When Caring is Killing Us by Peggy Hahn, LEAD Executive Director

At my doctor’s appointment this week, I notice my doctor looks worse than I do. Doc: How are you? Me: Exhausted. How are you? Doc: Exhausted. We give each other a knowing smile. But is that ok? Living exhausted will kill you. So, I push her, as she looks up my chart on the computer. Me: So, what’s going on with you? Doc: I haven’t had a vacation yet this year. I realized I have 3 hours a day where I am not working and that is just enough time to work out, shower, eat and wash a load of clothes. I love my job but this is not sustainable. Me: What can you do about this? Doc: I’m working on it. Me: Me too. I’ve been focusing on how to work smarter. A big key for me is sharing the work and the responsibility for the work with my very capable team. If you are exhausted too, do yourself a favor right now and keep reading. ___________ The practice of adaptive leadership* requires us to go up to the balcony. We need to drag ourselves up the stairs to look over our own lives, then take concrete steps to DO something. Here are the next steps I’m making space for in my own life:

• Confidants: (beyond your partner/spouse): get a coach, spiritual guide, therapist, peer group to talk with outside the people you work with every day. Do this now. • Sanctuaries: make time in your life to create, exercise, garden, read, worship, pray, study… whatever it is that renews your soul. Get disciplined about this. Do this tomorrow. • Learn: get a continuing ed plan cooking. What do you want to learn? Get out of the conference world and into more transformative learning. Go on a pilgrimage by digging deeply into something you love. It doesn’t have to be church related. Do this as often as you can. • Gratitude: practice optimism and realism with a grateful heart. Hold these together no matter what. Do this every day.

______________ My doctor is amazing. That is her problem. She is really good at her job and the job is exponentially growing. Exhaustion from answering your call is still exhaustion. As my friend and partner in ministry, Bishop Mike Rinehart, always says, “when you are burning the candle at both ends, ask yourself who’s holding the match?” Compassion fatigue is real, and it is not just related to natural disasters. It is part of the lives of people who serve others 24-7. We need a personal compassion plan to love ourselves too. *The Practice of Adaptive Leadership by Ronald A. Heifetz, Marty Linsky and Alexander Grashow

October 2018

425 North DuPont Highway

Dover, DE 19901

Telephone 302-736-1617

www.salcdover.org

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Evangelism Committee Carol Boettler, Chair

The Evangelism Committee met on September 5th: ▪ Little Graces

o Library Project Becky wrote and presented an excellent Temple Talk on this project and the congregation has responded. Becky has enough money to place an order with Amazon. Bookplates will list the name of the donor, not the church (separation of church and state). Becky will create a spreadsheet for the donations.

o Pocket Prayer shawls, receiving blankets, onesies Suzanne spoke with Sharon Conley, the volunteer coordinator at Kent General, for specifics on pocket crosses and receiving blankets for the newborns. Sharon said they do not need newborn clothes or pocket prayers shawls. She is interested in having receiving blanks. Suzanne will check with Sharon as to what exactly she wants: receiving blankets or baby blankets.

o Carol talked about the importance of remembering our goal with the Little Graces: to present opportunities for “bite sized ministries” that others can lead and/or participate in. The ideas this committee has generated are wonderful, but not to all be carried out by this committee.

▪ Sine Nomine will be held on September 21st with Misty and Stuart hosting at Stuart’s home in Dover. The Boettlers will host on Dec. 7th, and Cathy and Chuck Josephson on Jan. 21st.

▪ Nametags are in and turned out well. Carol made an announcement about the new tags and also how important it is for everyone to wear theirs. She wrote a short blurb on the subject for the newsletter and bulletin and thinks more people are wearing theirs.

▪ Emergency Soup Need—Today we made two large pots of soup needed to feed about 50 homeless people in Dover. Pastor will take the soup to Interfaith Ministries on the 10th. He will use his discretionary funds for bread to be served with the soup.

▪ UPDATED post meeting: We need to make soup for Sept. 17th and 24th. Days chosen are Sunday, Sept. 16th at 8am (for the 17th)—Becky, Carol and ????, will lead the process; Carol will shop and make the base. The soup for the 23rd will be made on Sept. 20th at 6 PM with Rosemarie making the base, Carol will shop for ingredients except the chicken. (Carol will confirm with Susanne, need others).

▪ Next Meeting: Wednesday, October 1, 2018, 7 PM (possibly earlier, if we need to make soup) Congregation Council President – Tom Burns

The Council met on September 10: • Music Director/Bell Choir Director:

o Misty Fiske has taken on the added responsibility for Bell Choir Director from September 1,2018 through October 31, 2018.

o Misty has resigned effective October 31, 2018. o A committee has been formed to find one or two replacements for Music Director and Bell

Choir Director. The committee is comprised of Sam Reinhardt, Terri Brown, Ruth Lyon, Pr. Mark Walters, and either Tom Burns or Lew Friday. A few possible candidates have been identified.

