Sept/Oct 2010 Volume 43, No. 5

INSIDE THIS ISSUE:

Professors’ Forum Report

A Tribute to Walt Bettner

Membership Chair’s Remarks

New NASAP Members

Adler’s Online Program

NASAP 2011 Travel Tips

Wellness for Life

NEWSLETTER SUBMISSIONS

Submissions for Th e NASAP Newsletter are always welcome. Let NASAP members know the great work that you, your NASAP affi liate, and other Adlerian colleagues are doing. All submissions are due on the 15th of even-numbered months and should be in Microsoft Word format or a compatible word processing format. Send them to Susan Belangee, the editor, via email to susanbelangee@aol.com. Submissions can also be sent via regular mail to Susan Belangee, 25 Springfi eld Drive, Collegeville, PA 19426. If you send your submission via regular mail, please include a computer disk with your submission on it.

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A Blast from the PastKorey Watkins

Adler School of Professional Psychology

Social interest is one of the pillars of Adlerian Psychology. Th is term holds personal meaning to many, and has a direct impact on how some, if not most, conduct themselves throughout their daily lives. Jay Colker, DM, MBA, MA, a graduate of the Adler School (then known as the Alfred Adler Institute), is no stranger to this term or the personal meaning it holds.

Like many Adlerians, Dr. Colker has always had a strong sense of community involvement. After graduating from college, he worked with underprivileged kids in Maryland; he worked with delinquent youth in the ghetto of Baltimore; he was a guidance counselor in a junior high school; he was a counselor in an outpatient community mental health center, and he eventually decided to enter a family counseling program in the greater Washington DC area. Little did he know, this exposure would have a tremendous impact on him personally, and the Chicago audiences he would eventually educate.

2Professors’ Forum Report2Professors’ Forum Report

3A Tribute to Walt Bettner3A Tribute to Walt Bettner

4Membership Chair’s Remarks4Membership Chair’s Remarks

5New NASAP Members5New NASAP Members

6Adler’s Online Program6Adler’s Online Program

7NASAP 2011 Travel Tips7NASAP 2011 Travel Tips

8Wellness for Life8Wellness for Life

Dr. Colker lectures and provides a much anticipated live family demonstration.

Although it has been nearly fifteen years since Dr. Colker conducted public family demonstrations on a regular basis, the attending alumni were very excited to see the revitalization of this model. Dr. Colker continues to advocate for the family education model and he believes, “The practical benefits of directly observing the demonstrations and experiencing the methods first hand, allow learning that far exceeds what textbook or class discussion can provide alone.” Although future demonstrations have not yet been scheduled, this is not the last time the Chicago community will have the opportunity to learn by such methods. Dr. Colker is currently a part-time instructor at the Adler School and the University of Phoenix, and he eagerly exerts himself in ways that benefit the community.

For information regarding similar events please contact NASAP student chapter president Sarah Hudson (shudson@my.adler.edu) or vice-president Korey Watkins (kwatkins@my.adler.edu).

Professors’ Forum Report from ConferenceBecky LaFountain

Is Individual Psychology a static or dynamic theory? That was the topic of the Professors’ Forum at the recent NASAP conference. Additionally, we discussed how the profession can promote consistency in the terminology in order to maintain the basic premises of the theory. I had the privilege of serving on the panel with the following illustrious college professors: Steve Saiz from Plattsburg University (NY), Paul Rasmussen from Furman University (SC), and Richard Watts from Sam Houston State University (TX).

These questions seemed to be ones of interest, as evidenced by the large and varied audience they drew. While it does appear that professors and authors are in critical positions to challenge others about which aspects of the theory are foundational versus which ones can evolve, students are positioned to carry the theory forward.

As one would expect in an Adlerian discussion, the point was raised that a person might approach these questions according to his or her own style of life. Additionally, birth order could influence ones relationship with orthodoxy versus change and evolution. It was also noted that one’s thoughts on these issues depend on how one thinks of Adler. For example, those who think of Adler as a constructivist would see the theory as dynamic. Those who think of Adler as more psychodynamic (the way many Introductory Psychology and Introductory Personality texts seem to) are likely to lean more toward the static position. Although no definitive answers came out of the Professors’ Forum, the discussion raised the consciousness of many.

