WHAT WOMEN WANT…

The elusive question that has been pondering the minds of guys all over the world for many years… what do women want?

Well today I’ve got Lylia with me (back by popular demand) and I’m going to grill her with a bunch of questions so I can found out what it is women really want. This is from the mind of a VERY attractive woman that gets approached by lots of guys, so it’s solid information that you can apply immediately.

Can we spend time together – When a girl first meets you, for the most part she isn’t just thinking about your looks (although they will to some degree). She’s actually thinking if you’re boyfriend material, her Mr Right, her cheesy knight who will sweep her of her feet like a romantic chick flick.

It’s not about the sex – Most girls don’t think about sex initially (some definitely do) but a lot don’t. They want to get to know the REAL you… your passions, wants, needs, desires etc. Guys mostly just think about sex when they first meet a girl, so if you begin thinking like a woman for a moment, you’ll get much further with them.

Be a little bit stylish and dress for the occasion – Don’t just wear baggy sweats all day every day, dress up once in a while. If you’re taking a girl out to a fancy restaurant, then wear a nice jacket with a smart pressed shirt. Make the effort for her and she will return the effort.

Be powerful in the group, but not loud or overzealous – Women like guys who are outgoing, confident, funny and naturally attract good people, you know the energy that some people have. Don’t force the cockiness or confidence, just let it flow naturally.

A sense of humour is VERY important – Making women laugh is one of the most powerful forms of attraction that are truly unexplainable in this whole game. It’s like magical seduction juice or something. Do yourself a big favour and read up on comedy writing books, watch standup shows and try to become a funnier guy.

Don’t ask a million questions straight away (the standard questions like how old are you?) – Forget the old routine of spit firing questions at the poor girl. Ask her rapport building questions that other guys would never ever ask. What are her passions, likes, interests, hobbies, future, beliefs and values? Get inside her mind.

Forget talking about sex in the beginning – Wait until the rapport building stage, when you want to create some sexual tension before you mention anything about sex. Never on the first meeting, this is a big no no.

Self respect is key – If you have self respect, solid values/beliefs then you won’t be pushed around easily. This is extremely attractive to women, as most guys these days are too easily swayed. They are pushovers, which is a huge turn off.

Being passionate about something, anything is better than nothing at all – When you’re talking about a passion, you can go on for hours, losing track of time. This will engage the girl and make her feel interested in what you’re saying. She’ll be drawn into your energy and get wrapped up in the story.

Eye contact – Do I really have to mention how important eye contact is again? Keep working on eye contact. No matter how hot the girl is, never look away if you feel nervous, she will feel it.

The guy needs to be stronger than the girl, emotionally – Not one woman will ever say “I really love a guy who’s emotionally weak, is very puppy like and does whatever I say”. They always say “I want a secure, strong and confident man who knows what he wants”. It’s in their DNA, so give it to them!

Smelling good can help with building attraction – Grab a few nice smelling colognes and get some feedback from girls on which smells best, it can do wonders for first impressions.

Be confident (obviously) – If there’s a moment where you need to be the man (like kissing her) then you have to step up. Don’t pussy out. I know it’s nerve racking and you want to be sick, but just do it. Confidence will get you very VERY far with women.

You need to build trust with your new lady… – don’t check out other girls when your with her, have respect for her too. Her being jealous of other girls may seem good at the start, but trust me it gets very annoying fast.

Being unique with your approach is powerful – Saying something like “you look special and different from other girls” will make her feel as though you are making an effort for her. Sincerity is the overall message you’re sending with a bold gesture.

Don’t put too much pressure on meeting up with her, keep the first date or meet up short and sweet to gain trust. When guys create a big buildup about going out with a girl, it puts far too much pressure on her and scares her off. Keep it casual, grab a coffee, a quick lunch.

Girls are looking for more than the materialistic – Yes you will come across some girls that like your watch, but you need to avoid these girls at all costs or you’ll be buying them some new shoes and a matching bag when they become your girl. Luckily, most women aren’t materialistic and just want a guy with all the core values of a “real man”.

So there you have it, 18 actionable things you can do right now that women really want in a guy. Easy right?