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o Pastor Mark Walters made a motion to authorize Misty Fiske to be paid the current combined

salaries of Music Director and Bell Choir Director beginning September 1st through October 31, 2018. Robin Burrow seconded the motion. Unanimously approved.

• Youth & Family Mission Director update – Interviews were conducted for the position and Jennifer Miller reported that none of the candidates from the advertisements were found to be acceptable. Lonna Price will be interviewed next week. It was acknowledged that since we are running a deficit, there may be a negative reaction from some members of St. Andrews to hiring for this position. It was also discussed that before the candidate is hired, there will be a meeting of the candidate and families of all youth.

• SALC 60th Anniversary – Robin Burrow has tickets ready for sale, and she will begin to actively sell tickets this Sunday after the Service. Robin will also purchase 100 souvenir magnets for $95 to be given to each family (one per family) at the event.

• Boscov’s fundraiser – Carol Boettler cannot sell the coupons for Boscov’s due to a conflict with travel, so Carol Babst volunteered to sell them beginning this Saturday at the Festival.

• Finances – o Capital Campaign – there was discussion about the pledges received and it was decided that the

information will be presented to the congregation in October. o Council would like to meet with the Finance Committee. o There was discussion about a plan to make presentations to the congregation. It was decided that

Council members will speak to the congregation on four consecutive Sundays, to help raise financial awareness and pledges: ➢ 9/30/18 - Tom Burns will present the status of finances, including the Capital Campaign. ➢ 10/7/18 - Robin Burrow will speak about the reasons why we give to our Church. ➢ 10/14/18 – Gus Raitz will talk about Stewardship. ➢ 10/21/18 – Pr. Mark Walters will preach about generosity.

Numbers for July & August were 251. Our next food pantry collection date is September 2. Please mark your calendar and thank you for your donations.

St. Andrew’s 60th Anniversary Celebration Dinner Update: The selected celebration theme is: “Generation-to-Generation” based on

Psalms 89:1: 1 I will sing of the LORD’s great love forever;

with my mouth I will make your faithfulness known through all generations.

Save the date: October 27, 2018 Tickets are $30 each, children under 10 free. Tickets are available Sunday mornings & from the church office.

4-5pm – Social time 5-6:30pm – Dinner (Buffet)

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The Men of St. Andrew’s from Jim Long

1.COMING EVENT: A historical presentation by Dan Pritchett. Date and time will be coming as scheduled. This one is about Alexander Hamilton. Everyone welcomed to attend. Watch for time and date.

2. Men’s Meeting Saturday October 21st. 8 A.M. at Speedway Café, North of church. 3.October 28, 2018 anniversary celebration. Let's get ready to celebrate. Get your tickets for the buffet. Be ready to sing, listen to guest speakers, and visit with old and new members THIS FUNCTION CANNOT BE SUCCESSFUL WITHOUT YOUR PARTICIPATION 4. There is no pork dinner this Fall. Let's all celebrate, support, and enjoy our anniversary on October 27th.

October Birthdays & Anniversaries Antje Schnaekel October 01 Paula McPhail October 16 Barbara Leone October 04 Brett Horne October 17 Robert Rolfes October 04 Charles Lyon October 18 Geri Moy October 06 Chase Bonniwell October 19 Nathan Robinson October 06 Elizabeth VanOrden October 19 Gary Jones October 07 Jackson Taylor October 20 Faith Hill October 08 Katharine Butcher October 22 Meghan O'Grady October 08 Shannon Speed October 22 Sarah King October 10 Marion Lundren October 23 James O'Connor October 10 Alfred Frank October 24 Suzanne Coggins October 10 Tammy Pope October 25 Eric Klemmer October 11 Robert Leverich October 26 Teresa Massingill October 11 Else Adelhelm-Ross October 27 Wendy Schilling October 11 Aiden Cooper October 30 Gavin Begley October 12 Virginia Shockley October 30 Linda Silverman October 13 Charles Josephson October 31 Luke VanOrden October 14

Wedding Anniversaries (Date & Years Married) Geri & Moe Moy Oct 8 (41) Debra & John Zook Oct 9 (47) Shannon & Eugene Kerpen Oct 10 (3) Kimberley & Howard Hastings Oct 12 (21) Sue & Jerry Hoecker Oct 14 (51) Peggy & Jim Long Oct 14 (58) Tammy & Daniel Pope Oct 21(23) Lonna & Tommy Price Oct 21 (5) Christie & Aaron Bonniwell Oct 24 (9)

Thank you for all your kind words and words of encouragement! I really appreciate you guys keeping my family and I in your thoughts and prayers as well. The care packages are much appreciated and definitely contained things I would have needed sooner than later! Thanks for everything!

