you have the power to create love
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This beautiul book about creating love is the thirdcollection o the Boss articles rom KERYGMA. Here,nationally known author and speaker Bo Sanchez doeswhat he is best known or: From his heart to yours, heshares common stories with uncommon wisdom. Joinhim in his personal journey o deep aith and tenderlove, and your heart will overow with laughter andwarmth.
This special collection includes the most avorite o Bosarticles, including
Cherish Your Chosen One A Tiny Human Being in My Arms You Create Your Destiny Your Past Does Not Defne Your Future
This book can prooundly change the way you lookat lie.
You Have the Power to Create
LOVE
YuHathPwrt
CratLove
BO
SANCHEZ
ISBN 971-92613-0-7
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YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CREATE LOVE
Bo SanchezThird Collection
From the National Bestselling Author of You Can Make Your
Life Beautiful and Simplify & Live the Good Life
YOU H AVE TH E POW ERTO CREATE
LOVETake Another Step on the Simple Path to Happiness
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Other Boo ks By Bo Sanchez
THE BOSS Ser ies
Thank God Hes BossYou Can M ake You r Lif e Beaut if ulYou Have t he Pow er t o Create Love
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Simplif y and Live t he Good Lif eSimplif y and Create Abundance
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YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CREATE LOVETake An ot her St ep on t he Simple Path t o Happin essCop yrigh t 2002 by Bo Sanchez
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YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CREATE LOVE
YO U H AVE TH E PO W ER
TO CREATE
LOVE
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All rig ht s reserved. No part o f t his pu blicat ion may be repro du ced, ex-cept f or brief q uo tat ions, w ith ou t t he prior perm ission o f t he pub l isher.
Layout design by No li Vicedo
ISBN 971-92613-0-7
The st or ies in t his bo ok first appeared in KERYGMA magazine under
t he column, The Boss, by Bo Sanchez. Thi s is t he t hi rd col lect ion o f t heseries.
YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CREATE LOVETake Another Step on the Simple Path to Happiness
BO SANCHEZThird collection
A KERYGM A Collection BookShepherds Voice
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YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CREATE LOVE
TABLE OF CONTENTS
Cherish Your Chosen Ones 9Discover Yoursel 13
Take Delight in the Simplest Things 15Write Down 100 Dreams 19Find God in Every Place, in Everything, in Everyone 23A Tiny Human Being in My Arms 27Love Isnt a Business Opportunity 31Do For Your Soul What You Do or Your Body 35God Will Watch over You Night and Day 39Angels are Ready to Escort You 43Failures are Necessary to Teach Us Lessons 47Bless the World with One Thing 51Stop Comparing Yoursel to the World 55Be Faithul to Who You Are 59Winning Every Time 61You Have Wealth Under Your Nose 65Make Reocusing a Habit 69
Youre Always a Star 73You Create Your Own Destiny 77Complicate Your Lie 81Use The Power o Labels 85Feel your Feelings and Then Let Go 89Congratulate Yoursel: Youre Human 93Smille More Oten 97Dene Your Greatest Achievements 101Always Give Your Best Struggle 105Lear to Say No Sometimes 109Enjoy Who You Are 113See Your Fathers Tears 117Live Your Lie With Presentation 121Live Lie Knowing You Are Gazed Upon 125Open Up Your Lie to Love 129
You Have the Power to Create Love 133Receive His Love in the Most Unlikely Places 137Your Past Does not dene Your Future 141
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YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CREATE LOVE
PREFACEIlovetowrite.
EspeciallyifIwritefrommyheart.IfIdont,thearticledoesntseethelightofday.BecausethemomentIsensethatImnotwritingfrommy
passionsanddeepestconvictions,Igetboredandpressthede-letebuttonratherquickly.
But if I write from my heart, I feel re ow through my n-gersasIpoundonthekeyboard.
Butyouknowwhat?
AsmuchasIlovewritingfrommyheart,Ilovesomethingelse more ercely that makes me want to write every day.
Letmetellyouaboutit.Overthepastyears,Icannotcountthenumberofpeople
whohavewrittentome,whohavecalledmeup,whohavetoldmetomyfacethattheirliveshavebeendramaticallychangedbecauseofwhattheyreadinmybooks.
Imhumbled.AndImgratefulforthisrareprivilege.Myfriends,youarethereasonwhyIcontinuetowrite.IwritenotjustbecauseIlovetowrite.Iwritebecause I love you.AndIpraythatthisbookchangesyourlifeaswell.Yes!You have the power to change your life.
Ibelieveinthatstatementsomuch.NotbecauseIreaditinsomebookbutbecauseIveexperi-
enceditagainandagaininmylife.Youhavethepowertobecomehappyormiserable.Youhavethepowertobecomeasuccessorafailure.You have the power to become a loving person or a selsh
person.
Thechoiceisinyourhands.Maythisbookgiveyouthecouragetochoosewelleachday.
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And in western
countries, one out oftwo marriages end upin divorce. Thats apathetic 50% failure
rate! I would neverbuy a car, a stereo, ashaver, or even a nailclipper if there wasa 50% chance that itwould conk out on me.
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YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CREATE LOVE
CH ERI SH YOUR CH OSENON E
Gettingmarriedisthegreatestmistakeanyonecanevermake.
Beingwedistheheightofinsanity,themostludicrouscommitment,themosttotallyillogicaldecisionanyhuman
beingcanfallinto.Tellme.WhyshouldIcommitmyselftobewithone
womanfortherestofmylifeandtherebyreject3.2billionotherfemalesintheworld?Alongtheway,Illmeetagirlwhollbemorebeautiful,ormoreintelligent,ormorecharming,orsexier,orholierSowhynailmyselfdowntoonechoice,permanentlyandsuffertheagonyofsimplywatchingbeautiespassmeby?
Andinwesterncountries,oneoutoftwomarriagesendupindivorce.Thatblowsmymind.Thatsapathetic50%failurerate!Iwouldneverbuyacar,astereo,ashaver,orevenanailclipperiftherewasa50%chancethatitwouldconkoutonme.Isimplywouldnt!
Andwhystaywithoneperson insicknessorinhealth,
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inrichesorinpoverty,tilldeathdouspart?Ismymind
fried?IfmyshirtshrinksonmebecauseIeattoomanypizzas,dontIjustthrowitawayandbuyanXL?(Thatwillbetheday.)AndifIoutgrowmyancientcomputer,dontIjustlookforanupdatedversion?
Andthentheresthecatastrophesomecallkids.Imean,doIreallywanttowakeupinthemiddleofthenighttoentertainaself-centered,bald,toothlesstyrant
indiapers?DoIreallywantlittlerampagingmonsterstobreakthemostexpensivefurnitureinmyhouse?DoIreallywantjuvenilecreaturestostayonthephoneforsixhoursstraight,listentonoisetheycallmusicthatyoubelievecamedirectlyfromhellandmopearounduncommunicative,catatonicanddepressedbecauseanotherdementedjuvenilecreature(a.k.a.boyfriend)hasntcalledinthepast30minutes?
WhyshouldIgothroughthetorture?Marriageisinsanity.
Butafewyearsago,onmy32ndbirthday,Igavemyselfaspecialbirthdaygift:Igotmarriedtoalovelywomanandcommittedmyselftoinsaneliving.
Maroweishername,theonepersonIchoseoutof3.2billionfemales.Yes,wenowhaveatinytyrantthatwakesusupatnight,andinthenearfuture,wewillmostlikelyhavelittlemonstersthatwilldestroyourhouseduringplaytime,andcreaturesfromouterspacethatwewillcallteenagers.
Why?
Forthreereasons.FAITH.WebelievethatGodcallsusintomarriage.
CHERISH YOUR CHOSEN ONE
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AndifHecalledusthere,thatmeansHellbetheretomeet
us.We will suffer all thingsjust let us be with our God.HOPE. We condently expect the best blessings
immeasurablymuchmorethanallthehardship. God willbless us beyond our wildest dreams.
LOVE.Ohyes,therewillbeotherfemaleswhollbemorebeautiful,ormoreintelligent,ormorethisandmorethat But theyll only be just thatfemaleslike owers
in the eld of a million hectares of ower elds.ButnotthiswomanmyMarowetheonebeautiful
ower I have personally chosen, personally pickedfromherroots,personallyplantedinmyownclaypot,personallywateredeveryday,personallywatchedeveryday,andpersonallylovedeveryday.Because of my love
for her, there will be no one like her.Inmyheart,shewilleternallybethe most beautiful
ower of them all.Becauseintheend,therewillonlybefaith,hopeand
love.Andthegreatestoftheseislove.
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I believe that in real life,
getting discovered bysomeone else is not asimportant as discoveringyourself.
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YOU HAVE THE POWER TO CREATE LOVE
D I SCOVER YOURSELF
InthepartiesthatIattend,IvenoticedacommonritualthathappensaroundtheKaraokeorVideokemachine.Ivediscoveredthreestagesinthisritual.
First, someone is cajoled to sing for the group. He rstdeclinesadamantlylikeitwasaspreposterousasrunning
forpresidentofthePhilippines.Heinfactpointstootherswhomaysingbetterbutifforsomebizarrereasonpeopledontcontinuepressingforhimtosing,youwillnoticethathewillgohomeutterlydepressedandmayevenhanghimself.
Butletssaytheritualisfollowedandpeoplekeepurginghimtosing.Thewould-besingerdeclinesnowwith
shyhumorinvitingthemtopressurehimmore.Hesaysinanestufflike,Ayoko, baka ma-discover ako.1
Thesecondstageofthisritualiswhenthesingertakesthemicrophone,pullsfromhisleftpocketanaudiocassetteandsays,Minus one ko, side A. Nakasalang nayan.2
Thethirdstagehappensafterthesong.Everyone
1I do nt w ant to , as I may be d iscovered.2M y min us on e, side A . Its ready to play.
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asksforanencorenomatterifhisvoicegiveseveryone
abriefintroductoryexperienceofthepainsofhell.TheFilipinoaudienceissupposedtopraisehimwithwordslike,Naku, kailangang may makadiscover sa yo! Kalinya mo siMartin Nievera!3
Letmefocusononepointaboutthisritual:Thiswholethingaboutgettingdiscovered.
Ibelievethatinreallife,gettingdiscoveredby
someoneelseisnotasimportantasdiscoveringyourself.Youdiscoverthebeauty,theglory,thewonderthatis
you!ListentoaquoteIgotfromMikeMurdock:
Popularity is when others like you. Happiness is whenyou like yourself.
Doyoulikeyourself?Doyouenjoybeingyou?Doyoucelebrateandthrowapartybecauseofthe
goodnessthatGodhasbestowedonyoufromtheverybeginning?
Letmesaythisagain:Dontwaittobediscovered.Pray.Bequiet.LookwithinyourselfthroughHiseyes.
Discover!Andbecompletelyawedathowbeautiful,howspecial,howwonderfulyoureallyare.
DISCOVER YOURSELF
3You have to b e discovered! You rank w ith M art in Nievera.
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TAKE D ELI GH T I N TH E
SI M PLEST TH I N GS
GuesswhatIgavemywifeontheeveofourwedding.Myhoneymoonpresent,ifyoumay.Rightafterthebigweddingofathousandguests,at
12:00 midnight, when we were nally alone in our hotelroominafarawayresortastwoawkwardandgiddy
virginswithexcitedhormonesslambangingandsloshingthroughourveins,Idecideditwastimetogivehermyhoneymoonpresent.
