Feel trapped by pregnancy, promises, or engagement
ESCAPEMarry to get out of the house or escape from
any other bad situation. (The person usually escapes to a worse
situation)
OBLIGATION
Feel like you must marry because of
sexual activity.
STATUS CHANGE Might be moving or going off to college or graduation and
decide it is time to marry.
SET VARIABLE
Find the person that you believe is the right
person and decide to marry.
PITY Pity and love are two close emotions and some people cannot distinguish between the two.
LOVE
A vital emotion in marriage.
PRESSURE
Getting older and fear not getting
married.
COMPANIONSHIPThe need for
companionship is different for all people.
MONEYMay feel financially stable or may be looking for someone to provide financial stability.
FAMILYWant to have a spouse and
children.
COMMON HISTORY Have dated so long that the next step is
to get married.
MISTAKES IN MATE SELECTION1. Decision to marry is made too
quickly 2. Marriage is at too early an age.3. One or both are too eager to get married.4. One or both partners are
marrying to please someone else.
5. Experience phase too narrow. Never dated other people/other types of people.6. People don't have realistic expectations of marriage.7. Un-addressed significant personality or behavioral