PFC Bryanna Meade (Jan Pace’s grand-daughter)

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St. Andrew’s

➢ WELCA (Women of St. Andrew’s) will be meeting on

October 11 & 18 beginning at 9:30 a.m. All women of the

church are invited to attend. We will be tying quits and

cutting material for the quilts. “Come when you can and leave when you must.”

➢ The Seamen’s Project for Christmas is still on-going (see list below). A collection box is

available in the Narthex.

Meet the Teacher Cook Out Event at

Towne Point Elementary School On

August 21 St. Andrew’s was invited by the Towne Point Elementary School to come and cook hot dogs and hamburgers for their Meet the Teacher Event. Pastor Mark volunteered to be the chief cook and his helpers, Julie Alzin, Candy Lauffer and Hazel Partridge served the students, parents and teachers that day. Also attending the event from the congregation were Lewis Friday, Vin Partridge, Roberta McCormick and Art Ellisen.

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September 2018

Greetings:

It’s difficult to believe that Dover Interfaith Mission for Housing has been

operating for ten years!

To celebrate, we will have a dinner and musical evening on Saturday, October 20. A flyer is attached, which we invite you to

share. Please post details in your community bulletin. We appreciate your purchase of tickets before October 15 and also welcome

sponsors and purchasers of advertisements in a program booklet as well as contributions of silent auction items.

We continue to operate a busy and full shelter, with most successful in securing employment and moving on to stable lives in the

community. Our Resource Center is an active hub of assistance on a daily basis, particularly for those who manage to live without

any regular place to live.

This year, we have been able to add part-time mental health resources to address the needs of both shelter residents and resource

center clients. Recently, we have added a part-time Community Health Worker. She is establishing relationships with local

medical professionals to address the health needs of the homeless as well as coordinating health education and inoculation efforts

targeted to managing and improving individual health. We are grateful to have access to these two key professionals.

In addition, we have added a third case manager in order to increase employment opportunities and a full range of assistance to

additional unsheltered clients. This means that we are actively assisting over 100 individuals at one time to achieve their individual

goals, aiming to make it possible for them to lead productive and purposeful lives in our community.

We have new group of interns from DelTech and DelState who are helping many who come to the Resource Center. Some are able

to assist in the shelter in the evening or on Saturday mornings to extend our staffing capacity.

With the strong job market, we continue to see a high rate of employment among those who reside in the shelter or who come to

the Resource Center for assistance in searching for jobs. This week, we also see an influx of folks from North Carolina who flee the

storm. Unfortunately, they find that we do not have sufficient housing for those already living in our area.

As part of Dover’s Task Force on Homelessness, a new nonprofit housing corporation has been established: we hope that the Central

Delaware Housing Collaborative will be successful in developing housing that will be affordable and available to those moving from

homelessness to the stability that a job can lead to.

We continue to depend on the community to provide meals and contributions. During September, the Salvation Army has been

unable to provide mid-day meals to the homeless except for Saturdays; but the community has stepped in to make it possible for

food to be available, with most served at DIMH.

We still need help with shelter dinners. September 19, 22 and 30 are still open.

Next month, we have a number of evenings without dinner scheduled at the shelter. The following October dates are open for

those who might be able to assist: 2 through 7, 13, 14, 15, 17, 23, 27, 29, 30 and 31.

If you can help out, please call our office at 736-3600.

With cooler weather on the way, we welcome donations of warm clothing, especially large-size sweaters, jackets and coats.

THANK YOU for your continued support. We always welcome your financial contributions and ask that you send them to:

DIMH, PO Box 1148, Dover DE 19903

Blessings,

Jeanine

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WELCA Quilts for Lutheran World Relief On October 14th we will have on display the quilts made by WELCA for Lutheran World Relief.

There will be a special dedication made for these quilts which will then be taken to the local Lutheran World Relief office for distribution to those in need.

Reformation Sunday to Be Celebrated on Sunday October 28

Don’t forget to wear red!

Anniversary Concert Will be held Saturday October 20th at 2pm in the Sanctuary featuring the Chancel Choir, bells and other local churches. Special music will be provided.

On September 30 at 11am in the Christian Education Center to introduce Lonna Price to the youth and parents. Lonna is our potential new Youth Ministry Coordinator.

Want an early opportunity to start your Christmas Shopping and help St. Andrew’s too? Boscov’s is offering again its Friends Helping Friends program, enabling us to sell 25% discount shopping passes to be used on Tuesday, October 16th. The shopping pass costs $5 and the money from the ticket sales goes back to St. Andrew’s – a great deal for all! See Carol Babst for tickets which are available now-and please tell your friends.

