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Paradigm
The way and individual perceives,
understands, and interprets the surrounding
world. A mental map.
KnowledgeKnowledge(what to, why to)
DesireDesire(want to)
SkillsSkills(how to)
HABITHABITSS
EFFECTIVE HABITSEFFECTIVE HABITS
Effectiveness
P/PC Balance : The Principle of Effectiveness
Production
The desired results produced
Production Capability
Maintaining, preserving and enhancing the
resources that produces the desired results
Character & Personality
Although image, techniques and skills can influence your outward success, the weight of real effectiveness lies in good character.
Character & Competence
Character A person with high character
exhibits integrity, maturity and an Abundance Mentality.
Competence A person with high competence has knowledge and ability in a given area.
As people balance these two elements, they build their personal trustworthiness and their trust with others.
JUDGEMENTJUDGEMENT
CHARACTER Integrity Maturity Abundance Mentality Interdependency
COMPETENCE Technical skills Qualifications Knowledge Experience
EEMOTIONAL MOTIONAL BBANK ANK
AACCOUNTCCOUNT
KEEP PROMISES APOLOGIZE
CLARIFY EXPECTATIONS
TREAT OTHER KINDLY
UNDERSTAND OTHERS
LOYALITY TO THE
ABSENT
IndependenceIndependence
DependenceDependence
InterdependencInterdependencee
PUBLICVICTORY
PRIVATEVICTORY
Seek First to Understand
… Then to beUnderstood
Synergize
Think Win/Win
Put First Things First
Be Proactive
Begin with the End in Mind
Shar
pen
the
Saw
THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM
Habit One : Be ProactiveThe Habit of Personal Vision
Responsibility
Response + Ability
Effective people take responsibility of their own
actions.
Their behaviour is a product of their own decisions.
Habit One : Be ProactiveThe Habit of Personal Vision
Characteristics of a Proactive Person
• Respond according to values
• Accept responsibility for their own behavior
• Focus on their Circle of Influence
Habit One : Be ProactiveThe Habit of Personal Vision
Reactive Behavior
Reactive people allow outside influences (moods,
feelings or circumstances) to control their responses.
Stimulus Response
Habit One : Be ProactiveThe Habit of Personal Vision
Proactive Behavior
Proactive people use the margin of freedom to make
choices that best apply their values. Their freedom to
choose expands as they wisely use the space between
stimulus and response.
Stimulus ResponseFreedom to
Choose Accordingto Values
PROACTIVE MODELPROACTIVE MODEL
StimulusStimulus ResponseResponseFreedomFreedom
totoChooseChoose
Self-Awareness
Self-Awareness
ImaginationImagination ConscienceConscience
IndependentWill
IndependentWill
Habit One : Be ProactiveThe Habit of Personal Vision
Theories of Determinism
Reactive people blame their attitude and behavior on
things they think they cannot control. They respond
to stimulus, often attributing their behavior to three
determinants :
Genetic - Traits we inherited
Psychic - Our upbringing
Environmental - Our surroundings
Habit One : Be ProactiveThe Habit of Personal Vision
The Four Human EndowmentsSelf-Awareness – Examining thoughts, moods and
behaviorsImagination – Visualizing beyond experience and
present reality (work on alternatives)Conscience – Understanding right and wrong and
following personal integrityIndependent Will – Acting independent of external
influence
IndependenceIndependence
DependenceDependence
InterdependencInterdependencee
PUBLICVICTORY
PRIVATEVICTORY
Seek First to Understand
… Then to beUnderstood
Synergize
Think Win/Win
Put First Things First
Be Proactive
Begin with the End in Mind
Shar
pen
the
Saw
THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM
Habit Two Begin with the End in MindThe Habit of Personal Leadership
Mental Creation Precedes Physical Creation
To start with a clear understanding of your
destination.
Write your MISSION STATEMENT
Choose a Life Center
Habit Two Begin with the End in MindThe Habit of Personal Leadership
Principle-CenteredSomeone who is principle-centered bases decisions on principles that govern human effectiveness. Principles are the ideal core because they allow us to seek the best alternative through conscious choice, knowledge and values. Principle-centered people try to :Stand apart from the emotion of a situation and from other factors that would act on them.Make proactive choices after evaluating options.