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Dr. Colker’s experience in the family counseling program in the DC area not only exposed him to prominent Adlerians from all over the world, but it introduced him to the public family education model as well. This model allows a family counselor/facilitator to conduct a session in front of an audience. This rare experience allows basic principles of Adlerian family counseling to be demonstrated, and shared learning to occur for the audience and the family. The family can gain a sense of community and empowerment, and any feelings of being alone are challenged and possibly resolved. Dr. Colker conducted many of the public demonstrations that the family counseling center offered, but eventually completed the program and turned to the Adler School to complete his Masters in Counseling Psychology.

After he received his Masters degree, he spent several years in private practice, was Director of a hospital-based chemical dependence program for seven years, obtained an MBA, worked as a human capital consultant and trainer, and finally worked at a bank as a chief learning officer and received his Doctor of Management degree during this time. Dr. Colker eventually returned to the Adler School, this time to teach and to reintroduce the public family education model he was introduced to in DC. In the 1990’s for five years, Dr. Colker ran Adler School’s Family Education Center. These public demonstrations were held once a month at no cost, and averaged between 200 and 250 attendants. As time went by, the Adler School eventually got away from this model, and the demonstrations were no longer held. That is, until recently when they made a long awaited return.

On April 30th, an eager crowd of faculty, students, alumni, and colleagues from other professions gathered for a Continued Education Event led by Dr. Colker. He began by giving background information on both himself and the family education model. For those not familiar with Adlerian psychology, he gave an overview of theory relevant to family counseling. The stage was set, and for about an hour and a half, Dr. Colker worked with a family, first with the authority figures (mom, dad, and grandma), second with the child, and finally the authority figures returned for debriefing and closure. Throughout the demonstration, Dr. Colker would stop (with permission from the family) and vocalize his thought process to the crowd and explain why he was taking the approaches he took. He answered any questions that would arise and he challenged the audience to consider where they would facilitate the session next. As the public demonstration came to an end, the family left and Dr. Colker continued the CE event. He revisited relevant theory in more detail, answered any remaining questions that the audience had, and concluded by providing those in attendance an opportunity to role play and to apply what they had learned and to receive feedback from Dr. Colker.

Having just returned from a wonderful experience at ICASSI (held in Romania), and looking ahead to celebrating 100 years of IP at the International Association of Individual Psychology (IAIP) to be held in 2011 in Vienna, I am reminded that coming up with a consensus on these questions is no easy task. We are not likely to do so in North America, yet alone across nations. I remember the first time I attended IAIP and how amazed I was that many of the presenters I heard from Europe took a much more psychoanalytic approach to their practice than what I was used to in the U.S.

We are fortunate to have a number of forums in the Adlerian world to discuss such issues and I hope many of you will be able to attend future NASAP conferences, regional workshops, and international opportunities. You can learn about professional development opportunities by going to www.alfredadler.org.

A Tribute to Walt BettnerBecky A. Lebow

I‘m not sure exactly when I met Walt Bettner. My first Adlerian experiences were in the early 1990’s when I began attending NASAP and ICASSI, when I was just a “brand-new baby Adlerian.” I started to fall under the spell of Betty Lou’s magical passion for parenting education. Since she lived just a couple hours away, she was willing to travel to Southern Maryland and give talks to our Family Education Centers and school groups. More often than not, Walt would come along. As I got to know and love Betty Lou, I also got to know and love Walt.

Walt was devoted to Betty Lou and very proud of her accomplishments. Those of us who appreciate her work so much, since she is the one always on the podium, may have underestimated Walt’s contribution to that work. Walt was truly the “wind beneath her wings.” He was not only her biggest cheerleader, but he truly brought out the best in her with his own amazing qualities. If behind every woman there would stand a Walt Bettner, our world would be such an encouraging place to be.

