what to do w hen you d on’t know what to do
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What to Do W hen You D on’t Know What to Do. Practical Guidance for Today’s Counselors. Stumper. What kinds of situations are you finding where You don’t know what to do?. Not Knowing. Why is it ok to not know?. 1. How can I know everything? - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
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What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do
Practical Guidance for
Today’s Counselors
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Stumper
What kinds of situations are you finding where
You don’t know what to do?
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Not Knowing
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1. How can I know everything?
2. Main reason: Not knowing is a door and not a wall
3. Just admit it
Why is it ok to not know?
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10. Is frantically searching for the “Ask the Shrink” ap on his smart phone.
9. Pretends to fall asleep while
talking to you. 8. If you are having trouble with low
self-esteem, he tells you he doesn’t have time for you today.
7. Turns all your inner children against you.
6. Tells the secretary to pull the fire
alarm 15 minutes into the session.
Top 10 List:How to Know Your Therapist
Doesn’t Know What to Do
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5. Follows your concerns with, “You think you got it bad, my sister in ....”
4. Constantly rolling his eyes and
making cuckoo signs. 3. At the end of your session, he
yells, “Time’s up,” and high fives the receptionist.
2. Whenever you tell him one of
your dreams, he says, “Come on, that’s an old Twilight Zone.”
1. Constantly asks you “so you’re
just going to rule out suicide completely?”
Top 10 List: How to Know Your Therapist
Doesn’t Know What to Do
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YOU ARE ONLY AS GOOD A THERAPIST AS YOU ARE A PERSON
If you want to be a better therapist, you need to work on being a better person.
The Use of “Self” in Therapy
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Knowing
Principles
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Relationship -Survey shows
Curiosity- CSIClient’s theory of
change -Erickson and the horseLove and fear
Factors that create change in the therapeutic process
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Humor
Perspective
Keeping Fresh
Avoid Pet Theories
Factors that create change in the therapeutic process
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KnowingSpecific Situations and Skills
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Client
Relationship with Therapist
Problem
Sources of Not Knowing
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1. Is unmotivated. Answer: anticipation of reward, fear of consequences 2. Is stuck or has given up.Answer: chunk up, chunk down3. Is overwhelmedAnswer: review progress, therapeutic vacation4. Has a personality disorderAnswer: Utilization, walking the dog
I don’t know what to do when the client:
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1. The client is challenging or antagonistic towards you.
Answer: Aikido2. The client is emotionally
drainingAnswer: Semi-permeable membrane,
massage advice3. The client liesAnswer: Gandhi Story, turn off BS
detector4. The client is resistantAnswer: And why is that?
I don’t know what to do when in the relationship:
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Has so many aspects Answer: Serenity list
Is a hopeless situation Answer: Answer vs. Answers.
Others are the source of the problem
Answer: Strength bombardment, empowerment
I don’t know what to do when the problem:
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SilenceFavorite questionsRefer
Some other strategies
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What would you do?
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The Awesomeness of Counseling
Thank you for what you are doing!