Habit Two Begin with the End in MindThe Habit of Personal Leadership
Mission StatementA powerful document that expresses your personal sense of Purpose and meaning in life. It acts as a governing Constitution by which you evaluate decisions and choose behaviors.
Define Leadership & Management
Leadership deals with Direction
Management deals with Speed, Co-ordination, Logistics in moving in that direction
IndependenceIndependence
DependenceDependence
InterdependencInterdependencee
PUBLICVICTORY
PRIVATEVICTORY
Seek First to Understand
… Then to beUnderstood
Synergize
Think Win/Win
Put First Things First
Be Proactive
Begin with the End in Mind
Shar
pen
the
Saw
THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM
Habit ThreePut First things First
The Habit of Personal Management
Importance
An activity is importance if you personally find it
valuable, and if it contributes to your mission values,
and high-priority goals.
Urgency
An activity is urgent if you or others feel that it
requires immediate attention.
. Crisis
. Pressing problems
. Deadline-driven projects, meetings, preparations
. Preparation
. Prevention
. Values clarification
. Planning
. Relationship building
. True re-creation
. Empowerment
. Interruptions, some phone calls
. Some mail, some reports
. Some meetings
. Many proximate,pressing matters
. Many popular activities
. Trivia, busywork
. Some phone calls
. Time wasters
. “Escape” activities
. Irrelevant mail
. Excessive TV
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Crises Management
Attach to Mission
Distractions Time
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Habit Three - Put First things First
The Habit of Personal Management
“Effective people have genuine Quadrant 1 crises and emergencies that require their immediate attention, but the number is
comparatively small. They keep P and PC in balance by focusing on the important, but not urgent,
activities of Quadrant II”
Habit Three - Put First things First
The Habit of Personal Management
Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.
The Key is not to prioritize your schedule but
to schedule your priorities.
Habit Three - Put First things First
The Habit of Personal Management
Put First things First involves a six-step, QII processThat will help you act on the basis of importance. Importance, in the context of Put first things First, is defined By your mission statement and confirmed by your conscience.The six steps can be used in weekly planning or as often as needed.
Connect to Mission Review Roles Identify Goals
Organize Weekly Exercise Integrity Evaluate
Habits One, Two & Three
The first three habits help develop a deep base of character and personal security . Once these 3 habits become part of who you are
you are then ready to begin building rich enduring highly productive relationships with other people and that’s where habits
four, five and six come in.
Habits Four, Five & Six
These are the habits that lead to interdependent relationships. Habit Four : Think Win-winThe attitude of seeking solutions, so that every one can win.Do this by communicating. This is done by Habit Five
Habit Five : Seek first to understand, then to be understoodHabit Six : This is the habit of creative co-operation - SynergyThis happens when two sides in a dispute work together to come with a solution which is better than what either side initially proposed.
IndependenceIndependence
DependenceDependence
InterdependencInterdependencee
PUBLICVICTORY
PRIVATEVICTORY
Seek First to Understand
… Then to beUnderstood
Synergize
Think Win/Win
Put First Things First
Be Proactive
Begin with the End in Mind
Shar
pen
the
Saw
THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM
Habit Four – Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership
SIX PARADIGMS OF HUMAN INTERACTION
Win-Win Win-Lose Lose-Win
Lose-Lose Win Win-Win or No-Deal
Habit Four - Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership
Win-Win : People who choose to win and make sure others also win - practice win-win. People with a win-win paradigm take time to search for solutions that will make them happy and simultaneously satisfy others.Characteristics•Seeks mutual benefit•Is cooperative, not competitive•Listens more, stays in communication longer, and communicates with •more courage.
Habit Four - Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership
Win-Lose : People with a win-lose mindset are concerned with themselves first and last. They want to win, and they want others to lose. They achieve success at the expense or exclusion of another’s success. They are driven by comparison, competition, position, and power. Characteristics•Is very common scripting for most people•Is the authoritarian approach.•Uses position, power, credentials, possessions, or personality to get the “Win”.