Wrappedinasimplebrownbag,mybridetookonelook at it and was petried.
Afterall,itwasourhoneymoonandIcouldlegallygiveheranythingsexy,sexual,sensual,seductiveand
alltheintimateswordsyoucanthinkofandGodwouldntmind.
Sheclosedhereyesandpokedherhandinthebagandpulleditout.
Andsothereitwasinallitsgreenandyellowglory,aCrayolaboxof64crayons,withbuilt-insharpenerinthemiddle.PlusthreecoloringbooksofWinniethePooh.
(Monthsback,shetoldmethatoneofherfantasieswas
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tohaveherveryown64-setCrayola.Iwasabouttoshare
myownfantasieswithherbutdecidedagainstit.)Souponseeingthecrayons,mybrideshriekedand
wenttoworkatonce.Shepouredoutthefatlittlesticksofpeachandmagentaandpinkandamberandsilverandgoldandallthewayuntil3:00AM,WinniethePoohbecamebeautifulinherhands.(Unfortunatelyforme,sheforgetabouttheexcitedhormonesslambangingand
sloshingthroughherveins.)ThatswhyIalwayssaythatourhoneymoonwasthe
mostcolorfulintheworld.Andourliveshavebeensuch!Wetakedelightinthesimplestthings.Sure,Icouldhavegivenheraone-caratdiamondring.OraladysRolex.OranewpairofFerragamos.ButIdidntbecauseoftwoimportantreasons.First,Icouldntaffordthem.Second,wewerelearningtodelightinthesimplest
things.Ihaveherealistofthingsyoucandothatsreally
downrightinexpensive.Takeastrolltogether.Watchthesunrisefromyourwindowandpray.Playwithababy.Readagoodbookunderatree.Watch a Walt Disney lm with the kids.Ordercoffee(andnothingelse)withyourbelovedone
latenightatahotellounge.Sleeptill9:00AMoneSaturday.
TAKE DELIGHT IN THE SIMPLEST THINGS
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Writeloveletterstoyourfriends.
AsearlyasApril,makeyourownChristmasgifts.Smileatstrangers.Breathe.
Takedelightinthesimplestthings.
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How can anyone be
bored in a world sobeautiful and full andexciting as this planetwere living in?
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W RI TE D OW N 100 D REAM S
Thereareafewthingsinlifethatmakemegoberserk.Oneofthemiswhensomeonesays,Imbored.Imean,howcananyonebeboredinaworldsobeautifulandfullandexcitingasthisplanetwerelivingin?
Welloneday,a15-year-oldfriendwithaluminum
ngernails and 12-inch clogs told me, Im bored. Insteadofbouncingupanddownshriekingmyheadoff,Idecidedtocalmlyask,Why?
BecausemycellphonesbustedandIcanttextanyone!
Ooooooh.Armageddoncanbreakloose,theozonelayercandisappearandanasteroidcandestroyhalfthe
planetbutthesedisasterscannotcomparetothecalamityofateenerwithouthercellphone.
Heresapieceofpaper.(Itoreonefrommydiary.)Writedown100dreamsyouwanttodobeforeyoudie.
Hereyesbulged.Onehundred?I-IneverthoughtofAfterthinkingforawhile,shesheepishlysaid,
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Well,Iwantedtobuythecuteavocado-greenBenetton
shirtIsawyesterdayinthemall.Isthatconsideredadream?
Illletthatpass.Writethatdownasnumber99or100.Anythingmoreexciting?
UhIoncethoughtofbecominganauthorofanoveloneday.Butnahshebrushedofftheideawithawaveofherhand.
Writethatdown,Icommanded,I will become aterric novelist.
Asshescribbledtheline,sheasked,ShouldIincludethewordterric?
Putthatdown,girl!Ialmostshouted.Whatelse?Isometimesimaginemyselfstartingmyownshop.It
willselltrinketsthatgirlslikemelovetobuy.Butitstoofarfetched
Fabulous!Writethatdown!Shewenton.Andoneday,Ihopetogiveamillion
pesostoahomefortheaged.Soon,shedidntneedanymorecoaxing.Shewaslikearunawaytrain,hereyesonre. Learn the violin. Travel to Paris and Beijing. Try skydiving
once. Become a gourmet cook. Get married and have three kids.When she nished dream number 100 (the cuteavocado-greenT-shirtwassomehowforgotten),Isaid,ThinkofsmallthingsyoucandoNOWthatwillbringyou closer to the fulllment of your dreams. Start with thenovelistdream...
Well,Icouldstartreadingnovels.Illlearnthecraft.
Fantastic!Andhowaboutthetrinketsshopidea?
WRITE DOWN 100 DREAMS
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PerhapsIcouldlearnmoreaboutbraceletsandnail
polishandhairstuffIsuggested,Youcanalsoworkinanystoreduring
summeroronweekends,eveniftheydontpayyouacent.Learnhowitworks,fromtoptobottom!
Thisisexciting!sheshrieked.Andyousayyouwanttogiveonemillionpesostoa
homefortheaged?
Donttellme,Bo.Icouldvisitthemnow!Maybemonthly!Inthatway,Illneverforgetmypromise!Gosh,Ivegotamillionthingstodo!Gottogo!Shebidmefarewellandoffshewent,thegirlwiththealuminumngernails and 12-inch clogs.
Hmm.Thatwasstrange.IthoughtIjustsawayounggirlwithouthercellphone.Happy.Imustbeseeingthings.
P.S.Writedownyour100dreams.Itmayjustdostrangethingstoyouaswell.
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I need to learn that
every situation is awindow where onecan see the workingsof heaven.
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FI N D GOD I N EVERY PLACE,I N EVERYTH I N G, I N
EVERYON E
IloveSt.FrancisofAssisi.Butevenifhehasbeenmyidolmywholelife,Ive
livedlongenoughonthisplanettorealizehowdifferentmylifeisfromhis.
OneofmyfavoritestoriesofFranciswaswhenhewas walking through a eld of owers and he ended upscreaming,Stoptalkingtome!Stoptalkingtome!Helaterexplainedthathewassooverwhelmedbywhateachower was declaring to him: God made us bloom because He
knew you were going to pass by.Wow.Imean,Wow!When I walk through a eld of owers, all I end up
screamingis,Stopgivingmeallergies!andabout17haaaachooooosperminute.
St.Franciswasthesameguywhocalledeverything
brotherandsister.Idontmindcallingthesun
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brothersunandthemoonsistermoon.ButI
thinkcallingratsbrothermiceandroachessistercockroachesisgoingalittlebittoofar.IjustsquashthosecrawlingthingswithoutanypermissionfromGod.
Hewasalsothemanwhokissedlepersandembracedthem.SimplybecausehesawGodineachofthem.Honestly, the rst time I met a leper, I didnt know whethertosimplywaveHi!orpretendIwasJapaneseandclasp
myhandsinmychestandgivehimareverentbowjustsothatIwouldnttouchhim.
YouandIneedlessonsfromSt.FranciswhosawGodineveryplace,ineverything,ineveryone.
Imlearning.Oneday,aftergivingatalktoathousandpeoplethatIthoughttobeextraordinarilyinspiring,Isteppedoffthestagefeelingveryproudofmyself.Iwasimmediatelygreetedbyafemaleparticipant,andexpectingtheusualpraiselike,Yourwordsblessmesomuch! or You are terric! I bent down towards hersothatIcouldhearheradulationabovethedeafeningapplause.Herwordshadimpact.
Shesaidsolemnly,Yourzipperisopen.
AfterovercomingmydesiretodiethatinstantandaftermentallyselectingwhatremoteislandIcouldhideinforafewhundredyears,Ibegantolaugh.BecauseIactuallybegantoseeGodinthesituation.Imayhavemissed Him speaking to me in the eld of owers, and ImaynothaveseenHiminratsandroaches(Istilldont),and I may have missed him the rst time I met the leper
(Iembracethemnow!),butIdidntmissHiminthis
FIND GOD IN EVERY PLACE, IN EVERYTHING, IN EVERYONE
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humiliatingexperience.Hewastellingme,Youre just my
mouthpiece, kid. Humble yourself and loosen up.Ohyes,IbelieveHealsowantedmetozipup.Ineedtolearnthateverysituationisawindowwhere
onecanseetheworkingsofheaven.Andeverythingisaself-donationofGod,anexplosionofHislovethatcannotbecontained.Andeverypersonissacred,burstingwithHispresence,Hiswisdom,Hisbeauty.
St.Francis,pray for us.
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The nurse came out
of the delivery roomholding a tiny humanbeing wrapped ina white sheet, his
chubby face screamingto the entire world,his small handsand delicate ngersshaking nervously.
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A TI N Y H UM AN BEI N G
I N M Y ARM S
Myson.Thesetwowordsdidntrolloffmytongueeasily.The
rst time I said it, it felt awkward. As if something didnt
t.Myson.Itfeltstrange.AsthoughIwasreadingascriptofa
play.Ihadtopracticesayingitathousandtimes.MysonMysonMysonIstartedsayingitthedayIfoundoutthatIhadababy
boythroughmywifesultrasoundtest,andIkeptsayingit
tomyselfdaily.Finally,onthemorningofJanuary21,my sonwasborn.Thenursecameoutofthedeliveryroomholdingatiny
humanbeingwrappedinawhitesheet,hischubbyfacescreamingtotheentireworld,hissmallhandsanddelicatengers shaking nervously. Baby Sanchez? the lady inthegreensurgicalrobeasked,lookingattheroomfullofexpectantfathers.
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Istoodup,holdingmybreath.
Sheshowedmemybaby.My son,IwhisperedthelineIdbeenrehearsingfor
monthsnow.Thelittleguyscreamed,Waaaaaaaaaah!Butinmyheart,Iheardhimcryout,Daaaaaaaaaad!Imsurethateveryoneinthatroomwillsweartotheir
gravesthattheydidnthearmybabysaythat.ButIdont
care.Icalledhim,myson,andhecalledmeDad,andthatsthat.Endofstory.
Peopleaskme,Whatdidyoufeelatthatprecisemoment?andIcannotevenbegintoanswer.ImsupposedtobeawriterandthereforeamasterofwordsyetIgropewithmyadjectives.Morethanthat,Igropewithmyemotions.
Joyfulisntpowerfulenough.Blissisntsweetenough.Peacefulisntcalmenough.Happyisntintenseenough.Aftermybabywaswhiskedawaytothenursery,Igot
backtomyseatinthewaitingroom.Ishutmyeyes.But
tearsescapedthemanyway.Andthenoutoftheblue,my80-year-oldfatherlumberedin.
Aswealwaysdo,weembraced.Dad,Iwhispered.Myson,Iheardhisheartsaytomine.Andsuddenly,thepast33yearsfoldedupintothe
presentandIwasnowthebabybundledinwhite,andmyfatherwasstandingoverme.
A TINY HUMAN BEING IN MY ARMS
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Myson,hesaid.
Daaaaaaaaaaaad!Icriedmylittlelungsout.Atthatpoint,forsomereason,I knew I was going to be a
great father.The80-year-oldmaninfrontofmeseemedtoagree.
Hesmiledandwebothwalkedoutoftheroominsearchofthetinyhumanbeingthatwillchangeourlivesforever.
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Love is like that. It is
giving oneself withoutexpecting anythingin return. If I want toget paid, then it isnt
love. Its a businessopportunity.
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LOVE I SN T A BUSI N ESS
OPPORTUN I TY
Inanoldbrownenvelopetuckedinoneofmydeskdrawers,Ihidemygreatwealth.Imsureyouhaveoneofthese,too.
