow.

If you have an older child, share with them that some chores are just plain hard or boring, but the chore is still a necessary part of life. Parents’ Reminder

One of the hardest part of teaching kids chores is the fact that parents need to check the chore and how complete the chore was done. This is difficult because, while it would be nice to think your child will complete the task promptly and completely, that is not always the case.

Studies have continuously shown that positive reinforcement changes behavior faster than negative reinforcement. Congratulate your child on how well she unloaded the dishwasher. Let her know that you appreciate the work she does around the house to help the family. Excuses, Excuses

You will hear many different excuses. Remind your child that if you or your husband didn’t cook dinner, then the rest of the family would go hungry. You can say, when you finish your dishes, then you can go outside and play. When

you wipe the bathroom counters, you can go play your electronic game. If a child constantly complains about a certain chore, determine if the chore is too difficult or if the child is trying to get out of the responsibility. Initially, training kids to do chores seems like more work than it is worth. However, as Tessina reminds, “chores prepare them for living in a college dorm, with a roommate, alone or with a future mate.” Eventually, your child will thank you for it. Jan Udlock is a Northwest homeschooling mother of five and a freelance writer. She loves both jobs most of the time.

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By Heidi Smith Luedtke, Ph.D. Each night at my house there’s a show after dinner. I call it the dental drama.

As I approach my son’s mouth with the toothbrush, he closes it tight. I ply him with sparkly, watermelon-flavored toothpaste. Still, he resists.

I threaten. He negotiates. After several minutes, he lets me brush. As I do, he sucks off the toothpaste, bites the toothbrush and gags for effect.

With antics like this, it’s no surprise the American Academy of Pediatric Dentists (AAPD) reports more than half of children

have cavities by second grade. If you have season tickets to

the dental drama, read on for expert, show-stopping advice. At-Home Hygiene

Kids need to brush at least twice a day and floss between teeth, and parent involvement is critical. “Parents should brush their children’s teeth as long as possible,” says Dr. Peter Lubisich, a pediatric dentist in Vancouver. “Children lack commitment and a knowledgeable comprehension of the whys and hows of

the importance of good brushing.” Realistically, parents should expect to brush kids’ teeth until age 7 or 8, and to floss them until age 9 or 10.

Some kids resist brushing because they want to retain control. Others may be intimidated by the process itself. Your child may fear you’ll be rough with the toothbrush, or that they’ll choke on toothpaste and saliva. Go easy on the toothpaste and break brushing into segments so your child has time to calm down (and spit) in between. The fast and furious approach may be over-stimulating.

Some dentists say it’s best to brush kids’ teeth right after dinner. Doing so removes food particles several hours before bedtime and keeps dental drama from interfering with your wind-down routine. Sing a song or use a timer, so your child knows how long brushing will last. If you make it a silly song, you may just steal the show. Pre-Visit Prep

“Children should visit the dentist by one year old,” says Dr. Lubisich. “Children who see the dentist at an early age have a rapport with the office and staff. They perceive the dental environment as a fun and non-threatening place.” Other advantages of early dental visits include quality preventive instruction for the parent and early diagnosis of dental problems.

Kids – like adults – fear the unknown. Explain what to expect using non-threatening, age-appropriate language. “Parents should introduce the dentist in the same casual manner that they would if they were to visit the mall,” says Dr. Lubisich. “Children are smart! If a lot of preparation precedes an event, warning signs go off in their mind.” Especially avoid words like “needle” or “drill.” Your child’s imagination may run wild. If needed, describe procedures in fun, familiar terms. Taking x-rays is “taking pictures of your teeth,” polishing teeth is “tooth washing.” The suction tube is a tiny vacuum for spit. Calling it a “spit sucker” turns drama into comedy.

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Knowledge is powerful. Read Berenstain Bears Visit the Dentist to teach kids the basics and Throw Your Tooth on the Roof to address loss of the primary teeth. Practice helps, too. Use a rotary toothbrush at home to familiarize your child with the sounds and sensations of dental equipment.

