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Family empowerment is to be done thoughtfully. Empowering the family is empowering the society. I have planned a narrative therapy for families with internal problems. The Story of Ruth Ellis, The Story of Ramu and Latha, and The Story of Divorce are delivered in three consecutive days and on the fourth day "Why do we stay in unhealthy relationship" is delivered. It will work out a therapeutic effect for sure. Try this when you conduct Family empowerment sessions, or else do call me to deliver it in its actual style.

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Why Do We Stay In An Unhealthy Relationship?

Babu Appat

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There are some strong reasons to stay together even when the relation

between, goes bad to worse and from worse to really intolerable a state

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Is love really enough?

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I often hear people say “I love him/her”

even if their relationship is harmful, abusive or unhealthy

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It’s difficult even in difficult times

They stay in this relationship for the wrong reasons and sometimes

they find it extremely difficult to leave the relationship.

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Leaving can be more complicated than it seems

It may seem simple. But the more you try to leave or give it up, you’ll

find it’s not that easy

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There are many reason why men and women stay in an unhealthy

relationship

The following will explain some of the reasons why people decide to stay in a

harmful relationship

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1. Reliance or Codependency

Someone can become financially dependent on their partner and believe that without money they

will not have a lavish lifestyle or simply believe that they won’t be able to stand on their own feet

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The Provisions

Some people may stay in an abusive or unhealthy relationship because their

partner provides with lavish and grandiose things.

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Shopping at high end stores or buying big brands is

glamorous

But when you love it more than your partner it becomes unhealthy

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someone may think that they have nowhere to go if

they leave

There may dwell a feeling of helplessness in their mind

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The prevailing social and cultural background is

important here

It may be aggravated by the individual financial freedom of either of the partners

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In all these situations

They will be strong when they decide to stay in the relationship, .

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So try to understand

And decide to stay together peacefullyTry to be happy with what you have

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If you can’t do it yourself

Get some professional help

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2. Believing abuse is normal

Perhaps someone grew up in an environment where abuse was common

and do not recognize that their relationship is unhealthy

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3. Low self esteem

A person with low self- esteem may believe that the abuse or

maltreatment is their fault because their partner constantly blames them or puts them down

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4. Pregnancy or Parenting

A person may feel pressured to stay in an unhealthy relationship because of pregnancy or may feel pressured to

raise their child by both parents.

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Fear of losing the child

The abusive partner may threaten to take away their child if they leave

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5. Change

A person may stay in an unhealthy relationship because their partner promises that they will change and they hope that they eventually will

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6. Settle

Some people may settle being in an unhealthy relationship

rather than being alone.

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Fear of being left alone

The thought of being alone may scare someone and would rather

be with anyone.

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According to Dr. Wendy Walsh, who wrote

“Should I Stay or Should I Go?”

a partner is afraid to be single, he or she imagines that being in a bad relationship

better than being alone

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Apprehensions about single life

He or she also distorts the future by really thinking that single life will be far worse than it actually turns out to be

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7. Good Enough

Someone may believe that the abusive partner is “good-enough for me” and may feel that they do not deserve better

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No one else will be good enough

Or the abusive partner may have already convinced them that no one

else will love them more than they do, that they will only love them and their

“weaknesses” and that they are not good enough for others

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8. Cognitive Dissonance

Cognitive dissonance is a way to justify our actions so that we may never have to feel that we did something wrong

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Facing the fact that it’s a mistake

People have a hard time breaking free from bad relationships because it means coming to terms that you

stayed in a bad relationship for a long time, and facing the fact

that it was a mistake

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Present Commitment

If you can’t accept and come to terms that it is a mistake you will continue to justify your present commitment to the

relationship

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9. Personal Needs

It is important to not compromise your self-worth. Know what your needs are and how to find happiness. Stick to your needs

and find the confidence to work it away

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If you think You CANNOT

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If you can’t do it yourself

Get some professional help

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Of course you can walk away

If you can build it up again, and make it better

than what it has been

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I pray

Both of you must be HAPPY both

ways

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THANK YOU

Thank you very muchGod Bless You

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