Thishasbecomeaspecialceremonyforme:Onceinawhile,wheneverIfeelnostalgicorsadorhappy,Iopentheoldbrownenvelopeandforageforitscontents.Ifeelthematerialinmyhands,readit,touchit,evensmellit.Isighahundredtimes,getafewtearsinmyeyes,andcloseitupagainforanothertimedownmemorylane.
Imtalkingaboutlettersandcardssenttomeby
mychildren.1
Yes,whentheyweremuchyoungeranduncomplicated. It is lled with beautiful unreadable lineslike,I lob yu, koya Bu.Plustheirsketchesofrainbows,owers, houses and stick men. The lines are crooked. TheEnglishisbad.Thepaperandcardboardaresoiled.ButIdratherkeepthecontentsofthisoldbrownenvelopethanifIweregiventhepaintingsofMichaelangeloorDaVinci.
1These are children ado pt ed by ANAWIM , our special ministry t o t he poo r and aband oned elderly.
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BecauseMichaelangeloorDaVincididntloveme.
Thesekidsdidanddo.Tome,thisoldbrownenvelopecontainsthemost
valuableartworkintheworld.Welltoday,IperformthisritualbecauseIfeelsad.Yesterday,Iinvitedmykidsforadayoutinthecity.
Letswatchamovietomorrow!Iannouncedoverthephone.Butinsteadofhearingtheusualshoutofgleefrom
them,Ireceivedtheirsadretort,Wecant.WevegotexamsonMonday
Ouch.Aremykidsreallygrowingup?ButwasntitonlyyesterdaywhenIpickedupthese
orphansfromtheirdilapidatedbamboohutinamountainandtransportedthemtoAnawim?Withoutamotherorfathertocareforthem,theywerestarvingandcouldnolongergotoschool.
ButthisJune,somewillalreadybecollegestudents.Gosh.DidIsaycollege?How can time y so fast?Iguessallparentsexperiencethissadseparationwhen
theyseetheirkidsgetolder,havefriends,getmarriedand
leavehome.Butloveislikethat.Itisgivingoneselfwithoutexpectinganythingin
return.IfIwanttogetpaid,thenitisntlove.Itsabusiness
opportunity.
LOVE ISNT A BUSINESS OPPORTUNITY
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ButIlovemykids.Andwhereverlifetakesthem,these
preciouschildrencanneverbetakenawayfrommyheart.Theylivethere,togetherwiththebrownenvelopeIholdinmyhand.
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Our bodies need
regular washingbecause we get dirtyevery day. But so doour hearts! Because
each day, people hurtus, offend us, forgetus, snub us, step onus, reject us.
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D O FOR YOUR SOUL W H ATYOU D O FOR YOUR BOD Y
Ihaveacoupleofquestionsforyou.Canyouimagineyourselftakingabathonlyoncea
month?Youllfreakout,right?Butletssaytheresawater
shortageandapresidentialdecreewasissuedthatshowerscanonlybetakenevery30dayswithamaximumoftwogallonsofwaterforeachFilipinoperbath.(Outofouringrainedhospitality,foreignersareallowedtousetwo-and-a-halfgallons.)Enteringintoanair-conditionedroomorbuswillbeanightmare,asvarioustoxicodorswillhangsothicklyintheair,itmaycoagulateintogelform.Charismaticprayermeetingswillprohibittheliftingofhands. The basketball ring will be lowered to ve feet. AndIpresumethatlightingacigaretteinacrowdedelevatorwillbefatal,asthefumesofasweatinghumanitywillbeammable by that time.
Toogrossforyou?Letschangethetopic.
Whatwoulditbelikeifyoubrushedyourteethonlyonceayear?
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Letssaysomeloonyscientistdiscoveredthattheup
anddownmotionofbrushingteethhasadirectimpacttothethinningoftheozonelayer.(Whoknows?)Sobrushingofteethhasbeenbannedbylegislativedecreenumber9002exceptonNewYearsEve.Thatistheonlydayyoucanbrushyourteeth.
ImaginehowthickyourmouthwillfeelbyNovember.Thinkwithme.Letssayyoureoutonaromanticdate
inDecember.Notmuchkissingwilltakeplace,believeme.Andasyoulookatyourbeautifuldamsel,younoticeabitofgreenlettucejuttingoutfrombetweenherteeth.
Soyoutellher,Iknowwhatyouhadforlunchthismorning.
Whatpraytell?sheteasesyou.Lettuce!yougrin.Shechuckles,Yourewrong!ThatswhatIatelast
March!Ah,thesesituationswillbequitenormal.Mymessage?ThatyouandIdomorederangedthingsthanbathing
monthlyandbrushingteethannually.
Forexample,when we do not forgive others every day.Ourbodiesneedregularwashingbecausewegetdirtyeveryday.Butsodoourhearts!Becauseeachday,peoplehurtus,offendus,forgetus,snubus,steponus,rejectus.Butifwechoosetoforgiveeveryoneeveryday,wecleanseourhearts!Wewakeupthenextmorningrefreshedandpureandlovely!
DO FOR YOUR SOUL WHAT YOU DO FOR YOUR BODY
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Somepeoplehoweverwillnotwashthemselvesfrom
thehurtsofeachdaybutratheraccumulatethemweekafterweek,monthaftermonth,yearafteryear.PerhapsinsomeannualHolyWeekretreat,theydecidetoforgivealltheirenemies.Perhapswhensomeoneclosetothemdies,theyremembertocanceldebtsandliveforsomethingmorenobleratherthancollectbitterness.
But without these rare events, they just become lthier
eachday.Theirspiritsbegintosmell.And their stench becomes ammable.Forthesepeople,hellbeginsnow.Doforyoursoulwhatyoudoforyourbody.
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I guess I wasnt
such a great shepherd,because shepherdsneed to be constantlythere, protecting and
caring, 24 hours a day.But thank goodness,God isnt like meat all.
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GOD W I LL WATCH OVER
YOU N I GH T AN D D AY
HaveyoueverprayedTheLordismyShepherdfromPsalm23?
WhenancientJewsprayedthatspecialprayer,theydfeelaninnerwarmthintheirhearts.Somewouldclosetheireyesandmaybeevenshedatearortwo.Because
theyknewwhatitmeanttobeashepherd.Theyfeltit.They knew the toil, the sacrice, the hardship of beingashepherdthatloveshissheep.Iftherewasdanger,hewouldntsleepatnightortakecoffeebreaksorreadapocketbookoreventextsomeoneonhiscellphone.Hedjustwatchandbereadytolaydownhislifeforhissheep.
ButwhenmodernFilipinospraytheprayerofPsalm
23,theonlyreasonwefeelaninnerwarmthinourheartsisifwehadjusteatentoomuchcrispy pata1beforeprayingandhaveheartburn.
Wedontseeshepherds,sheep,orlambsalot.Werefamiliarwithwool,yes,butthesteelwoolvarietyforcleaningpotsandpans.Theclosestthingtosheepweveseenaregoats,andtheyrenotverydocilecreatures.They
1A Filipino delicacy: deep fri ed pig s kn uckles
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eatanythinginsight,makealotofnoise,andsmellbad
remindingusofadrunkarduncle.Sotohelppeoplefeel what it means to be a shepherd, Iask
people to think about their rst pet as a kid.Canyourecallyours?Mine was a chicken. Well, it was rst a tiny chick, and
thenachicken.Finally,itbecamefriedchicken,butthatsgoingaheadofthestory.
I cared for that chick with my life. The rst thing I diduponarrivingfromschoolwastovisitmypet,feeditwithrice,androckitinmyhand.
Afteracoupleofmonths,mychickgrewupandIstartedplayingallsortsofgameswithher:running,jumping,peckingItriedteachingherchess,butIkeptgettingachickmate.(Sorry,Icouldntresist.Ipromisenottogiveanotherpuninmyentirelife,ever.)
Butduringtheday,Iwenttoschool.AndIguessthatswhyoneday,Icamehomeanddiscoveredmyfeatheredfriendinaplatterwithfrenchfriesandcatsup.Iwasntthereforherwhensomeonebecamehungrysomeonewhotothisdayhasremainedanonymoustome.
IguessIwasntsuchagreatshepherd,becauseshepherdsneedtobeconstantlythere,protectingandcaring,24hoursaday.
Butthankgoodness,Godisntlikemeatall.Heshereforyouforlife.Permanently.Eternally.
Youwontbeanyonesfriedchicken.
GOD WILL WATCH OVER YOU NIGHT AND DAY
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Orshishkebabforthatmatter.
Hellneverleaveyouforonemoment.Hellnevertakesiestasorcoffeebreaksorreada
pocketbookortextanyoneonhiscellphone.Hewillwatchoveryounightandday.
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When I make the sign
of the cross, the irongate opens. And anangel gives me herhand. We walk into
the garden of God.
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AN GELS ARE READ Y TO
ESCORT YOU
WhenIwasanimpishkid,IrecallregularlyvisitingthecloisteredCarmeliteswithmyfamilythosecutebrown-cladnunsbehindthesteelbarsandblackcurtain.
Contemplativesisters,theycalledthemselves,butasakid,Ihadmyownsecretnicknameforthem:penguinsbecausetheylookedsomuchlikethem.Inoticedtheyweresmall;theydtrotaroundintheirblacksandalsintinylittlesteps;andtheydbobtheirheadsupanddownwhenevertheyseensomeone.
Noonecouldentertheirholyhouse,myparentstold
me.Itmustbeveryspecial,Itoldmyself,becauseonlyGodandHispenguinswerelivingthere.
Oneday,asmyfamilywasstillinsidethechurch,IranandpeekedthroughtheironfenceoftheconventtoseeiftheAlmightywasindeedthere.Allofasudden,oneofthepenguinspeeredthroughthedoorandsawme.Ifrozeinterror.Butahappyfacegreetedmeandsaid,Doyou
wanttocomein?
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Didshesaycomein?BeforeIcouldanswer,she
openedtheirongateandgavemeherhand.Iwasdumbfounded. One, two, three, four, ve I counted.Yep, she had ve ngers. Funny, I always thought theyneverhadhands.Theykepthidingthembehindtheirbrownrobes!Hmm.Mypenguintheorywasfallingapart.
Wewalkedhand-in-handanditfeltgood.Infact,IfeltIwasholdingthehandofanangel.Behold,anewtheory
inmybrainwasbeingformed.Sheledmetotheirfabulousgardenanditstruckme
howbeautifulthegardenofGodwas.Icaughtaglimpseofaguavafruithighonatree.Shesawmelookatit,soshegrabbedallofmeandliftedmeup,enoughformyhandtopluckitoffmyself.
Thefruittastedsweet,butnotassweetasbeinginthearmsoftheangelofGod.
Afterafewminutes,shecarriedmebacktothegatewheremyparentswerenowwaiting.Outside.
BecauseonlyIwasabletoenterthehouseofGod.Irecallthatexperienceandfeelthesamewayevery
timeIpraytoday.
WhenImakethesignofthecross,theirongateopens.Andanangelgivesmeherhand.WewalkintothegardenofGod.
ANGELS ARE READY TO ESCORT YOU
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IgazeatHisbeautyandeveneatthefruitofanswered
prayer.Itissweet,yes,butnotassweetasbeinginthearmsof
love.EnterintoGodshousemoreoften.Theangelsawaitontiptoe,readytoescortyoutothe
Throne.
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God knows how
to use failures.He masters in the artof recycling opslike me.