The most important thing is to have a positive attitude yourself. Many moms and dads have unpleasant memories of their own childhood dental visits. “Parents should not express their fears or anxieties about dental care to their child,” says Dr. Lubisich. “A general rule is that an uptight parent will create the same feelings in their child.” Let your child form opinions based on personal experience. In the Office

Dental instruments and procedures can be frightening. “Children’s biggest fears are being alone in a room with a strange person or persons, no other people of their own age or status, and confinement,” says Dr. Lubisich. They may worry that the instruments will hurt, or that their teeth or tongue will be sucked out.

Dentists and hygienists use the tell-show-do technique to ease kids’ fears. They’re also incredibly patient. Expect the dentist to explain what she’ll do, show your child the instruments and materials she’ll use, and then—once your child knows what’s coming—gently do the work.

Procedures involving the drill tend to be the most frightening. The odor that develops when a tooth is cut can be unnerving, too. Enhance your child’s confidence by praising his brave, helpful behavior before and after treatment.

Consider your child’s dentist a health-care partner. To get the most out of your visit, come prepared with questions. If you have concerns about your child’s oral hygiene habits, thumb sucking or cavities, discuss them with the dentist in private. You don’t want to take the show on the road.

Heidi Smith Luedtke, Ph.D, is a personality psychologist and mom of two. She shares psychology lessons for life at heidiluedtke.com/blog.


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CalendarCheck out our website for even more local events.

December ’11S M T W T F S 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31

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CALENDAR OF EVENTS & ACTIVITIES


Events are subject to change. Please contact organization directly to confirm.

1 Thursday

Festival of Nativities, free at The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 10509 SE 5th St., Vancouver. Over 600 nativities on display, musical performances, children’s activities and crafts, live nativity performances, and more. For more information, visit www.festivalofnativities.org. 12-9 pm

2 Friday

Festival of Nativities, free at The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, 10509 SE 5th St., Vancouver. (See Dec. 1) 12-9 pm

Games Galore Fridays at Vancouver Community Library (Children’s Program Room, Level 3 floor), 901 C St., Vancouver. Drop in each week for a variety of fun: board games, video games, group games, and paper and pencil games. 2-5 pm

Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – Santa Paws. 5 pm

Family Advent Project at Whipple Creek Church, 8802 NW 9th Ave., Vancouver. Make low cost, good

quality crafts to use as holiday gifts. Choose from a wide variety of craft projects and be charged for the craft materials you use. All proceeds will be split between a local and a national charity. For more information, call 360-576-0210 or email [email protected]. 6:30-8 pm

Parent’s Night Out for ages 6 weeks to 12 years, at the Clark County Family YMCA- 11324 NE 51st Circle Vancouver. Safe, engaging, and exciting activities as parents enjoy a night out. Members are $5 per child. Non-members are $7.50 per child. For more details call 360-885-9622 or email [email protected]. 6-9 pm

Friday Fun Night at Kids Club Fun and Fitness, 13914 NE 3rd Ct., Vancouver. First and third Fridays of the month, parents can drop kids ages 4-12 off for a night of fun while parents have a night out. $12.95 per child. To register, visit www.kidsclubfunandfitness.com or call 360-546-KIDS. 6:30-10:30 pm

Christian Youth Theater presents “My Son Pinocchio” at The Washburn Performing Arts Center, Washougal High School, 1201 39th St., Washougal. Includes original songs, along with the beloved classics “When You Wish

Upon a Star” and “I’ve Got No Strings.” Pre-sale Adult tickets are $12. Youth, Senior and Group tickets are $9. All tickets for the Saturday, December 3rd performance are $9. All tickets $2 more at the door. Tickets available at www.cytvanport.org. 7 pm

Vancouver Dance Theatre presents “The Nutcracker” at Fort Vancouver High School, 5700 E 18th St., Vancouver. Tickets: $12 for adults, $10 for children 18 and under, and seniors 65 and older. Tickets available at Beacock Music, Music World in Hazel Dell, or at the door. Visit www.vancouverdancetheatre.com for more information and a coupon for $2 off admission. 7 pm

3 Saturday

Chelatchie Prairie Railroad Christmas Tree Special. Ride through the farmland and forests of Clark County, along the Lewis River with a stop at Big Creek Falls. Christmas tree packages include your choice of 3 different types of holiday trees, along with 4 ride tickets. Packages cost $55, $65 or $75, depending on type of tree. Individual fares: Adults $15, Seniors $14, Children 5-11 years - $10; 2-4 years - $8; Under 2 – Free. Trains leave from the station located at 207 S. Railroad Ave., Yacolt. Call

