what i believe about the situation is what causes my

Anger Insight

Situations Don’t Cause

Emotions –

What I BELIEVE about the

situation is what causes

my emotion

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Primary: motor running fast, or explosive.

>Biological: early, life-long, or injury-

related.

>Frustration of hyperactivity.

>Explosion of impulsivity.

>Brain injury or seizure disorder.

>Psychosis (PCP intoxication).


>Psychological

>Social: usually event-related.


>Manic-depressive, cyclothymia

>Major depressive disorder

>Drug and alcohol abusers.

>Attention deficit disorder

>Narcissistic disorder

>Intermittent explosive disorder

>Mental retarded, brain injured, seizure

disorder

Adjustment Disorder with Conduct


Class of Disorders

>Manic-depressive, cyclothymia

>Attention Disorder

>Major depressive disorder


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>Lithium (Eskalith, Lithobid, Lithonate)

>Carbamezapine (Tegretol)

>Valproate (Depakote, Depakene)

>Topiramate (Lamictal)

>Gabapentin (Neurontin)

These are mood stabilizers/anticonvulsants

(baseline).

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Neuroleptics

>Thorazine (chlorpromazine)

>Haldol (haloperidol)

>Clozaril (clozapine)—Blood Count must be

done each week.

>Risperdal (risperidone)

>Zyprexa (olanzapine)

>Seroquel (Quetiapine)

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Antidepressants:

>Tricyclics

>Tofranil (imipramine)

>SSRI

>Prozac (fluoxetine)

>Zoloft (sertraline)

>Paxil (paroxetine)

>Luvox (fluvoxamine)

>Celexa (citalopram)

>Lexapro

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ANGER MANAGEMENT! ANGER MANAGEMENT! ANGER MANAGEMENT!

Get Your ANGRIES Out

And Those Mads, Bads and Grumpies...


Do the mean awful angries keep creeping up on your family?

Everyone gets the angries and are really mean. We can learn how to release those mads in safe ways, so that no one gets hurt and we feel better.

Ask yourself, "How would the quality of your life improve if you used your anger in safe, acceptable ways?"

Yes! You can learn positive things to do with your anger! If you are human, then you have angry feelings. Sometimes they make us say and do things that we don’t like, such as stuffing it down or exploding with frustration.

The Anger Challenge is to learn ways to deal with your mads constructively! What a challenge! To learn about yourself and the person you are upset with rather than blowing up. What a novel idea! To do many creative things with your anger rather than hurting others or yourself. Take up The Anger Challenge and feel better about yourself and be happier in your relationships. Make choices to let go of those ugly mads and angries.

earning to See Things From Your Partner's Point of View

Fighting Fair -- The Best Way To Fight

Passive Aggressive Behavior -- The Boomerang Relationship

The Relationship Cure

When Destructive Anger Hits Your Family

Violence in Families


http://www.angriesout.com/couples5.htm










http://www.angriesout.com/family.htm

Your Mad Baggage.

"Life is full of multidimensional possibilities. Once you get a

handle on your mads, your life becomes easier and easier.

Remember, you don't have to keep on doing the same-o, same-o.

Choices: Life is about choices. You have choices about what to do

when you get mad. One great thing about being a Human Being is

that you do get choices. We can use our choices about our mads

to become gentle, loving people.

What better option do you have to do with your lifetime? “Choose

wisely your Mads, Bads, Angries And Grumpies!”


http://www.angriesout.com/mads2.htm

http://www.angriesout.com/mads2.htm

Anger Behavior

Grandfather

My Age: 7-10

Beat me with a strap

Brother

My Age: Baby to 15

Hit me / tied me up / shut me in the closet

Dad

My Age: 12-15

Ignored me / threatened to beat me

Stepdad

My Age: 17

Called me “good for nothing”/ refused to take me places but took my brother

Husband

My Age: 34

Verbal abuse / silence

WHAT IS YOUR STORY?


It depends on whether I can get away with it. I should not be inconvenienced. No one should tell me what to do. I should be able to run my life the way I want to.

If we resist following the rules,

one of the rules we inevitably end

up breaking is the need to stay

sober. Our rebelliousness places

us in trouble with others. We are

out for our own good regardless of

the effect on others.

Our life lacks the harmony and

peace we seek.


AVOIDING (Passive approach)-withdrawing from the conflict.

ACCOMODATING approach)-one person resolves the conflict by giving in to the other person.

COMPROMISING (Passive approach)-both people gains and looses in order to resolve the conflict.

FORCING (Aggressive approach)-Both attempt to serve their own needs regardless of the other.

COLLABORATING (problem-solving approach)

ATTEMPT MADE BY BOTH PEOPLE TO FULLY SATISFY THE NEEDS OF EACH.


Expectation…..

You have your fantasy world

built in your mind.

Self-Interest…..

Your self-interest override the

interest of others.

Pride……

Inflated Ego

Above the law…

Rules do not apply to me.

My Way or the Highway…

Lacking empathy or low EIQ

(emotional intelligence quota)


1. Inability to check aggressive drives.

2. “Control” ego personality—PRIDE

3. Interference with person’s goals

of self-interest.

WE ALL

HAVE > > >


Self-indulgers view the world from the

vantage point of infants, and toddlers about

their way expecting to find a crib or breast

around every corner.

The self-indulger proceeds on the assumption

that his/her own welfare must be of primary

concern to others.


A propensity (largely resulting from limited

interpersonal skill) to explode in situations

with which one is unable to deal.

The pressure of your world is too much. Just like a

pressure cooker without the gauge, you explode to

release the pressure within.