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FAI LURES ARE N ECESSARY TO
TEACH US LESSON S
SomanypeopletellmethatIvesucceededsomuchinmylife.AndeverythingIvesetmymindonhappens.TheyenumeratethemanydreamsIvehadwhichhavebecome
reality:Kerygma. Didache. Gabay. Companion. Sabbath.Anawim. Light of Jesus Community. Light of Jesus CounselingCenter. Bo,theywereoncemerethoughtsinyourbrain,theydcomplimentme,andafterawhile,wesawthemintheconcrete.Forreal.
Butyousee,peopleonlyseeonechapteroftheentirestory.
Firstofall,allofthethingsmentionedabovewerecreatedwith a bunch of seless people who didnt liketheirnamesinthelimelight.Theyletmehavetheglorysothatmyrewardsinheavenwillbeminisculecomparedtotheirs.(Rats.)
Butheresanotherthingpeopledontknow:About
myotherdreamsthathavenose-divedandcrashedtothebottomofthesea.
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In1983,Ilivedinadepressedarea,dreamingof
startingacommunityamongthepoor,plusacooperativeto assist in their nancial needs. Nothing happened. Well,notexactly.Throughthatexperience,Ilearnedtheartofsharing one lthy toilet with ve families, two of whichhadeightchildreneach.(Imnot exaggerating.)Needlesstosay,mymorningstherewereveryinteresting!
In1985,IwantedtostartaChristianrestaurant
completewithChristianmusicandfoodwithbiblicalnames.Ialsowantedtoprovidejobsforourunemployedmembers.Thatideadidntevenreachtheoven.IwantedtoservedisheslikeMarthasfullcoursemealandMosesmannaandDanielsveggiemealandEsausstewandJonahs big sh and Tobits liver and Jacobs broken hipandHeck,maybeIshouldthankGodthiswholeideadidntmaterialize.
ShouldIgoon?Icanwritea30-volumeencyclopediaentitled,THE
FAILURESOFBOSANCHEZ.Andthatlljustbetheindex!Ifyouwanttheblow-by-blowaccountofhowIfailed,youneedanentireharddrive!Ivefailed,andIve
failedreallybad.Andatthetimeofthefailure,peopledidntmincewords.Iwascriticized,ridiculed,lambasted,fried,roasted,grilled,baked,sauted,stewedandeatenalive.(Seehowmyrestaurantdreamstillhauntsmetoday?)
ButGodknowshowtousefailures.He masters in the art of recycling ops like me.
FAILURES ARE NECESSARY TO TEACH US LESSONS
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Weareallwounded.ButwoundsarenecessaryforHis
healinglighttoenterintoourbeings.Withoutwoundsandfailuresandfrustrationsanddefeats,therewillbenoopeningforHisbrilliancetotrickleinandinvadeourlives.
Failuresinlifearecourseswithveryhightuitionfees.SoIdontcutclassesandmissmylessons:Onhumility.Onpatience.Onhope.Onaskingothersforhelp.OnlisteningtoGod.Ontryingagain.
Ontryingagainandagainandagain.
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Life isnt about
trying to be anexpert in everything.Its about being anexpert in one thing
and offering it tothe world.
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BLESS TH E W ORLD W I TH
O N E TH I N G
One day, a bird, a squirrel, a sh and an eel gottogetheranddecidedtostartaschool.Naturally,thebirdinsisted on a ying school. But the squirrel argued for
training in perpendicular tree climbing. And the sh, aswimmingcollege.Theheateddebateseemedtogoonforeveruntilthe
eelproposedacompromise:Whynotletallthesethingsbeincludedinthecurriculum?
Andsotheschoolformallyopenedwithallthestudentstakingallthecourses.
The bird was glorious at ying but a big op atswimming.Itdidnttakelong,however,forhiswingstobedamaged by the freestyle and breaststroke; he nally got aC in ying, and naturally, an F in swimming.
The squirrel broke all her bones as he tried ying. (Shejumped from the tallest tree she could nd and shouted,Darna!1Itdidntwork.Shewasntinatwo-piece.)
1A lo cal sup erhero .
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And the sh? He couldnt breathe too well when he
tried climbing or ying. Until he got sort of brain damagedandwasntevenagreatswimmerattheendofthesemester.
Guesswhowasthevaledictorianoftheclass?Theeel.Hedideverythinginahalf-wayfashion.
Intreeclimbing,hesortofsquirmedhiswayup.Inswimming, he wriggled in the water. And in ying, well,
hejerked.SohegotaCinallhiscoursesandendeduphighestintheclass.(IgotThe Animal School storyfromLeoBuscaglia,inhisbestseller,Love,butIcouldntresistchangingandaddingafewdetails.)
Lifeisntabouttryingtobeanexpertineverything.Itsabout being an expert in one thing and offering it to theworld.
IveacceptedthefactthatbecauseImhuman,Imterric in one thing, good at some, mediocre at a bit more, andterrible at others. Andifyourehuman,youaretoo.Youllhavetodiscovertheonethingthatyouaregoodatandmajorinit.
WhataretheprimarygiftsthatGodhasblessedyou
with?Answerthatquestionwellandyoureonestepclosertoalifeofpeace,excitementandjoy.IvedecidedtofocusonwhereImgoodat,which
ispreachingandwriting.Cometothinkofit,Imaveryunbalanced creature. Im pathetic at sports. And at xingstuffathome.(EvenifIhaveacompletesetoftoolsathome,myfavoritetoolisstillthetelephonesoIcancall
a repairman to x whatever is broken.) And I dont think
BLESS THE WORLD WITH ONE THING
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Illeverbeamathwhiz.Managementisntmycupoftea.
Evenpastoringandcounselingarentadrenaline-pumpingeventsforme.
SoIdelegate.ButIblesstheworldwithonething:Icommunicateto
peopleaboutloveandjoyandpeaceandallthegoodstuffoflifethroughpreaching and writinghopingtochangelivesandmakethisworldabetterplacetolivein.
Whatisyouronething?
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The most difcult
thing in the worldis to be who youare not.
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STOP CO M PARI N G YOURSELFTO TH E W ORLD
We live in a pathologically dissatised world.AndImgoingtotellyouwhy.Becausewelovetocompare.Goaroundtheworldanddiscoverthatpeople
arenthappywiththeirbodies.Filipinoswanttobefair
complexionedlikeWesternersandsobuybleachingstuff.Westernerswanttoownbronzedbodieslikeoursandsopurchasetanninglotions.Thosewithmoleshavethemremoved,whilethosewhodonthaveanystrategicallyimplantbeauty spots. SomepeoplewanttoshedafewpoundstolooklikeAllyMacbeal,whileotherswanttogainsomebabyfattolooklikeDrewBarrymore.Whenare
weevergoingtostopandsimplybehappywithhowwelook?Weliveinasickworld,Itellyou.Andthatsicknessiscomparisonitis.Takealookatwealth.When we drive our old Toyota, it really suits us ne.
Wefeelblessedinfactwhentherainpoursoutsideandwe
feelsnugandcozyonitsfadedupholsteredseats.Butthe
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moment we see our own ofcemate (or neighbor, or buddy,
orcousin,orbrother)drivehissleek,skyblue,four-door,four-wheelRav4,weautomaticallyfeellikethirdclasschildrenofGod.Nexttimewedriveourbumpy,noisy,rusted,dilapidatedToyota(noticehowallthedefectscomeoutallofasudden?),wefeeldeprived,dispossessed,pariahs,totalfailures,debasedandonlyalittlehigherthantheinsectsoftheearth.
Listencarefully.BillGatestotalassetsis$60billion.Thatsmorethan
theGNPofsomesmallcountries.TigerWoodsearns$80millionsimplybysmilingonTVwearingaNikeshirt.AndthestarsofthesitcomFriendsarepaid$50,000per episode!
Mypoint?Nomatterhowhardyouwork,therellstillbesomepeoplewhowillbericherthanyouare.Andtherellbesomepeoplewhowillbemorebeautiful,havemoresexappeal,havemoreboyfriendsandhavemoreproblems.
Tryitforonce.Stoplookingaround.Dontcompare!Dontcomparehernosewithyournose.Dontcomparehiswifewithyourwife.
Dontcomparehissalarywithyoursalary.Dontcompareherbreastsizewithyourbreastsize.Dontcompareherkidsreportcardwithyourkids
reportcard.Dontcomparehisprayergroupwithyourprayer
group.Dontcomparehercellulitedepositswithyourcellulite
deposits.
STOP COMPARING YOURSELF TO THE WORLD
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Forcryingoutloud,stop comparing and start living!
Andyoullbehappierwithyourlife,Iguarantee.Thisiscrucial:The most difcult thing in the world is to
be who you are not.Pretendingandtryingtobesomeoneelse is the ofcial pastime of the human race. (I dont thinkdogsandcatsandcowsandhorseshavethisproblem.)
Andtheeasiestthingintheworldistobeyourself.Behappy.Live!TheremustbeareasonwhyGodmade
youtallorshortorfatorthinorbumpyallover.Lovewhoyouare!
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I believe that if
I will do what myCreator wants meto do, Ill end updisappointing
a lot of people.
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BE FAI TH FUL TO W H O
YOU ARE
Letmesharewithyouasimplesecretinsucceedinginlife.
Dontevertrytopleaseeveryone.
IvebeenaleaderofCatholicorganizationsfortwodecadesnow.IfItrytopleasealltheexpectationsthatpeopleheaponme,IneedtobePadrePioandBillGatesandFrancisofAssisiandJohnRockefellerandandClarkKentrolledintoone.
Talkaboutsevereschizophrenia!SomewantmetobePadrePio:Bo,yourearly
morningprayertimedoneatfourinthemorningshouldlastforthreehours.Youshouldlevitateonceinawhile.Whenyouwalkaround,weshouldsmelltheodorofsanctityandseeabeautifulglowonyourface.Jeepers,Ihavesometypeofodor,thatIknow.ButIdoubtifitssacred.(Spelloutmyname.Remindyouofsomething?)
OtherswantmetobeBillGates,thegreatCEO:As
ourleader,youshouldmanageawell-knit,well-run,well-
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oiledorganization.Youshouldimplementreengineering,
developourmarketingniche,andworktowardsISO9002systemsinourprayergroup.
OtherswantmetobeSt.FrancisofAssisi,theascetic:Bo,youshouldliveinpoverty,wearsecond-handclothes,andnevertouchorownorthinkofmoneyatall.Driveabeatup,rusty,dilapidatedcar.Andliveinasquattersarea.
AndyetanothergroupofpeopleinsiststhatIbeJohnRockefeller, the philanthropist. When we have nancialneeds,itllbeniceifweseeyoudigdeepintoyourpocketandhelpuswithourchildrenstuitionfees,ourhospitalbills,ourshoppingsprees.
SomewishmetobeClarkKent:Idontcareifyourscheduleisfull.Youhavetobethereforme!Bemypersonalbestfriend.Dontjustbemyleader!Phonemeeverydayandvisitmyhomeeveryotherday.Fortwothousandmembersofmyorganization?
Iveacceptedthistruth:I believe that if I will do what myCreator wants me to do, Ill end up disappointing a lot of people.
Imnotallthesecharacters.
ImBo.AndIlikebeingBo!Godhascreatedmetobethisparticularpersonwithmyownsetofstrengths,weaknessesandidiosyncrasies.
Donttrytopleaseeveryone.Disappointpeople!Knowyourcall.Andanswerit.