I was grateful when I heard that the memorial service for Walt was at a time when I could attend. Besides wanting to pay tribute to my special friend, I really had another reason for wanting to be there. After nearly 20 years of hearing about their four children, Mark, Michelle, and the twins, Matt and Todd, and hearing of the 15 foster kids that were part of the Bettner household, and then hearing Walt’s joy when the grandchildren began to arrive, I was anxious to meet them all in person.

Often at memorial celebrations, we get glimpses of the person we knew that are unexpected. Let me tell you what I found out about Walt Bettner: He’s just the SAME Walt I always knew!!! Not only was he the same “encourager” with his family and friends at home as he was with his Adlerian friends, it was clear that he’s always been that way! From memories of a high school friend who knew Walt when he first met Betty Lou—and was “smitten immediately”—to those memories shared by his children, foster kids and grandchildren, it is clear that Walt has always looked for the best in every situation and every person. Everyone shared how “Pop” always listened, never judged, and always made them feel that special belonging. Here are some lessons from the life of Walt Bettner, told by those who knew him best:

Eldest son, Mark, shared three of the greatest lessons he learned from watching his Dad: First, if you want to be a good father, LOVE YOUR WIFE!; second, from Proverbs, “A generous man will prosper; he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed”; and third, from the New Testament, “Be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry...” Walt modeled all of these lessons, not only with his own kids, but with everyone he knew.

Matt, one of the twins, remembers that Walt never got angry when they messed up. “He always cleaned up our messes so mom wouldn’t have to.” Matt recalls the teamwork Walt demonstrated by learning to cook when Betty Lou returned to graduate school. (I hear that he got pretty good at it—there were many references to legendary rice pudding). Matt remembers Walt as a patient man who never complained when he had to wait for others. He valued spending time with others, and always being present when they needed him. “He was always there!” The greatest relationship advice Matt heard from his Dad: When you are wrong, apologize. When you are right, keep your mouth shut!

Foster daughter, Alice, represented the fifteen kids that were chosen to be part of the Bettner family when she shared how Walt was always there for them, too. He always put a positive spin on any problems that came up. Even when all she wanted to do was complain about her problems, Walt “encouraged” her to look at things from another perspective.

Walt never tired of being around kids. Grandson, “little” Mark shared how Pop took guitar lessons with the grandsons and always found time to “practice” with them. No one had to tell them that what he really cared about was spending time with them. The boys observed that it was impossible to start an argument with Pop, even if they wanted one. He was just not interested in fighting!

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Many greetings from around the world came via e-mail. One in particular was read at the service by Catherine Conway, our Irish ICASSI friend, who sang one of Walt’s favorite tunes, “The Voyager.” The greeting was from Marcus, a 14-year-old from Germany, who, being unsure about his English, summed it all up with: “Walt, I miss you. I miss your smile. I miss sitting with you. I miss eating with you. I miss being around you.”

I guess that says it all: Walt, you are loved, and you will be missed!

Some Remarks from the Membership Chair Dan Dalton

As the newly appointed Chair of the membership committee, I am here to ask for your help!

The North American Society of Adlerian Psychology - Needs Your Help!

If it is to move forward in its purpose, it needs the help of its current members and it needs the help of its potential members. The Mission of NASAP (simply put) is to promote the development of Alfred Adler’s ideas and to promote the introduction of Adlerian Psychology to every individual, and to every community throughout North America.

An ambitious mission – one that is not realistically achievable – nevertheless, it is one that NASAP is unconditionally committed toward achieving.We are committed to our mission because Adlerians recognize that how we understand each other on this troubled planet is more important to our children’s future than the latest digital gadget.

Adlerians believe that Adlerian Psychology enriches people’s understanding of the world they live in and that it is particularly relevant in the emerging Global Context of today.

We believe that Adlerian Psychology provides a guidance that is important when thinking about the uses we put our science to.

It is important in how we conceptualize citizenship.

It is important in how we approach our role in the education of our children.

It is important in how we function in marriages, in communities, in families and;

It is important, in how our institutions operate.

In the 58 years since NASAP was founded, the evidence of the utility of Adlerian Psychology has been overwhelming. It has grown roots and flourished in hundreds of communities throughout North America. It has made a positive impact on the lives of thousands of individuals and families.

