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Marriage; by the manual. !!

Wyoming Valley Church!!!

Knowing God; Growing Together; & Showing Christ!

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Enriching and Equipping Families

Passage: Eph. 5: 22-33 & Gen. 2: 15-25!Covenant is how God has chosen to ___________________ to us, to __________ us, and to ________________ us eternal life in Jesus.  These truths, revealed in the Bible, are the basis of Christianity.  The Bible is a covenant document.  The Old and New Testaments are really Old and New Covenants.!

What is a Covenant?!

A coming together. It presupposes two or more parties who come together to make a contract, agreeing on ____________, ____________, ____________, and ____________.!

How does a Covenant apply to marriage?!

The Bible teaches that the essence of marriage is a sacrificial covenant to the good of the other. That means that love is more fundamentally ______________ than emotion. !

!!Practical Theology!

Systematic Theology!!Historical Theology!!

Exegesis!!Hermeneutics ! !

Canon of Scripture!!

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God’s design for marriage 1. Marriage in scripture is always seen as a _______________!

for for for !

2. Marriage was started by God who is loving kind and merciful. The ________ design and its structure were in place before the fall.!

[1Cr 11:3 ESV] 3 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.#![1Cr 11:3, 8-9 ESV] 3 But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God. ... 8 For man was not made from woman, but woman from man. 9 Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man.#![1Ti 2:12-14 ESV] 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; rather, she is to remain quiet. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve; 14 and Adam was not deceived, but the woman was deceived and became a transgressor.#

The Role of Husband The husband is to be the __________ of God (Eph. 5: 22-33)!

As head and authority he is the most ___________ (23)! As Savior he is to be most ______________ (23)! As lover he is to be the most ___________ (25-30)

immediate needslogterm goalsencourages reciprocal love!

The responsible

The Role Wife The picture of the !

Willing to the leadership of her husband in the home (22)

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! her husband (33)! her husband (Titus 2:4)! to her husband until death !

[Rom 7:2-3 ESV] 2 For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. 3 Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress.#!

The productive picture of !!

DIVORCE GOD”S PICTURE !Are you prepared for the progressive responsibilities of being married. (Gen. 2:18-25)!!

! ! ! !!Does Not mean !

1) ___________ or ________, [Deu 4:9 ESV] 9 "Only take care, and keep your soul diligently, lest you forget the things that your eyes have seen, and lest they depart from your heart all the days of your life. Make them known to your children and your children's children--!

2) a _______________ move - [1Ti 5:8 ESV] 8 But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.#!

Does mean ___________ past conflicts ____________ needs and desires of your mate first assuming financial ___________________ making your marriage partner the _____________ human relationship. ! -

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! Means to ________ together The basis of marriage is __________ not love God views this ____________ as really important

[Pro 2:16-17 ESV] 16 So you will be delivered from the forbidden woman, from the adulteress with her smooth words, 17 who forsakes the companion of her youth and forgets the covenant of her God;#!

Weaving- ! God intends marriage to defeat ! God wants you to function as a team by; Having the same Having the same Having continual Having personal Having creative _____________ together!Why we are seeing such high % divorce among Christians Smaller sampling We are going to marry a sinner Erosion of biblical authority !Coping with Conflict

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Distinctives

Orthodoxy

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[2Co 6:14 ESV] 14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?

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Integrity (Character)

Honesty (Speech)

Wisdom

(Skill of Living)

Love (Sacrifice & Service)

Forgiveness - Means Choosing not to remember but is not equal to trust

TRUST

Region of Anger

Line of Reconciliation

Region of Remorse

Integrity - the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles; moral uprightness, the state of being whole and undivided. !Honesty - speech that is honorable and righteous !Wisdom- decisions and actions that are based on God’s truth (scripture), thinking God’s thoughts and choosing God’s path. !Love - The effort to be sacrificial and serving expecting nothing in return resisting selfish desires.

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Fight Fair…!Ways to cope with conflict!!

• Don’t avoid the conflict with silent treatment.!

• Don’t save emotional trading stamps.!

• Attack the problem not the person.!

• Don’t throw emotions like stones.!

• Stay on subject.!• Avoid sweeping statements

(You Never!, You Always! , Your just like your … )!

• Don’t manipulate … “It’s my fault” statements.!

• Offer solutions with your problems.!

• Be humble you could be wrong!

Resources!The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Timothy Keller!!The Cross Centered Life by C.J. Mahaney !!What did you expect? Redeeming the realities of marriage. by Paul Tripp!!The Momentary Marriage, A parable in permanence. by John Piper!!When Sinners say I Do. by Dave Harvey !!Strengthening Your Marriage by Wayne Mack !!How to Act when Your Spouse Acts Wrong? by Leslie Vernick !The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace!!The Exemplary Husband by Stuart Scott!!Disciplines of a Godly Man by R. Kent Hughes!!Shepherding a child's heart. by Ted Tripp!!Age of Opportunity by Ted Tripp !!

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