Habit Four - Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership
Lose-Win : People who choose to lose and let others win show high consideration for others, but lack the courage to express and act on their feelings and beliefs. They are easily intimidated and borrow strength from acceptance and popularity. Characteristics•Voices no standards, no demands, no expectations of anyone else.•Is quick to please or appease.•Buries a lot of feelings.
Habit Four - Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership
Lose-Lose : People who have a lose-lose paradigm are low on courage and consideration. They envy and criticize others. They put themselves and others down. Characteristics•Is the mindset of a highly dependent person.•Is the same as a “no win” because nobody benefits.•Is a long-term result of a win-lose, lose-win, or win.
Habit Four - Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership
Win : People who hold a win paradigm think only of getting what they want. Although they don’t necessarily want others to lose, they are personally set on winning. They think independently in interdependent situations, without sensitivity or awareness of others. Characteristics•Is self-centered.•Thinks “me first”.•Doesn’t really care if the other person wins or loses.•Has a Scarcity Mentality”.
Habit Four - Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership
Win-Win or No Deal : Win-Win or No Deal is the highest form of win-win. People who adopt this paradigm seek first for win-win. If they cannot find an acceptable solution, they agree to disagree agreeably.Characteristics•Allows each party to say no.•Is the most realistic at the beginning of a relationship or business deal.•Is the highest form of “Win”.
Habit Four – Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership
FOUR DIMENSIONS OF WIN-WIN
Character
Relationships
Agreements
Systems & Processes
Integrity,Maturity,Abundance Mentality
Trust, EBA
Mutual Commitment
Deep Understanding of Issues & Concerns
Habit Four – Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership
1 – Win-Win Character
Integrity – People of Integrity are true to their feelings, values and commitments.
Maturity – Mature people express their ideas and feelings with courage and with consideration for the ideas and feelings of others.Relationships
Abundance Mentality – People with an Abundance Mentality believe that there is plenty for everyone.
Habit Four – Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership
2 – Win-Win Relationships
Demonstrate consistent actions that convince people that they have a well-earnedreputation for honesty, integrity and loyalty. Their actions are consistent with their
behaviour, decisions and position.
Believe in the best of other people
Disclose – help others understand their positions, behavior and decisions.
Communicate clear expectations.
Seek other ideas and listen with empathy.
Are accurate, timely and honest in communication.
Treat people with respect and respond to others’ needs.
Focus on the positive, but provide constructive feedback on improvement areas.
Habit Four – Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership
3 – Win-Win Agreements
Elements of Win-Win Agreements
Desired Results : Clarify the end in mind, objectives and outcome.
Guidelines : Specify boundaries and deadlines for accomplishing the results.
Resources : List the human, financial, technical or organizational resources availablefor accomplishing the desired results.
Accountability : Identify the standards and methods of measurement for progress and accomplishment.
Consequences : Determine the result (s) of achieving or not achieving win-win.
Habit Four – Think Win-Win
The Habit of Interpersonal Leadership
4 – Win-Win Systems and Processes
You can best achieve win-win solutions with win-win systems and processes. But if Changing your systems to win-win feels overwhelming and out of reach, remember to work from the inside out. As you first develop a win-win character and then Win-Win
Agreements and relationships, you will expand your Circle of Influence and be Able to work on processes.
IndependenceIndependence
DependenceDependence
InterdependencInterdependencee
PUBLICVICTORY
PRIVATEVICTORY
Seek First to Understand
… Then to beUnderstood
Synergize
Think Win/Win
Put First Things First
Be Proactive
Begin with the End in Mind
Shar
pen
the
Saw
THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM
Habit Five -Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood
The Habit of Empathic Communication
Ignoring Making no effort to listenPretend Listening Making believe or giving the appearance you
are listeningSelective Listening Hearing only the parts of the conversation
that interest you.Attentive Listening Paying attention and focusing on what the
speaker says, and comparing that to your own experiences.