Nowhere is the evidence of the positive and pragmatic power of Adlerian Psychology more dramatically revealed than in the city of Minneapolis. If you visit the Adler Graduate School – and I encourage you to do so – I promise you, you will not find anywhere a better example of what can be accomplished when Adler’s and Dreikurs’ ideas are put to use by inspirational leaders.

What’s remarkable about this community’s achievement is that it all began with a handful of people not unlike yourselves. Forty years ago a few individuals got together with a common dream. Among those were the familiar names of: Bill and Mim Pew, Bob Willhite, Bob Bartholow, Susan Brokaw and Tom Wright. A few of these special people are with us today. If you happen to meet them, then please thank them for all of us, for the annual convention we benefit from every year would not have been possible without their leadership.

My point is this - the wonderful things that have been accomplished here in Minneapolis have also been accomplished in other communities throughout North America and could potentially be accomplished in many, many more communities. All that is needed is for a few people (like yourselves) to lead the way.

So, in conclusion let me appeal to all members of NASAP, NASAP – needs your help!

NASAP – needs your leadership!

The value of Adlerian Psychology, like the value of any theory, depends upon the use it is put to. By mobilizing the power of Adler’s ideas, each of us can make a difference in our home communities. By working together with others, each of us can make an even greater difference.

I leave you with a paraphrase of the immortal words of President J.F. Kennedy:

Ask not what NASAP can do for you. Ask instead, what you can do for NASAP!

Thank you

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Cruise Opportunity in Conjunction with NASAP 2011

The local committee has arranged an opportunity for an Alaska Cruise in conjunction with NASAP 2011 at the iconic Empress Hotel in Victoria Canada.

If you are at all interested in an Alaska Cruise, this offer is hard to beat!

1. Inside rooms start at $439.00 US before taxes and port fees!

2. Dates are Sunday May 15 to Sunday May 22 immediately after NASAP 2011.

3. The Cruise is SEATTLE TO SEATTLE which keeps airfare costs down for Americans.

4. Travel arrangements for NASAP and the Cruise can be booked together which may result in additional savings.

5. No benefits or discounts to any individual or group associated with the local committee or NASAP are hidden in this offer! All savings are yours.

DAY PORT OF CALL ARRIVE DEPART

Sun Depart Seattle 4:00PM Mon At Sea Tue Ketchikan, Alaska 6:30AM 4:30PMWed Tracy Arm, Alaska 6:00AM 10:00AMWed Juneau, Alaska 1:30PM 10:00PMThur Skagway, Alaska 6:00AM 5:00PMFriday At Sea Sat Victoria 5:00PM 11:59PMSun Seattle 7:00AM

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Contact Cheryl Adams at 1-800-299-0817 or cadam@cruiseshipcenters.com and ask about the NASAP Conference Cruise.

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New NASAP Members January-June 2010

Michelle Acierno-Chari Beverly LutzCaroline Anderson Marianne MarshallMilda Astrauskaite Sheryl MacKayCraig Balfany Heather MatsonMegan Bartell Charmaine McIntoshJoshua Beaman-Kogan Bernie MengeClifford Benedict Sherry MerriamMark Blagen Rosa Irene MiyashiroCharlene Brouwer Francesca Angela MolinaJerrod Brown Gary MooreBabette Buckner Barbara NagellRuth Dahle Buelow Maria NeveVictoria Burgi Elizabeth NevilleKathryn Burns Heather NewmanKim Carter Joseph NobleRachael Cavegn Lucy OaksMichael Crane Michael O’BrienDebbie Joffe Ellis Karl OverlandDiane Ericson Lenore ParkerJoy Erman Paola ParlatoMary Francis Cynthia ParsonAnn Marie Fritz Roslyn PatersonSusan Gartenberg Lisa PenningtonTonya Gendusa Addolorata (Dora) RestaYoulanda Givens Rochelle RheingansCarrie Gluck Julie Richter-McAlpinCheryl Hilbert Gonzalez Margaret RieckenThomas Guindon Dennis RobertsChris Haunold Marcus RohrbauckJill Haunold Jeff RosenfeldLindsey Heiserman Jackie RothsteinElizabeth Imholte Nikki RuddyCollette Iacobellis Jones Francesco SaliernoMary Hogan Jones Jessica ShulmanJolita Jonyniene Annie (Joanne) SimmonsTheresa Jurisch Darlene SmithMakoto Kajino Karla SmutzlerAlisha Kauffmann Paola SperoniDori Keiper Timothy SpringerRichard Kelly Victoria Priola SurowiecHeather Kerfeld Marjie Thompson-Jeanne Ketola LongshoreDenise King Sara ToeniesDebra Laaser Sarah UtterLinda LaBarre Leanne WagnerJocelyne Leham Anne WillertGypsi LeMoine Meg WilliamsJustina Liesiene Melissa WinshipMonica Lipscombe Sophie YostKathleen Lowry Hanna Young