BE FAITHFUL TO WHO YOU ARE
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W I N N I N G EVERYTI M E
Behonestwithme.DoyoubuyLottotickets?AnddoyoupraythatGod
willhelpyouwin?Youmaybedoingoneofthefollowingtechniques:(1)prayingbeforeyousleepthatyoulldreamtherightnumbers;(2)cuttingtheBibleandnotingthe
numbersofthechapterandverse;and(3)promisingorbribing(dependingonhowyoulookatit)theAlmightythatyoullgiveaway50%ofyourprizetoanorphanageifGodwillmakeyouwin.
Hey,IknowofonepriestwhoboughtaLottoticketandwon40millionpesos!Overnight,hebecamethemosteligiblebachelorintown.Toshooawayallthewomen
liningupathisconfessionalbox,hequicklydonatedhisprizemoneytotheChurch!
IalsoheardofonejanitorwhowonmillionsinLotto.Heresignedandsaidgoodbyetohistoilet-scrubbingdaysandwentofftoliveasaking.Butafterafewmonths,thekingcamebacktohisoldcompanybeggingforhisdirtymop!Hefeltsolonely,hewantedtocleantoiletsagain.Soif by chance you catch a guy mopping oors yet sporting a
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RolexwatchandwearingBallyshoes,youwontwonder.
TheymadethissurveyofpastLottowinnersintheU.S.andtheyfoundsomethingmind-boggling:Manyofthemexperiencedmiserynothappinessduetotheirsuddenplopped-from-the-skywealth.Manyex-winnershadasadtaletotell,from broken marriages to kids on drugsto a total loss of personal meaning.Theysimplydidntknowhowtohandlethepotofgold.Infact,manyofthem
reportedthemoneylonggone.Vanishedratherquickly,aseasilyasitappearedbeforetheireyes.Butthedevastationandhurtremained.
No,IhavenotyetboughtaLottoticketinmylife,butIdorecallbuyingSweepstakesticketspeddledbyblindbeggars.Lord,makemewin,Idintonebeneathmybreath,smilingdeliciouslyatthethoughtthatperhaps,Godwouldrewardmeforhelpingtheneedy.Well,wonderofwonders,Godhasntansweredmyprayersonebit.
Hestotallyignoredthem.ProbablylaughedaloudonHisthronewhenHeheardmypleaandtoldtheangelsaboutit,whointurngiggledtheirwingfeathersoff.
Buttoday,IreallythankGodthatHestotally
disregardedmywish.BecausenowIrealizeHelovedmetoomuchtosayYes.
WhoknowswhattroubleandheartachewouldhavebefallenmeifIhadwon?
Istillbelievethatthebestprayerintheworldis,Lord,Your will be done.
WINNING EVERYTIME
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Nexttimeyouprayanykindofprayer,whetheritbe
fortheresolutionofhealing,orforahouse,orforacar,orfor a husband, or for a family conict, or for a solution to aproblem,tellHimHecansayyesorno.
Becauseintheend,youreawinner.Every time.
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Adultery happens
when you startlooking for whatyou dont have. Butfaithfulness happens
when you startthanking Godfor what youalready have.
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YOU H AVE W EALTHUN D ER YOUR N OSE
Adulteryhappenswhenyoustartlookingforwhatyoudonthave.
Bo, this girl in my ofce is a real looker, many ahusbandwillsay.ButitsnotherWynonaRiderfeatures
thatgettome.Imheadoverheelswithherbecauseshesalsounderstanding,intelligent,tendersomanythingsthatmywifeisnot.
Sure.Guys,trustmeonthis.Somewherealongtheway,
youll nd a woman who will be more charming. Morealluring.Morethoughtful.Richer.Abettercook.Havegreater sex appeal. A more efcient housekeeper. And youwill nd a woman who will need you and pursue you andgolocooveryoumorethanyourwifeeverdid.
Becausenowifeisperfect.Becauseawifewillonlyhave90%ofwhatyoure
lookingfor.
Soadulterytakesplacewhenahusbandlooksforthemissing10%.
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Letssayyourwifeismelancholicbynature.Youmay
nd yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cheerylaughnomatterwhatshesays:Ibrokemyarmyesterday,HahahahaOrbecauseyourwifeisahomebodyinslippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and sh oil, youmayfallforafresh-smellingyoungsalesrepresentativethat visits your ofce in a sharp black blazer, high heelsandaredpencil-cutskirt.Orbecauseyourwifeisthe
quiet-type (a rare nd), your heart may skip a beat whenyou meet an old college ame who has the makings of atalkshowhostlikeOprah.
Butwait!Thatsonly10%ofwhatyoudont have.Dontthrowawaythe90%thatyoualreadyhave!Thatsnotall.Addtoyourwifes90%the1000%that
representsalltheyearsthatyouvebeenwitheachother.Thestormsyouveweatheredtogether.Theunforgettablemomentsofsadnessandjoyasacouple.Themanyadjustmentsyouvemadetolovetheother.Thewealthofmemoriesthatyouveaccumulatedaslovers.
Adultery happens when you start looking for what you donthave. But faithfulness happens when you start thanking
God for what you already have.ButImnotjusttalkingaboutmarriage.Imtalkingaboutlife!Aboutyourjobs.Aboutyourfriends.Aboutyour
children.Aboutyourprayergroups.Aboutyourlifestyles.Areyouliketheeconomyairlinepassengerthat
perennially peeks through the door of the rst class cabin,
YOU HAVE WEALTH UNDER YOUR NOSE
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obsessedwithwhathesmissing?Theyvegotmoreleg-
room!Ohmy,theirfoodisservedinporcelain!Wow,theirseatsreclineatan80degreeangleandtheyvegotpersonalvideos!Iguaranteeyoullbemiserablefortheentiretrip!
Dontliveyourlifelikethat.Forget about what the world says is rst class. (Do you
know that there are many rst class passengers who aremiserable in rst classbecause theyre not riding in a
privateLearJet?)Mymainmessage:If you start thanking God for what
you have right now, wherever you are is rst class!Youhavewealthunderyournose.ThankHim.
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We probably need
to get away withHim. Talk with ourLover. Take a secondhoneymoon with
Him. Or a third,or fourth, or fth
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M AKE REFOCUSI N G A H ABI T
WhenIenterarestaurant,Iimmediatelyknowwhosmarriedandwhosonlyengagedorgoingsteady.Imsureyoudotoo.
Theunmarriedloversareseatedveryclosetoeachother. So close in fact, that microbes will have difcultypassing between them. Their hands are joined, their ngerswedged,theirlegsintertwined,theirtoeslinked.(Lookbeneaththetableclothandyoullseeaverysensualloveaffairtakingplacerightthere.)
Mostcritically,youwillalsonoticethattheireyesarexed on each other and nothing else. Their mutual gazeisnailed,gluedandcemented.Theirfoodiscoldonthetable,barelytouched.Becausenothingelsematters.Therestaurantmightbeburning,anasteroidmightcome
crashingthroughtheroofandanuclearwarheadmightsuddenlylandontheirtableandtheywouldntevennoticeit.Oooh-la-la.Becausetheyreinluv.
Marriedcouplesactquitedifferently.The rst thing you notice is that they sit apart. A ten-
wheelercanpassthroughthemquitenicely.Botharebusyeating,slicing,forking,spooning,
dippingandmunching.
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Nosensualforeplayistakingplacebeneaththe
tablecloth.Theireyes?Dartingleftandright,scanningthe
architecture,surveyingtheinteriordesign,countingthelightbulbs,critiquingthewaiters,observingtheothercustomers.Ohyes,everyothercustomerintherestaurantiscross-examined,theirfashionstyledenounced,theirhairdressercondemned,theirpersonalhistoryconjured,
their nancial worth assessed and their body weightridiculed.
Soundsfamiliar?Inaword,marriedcouplestendtobeunfocused.
Theynolongerseeeachotherfortheothergetslostintheminutedetailsofthebackground.Liketuitionfees.Toilettraining.Houseamortization.Terribletwos.Orthodontistsbills.Wrinklesandoverlappingcellulite.
Andthenwecomplainthatwehavefallenoutoflove!Asthoughwearevictimstothingswehavenocontrol
over.Baloney. (Too unlipino? Let me rephrase. Longganisa.)Happy couples make it a habit to refocus.Becauseits
quitenormaltobedistracted.Sotheytalk.Theygetawayforawhile.Theypray.Theygoonamarriageretreat.Theytakeasecondhoneymoon.Orathird,orfourth,orfth
OurloverelationshipwithGodsuffersthesamedisease:Wegetunfocused.
MAKE REFOCUSING A HABIT
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After some time, we lose our rst love for Jesus. We
fallinlovewithourspiritualcommunity,orwithpastoralcare, or with spiritual knowledge, or with our nancialblessings,orwithoursuccessfulministryWestartlosingourfocusonGod.Wegetlostintheminutedetailsofthebackground.
WeprobablyneedtogetawaywithHim.TalkwithourLover.TakeasecondhoneymoonwithHim.Orathird,or
fourth, or fth
Makerefocusingahabit.
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Never go after
fame. In the heartof God, yourealways a star.
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YOURE ALWAYS A STAR
ImagineImanaspiringactor.Youmustagreethatwith my looks, it wouldnt be too difcult to picture thisscenario.Afterall,thehorrorgenreisaplenty.
They tell me that there are ve stages that every tinsel
townpersonalitymustgothrough.Letmeshowyoutheanatomyoffame.
Stage#1:WhoisBoSanchez?Thisisthestartingpointofeveryfame-hungryperson:
Youre a nobody. You have to make your rst appearanceon lm, even if your role is that of a costumed freakish
alienthatgetspulverizedbythestarattheopeningsceneof the movie. It might be difcult to imagine now, but evenMadonnaandDemiMoreandJuliaRobertswentthroughthestagewherepeopleasked,Whosshe?
Stage#2:GetBoSanchezThissecondlevelisintoxicating.Bysomestroke
ofluck,yougetrecognizedforyourthrillingtalentorthrillingbody.Yournameisbandiedaroundinthestudios,
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andasmallfansclubisformingnolongerorganizedby
yourmother.Yourpricetagisstillascending,soallmovieoutts ght for the right to make your rst box-ofce.Asyouwalkinthemall,youcountthenumberoftimespeopleaskforyourautograph.Whenyougettiredofthis,youstartwearingshades.Ahhhh.Youhavearrived.
Stage#3:GetmeaBoSanchezlookalike
Thepeak!Yourfaceisseenonads,tabloids,billboardsandTVgossipprograms.Youreeverywhere!Onlythebiggestproducerscanaffordyounow.Sosmallermediacompanieswillsettleforyoungartistswholooklikeyou.Yourenowroyalty(e.g.concertqueen,kingofpop,box-ofce king, soap opera queen). Finally, you know youvereachedthishighpointwhenyoucannolongerwalkinamallwithoutahugecrowdfollowingyouhystericallyscreaming,Aaaaaaaaaayyyyyyy!
Stage#4:GetmeayoungerBoSanchezButbeforeyouknowit,theinevitablehitsyou.You
hearyourdirectoraskforsomeonelikeyouwhosten
yearsyounger,tenyearssexier,tenyearsbolder.Youfeeloffendedwhenscriptwritersofferyoumotherlyroles.Soon,however,nootherrolescomeexceptmotherlyroles.Yourpricetaggetsslashed.Yournameshrinksinmovieads.Yourfansclubisreducedtoahandfulofloyalists,andwhentheycongregatearoundyou,youwonderifyoureinsomehighschoolreunionofclass27.