Empathic Listening Listening and responding with both the heartand mind to understand the speaker’s words, intent and feelings.
IndependenceIndependence
DependenceDependence
InterdependencInterdependencee
PUBLICVICTORY
PRIVATEVICTORY
Seek First to Understand
… Then to beUnderstood
Synergize
Think Win/Win
Put First Things First
Be Proactive
Begin with the End in Mind
Shar
pen
the
Saw
THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM
Habit Six - Synergize
The Habit of Creative Cooperation
SynergyThe whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Synergy takes place when two or more people produce more together than the sum of what they could have produces separately.
Habit Six - Synergize
The Habit of Creative Cooperation
To Synergize is•Results-oriented, positive synergy
•Examining exploring, seeking diverse perspectives openly enough to alter or complete your paradigm
•Cooperating
•Having a mutually agreed-upon end in mind.
•Worth the effort and highly effective
•A process.
To Synergize is Not•A brainstorming free-for-all.
•Accepting others’ ideas as full truth.
•Win-lose competition.
•Group think (giving in to peer pressure).
•Always easy.
•Only a negotiation technique.
Habit Six - Synergize
The Habit of Creative Cooperation
Problem or
Opportunity
SynergizeHabits 4,5, & 6
The Actionand Process
Third Alternative
SYNERGY
The Result
Habit Six - Synergize
The Habit of Creative Cooperation
Defensiveness Fear Fixation Ego
Anger Anxiety Jealousy
Habit Six - Synergize
The Habit of Creative Cooperation
The essence of synergy is valuing the differences. Valuing the differencesdoes not imply that individuals approve of or agree with differences;however it does mean that people respect differences and view them
as opportunities for learning. The differing opinions of others and their viewpoints, perspectives, talents and gifts are valuable when seeking
solutions. These differences enable you to discover and produce thingstogether that you would much less likely discover and produce
individually. At what level do you value the differences ?
IndependenceIndependence
DependenceDependence
InterdependencInterdependencee
PUBLICVICTORY
PRIVATEVICTORY
Seek First to Understand
… Then to beUnderstood
Synergize
Think Win/Win
Put First Things First
Be Proactive
Begin with the End in Mind
Shar
pen
the
Saw
THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM
Habit Seven - Sharpen the Saw
The Habit of Renewal
Sharpen the Saw is a daily process of renewing for four dimensions of our nature : Physical, Mental, Spiritual and Social / Emotional.
These four dimensions sustain and increase our capacities and help us discipline our mind, body and spirit. This daily private victory is a
victory over self. Not only does the daily Private victory stimulate growth,but it also helps us to achieve the Public Victory. As we achieve these victories through renewal, we cultivate and nurture the other six habits.
Habit Seven - Sharpen the Saw
The Habit of Renewal
Physical (Body):We build physical wellness through proper nutrition, exercise, rest and stress management.
We can sharpen the Saw in Four Areas :
Mental (Mind) :We increase mental capacity through, reading, writing, and thinking.
Habit Seven - Sharpen the Saw
The Habit of Renewal
Spiritual (Spirit):We develop spiritually through reading inspiring literature, through meditating and praying and through spending time with nature.
We can sharpen the Saw in Four Areas :
Social / Emotional (Other Relationships) :We mature socially and emotionally by making consistent, daily depositsin the Emotional Bank Account of our key relationships.