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Worship Helpers for Oct 7, 2018 – Nov 11, 2018 Oct 7 9:30 a.m. Ushers The Fridays Assisting Min Sue Hoecker Reader Pat Donahue Comm. Asst. Pat Donahue Comm. Asst. Becky Donahue Comm. Asst. Bob Federwitz Greeter The Josephsons Acolyte Meghan O’Grady Altar Guild Ann McCloskey/Jody Starke Bread Maker Jody Starke Projectionist Jim Willard Coffee Men’s Group Oct 14 9:30 a.m. Ushers Bill Vidrine/Connie Haines Assisting Min Pat Donahue Reader Julie Alzin Comm. Asst. Julie Alzin Comm. Asst. Jimmy Willard Comm. Asst. Sam Reinhart Greeter Diane Kiefer Acolyte PJ Stewart Altar Guild R. McCormick/L. Tovcimak Bread Maker Ruth Lyon Projectionist Jeff Shockley Coffee Narthex Oct 21 9:30 a.m. Ushers The Boettlers Assisting Min Leona Hill Reader Betsy Gustafson Comm. Asst. Betsy Gustafson Comm. Asst. Sue Hoecker Comm. Asst. Shirley Brown Greeter Marilyn McFarlin Acolyte Sam Stewart Altar Guild R. McCormick/L. Tovcimak Bread Maker Carol Boettler Projectionist Virginia Shockley Coffee Council

Oct 28 9:30 a.m. Ushers B. Federwitz/S. Brown Assisting Min Sam Reinhardt Reader Diane Kiefer Comm. Asst. Diane Kiefer Comm. Asst. Carol Babst Comm. Asst. Roberta McCormick Greeter Pam Schmehl Acolyte Hannah O’Grady Altar Guild Pam Schmehl/Debbie Zook Bread Maker Sarah King Projectionist Pat Donahue Coffee WELCA Nov 4 9:30 a.m. Ushers Jim Long/Carol Babst Assisting Min Ruth Lyon Reader Judy Ballis Comm. Asst. Judy Ballis Comm. Asst. Bob Ballis Comm. Asst. Leona Hill Greeter The Townes Acolyte Meghan O’Grady Altar Guild Pam Schmehl/Debbie Zook Bread Maker Abbie O’Grady Projectionist TBD Coffee Men’s Group Nov 11 9:30 a.m. Ushers The Ballis’ Assisting Min Diane Kiefer Reader Pat Donahue Comm. Asst. Pat Donahue Comm. Asst. Jimmy Willard Comm. Asst. Savannah Willard Greeter The Willards Acolyte Emma Van Orden Altar Guild The Shockleys Bread Maker Robin Burrow Projectionist TBD Coffee Narthex

If you find these dates do not work in your calendar please attempt to switch with someone else and call the church office at 736-1617. If you can’t find someone to switch

with please call the church office as soon as possible so we can find a replacement for you in the schedule. Thank you for helping with our worship Services.

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St. Andrew’s Lutheran Church Directory Church Office – 302.736.1617 extension 1

STAFF: (Telephone numbers listed are home phone) Pastor: Pastor F. Mark Walters (410.739.5365)

Email – lvtheos@yahoo.com

Administrative Assistant: Hazel Partridge

Youth Ministry: Position Vacant

Bell Choir/Organist/Chancel Choir Director: Misty Fiske (535.6398)

Custodian: Candy Lauffer

Nursery Attendant: Esther Raymond (698.0778)

CHURCH COUNCIL OFFICERS, MEMBERS, & COMMITTEE

CHAIRS/LIAISONS:

President: Tom Burns (302.653.5515)

Vice President: Lewis Friday (302.465.1650)

Secretary: Carol Babst (302.538.5635)

Treasurer: Roberta McCormick (302.653.9102)-Liaison -Pastoral Care

Faith Formation: Jennifer Miller (302.387.1437)

Church Property: Lewis Friday (302.465.1650)

Communications Committee: Open

Community Outreach: Open

Evangelism: Carol Boettler (302.223.6798)

Congregational Life: Robin Burrow (302.724.7778)

Finance Committee: Al Boettler (302.223.6798) - Liaison

Stewardship: Gus Raitz (302.653.8567)

Financial Secretary: Arlene Willard (302.697.3713)

Pastoral Care Committee: Kathy Josephson (302.335.4673)

Personnel Committee: Tom Burns/Lewis Friday (See above)

Worship & Music: Sam Reinhardt - Liaison (302-659.0415)

Youth Representative: Open

OTHER KEY PERSONNEL

Men of St. Andrew’s – Jim Long (302.538.6971)

Women of the ELCA (WELCA) – Kathy Josephson (302.335.4673)

Librarian: Karen Jerolamon (302.734.1386)

Church Facility Usage Committee: Lynda Foskett (302.697.8225) - Great Hall Liaison

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