360-686-3559 or visit www.bycx.com for reservations, operating schedule, and more information. 9:30 am, 12 pm & 2:30 pm

Soar with Books on the first Saturday of each month at Pearson Air Museum, 1115 E 5th St., Vancouver. Includes an age-appropriate tour of the museum, an airplane story read beneath the wings of a historic aircraft, and a craft project. Museum admission applies. Children un-der age 6 are admitted for free. Admission for students ages 6 to 17, seniors or active military with ID is $5. Adult admission is $7. For more information, contact Pearson Air Museum at 360-694-7026 or visit www.pear-sonairmuseum.org 10 am

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Barnes & Noble Children’s Story Time at 7700 NE 4th Plain Blvd., Vancouver. Free snack, activity, and story Saturdays and Wednesdays. 11 am

Winter Festival at Three Creeks Community Library, 800-C NE Tenney Rd., Vancouver. Music, wassail, crafts, local school musicians, and a Frosty story time for all ages at 12:30 pm. Craft Tables open from 1-4 pm. 11 am-4 pm


Dancin’ with the Elves Holiday Family Event at Luepke Center, 1009 E. McLoughlin Blvd. Vancouver. Get down with the elves to fun holiday music, ride the Polar Express train, have your photo taken with Santa and enjoy face painting, crafts, door prizes and refreshments. $10 for kids uner 18, adults free. Call 360-487-7100 or visit www.vanclarkparks-rec.org to register. 2-4 pm

Vancouver Dance Theatre presents “The Nutcracker” at Fort Vancouver High School. (See Dec. 2) 2 pm & 7 pm

Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – Santa Paws. 5 pm

Christian Youth Theater presents “My Son Pinocchio” at Washougal High School, 1201 39th St., Washougal. (See Dec. 2) 7 pm

Fort Vancouver Lantern Tour. Take a lantern-lit journey with a Park Ranger through a night at Fort Vancouver. Peak into the past with hot cider in hand while viewing vignettes by costumed interpreters, and learn about your urban national park then and now. Recommended for ages 10 years and up. Admission: $10 for adults and $7 for children under 15 years of age. Reservations required by calling the Fort Vancouver

National Historic Site Visitor Center at 360-816-6230. 7-8 pmJunior Symphony of Vancouver Holiday Concert at the Water Resources Education Center, 4600 SE Columbia Way, Vancouver. Sample dessert and hors d’oeuvres and enjoy the music of Corelli, Handel, Mozart, Gordon Jacob and more, plus Christmas carols. Tickets $20 each, available at the door (includes dessert buffet). For more information, call 360-696-4084 or visit www.oregonchamberplayers.org. 7:30 pm 4 Sunday

Chelatchie Prairie Railroad Christmas Tree Special. (See Dec. 3) 9:30 am, 12 pm & 2:30 pm



Vancouver Dance Theatre presents “The Nutcracker” at Fort Vancouver High School. (See Dec. 2) 7 pm

6 Tuesday

Building Blocks to Successful Learning. Stories, songs and fun for families and child-care providers with children birth to age 5, Tuesdays at Orchards Elementary, 1405 NE 69th St., Vancouver (no storytime on non-school days). Visit www.vancouverfamilymagazine.com and click on Calendar for more Building Blocks times and locations. 9:30-10:30 am

Café Learn and Play. Free storytelling, songs and ABC’s for ages 5 and under every Tuesday at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver. 10 am

Kazoodles Toys East Side

Stories and Songs for Preschoolers. Free every Tuesday at 13503 SE Mill Plain Blvd. #B-3, Vancouver. 10:30 am

Games for grades 4-12 Tuesdays at Three Creeks Community Library, 800-C NE Tenney Rd., Vancouver. Bring YuGiOh or Magic-the-Gathering cards, or play with library’s board games, dice, cards and puzzles. 4-6 pm

7 Wednesday

Building Blocks to Successful Learning. Stories, songs and fun for families and child-care providers with children birth to age 5 at Lake Shore Elementary, 9300 NW 21st Ave., Vancouver (no storytime on non-school days). Visit www.vancouverfamilymagazine.com and click on Calendar for more Building Blocks times and locations. 10-11 am