IndependenceIndependence
DependenceDependence
InterdependencInterdependencee
PUBLICVICTORY
PRIVATEVICTORY
Seek First to Understand
… Then to beUnderstood
Synergize
Think Win/Win
Put First Things First
Be Proactive
Begin with the End in Mind
Shar
pen
the
Saw
THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGMTHE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM
PHYSICALPHYSICALExercise, Nutrition,Stress Management
FOUR DIMENSIONS OF RENEWALFOUR DIMENSIONS OF RENEWAL
MENTALMENTALReading, Visualizing,
Planning, Writing
SOCIAL/EMOTIONALSOCIAL/EMOTIONALService, Empathy,
Synergy, Intrinsic Security
SPIRITUALSPIRITUALValue Clarification
& Commitment, Study& Meditation
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COURAGECOURAGE
LEVELS OF COMMUNICATIONLEVELS OF COMMUNICATION
TRUSTTRUST
Synergistic (Win/Win)Synergistic (Win/Win)
COOPERATIONCOOPERATION
Respectful (Compromise)Respectful (Compromise)
Defensive (Win/Lose or Lose/Win)Defensive (Win/Lose or Lose/Win)
LowLow
HighHigh
LowLow HighHigh
PARADIGM SHIFTSPARADIGM SHIFTS
A BREAK FROMTRADITIONAL WISDOM
A BREAK FROMTRADITIONAL WISDOM
TOWARD7 HABITS PRINCIPLES
TOWARD7 HABITS PRINCIPLES
Habit 1Habit 1 We are a product of our environment and upbringing.
Habit 2Habit 2 Society is the source of our values.
Habit 3Habit 3 Reactive to the tyranny of the urgent. Acted upon by the environment.
Habit 4Habit 4 Win-lose.One-sided benefit.
Habit 5Habit 5 Fight, flight, or compromise when faced with conflict.
Habit 6Habit 6 Differences are threats. Independence is the highest value. Unity means sameness.
Habit 7Habit 7 Entropy.Burnout on one track - typically work.
We are a product of our choices to our environment and upbringing.
Values are self-chosen and provide foundation for decision making. Values flow out of principles.Actions flow from that which is important.
Win-win.Mutual benefit.
Communication solves problems.
Differences are values and are opportunities for synergy.
Continuous self-renewal and self-improvement.
BE PROACTIVEBE PROACTIVE
I can forgive, forget, and let go of past injustices
I’m aware that I’m responsible
I’m the creative force of my life
I choose my attitude, emotions, and moods
SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLESEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLEEFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLEINEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
HABIT 1HABIT 1
Be Proactive. Proactive people take responsibility for their own lives. They determine the agendas they will follow and choose their response to what happens around them.
Be Reactive. Reactive people don’t take responsibility for their own lives. They feel victimized, a product of circumstances, their past, and other people. They do not see as the creative force of their lives.
Begin with the End in Mind. These people use personal vision, correct principles, and their deep sense of personal meaning to accomplish tasks in a positive and effective way. They live life based on self-chosen values and are guided by their personal mission statement.
Begin with No End in Mind. These people lack personal vision and have not developed a deep sense of personal meaning and purpose. They have not paid the price to develop a mission statement and thus live life based on society’s values instead of self-chosen values.
HABIT 2HABIT 2
SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLESEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLEEFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLEINEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Put First Things First. These people
exercise discipline, and they plan and execute according to priorities. They also “walk their talk” and spend significant time in Quadrant II.
Put Second Things First. These people are crisis managers who are unable to stay focused on high-leverage tasks because of their preoccupation with circumstances, their past, or other people. They are caught up in the “thick of thin things” and are driven by the urgent.
HABIT 3HABIT 3
SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLESEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLEEFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLEINEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Think Win-Win. These people have an abundance mentality and the spirit of cooperation. They achieve effective communication and high trust levels in their Emotional Bank Accounts with others, resulting in rewarding relationships and greater power to influence.
Think Win-Lose or Lose-Win. These people have a scarcity mentality and see life as a zero-sum game. They have ineffective communication skills and low trust levels in their Emotional Bank Accounts with others, result-ing in a defensive mentality and adversarial feelings.
HABIT 4HABIT 4
SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLESEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLEEFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLEINEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. Through perceptive observation and empathic listening, these non-judgmental people are intent on learning the needs, interests, and concerns of others. They are then able to courageously state their own needs and wants.
Seek First to Be Understood. These people put forth their point of view based solely on their auto-biography and motives, without attempting to understand others first. They blindly prescribe without first diagnosing the problem.
HABIT 5HABIT 5
SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLESEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLEEFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLEINEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Synergize. Effective people
know that the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. They value and benefit from differences in others, which results in creative cooperation and team-work.