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Adler Graduate School Starts Online Program

Continuing our tradition of contributing to the community and after years of research and preparations, the Adler Graduate School is proud to announce a new area of emphasis: an accredited Online Non-licensing Master of Arts Degree in Adlerian Counseling and Psychotherapy, with an Emphasis in Adlerian Studies. The Adler Graduate School is seeking to bring the practical wisdom of Adlerian principles to both future helpers and to persons who are already serving their communities, without requiring them to leave their families, military units, or job responsibilities.

Students who wish to sample the Online Adlerian Studies emphasis area or who want to enhance their knowledge of Adlerian psychology may be able to take up to two courses as a student-at-large. Financial aid is available for those who qualify.

For more information about program and courses, contact Adler Graduate School at 612-861-7554 (ext. 162) or 1-877-432-3178 (ext. 162). You may also e-mail us at online@alfredadler.edu or visit http://www.alfredadler.edu/academics/online_adlerianstudies/index.htm. For admission criteria related to this new program call Evelyn Haas at 612-861-7554 (ext. 103) or e-mail her at ev@alfredadler.edu.

We are also in search of a several new online faculty members. A successful candidate will have an advanced degree in psychology or related field, a strong Adlerian educational and practice background, experience in post-secondary teaching, experience in and appreciation for distance education. More details will be provided upon inquiry. Please share this exciting opportunity with your friends and colleagues!

NASAP 2010 Poster Presentation: Coping with Loss

Marilyn Hesser, Adler Graduate Schoolmrhesser@yahoo.com

Children and adults suffer grief, depression and anxiety especially in this current political and economic climate. So many individuals are suffering from so many losses which include jobs, homes, hope, security, confidence, and many others.

Almost a century ago Adler spoke of the psychological aspects in a time of economic crisis. “In clinics, the increase

of people who feel the general economic crisis is their own personal tragedy, and who experience a disturbed family life, and who have trouble with love and marriage problems is striking. To be fair, it must be emphasized that economic difficulties also exist that are too heavy a burden for the greater part of humanity” (Drescher & Stone, 2004, p. 107).

Adler’s words ring loud through the years and are for us to heed to now. He continues, “To a large segment of the people, who are more easily discouraged because they lack the right degree of social interest, the future looks dark. For these individuals, confidence in others decreases and life seems to be futile. Hopelessness, the greatest danger for individuals as well as the masses, grows. Social feeling, as in a panic is at an end. ...Times of economic crisis are tests for the individual as well as society. It is a grilling examination regarding the degree of social interest. The inherited and acquired social feeling may not be strong enough to enable the individual to achieve a useful way of cooperating with society. The crisis produces, as in a panic, too much neglect, hatred, despair, and collapse in education, science, art, culture, social life, work, and in the relation among the sexes. Only those members of society who are socially adjusted from childhood, and those who are active in their struggle for social progress, can stand the test of these difficulties and will succeed sooner or later. Their attitude is that not only do the advantages of social life belong to everybody, but also the disadvantages. The latter must be solved for the benefit of the human race. To the psychologist and to the psychiatrist, a time of extreme economic crisis with all its misery gives a clearly expressed hint about how much has been neglected in the education of our generation and how much more must be accomplished for future generations” (Drescher & Stone, 2004, p. 107).