Chinese Story Time with Miss Vivien, free at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver. 10 am

Barnes & Noble Children’s Story Time. (See Dec. 3) 11 am

InBeTweens activities for ages 8-12 Wednesdays at Cascade Park Community Library, 600 NE 136th Ave., Vancouver. 5 pm

“The Singing Christmas Tree” at Vancouver First Church of God, 3300 NE 78th St., Vancouver. More information at http://tree.vanfcog.org/dates-times. 7 pm

8 Thursday

Vancouver Pops Orchestra Annual Holiday Community Concert at Luepke Center, 1009 E. McLoughlin Blvd. Vancouver. Enjoy holiday favorites performed by the Vancouver Pops Orchestra. Admission is 2 unopened canned or boxed food items. 7-9 pm

9 Friday

Games Galore Fridays at Vancouver Community Library. (See Dec. 2) 2-5 pm

Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – A Charlie Brown Christmas. 5 pm

Holiday Extravaganza at Marshall Community Center, 1009 E. McLoughlin Blvd. Vancouver. Parents’ chance to get holiday shopping done or just relax while the kids spend quality time at MCC. Games, holiday gift craft, and swimming. For ages 7-11, $15 per child. Call 360-487-7100 or visit www.vanclarkparks-rec.org to register. 6:30-9:30 pm


“The Singing Christmas Tree” at Vancouver First Church of God, 3300 NE 78th St., Vancouver. More information at http://tree.vanfcog.org/dates-times. 7 pm

10 Saturday

Arty Party Adventure at Kids Club Fun & Fitness, 13914 NW 3rd Ct., Vancouver. Kids ages 4-8 years old will make a holiday “surprise” for

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We are pleased to announce Evergreen Pediatric Clinic will open a second office in the Salmon Creek area in 2011!

New location in the Legacy Salmon Creek Medical Office Building. We will continue to offer the same excellent care at our current location near Southwest Washington Medical Center.

parents, snacks provided, holiday-themed games, arts and crafts, and more. Price: $12.95 per child. 9:30 am-12:30 pm


Christmas at Fort Vancouver. Experience firsthand the festive traditional sights, smells, and sounds of the holiday season at Fort Vancouver. Children will be able to make their own wreath, listen to traditional holiday stories, and more, while enjoying the holidays as residents, costumed interpreters, would have at the 1840s fort. Admission: $3 per person, free for children under 15 years of age. For more information, call 360-816-6230 or visit www.nps.gov/fova/planyourvisit/events.htm. 10 am-3 pm

Holiday Book Sale at Three

Creeks Community Library, 800-C NE Tenney Rd., Vancouver. Shop a high quality selection of donated items for all ages! Many brand new! 10 am-2 pm

“The Singing Christmas Tree” at Vancouver First Church of God, 3300 NE 78th St., Vancouver. More information at http://tree.vanfcog.org/dates-times. 3 & 7 pm

Drop & Shop for ages 6 weeks to 12 years, at the Clark County Family YMCA, 11324 NE 51st Cir., Vancouver. Shop ‘til you drop while kids enjoy pancake breakfast, holiday crafts, games and activities. Cost: Members-$10/child-Max $30 per family. Program Participants-$15/child. Pre-Registration is required, so sign up early to reserve your spot. For more details call 360-885-9622 or email [email protected]. 6 am-12 pm


The Kids Cooking Corner Gingerbread House Decorating at 5206 NE 78th St., Vancouver. The Kids Cooking Corner supplies icing and all the candy you need. Free hot chocolate and holiday music while you decorate.Cost: $22. Call 360-433-9114 to reserve a time: 11 am, 1 pm, 2 pm, 3 pm, 4 pm

Pearson Air Museum’s Second Saturday Cinema, 1115 E 5th St., Vancouver. With regular admission, visitors can enjoy a classic aviation-themed film in the museum’s Tex Rankin Theater. Adult admission is $7. Admission for students ages 6 to 17, seniors or active military with ID is $5. Children under age 6 are admitted for free. For movie schedule and other details, call 360-694-7026 or visit www.pearsonairmuseum.org. 12 pm

Second Saturdays at the Water Resources Education Center, 4600 SE Columbia Way, Vancouver. Each second Saturday of the month, kids and their families are invited to explore a different topic through hands-on activities, games and stories. December theme: Ever thought about ways to combine nature and recycle arts? Make arts and crafts using items from nature and reusable items from around your house. Children must be accompanied by a