Compromise, Fight, or Flight. Ineffective people believe the whole is less than the sum of the parts. They try to “clone” other people in their own image. Differences in others are looked upon as threats.
HABIT 6HABIT 6
SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLESEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLEEFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLEINEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Sharpen the Saw. Effective people are involved in self-renewal and self-improvement in the physical, mental, spiritual, and social-emotional areas, which enhance all areas off their life and nurture the other six habits.
Wear Out the Saw. Ineffective people fall back, lose their interest, and get disordered. They lack a program of self-renewal and self-improvement and eventually lose the cutting edge they once had.
HABIT 7HABIT 7
SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLESEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
EFFECTIVE PEOPLEEFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLEINEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
SEVEN PRINCIPLES UPON WHICH THE SEVEN HABITS ARE BASEDSEVEN PRINCIPLES UPON WHICH THE SEVEN HABITS ARE BASED
The Seven Habits center on The Seven Habits center on
timeless and universal timeless and universal
principles of personal, principles of personal,
interpersonal, managerial, and interpersonal, managerial, and
organizational effectiveness. organizational effectiveness.
Listed below are the seven Listed below are the seven
principles upon which the Seven principles upon which the Seven
Habits are based-principles Habits are based-principles
which are in our circle of which are in our circle of
influence.influence.
1. The principle of continuous learning, of self- reeducation - the discipline that drives us toward the values we believe in. Such constant learning is required in today’s world, in light of the fact that many of us can expect to work in up to five radically different fields before we retire.
2. The principle of service, of giving oneself to others, of helping to facilitate other people’s work.
SEVEN PRINCIPLES UPON WHICH THE SEVEN HABITS ARE BASEDSEVEN PRINCIPLES UPON WHICH THE SEVEN HABITS ARE BASED
3. The principle of staying positive and optimistic, radiating positive energy - including avoiding the four emotional cancers (criticising complain- ing, comparing, and competing).4. The principle of affirmation of others - treating people as proactive individuals who have great potential.
5. The principle of balance - the ability to identify our various roles and to spend appropriate amounts of time in, and focus on, all the impor- tant roles and dimensions of our life. Success in one area of our life cannot compensate for neglect or failure in other areas of our life.
SEVEN PRINCIPLES UPON WHICH THE SEVEN HABITS ARE BASEDSEVEN PRINCIPLES UPON WHICH THE SEVEN HABITS ARE BASED
6. The balance of spontaneity and serendipity - the ability to experience life with a sense of adventure, excitement, and fresh rediscovery, instead of trying to find a serious side to things that have no serious side.7. The principle of consistent self-renewal and self- improvement in the four dimensions of one’s life: physical, mental, spiritual, and social- emotional.
SEVEN PRINCIPLES UPON WHICH THE SEVEN HABITS ARE BASEDSEVEN PRINCIPLES UPON WHICH THE SEVEN HABITS ARE BASED
KnowledgeKnowledge(what to, why to)
DesireDesire(want to)
SkillsSkills(how to)
HABITHABITSS
EFFECTIVE HABITSEFFECTIVE HABITS
JUDGEMENTJUDGEMENT
CHARACTER Integrity Maturity Abundance Mentality Interdependency
COMPETENCE Technical skills Qualifications Knowledge Experience
FOUR UNIQUE FOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTSHUMAN ENDOWMENTS
1.1. Self-awarenessSelf-awareness2.2. ConscienceConscience3.3. ImaginationImagination4.4. WillpowerWillpower
FOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTSFOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTS
1. 1. SSelf-Awarenesself-Awareness
We begin to become self-aware and explore the programs we are living out. We come to realize that we stand apart from our pro-gramming and can even examine it. We also realize that between stimulus and response, we have the freedom to choose. This self-awareness then leads to the ability to look at other unique endowments in our secret life.
Our conscience is our internal sense of right and wrong, our “moral nature.” It is the “greater harmonizer” and “balance wheel” of all the principles that govern our behaviour. Our conscience gives us a sense of the degree to which our thoughts and actions are in harmony with our principles.