YOURE ALWAYS A STAR
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Stage#5:WhoisBoSanchez
Youmeetsometeenswalkingdownthestreetandtheypassyoubylikeyouwereatelephonepost.Ouch.Onceinawhile,agrandmotherpointstoyouandherfamilylooksatyouquizzically.Youfeellikeaprehistoricartifactinamuseumbeingsurveyed.Andthentheywalkbyyou.Doubleouch.
Andthenithitsyou:Youreanobody.
AndyourealizewasntIherebefore?
Nevergoafterfame.IntheheartofGod,yourealwaysastar.Alwayswere,alwayswillbe.
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If we dont like our
jobs, if we dontlike the state of ourrelationships, if wedont like whats
happening to ourspiritual liveswehave no one to blamebut ourselves.
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YOU CREATE YOUR OW N
D ESTI N Y
Letmetellyouastory.Threeconstructionworkerswereontopoftheirhalf-
nished skyscraper.
Rrrrrrrrrng!thelunchbellsounded,andthethreemensatonasteelbeamofthe56th oor with their lunchboxesinhand.
The rst guy opens his and groans in exasperation,Tuyo!1ThereisnotadaythatIdontgettuyoforlunch!Heturnstohisbuddiesandannounces,Markmywords.IfIstillgettuyo tomorrow,Imgoingtothrowmyselffrom
thisbuilding.Thesecondguyopenshislunchboxandmoans,
Tinapa. Everyday,Igetthisforlunch.Helooksathisfriendsanddeclares,BelievemewhenIsaythis.IfIgettinapa tomorrow,Imgoingtojumpfromhereandkillmyself.
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Thethirdguyopenshislunchboxanditwashisturn
todespair,Galunggong. AllIgetisgalunggong! Helookstohisco-workersandsays,Imtellingyou,ifIstillgetgalunggong tomorrow,Imgoingtojumpfromthisbuildinganddie.
Thenextday,thelunchbellringsandallthreemenareagainseatedonthe56th oor.
The rst guy opens his lunch box and starts crying,Tuyoooooo! Andsoinfrontofhisshockedcompanions,hejumpsoffthebuildingandcrashestotheground.
Thesecondguyopenshislunchboxandwailsloudly,Tinapaaaaaa! Andbeforehisremainingfriend,hejumpsoffthebuildingandhitsthegroundanddies.
Thethirdguyopenshislunchboxandscreams,Galunggonggggg! Andsohetoojumpsoffthebuildinganddies.
Dayslater,duringthefuneralofthethreemen,theirthreewivesembraceandbegintoweeptogether.
The rst wife cries out, I didnt know my husbanddidntliketuyoanymore!Whydidnthetellme?Ifonlyhehadtoldme,Iwouldhavepreparedsomethingelse!
Thesecondwifeechoedherstatement,Yes!IfonlyIknew,Iwouldhavecookedsomethingelse,nottinapa!Thethirdwife,betweensobs,spokeup,Idontknow
whymyhusbandkilledhimself.Thetwowiveslookedathercuriously.Why?
Shegoeson,Becausemyhusbandpreparedhisownluncheveryday.
YOU CREATE YOUR OWN DESTINY
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Ilovethiscrazystorybecauseitpresentsavery
importanttruth:all of us prepare our own lunch. Ifwedontlikeourjobs,ifwedontlikethestateofourrelationships,ifwedontlikewhatshappeningtoourspiritualliveswehavenoonetoblamebutourselves.
BecauseGodhasgivenusfreewill.Hehasgivenusthepowertoprepareourownlunch.Ifwewanttoputmorejoyinourmarriages,ifwewant
togrowinourrelationshipwithGod,ifwewanttoearnmoreandbefreefromdebtthengobacktoyourkitchenandprepareyourselfanotherdish.
Becauseyoudesignyourownfuture.Youcreateyourowndestiny.Askyourself?Whatkindoffuturedoyouwantto
have?Whatkindofmillennium?Youdecide.
1All t he Filipi no w ord s here are common fish dishes
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As long as you
complicate yourlife because of love,then its glorious.
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COM PLI CATE YOUR LI FE
Mytitlesoundsshocking,especiallycomingfromsomeonewhosknownbyeveryoneasMr.Simpleaguywhodoesntevencombhishairanddoesntwearawatchand who dons a 70s outt not because its faddish butbecausehestrappedinthatera.
Butyousee,Idontbelievethatsimplicityisthegreatestthingintheworld.Takemylifeforexample.Ivedeliberatelycomplicated
itthesepastfewyears.Irememberafewyearsback,Iwrotethesearticles
withnaryadistractionexceptperhapsforthefewstraymosquitoesunderneathmycomputertable.
Today,themosquitoesdontbothermeatall.Itstheone-year-oldthiefindiapersunderneathmytable,grabbingmycomputerkeyboardandtypingintongues.
WhenIwasasinglemansometimeago,Ididntevenknowwhatsavingsmeant.Today,Ihavetodealwitheducationalplans,healthinsuranceandsoundinvestments.Andevenifthethief-in-diapersisstill
toothlessasofthiswriting,Imseriouslysavingforhisteethbraces,whichIhear,costmorethanmycar.
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Duringmysingledays,Irecallsaunteringoffbymyself
toalonelymountaintoprayforadayortwowheneverIsodesired.Idbringaguitar,aBible,andatinypicnicbasket.Allbymyquietself.
Thatwillneverhappenagaininmypresentlife.Becausenow,Idhavetobringaguitar,aBible,apicnicbasket,mywife,mybaby,hisdiaperbag,histoybag,hisfoodbag,hisclothesbag,hisbottlebag,hiscarriage,his
carseatAndonthatmountain,Icanonlyprayaslongas
thethief-in-diapersisnapping.AndthemomentIplaytheguitar,heinstantlywakesupandstrumsitformeusheringtheendofmyquietprayertime,andsignalingthestartofmydistracted,noisy,harassedprayertime.
Therearedayswhenathoughtcrossesmymind:WhyonearthdidIgetmarried?Whatinsanitycameoverme?WhydidIcomplicatemyverysimple,happy,singlelife?
Butimmediately,theanswercomesforcefullywhenIseemylovingwifeplayingwithoursmilingbabyinher arms. Peace overows my heart as I realize that Iveexchangedmyverysimple,happysinglelifeforavery
complicated,happymarriedlife.WhyhaveIcomplicatedmylife?BecauseIhavedecidedtolove.AndheresthelessonIvelearned:As long as you
complicate your life because of love, then its glorious.Congratulateyourself.Becausesimplicityisntthegreatestthingintheworld,
butlove.Letmegiveyoutwootherexamples:
COMPLICATE YOUR LIFE
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IfyouregoingtojoinaCatholicgroup,believeme
whenIsaythis:yourlifewillgetcomplicated.(Takeitfromonewhosbeenpartofcommunityfor20years.)Whycomplicateyourlifewithweeklymeetings,heavyresponsibilities,tiringministriesandqueerpersonalities?Whygetintorelationshipsthatwilldisillusionyouintheend?Whyfollowleadersthatyouknowwilldisappointyouoneday?
Amorebasicexample:WhywillyoucommityourentirelifetoGod?Imean,
wontitbeeasierjusttobeanominalCatholic?AllyouhavetodoisgotoMassonSundaysandprestoyoureguilt-free.Youcandowhatyouwanttodotherestoftheweek.YoudonthavetothinkaboutpleasingHimeverymomentofyourlife.YoudonthavetoloveHiminyoureveryword,thoughtanddeed.Thatsjusttoocomplicated!
Makeyourlifesimple.
Simplymeaningless.
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Because you
become the labelsyou give yourself.
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USE TH E POW ER OF LABELS
Thesepastmonths,Ivebeenbusybuildingmytinyhome.
Itssotiny,wheneverIopentherefrigeratordoor,youdthinkIinstalledcentralizedair-conditioninginmyhouse.
ButIdeterminedthatnomatterhowsmallitwas,itwasgoingtobepretty.LikeIwantedthewallstobecoveredwithredbrickstogivethemthatrustic,countrylook.SoIaskedmycontractorifthatwaspossible.
Sure,hesaid,butheaskedme,Doyouwantnewbricksoroldbricks?ThatonequestionintroducedmetoaworldthatIdidntknowexisted.
Whatkindofcreaturesareoldbricks?Iinquired.Theyre40-yearoldbricksthathavebeenusedinold
homes.Theseoldbricksarediscoloredanddeformedanddisgured with age. In other words, theyre ugly.
Iftheyrecheaper,Illtakethem!Mycontractorlaughed.Theoldbricksarethreetimes
moreexpensivethanthenewones.
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Myjawdropped.Icouldntbelievemyears.
Heexplained.Thenewbricksaresoperfectanduniform,theyreboring.Theoldanduglybricksontheotherhandhavecharmandcharacter.
Wow.ThelasttimeIheardthewordscharmandcharacter,theyweredescriptionsofboyfriendsandgirlfriends.
Needlesstosay,IwassointriguedbytheseoldbricksI
decidedtoblowmybudgetandsplurge.Alright,givemetheoldbricks!Iannouncedtomycontractor.
Goodchoice!hesaid.Theycostonethousandpesospersquaremeter.Howmanyshallyouorder?Myjawdroppedagain.Ibegantocomputeonmycalculator and told him my answer as condently as Icouldsayit.Giveme12bricks.
Twelvesquaremeters?mycontractorasked.Uhno12pieces.ThatsallIcanaffordrightnow.Thefollowingweek,my12bricksarrived.Theywereuglyallright.Discolored,misshapen,
broken, pock-marked, deformed and disgured. One ofthem even had grafti on it. But after the mason plastered
themonthewall,theywereexquisitelybeautiful.Charmandcharacterwrittenallovermywall.Whosaidthesebrickswereugly?People.Andwhosaidthesebrickswerebeautiful?People.Why?
Becauseofthepoweroflabels.
USE THE POWER OF LABELS
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Becausebeautyisalwaysintheeyeofthebeholder.
Becauseyou and I have the power to impute beauty onanything under the sun.
Sonexttimeyoulookataglossyfashionmagazinethattellsyouthatyoureuglybecauseyoureyebrowsarent plucked, or your skin is crater-lled, or your waistmeasurementismorethanyourIQdontbelieveit.Because you become the labels you give yourself.
Ifyoudeclareyourebeautifulnotdespiteyourimperfections,butbecauseofthemthenyouare.
Dontbelieveme?Visitmybeautifultinyhomewiththetwelvebricks.Illevenopentherefrigeratordoorforyou.
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Negative emotions are
the windows of oursouland they willteach us about who weare and what exactly
we need from God.
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FEEL YOUR FEELI N GS
AN D TH EN LET GO
Howareyou,Phillip?Iaskedafriendoneday.Phillip retorted, Im ne. My son died in an accident,
myhouseburneddown,mywiferanawaywithanother
man,IlostmyjoblastweekandmydoctortoldmeIhavelungcancer.Asidefromthat,Imokay.Phillipisthemodelstoic.Iveexaggeratedhis
calamitiestogiveyouapictureofawrongwayofhandlingnegativeemotions:Todenythemandcoverupourpain.
ImnotsurprisedthatPhilliphascancer.Why?
Becauseanyinnerpainthatwedontallowourselvestofeelwillmanifestitselfthroughtumors,hypertension,heartdisease,musclepains,ulcers.Becauseofthis,Ihaveafascinatinghunch:IbetthatifIcanonlyhelppeopleacknowledgeandfeeltheirhiddenemotionsofanger,fear,worryandgrief,Idprobablybeabletoremove50%oftheirphysicaldiseases.