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parent or guardian. 1-3 pm

Christian Youth Theater presents “My Son Pinocchio” at Washougal High School, 1201 39th St., Washougal. (See Dec. 2) 3 & 7 pm

Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – A Charlie Brown Christmas. 5 pm

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“The Singing Christmas Tree” at Vancouver First Church of God, 3300 NE 78th St., Vancouver. More information at http://tree.vanfcog.org/dates-times. 3 & 7 pm

13 Tuesday

Building Blocks to Successful Learning at Orchards Elementary, 1405 NE 69th St., Vancouver. (See Dec. 6) 9:30-10:30 am

Café Learn and Play. Storytelling every Tuesday at Café Sip ‘n’ Play. (See Dec. 6) 10 am

Kazoodles Toys East Side Stories and Songs for Preschoolers. (See Dec. 6) 10:30 am

Games for grades 4-12 at Three Creeks Community Library. (See Dec. 6) 4-6 pm

14 Wednesday

Building Blocks to Successful Learning at Lake Shore Elementary, 9300 NW 21st Ave., Vancouver. (See Dec. 7) 10-11 amBarnes & Noble Children’s Story Time. (See Dec. 3) 11 am

InBeTweens activities for ages 8-12 Wednesdays at Cascade Park Community Library (See Dec. 7) 5 pm

15 Thursday

Penny the Puppeteer at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver. Free with paid admission to play area ($3.85). 10 am

16 Friday

The Kids Cooking Corner Bake Sale at 5206 NE 78th St., Vancouver. A wide variety of tasty treats, proceeds benefit Child Hunger. 2-4 pm


Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – How the Grinch Stole Christmas. 5 pm

Parent’s Night Out for ages 6 weeks to 12 years, at the Clark County Family YMCA. (See Dec. 2) 6-9 pm

Friday Fun Night at Kids Club Fun and Fitness. (See Dec. 2) 6:30-10:30 pm

17 Saturday

Cocoa with Claus at Kids Club Fun & Fitness, 13914 NW 3rd Ct., Vancouver. Enjoy The Jungle play area, elf games, personal time with Santa, story time with Mrs. Claus, and more. Price: $14.95 per child ages 0-12, and up to 2 adults. 9-11 am Chelatchie Prairie Railroad Christmas Tree Special. (See Dec. 3) 9:30 am, 12 pm & 2:30 pm

The Kids Cooking Corner Bake Sale. (See Dec. 16) 10 am-2 pm

Santa’s Workshop at Firstenburg Community Center, 700 NE 136th Ave., Vancouver. Holiday crafts, games, milk and cookies, story time, dodge ball,

and more. For ages 3-7, with an adult. Cost: $12 per child. 10-11:30 am

Family Movie Afternoon at Three Creeks Community Library, 800-C NE Tenney Rd., Vancouver, with free popcorn. Call the library at 360-571-9696 for movie title. 2 pm

Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – How the Grinch Stole Christmas. 5 pm

Fort Vancouver Lantern Tour. Take a lantern-lit journey with a Park Ranger through a night at Fort Vancouver. Peak into the past with hot cider in hand while viewing vignettes by costumed interpreters, and learn about your urban national park then and now. Recommended for ages 10 years and up. Admission: $10 for adults and $7 for children under 15 years of age. Reservations required by calling the Fort Vancouver National Historic Site Visitor Center at 360-816-6230. 7-8 pm

18 Sunday


20 Tuesday

Café Learn and Play. Storytelling every Tuesday at Café Sip ‘n’ Play. (See Dec. 6) 10 am Kazoodles Toys East Side Stories and Songs for Preschoolers. (See Dec. 6) 10:30 am


21 Wednesday



23 Friday


Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. 5 pm

27 Tuesday

Café Learn and Play. Storytelling every Tuesday at Café Sip ‘n’ Play. (See Dec. 6) 10 am

Kazoodles Toys East Side Stories and Songs for Preschoolers. (See Dec. 6) 10:30 am


28 Wednesday



30 Friday


Free Movie Nights at Café Sip ‘n’ Play, 3000 SE 164th Ave., Vancouver – Frosty the Snowman. 5 pm

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