You are a walking time-bomb.


The individual is deficient in verbal and other

social skills with interpersonal relationships.

This individual wants to tear up the game and be

the winning player.

His/Her interpersonal strategies are limited.

The dominant feeling tone is one of irritation,

helplessness, pain, or blind rage.


A self-image promoter is an individual who

works hard at manufacturing the impression

that he/she is not to be trifled with—that

he/she is formidable and fearless. This

individual goes out of his/her way to make

sure that people understand how important

he/she is and how important it is to him/her

that he/she is important.


The self-image defender is an individual who

is extremely sensitive to the implications of

other people’s actions to his integrity,

position or worth. The individual’s violence

arises in the form of responses to challenges,

retaliations to slights, or reactions against

aspersions to his/her advertised self-

conception.


Feeling like GOD and controlling all the

people interacting with you.

Individual secures momentary peace by

coping with specific threats upon his/her

victim.

Individual becomes enmeshed in extreme

violence in a effort to handle his/her panic.

Management by Intimidation.


You are the one who talks to you, all day,

every day. What kind of friend are you? Are

you actively creating a toxic environment for

yourself, contaminating your experience of

the world?


1. Lying by omission or commission (passive

and active lying)

2. Being deliberately vague

3. Minimizing (trivializing)

4. Pointing out the faults of others.

5. Magnifying (exaggerating significance).

6. Deliberately trying to confuse.

7. Arguing

8. Sarcasm and teasing.

9. Splitting staff.


Lying by commission

Make up stories to cover yourself and put off task.

You distort, invent, turn upside down, or deny facts.

LYING BY OMMISSION

Believe only you know what is

Important to disclose

Disclose information that only

Benefits you.

―I don’t know.‖ ―I don’t remember.‖


Talk and talk and talk about yourself

without revealing any relevant

information.

Try to conceal something through

Your careful choice of words and

phrases.

Avoid giving direct answers to direct

questions.

Say ―I’ll think about it‖ when you

are pinned down, though you

never bring it up again; when you are

challenged, you say, ―I forgot.‖


*PLAY DOWN THE IMPORTANCE OF A SITUATION.

*VIEW YOUR OFFENSES AS LESS SERIOUS THAN OTHERS.

*MINIMIZE THE HARM OF YOUR ACTIONS

*CLAIM YOU DID NOT INTEND TO CAUSE HARM.


**MAKE A MOUNTAIN

out of a MOLEHILL.

**POINT OUT THE

SMALL

INCONSISTENCIES

Of others and

THEN DWELL ON

THEM. REDIRECT YOUR FAULTS.

**Exaggerate the fault of the other person

In a conflict in order to make your role less

Significant.


Double talk.

Fancy Words.

Street Language.

Personal slang.

*Jump quickly from point

to point.

*Offer inconsistent

versions of an event.


Stopping angry outburst does not change

negative attitudes and unhealthy behavior.

These ways of thinking and behaving have over

time become subconscious habits.

They are learned traits and defense mechanisms

we have used to deal with uncomfortable people

and situations.

These negative traits help us to avoid responsibility or to escape unpleasant emotional feelings.


These automatic reactions are

powerful, and we are apt to see

them as simply part of us.

We may believe that they are

unchangeable, but changing

these beliefs is possible.

We need to change our actions

and our thinking. This is a long

process.

We need to practice healthy

actions and responses

frequently before our deep-

seated beliefs start to change.


No. 1: I should never be uncomfortable—physically or emotionally.

No. 2: I should never be inconvenienced.

No. 3: Life should be fair!

No. 4: Unrealistic expectations of Life set us up for disappointment.

No. 5: I should never have to ask for help.

No. 6: Rules are for others.

No. 7: Other people, places and things govern how I feel.

No. 8: I focus on external things to feel good.

No. 9: Everyone should respect me and approve of me.

No. 10: I can avoid responsibility. I boast about how clever I am for taking the easy way out.


#1: Authoritarian

Individual who demands

obedience to a set standard of

conduct. The rules are clear

and inflexible.

Punishment is often

severe on the backside.

Their apologies are few

to none.

This approach tends to produce lower self-worth. Disrespect of others, rebellious or indecisive.

My Way or the

Highway!


You are passive aggressive and feel like you are a

―Victim‖. YOU ARE A TIME BOMB READY TO

EXPLODE!


Feelings And beliefs

Decisions

BEHAVIORAL RESPONSE

And the EVENT

OCCURS

REMORSE

Specific Thoughts


When you have the same types of thoughts over and over,

you create thinking patterns. Thinking patterns are habits of

thinking and responding becomes automatic.

Don’t say ―That’s just the way I am.‖ That self-talk is wrong.

You have just come to believe that it is the way you are. The

problem is, once your thinking responses are automatic, you

don’t question whether those thoughts are the most effective

way to deal with things.


Our culture is being overwhelmed by: *Road Rage *Child Abuse *Spouse Abuse *Conflicts on the job *Violence at the Workplace *Violent outbursts at sporting events *Assaults on students *Assaults on teachers *Assault on Family Members We want to find ways to identify anger before it gets out of

hand. Which one of the above aggression situations have you seen

or been a part of the situation? If you want to discuss the event with Mr. or Mrs. Gregory, please call us at 832-257-4550 or 832-257-5996. Confidentiality is respected in everyway inaccordance with CFR 42, Part 2, the Federal Law.

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• If you are tired of getting what you have always

gotten, this is the best opportunity you may ever

have to learn how to do some things differently,

and get better---MUCH better ---results.

• How tired of you with your life being full of

irritation or chaos?


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