Becauseourbodiesareblueprintsofouremotionallife.SandraontheotherhandisPhillipsopposite.
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Howareyou,Sandra?Iaskedheroneday.
OhBo,shecrumpleddownonmyshoulder,Idontknowwhattodowithmylife.Everyonehatesme.Noonelovesme!
Do I cry with her? The rst time, yes. But the 86 time?Ivegottenusedtoherdrama.BecauseeverytimeI
seeSandra,shealwaysbreaksdownintoariveroftears.Only to nd out that her world was about to end because a
favoriteshirtgotdamagedinthewashingmachineorherdogdidntwaghistailather!
ThegoodnewsisthatbetweenPhillipandSandra,theresamiddlepath:Whenwerespectournegativeemotionsasfriends,notmonsters;asteachers,notmasters.Negative emotions are the windows of our souland they willteach us about who we are and what exactly we need from God.
Inaword,emotions need to befelt. Andthen,unlikeSandra,youcanletgo.Because you cannot let go of whatyou have not held!Therearenoshortcuts!Youcantgoaroundthem,overthemorskipthem.Theonlywayisthrough thenegativeemotion.
Mysuggestionissimple.
Wheneveryoufeelsadorlonelyordepressedorangryorfearfuldontrunawayfromthefeeling,coveritupwithbusynessorentertainment,orworse,silencethenegativefeelingwithanaddiction.(Alladdictions,whethertodrink,food,bulimia,shoppingorsex,areanescapefromfeelingswedontwanttoface.)Myprescription:Wheneveryoufeelanegativeemotion,be
aloneinaroomandjustsitdownwithitandfeel it.Dont
FEEL YOUR FEELINGS AND THEN LET GO
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judgeit,criticizeit,intellectualizeit,explainitaway.Allow
yourselftofeelthepain.Itsokay.(Feelingsarenotsin.CheckoutthePsalmsifyoudontbelieveme!)Accompanyitbreatheintoitandafterawhile,youllfeeltheangerorfearorsadnessloseitsurgencyandpower.Allow God totenderly embrace you in your pain.
Andthen,attherighttime,youcanletgo.Whenyougethealedof50%ofyourdiseases,Illbill
you.
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Congratulations
because yourehuman. Do you thinkmarried womendont get attracted to
men other than theirhusbands?
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CON GRATULATE YOURSELF:
YOURE H UM AN
Helpme,Bo.Imfallinginlovewithmyboss.IveknownLucyforsometimenowandhersilliness
betraysadeepspiritualmaturityinthismarriedwoman.
Tellmeaboutit,Isaidsolemnly.OhBo,hesgorgeous.HesacuteAmericanandIgetredalloverwheneverIminfrontofhim.
PierceBrosnanlook-alike?Hesgotalongnoseandyouknowmyhusbands
pango.1Letmeguess.YourhusbandsprobablyFilipino.
Andyoushouldhearmybosstalk.HespeaksEnglishso uently.
Hmm,IwonderwhyOhBo,whatshouldIdo?Ismiledandsaid,Firstofall,congratulations.Forwhat?Ifeeldirty.Sinful.Eviltothebone.Idont
likefeelingthisway.Bo,Imamarriedwoman!
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Congratulationsbecauseyourehuman.Doyouthink
marriedwomendontgetattractedtomenotherthantheirhusbands?
Well,Ithoughtitwouldnthappentome.Letmeaskyouafewquestions.First,doyouseeyour
bossinprivateplaces?Ofcoursenot!Idontevendarerideinthesamecar
withhimevenifitsabusinesstrip.Ijustpopupwherever
themeetingis!Goodgirl.Doyoufantasizeabouthim?No.IdliketobutIvebeenabletogetridof
thoughtslikethatsofar.Fantastic.Nextquestion:Whenyoudressupinthe
morning, do you nd yourself dressing better, putting onmoremakeup,for Mr.PierceBrosnan?
Ohwhydoyouknowmytorments?Itsmyjob.Honestly,Igettemptedtodothat.WhenIopen
mycloset,IwanttopickthesharpestdresswithagreatmatchingscarfwhenIknowIllbeinameetingwithhim.ButIsimplysayno.
Lucy,canIcongratulateyourhusbandrightnow?Hesoneluckychap.Shesmiledandhuggedme.Thanks.Iknewyoudsay
that.Okay,Ivegotafewrecommendations.Imwritingitdownhere,shepointedtoherbrain.DoyouhaveapictureofMr.Pangoonyourtable?
Yes.
CONGRATULATE YOURSELF: YOURE HUMAN
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Good. Enlarge it. About ve meters by nine meters.
Shelaughed.Next?Canyourhusbandsometimespickyouupforlunch?Ithinkhecansqueezethatin.Whenhedoes,besurethatyoukisseachotherin
frontofeveryoneelseonthelipsfornotlessthan25minutes.Telltheworldandyourbossthatyoureahappilymarriedwoman!
Lucylefthappythatday.AndsodidI.Becauseofher,Iknewtherewashopeforhumanity.
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Hes got the bubbling
joy that corporatefolks who work formoney and cars andhouses will never
know. Because hesforgotten himself.And loves God.
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SM I LE M ORE OFTEN
ImetGilbertlastweek.Letmedescribehimtoyou.Hesatotallyillogical,more-or-lessinsane,slightly
derangedguywhodistributesourinspirationalpublicationsinthefarawayislandofMaasin,Leyte.
1) HesgotthemakingsofamotorcrosschampionOnhismotorbike,Gilbertwhizzesthroughtheislands
30barrios,distributingGodsWord,throughscorchingsun,torrentialrainsandmuddyroads.
2) HesgotthestrengthofanOlympianweightlifterHehand-carriesmorethanathousandKERYGMA
copies!Athousand!Infact,ifyouhappentoseeGilbertzoomingbyonhisbike,youwontseehimatall.Youlljustseeamountainheapofmagazinespassby.
3) HesaloverofGodThisistheneurosispart.Becauseheisntpaidwith
salaries, perks, bonuses and benets. Instead, his reward issimplyanidea.The idea that hes being used by God to deliverHis love to hungry hearts.
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BecauseGilbertispermanentlysunburnedfromhis
missiontrips,histeethshineeverytimehesmileswhichisabout99%ofthetime.(Itoldyouourvolunteershavetobeslightlyderanged.)
Youknowwhat?Hes got the kind of smile Ive not seenin a long time.Anditsnotbecauseofhistoothpaste,mindyou.Hes got the bubbling joy that people who sit on cushionedchairs in front of giant TV sets will never know. Hes got the
bubbling joy that corporate folks who work for money and carsand houses will never know.
Becausehesforgottenhimself.AndlovesGod.Bytheway,Gilbertisntalone.Wehaveone-thousand
crazyvolunteerswhodosuchinsanethings,makingKERYGMAthemostwidely-readCatholicinspirationalmagazineinAsia!
Butenoughofthegoodnews.Ivegotbadnewsaswell.Werebroke!(Thespiritiswillingbutthewalletis
weak.)Becausewevevirtuallygivenawayinspirationalmagazinesmanytimesinour11-yearhistory,wevedrained our nances dry. Unless help comes, we cant
continueproclaimingGodslovetothefarthestcornersofthiscountry.WhatdoIneednow?Peoplewhomaynotbethe
typewhohoponmotorbikesandspreadGodsWordinaremoteisland,butwho believe in our mission and are willingto support this mission nancially.
LikeGilbert,Iminvitingyoutoforgetyourself.
SMILE MORE OFTEN
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BemyMISSIONPARTNER!Sharealovegiftevery
yeartotheLordforthesuprememissionofspreadingGodsWordtothespirituallythirsty.AndlikeGilbert,getrewardedbytheideathat YOU are being used by God todeliver His love to hungry hearts.
Andyoullbesurprised.Smilingmoreoftenmaybeeasierthanyouthink.
P.S.FormoreinformationonhowtobemyMISSIONPARTNER,pleasecall/fax/emailShepherdsVoicePublicationsatTel:(632)4117874to77,Fax:(632)[email protected]
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I consider those times
my greatest moments.Not my books.Not my organizations.Not my songs.
Not my preaching.But my love.
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D EFI N E YOUR GREATEST
ACH EI VEM EN TS
Myfavoritepastimeisspendingadayinabookstore.Intellectually,itinvigoratesme.Emotionally,itrefreshesme.
Spiritually,itinspiresme.And nancially, it saves me money! Because I dont
havetobuythebooksIread.Ijustreaditinthestore!(Shhhhhh.Canwekeepthisourlittlesecret?)
SomewhereinthebookstoreistheBestsellersList.Ilikelookingatthat,too,becauseitgivesmeanideaofthepopulartrendsinsociety,thethoughtsthatfuelpeoplesmindsandactions.
Butrecently,Icanembarrassed,tolook,atthislist.Becausemynameregularlyappearsonit!(Peoplemightcatchmelookingatthatlistandsay,
Gosh,Boisreallyvain.Helikesreadinghisnameupthere.)
Nowdontgetmewrong.IconsideritanachievementthatIhavewrittenbest-sellingbooks.Imnotashamed
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ofthat.InthesamewaythatIconsiderhavingmyarticle
publishedinReaders Digest anicefeatherinmycap.OrbeingabletopreachGodsWordalloverthisplanet.OrwritingforthenumberoneCatholicinspirationalmagazineinAsiaforthepast11years.OrhelpingstartdynamicorganizationssuchasAnawim, andShepherdsVoice,andLightofJesusCommunityanditsCounselingCenter. Orcomposingworshipmusicthroughthepast22
years.Theyreniceachievements,yes.ButImsorry,theyrenotmygreatestachievements.DoyouwanttoknowwhatImreally proudof?Heretheyare:WhenIvisitmy82-yearoldfather,andjustsitbeside
himandholdhishandtenderly.Andbecausehehaslostmostofhislanguageskills,wedonttalkmuch.Instead,wesmile,touch,laugh,embraceandenjoyeachotherpresence.
That,myfriends,isoneofmygreatestachievements.AndwhenImbeatingdeadlines,verybusywriting
articlesonmycomputerandthenseemylittlesonplaying
on the oor. And I decide to leave my chair and sit on theoor with him. And I get a ball and roll it towards him. HegigglesandrollsitbacktowardsDaddy.AndIrollitbacktohim.Andherollsitbacktome.Yougettheidea.Iwaste35minutesofmypreciousexecutivetimeforsomethingthatotherswouldconsidercompletelyunproductive
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Butthistooisoneofmygreatestachievements.
Andafteralongday,Icatchmywifeslumpedbythecouch,tiredfromadayofhousechoresandIquietlystandbehindher,kissher,saythankyou,andgiveheralovingshouldermassage
ThatwouldbehighupinMyGreatestAchievementslist.
AndwhenIvisitfriends,orevenjustcallthemby
phoneorwritethemletters.Iconsiderthosetimesmygreatestmoments.They dene who I am.Notmybooks.Notmyorganizations.Notmysongs.Notmypreaching.Butmylove.
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Even when we
ounder and fall andstumble, Hell knowif we gave Him ourbest struggle.
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ALWAYS GI VE YOUR BEST
STRUGGLE
Ipreachinmyprayergroup.And every time I preach, I always nd three or four or
ve people in the audience who sleep through my talks.
Repeat:Everytime.ItdoesntmatterwhatIdo,whetherIcrackajoke,screamtillmylarynxdiesormurdersomeoneinthefrontrowitwillhavethesameeffectonthem:Zzzzzzzzz...Thatsright,theysnore.Infourvoices,noless.