Society and individuals struggle with loss and grieve in difficult times. But there is hope. Therapists can assess and encourage and teach. Adlerians conduct lifestyle assessments.

Adler spoke of life-style as “a person’s basic melody, where all the parts of a musical creation become meaningful only with regard to this basic melody” (Ansbacher, 1992, p. 10). Using the life-style assessment tool individuals and therapists become aware of risk factors. For example if a pampered life-style is assessed, the individual like a spoiled child “is always leaning on someone…never feels the necessity for using its own powers…always lacks confidence and courage…are not properly prepared to meet the constantly changing situations of life” (Ansbacher, 1992, p. 14). A pampered child has experienced the loss of confidence and courage. They may not have had a chance

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to develop these characteristics. Consequently they are, in Adler’s terminology, at risk of psychological diffi culties. Using the life-style assessment, the counselor can work with the individual by gaining their trust, uncover the sources of their erroneous life-style, encourage the individual and awaken their social interest (Ansbacher, 1992).

Ways to convey to children meaningful information regarding death and loss from an Adlerian perspective.

1)Tell stories from your life experiences, from Scripture or other inspirational books, from history. Stories about individuals who overcome loss.

2)Use the tornado picture and metaphors. Notice the dark stormy sky, but also note the ray of light. When we hold on to that glimpse of light we are not swallowed up in the storm, but lifted up with hope.

3)Talk about spoiled children living on the “useless side of life” because they were pampered. Talk about children who change when they are encouraged to co-operate and contribute.

4)Find or create art forms or poetry to express pain and joy.

5)Use pet therapy to help those who experience loss begin seeing beyond their present suff ering by experiencing unconditional love.

References

Ansbacher, H. (1992). Alfred Adler, pioneer in prevention of mental disorders. Individual Psychology: Journal of Adlerian Th eory, Research & Practice, 48(1), 3-34.

Drescher, K., & Stone, M. (Ed.). (2004). Adler Speaks: Th e Lectures of Alfred Adler. Lincoln, NE: iVillage.

Section Newsletter: Professional Clinicians

Th e Professional Clinician Section conducted its annual meeting at the NASAP Convention on June 11, 2010 at Bloomington, Minnesota.

Members present were:

•Co-Chairs Dan Dalton and Howard Garrell•Members John McClure and John Newbauer

Items Discussed:

It was noted that this year brought a generous response to the call for clinical papers for presenting at the NASAP Convention. In total, nine presentations were made and all were well attended. Th ank you and congratulations to our presenters. Section Members present put forward the following recommendations:

1. Th at the Section Members be surveyed for suggestions on how to increase the attendance of Professional Clinicians at NASAP Conventions and on how to increase the participation of local clinicians in particular.

2. Th at the criteria for membership in the Professional Clinician section be reviewed and brought forward to the 2011 annual meeting for revision if appropriate.

NASAP 2011: Travel Tips to Victoria, BC, Canada

Maxine Tobin

As a native Victorian and member of the 2011 NASAP Conference Planning Committee, I was actively recruiting fellow NASAP members at this year’s conference in Minneapolis to attend next year’s conference at the Fairmont Empress Hotel in beautiful Victoria, BC, Canada. (Never been to a Fairmont hotel? Th ey’re AMAZING and I highly recommend a visit to their world-renowned spa! Check it out at www.fairmont.com/empress.) Happily, most Adlerians I spoke with are planning to attend next year’s conference, and many asked: “How do I get to Victoria from Seattle or Vancouver?”

Fortunately, there are numerous options to get across the water from Vancouver and Seattle to Victoria, located on Vancouver Island, all of which allow an excellent view of our beautiful corner of the world. Unfortunately, there is not a bridge, so driving is out.

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Wellness for LifeLois Marecek

Acts of Kindness

At one time or another in our lifetime we may have heard, “Did the chicken come before the egg or the egg before the chicken?” Before I proceed any further, let me assure you this column has nothing to do with eggs or chickens. I hope this puts your mind at ease.