2. 2. CConscienceonscience
FOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTSFOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTS
We can visit the power of the mind to create or to imagine that which does not exist now. In that imagination lie our faith and our hope for the future. We look at what is possible, what we can envision.
3. 3. PPower of Imaginationower of Imagination
FOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTSFOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTS
Willpower refers to our determination, our resoluteness - our ability to act based solely on our self-awareness. We ask ourselves, “Am I really willing to to the distance on my mission statement?” “Am I willing to walk my talk?” “Am I really willing to put first things first in spite of external distractions and pressures?” “Am I going to live a life of total integrity?”
4. 4. WWillpower or Independent Willillpower or Independent Will
FOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTSFOUR UNIQUE HUMAN ENDOWMENTS
Developing a mission statement is Developing a mission statement is
foundational to Habit 2, Begin with foundational to Habit 2, Begin with
the End in Mind. It sets general the End in Mind. It sets general
guidelines for our life based on our guidelines for our life based on our
values and our roles and goals. values and our roles and goals.
There are four basic characteristics There are four basic characteristics
of good mission statements, whether of good mission statements, whether
they be personal, family, or they be personal, family, or
organizational mission statements.organizational mission statements.
BASIC CHARACTERISTICS OF GOOD MISSION STATEMENTSBASIC CHARACTERISTICS OF GOOD MISSION STATEMENTS
1. A mission statement should be timeless and changeless. Because goals are not timeless, they should not be included. Mission state- ments should be based upon unchanging core principles that operate regardless of present realities or situations. This changeless core
will enable us to live with changes inside other people and inside the environment. As our consciousness grows and we mature, we will gradually strengthen, deepen, and
improve our mission statement. Nevertheless, we should always initially write our mission statement as if it will never change - as if it were timeless.
BASIC CHARACTERISTICS OF GOOD MISSION STATEMENTSBASIC CHARACTERISTICS OF GOOD MISSION STATEMENTS
2. A mission statement should deal with both ends and means. Ends have to do with what we are about. Means have to do with how we go about achieving those ends. Principles are what we implements to achieve those ends. Ends and means are inseparable. In truth,
ends preexist in the means. “You’ll never achieve a worthy end through unworthy means.”
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3. A mission statement should deal with all four of our basic needs:
a. To live (our physical and economic needs)
b. To love and to be loved (our cultural and social ends)
c. To learn (our needs to grow, develop, be recognized, and be useful) d. To leave a legacy (our spiritual need for
meaning, for feeling that life matters, that we add value and make a difference.
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4. A mission statement should deal with all the significant roles of our life, such as a parent, teacher, manager, neighbour, and so forth.
“Internalizing” our mission statement will also help us get a clear understanding of what is truly important. Goethe once said, “Things which matter
most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least.” This means that we learn how to say no at appropriate times. Every time we say yes to something that is of little or no importance, we are saying no to something that is more important.
Almost every day, most of us are caught in circum- stances where we should say no but don’t. We often lack the ability to utter a firm but gracious no.
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SIX LEVELS OF INITIATIVESIX LEVELS OF INITIATIVE
1Wait for instructions
2Ask for instructions
3Bring recommendations
4Use own judgement, report immediately
5Use own judgement, report routinely
6Use own judgement, not necessary to report
Duplicity
Unkindness
Violatedexpectations
Outside stressand pressures
Time wasters
Interruptions
Pressingproblems
Crises
PERSONAL IMMUNE SYSTEMPERSONAL IMMUNE SYSTEM
Live the Seven Habits
Spend timein Quadrant II
Follow correctprinciples
Control own life
Maintain highEmotional BankAccount with selfand others
Maintain reservecapacity
Be resilient
Empower andserve others
CommunicateEmpathically
Synergize withothers using awin-win approach
EEMOTIONAL MOTIONAL BBANK ANK
AACCOUNTCCOUNT
KEEP PROMISES APOLOGIZE
CLARIFY EXPECTATIONS
TREAT OTHER KINDLY
UNDERSTAND OTHERS
LOYALITY TO THE
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