Becausetheyrethesamepeoplewhoalwaysnap,Iknowthemquitewell.
LikeIknowtheirpermanentseatingarrangementin
thegathering.AndIknowexactlywheneachonewillfallasleep.With
clockworkprecision,oneguysleepsatmythirdsentence,while the woman with the owery blouse signs off on myfth. The rest doze off the moment I enter the stage. (I getparanoidsometimes.DoIreallylookthatboring?)
Ialsoknowtheirfavoritesleepingpostures.
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Thereareonlytwomajoronesreally.Themostpopular
iswhatIcalltheWet Look. Aftertheheadbobsupanddown for a while, it nally tilts forward. Count ten secondsand drool ows liberally from chin to lap or chin tooor. Because of this, I limit my talks to 45 minutes, max.Anythinglongerthanthatandtheentireaudiencewouldneedknee-highbootstogohome.
Thesecondmostpopularsleepingposition,IcallHallelujah Forever.Thistime,theheadistiltedwayback,andgloriouslythemouthiswideopen.Thesamewayamouthopenswhenaworld-classtenorissingingthenal jah of Handels Hallelujah.Exceptthisonewontstop. His orice is so wide, I can tell you his entire dentalhistory from 20 feet away. Three molars lled, one root-canalledandamildcaseofgingivitis.IfIgetanynearer,Icangiveyouanendoscopyreport.
ButlestyouthinkImangryatthem,IwanttosaythatIreallyadmiretheirstruggletocomedespitetheirobviousexhaustion.Firstofall,theyrealoyalbunch.Theyrepresenteveryprayermeeting!(Physically,atleast.)GodknowstheyretiredandHehonorsthestruggletheyre
goingthroughtobethere.BecausewhenImtired,Itoosometimesfallasleepinmydailyprayers.Whenmywifecatchesme,IjusttellherthatIpracticeaverydeepkindofmeditationwhereIrestintheGodspresence.Shedoesntbuyit.
Butcuriously,IthinkmyGoddoes.BecauseHehasntthrownalightningrodinmydirectionyet.IbetHeeven
laughsatmyWet Look orHallelujah Forever posture. I
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guessHealsohonorsmystruggletopraydespitemy
exhaustionandthatstruggleofminereallypleasesHim.WehaveafunnyGod.WehaveaGodthatdemandsthatwegivethebest
toHim.Butifthebestwecangiveisfaultyandweak,Heaccepts what we give to Him anyway and transforms itto become the best. Even when we ounder and fall andstumble,HellknowifwegaveHimourbeststruggle.
Hellknow.AndHelllaughwithyouandtellyoutostruggle
again.
P.S.Bytheway,Iveovercomemyparanoia.ThesepeoplesleepnotbecauseImboring.Theysleepbecause,likeMahatmaGandhi,Imaverypeacefulhumanbeing,andconsequently,haveastrangecalmingeffectonothersMwahahahaha
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If you dont learn how
to say no to all themyriad of options lifeoffers you, youll notbe able to focus on His
specic missionfor your life.
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LEARN TO SAY N O
SOM ETI M ES
Canyoubringatiny packagetomyfamilyinManila?Noproblem!IsaidtothepetiteFilipinainfrontof
me.
ThishappenedmanyyearsagoonapreachingtripinEuropewhenIstilldidntknowabouttheBalikbayan1Phrase Dictionary.Init,thetermtinypackagemeansanyobjectinthecreateduniversewhosesizerangeisanywherebetweenapeanuttoaplanet.
WhenIarrivedattheairport,hertiny packagewaswaitingforme:asuitcasethatwasalittlebitsmallerthan
theairportitself.SorryBo,shesaidsheepishly,steppingoutofher
suitcasesshadow,Ithoughtitwastiny.Butitkeptgrowingbiggerandbiggerandbigger
Wow.Itsmiraculous.Shethenhandedmeanenvelopejustincaseyou
haveexcessbaggageandleftmeasquicklyasawoman
1refers to a Fil ipino mig rant visit in g h is hom eland
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runningawayfromarapist.Iopeneditanddiscovered
tendollarsinit.Iholleredbackather,Willthismultiplymiraculously,too?
WhenIcheckedinhersuitcase,trueenough,theticketingguytoldmeIneededtopayexcessbaggage.Holding the ten dollars with trembling ngers, Iaskedhowmuchitwouldcost.Whenheshowedtheastronomical gure to me, I had a paranormal experience
rightthereandthen:Ifeltmysoulleavemybodyforafewseconds.
WhenIcameto,IinquiredascalmlyasIcould,Doesthispricealsoincludethepurchaseoftheplane?OrdoIgettheplaneandownallthepilotsandstewardessesaswell?
TheguylaughedandaskedifIhadacreditcard.ItoldhimIhadapricelesssoulandwonderedifI
couldsellthattohim.Thatexperiencetaughtmeaveryimportantlessonin
life:Learntosaynosometimes.Likeyesterday,Ireceivedteninvitationstopreach.
Theseinvitationscomedailythroughemailandsnailmail
andphonecalls.Asmuchasthispainsme,Isaynoto90%oftheseinvitations.
OhhowIlovetopreach!Everyday,ifpossible.ButifIsayyestoalloftheseinvitations,Iwontbeabletoseemywifeandchildanymore!OrIwontbeabletowriteforKERYGMA.OrvisitAnawim.Orteachmylittle
Community,Light of Jesus.
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Ilearnedaveryimportantprinciple:Saying no is
really saying a bigger yes to what God wants me to do.Hey,therereamillionthingsyoucando.ButwhatdoesGodwantforyourlife?Ifyoudont
learnhowtosaynotoallthemyriadofoptionslifeoffersyou,youllnotbeabletofocusonHisspecic missionforyourlife.
Question:Doyouhaveexcess baggage inyourlife?
Becareful.Youmayenduppayingforitwithyourpricelesssoul.
Learntosaynosometimes.Youryesdependsonit.
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Dont hide.
Dont pretend.Dont be someone else.Be you.
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EN JOY W H O YOU ARE
Letmetellyouoneofthegreatestmysteriesoftheworldwhenawomanputsonblush-on,mascara,eyebrowpencil,eyeliner,eyeshadow,eyelashes,lipstick,lipgloss,toner,powderandthenturnstoherhusbandandasks,Honey,doIlooknatural?
Nowtellme,howdoesahusbandanswerthatwithoutbeing hit on the head by inanimate ying objects?
Hey,Imnotagainstmakeup.Ithinkitboilsdowntoinnerattitude:Byputting
makeup,areyoucoveringstuffthatyoureashamedof?Orexpressingthebeautythatyoubelieveisyou?
NowbeforeIgiveyouadviceoneyelinertechniques,
howtohighlightyourcheekbonesandwhatvarioushuesofblush-onyoucanuseforyourskincolor,letmetellyouaboutmysisterswedding.
Irememberstandinginfrontofthealtar,besidethegroom eagerly waiting for his bride. When she nallyappearedandstartedwalkingdowntheaisle,Inoticedthatmywould-bebrother-in-lawsuddenlyenteredintoacatatonicstate.Hiseyeshadthisblankstare,hismouth
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ajar, his body motionless, until I snapped my nger in
frontofhisface.Shakingofftheshock,heswallowedhardandasked
meaquestionIwishedIhadrecordedforhisfuturechildrenandgrandchildrentohear.
Hemumbled,Issheuhyoursister?Ibitmylip.Idontknow.Shehassomuchpaint,er,
I mean, makeup on... I nally shrugged and told him,
Whenshecomescloser,justaskhername.YoumaybewonderingwhoamongmysistersIm
referring to since I have ve of them. For the sake of mysafety,thatinformationshallbekeptinasecretvaultthatcanonlybeopenedaftermydeath.
Iremembermyownwedding.WhenIsawMaroweontheaisle,Ifellinlovewithher
evenmore.Becauseherbeautywasntdistortedbythemakeup.Rather,itsimplyemphasizedthebeautythatwasalreadythere,likeanexquisitepictureframethatdidntdistractfromitsgorgeouspainting.
CanInowshiftgears?Sorry,thisarticleisntaboutmakeup.(Illreservemy
eyelinerandblush-ontechniquesforanotherissue.)Thisarticleisaboutenjoyingwhoyouare.AboutbeingyouandcelebratingGodsbeautiful
creation.Sowhatifyouretoothin,toostout,tootall,tooshort,
tooround,toorectangular,toohexagonical?
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Whenmywifewasachild,shewasteasedas
headlightsbyherclassmatesbecauseofherhumongouseyes.Andshewouldcrybucketsoftears,wonderingwhyGodmadeherthatway.
Twenty years later, in my ofce, a young woman camein.Immediately,Inoticedherlovelyroundeyes.Iwassmitten.ThankGodforheadlights.
Donthide.Dontpretend.Dontbesomeoneelse.
Beyou.Behappy.Live!
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I know that on planet
earth, there are dayswhen God doesnt blessus with what wereasking for. Because
He knows that thosevery things will makeus sick.
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SEE YOUR FATH ERS TEARS
My throat today feels like its on re.I guess I preached too muchmy voice nally went on
indenite strike.Sothere.Imfeverishandcoughingthick,sticky,
yellow-greenishphlegm.(Myeditorcrossedout16other
adjectivesIwroteaboutthephlegm.)Management-labornegotiationsarenowgoingonbetweenmyvoiceandI.Itsbargainingforlesserworkinghours.Andakinderboss.
Youknowwhat?Beingsickiscrummy.Icantgooutofthehouse.Icantindulgeinmyextremesports.(Youknowhow
athleticIam.Ilovesky-diving,rock-climbing,deep-sea
divingandbungeejumping.Youknow,aggressivelypressingtheremotecontrolandwatchingthesethingsonTV.)
ButtheresonethingthatIreeeeeallymisswhenImsick.
EmbracingthepeopleIlove.Embracingmywife.
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Embracingmyson.
BecauseIdontwantthemtogetmygerms,Ijustwatchthemfromadistance.
Thathurts.Alot.Letmetellyouwhatmyalmosttwo-yearoldBenedict
didawhileago.Iwasaheapofdisheveledmess,lyingdownonthe
living room oor (its much cooler here), when the tiny boysawme.Fromafar,helookedatmequizzically,hisroundeyes narrowing. He then poised his chubby pointer ngerintheair,andhetoddler-sprintedtowardsme.
Mysonthenpointedtosomethingnewonmyface:myfour-day-oldmoustache.Andhestartedgiggling!Yousee,mymoustachedoesntgrowinthemiddlepart,butonlyonthesides.EvenBenedictsawmyresemblancetoGhengisKhan.
Believeme,everythinginmejustwantedtoembracethelovableelfinfrontofme.HowIwantedtojustlaughandwrapmyarmsaroundhim.
ButIcouldnt.
Ididntwanthim togetsick.Sowithmuchpaininmyheart,Itoldhismothertogethimawayfromme.
AndallIcoulddowasstareasBenedictwaswhiskedaway, his eyes quickly lling with tears, pleading to me,his tiny hand reaching for me, whimpering at rst, andthensobbing,DadaDadaDada.Ifeltmyheart
wasbeingcrushedinside!Iwhisperedapromisetohim.
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Benedict,adaywillcomewhenyoullhaveallofDada
youwant.Naturally,hedidntunderstandme.Inmyanguish,ItalkedtoGod.Lord, is this how You feel
sometimes?BecauseIknowthatonplanetearth,therearedays
whenGoddoesntblessuswithwhat