There may have been other thought provoking questions or dilemmas in our lives. We may have pondered awhile or chose to

disregard for whatever reason. Recently something of this nature presented itself to me. It may have crossed your path similarly at some point in your life. I’m referring to human faith - faith in people. Not in the spiritual or religious sense, instead, in terms of kindness. The kindness that is renewed and restored or seen as restored and renewed. I’ll let you decide.

This type of kindness may be ascertained as allowing others to experience a sense of happiness. At one time or another, we may all have been confronted with a driver signaling a desire to merge in front of you, which you allow. Did it cost you anything? Not in the true sense.

My rituals, you might say, are ingrained in the practice of “warm fuzzies”, whether it be a smile, hug or encouraging words. When I created school counseling programs, I felt warm fuzzies were and are a part of the basics of life. It has a way of giving to both student and adult a sense of warmth, caring and mutual respect.

What about a time you overheard a person questioning themselves in a low voice as to where a particular grocery item is as you are placing an item in your cart? Was it directed to you? Do you take the time to respond and possibly assist?

My most recent experience was with my computer. In relaying one of the high, or should I say, low points: programs erased and not restored which essentially came with the computer and embarking on a quest to replace. Each turn I took included the proverbial, “No, we can’t help you. Contact ....” The referrals became more challenging especially when a customer service rep would not deviate from what appeared to be a script no matter what I said. I felt it was time to get off the merry-go-round and ask for a supervisor. She proceeded to state there were no supervisors working at this time, however, got my contact

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info. I can almost sense some of you experiencing hair raised on the nape of your neck. It’s like a Pavlov / Skinner reflex for those of us who are not well versed in computer technology. Getting back to the story. Don’t fret!

I have been in the process of taking sessions at the Apple Computer store near me using their computers while mine was being fixed to further my computer knowledge. In course of conversation, this came up. One can look at the sheer mechanics of the job. There were staff that showed that it is but 1 element of the whole, especially when there are concerns. They gave forth fundamentals that surpass the first: “humanness” - giving of one self.

Just think of what a little kindness can do: demonstrate more respect of one another; reflect a sense of cooperative and thoughtful behavior, which would lead to a balance, and harmony of life! I am deeply grateful to them for which I dedicate this issue. To shift gears a bit, I would be remiss if I didn’t include a little Halloween humor.

Twas Halloween NightAuthor unknown

Twas Halloween night as I leaped from my bed,

With thoughts of amusement going through my head.Turned off my computer and thought as I may,

Of vampires of old and vampires of today.

Of spooky old movies and Halloween parties,Of course trick or treating (hope they don’t hand out Smarties).

And witches and ghosts and gravediggers, I fear,So that old haunted house, I will never go near.

When you see spooky places, just take my advice,And don’t go in the rooms filled with ghosts, bats, and mice.

So don’t risk your life going looking for spooks,Just go to a party with some good friendly kooks.

Or gather your family, carve a pumpkin and thinkWhat to have your kids do, and go pick up a drink.Tell a joke to your friends, but be careful, you’ll seeThat a couple wrong moves might mean eternity.

Now put on that costume and dress yourself up,You can be a Ninja Nun or that RCA Pup.But be very careful or else you might see

That ghosts and vampires aren’t really PC.

So now you can think, as you turn out that lightThat there’s no such thing and that you are all right.

Look under your bed, though, and then you might see....Nothing! We aren’t afraid of ghosts now, are we?

Warm Fuzzies!

The NASAP Newsletter

Volume 43, Number 5, September/October 2010Published six times each year by the

North American Society of Adlerian Psychology a not-for-profit corporation.Susan Belangee, TNN Editor

Website: www.alfredadler.org • E-mail: info@alfredadler.org614 Old West Chocolate Avenue, Hershey, Pennsylvania 17033

Phone (717) 579-8795 • Fax (717) 533-8616Becky LaFountain, Executive Director

Board of Directors Al Milliren, President Teal Maedel, Past President Steve Stein, Vice President Deb Bailey, Secretary Richard Watts, Treasurer Robin Scrofani, Section Liaison Leigh Johnson-Migalski, Affiliate Liaison

Board Appointments: Joyce McKay, Conference Chair Tim Hartshorne, Ethics Committee Chair

Dan Dalton, Membership Chair

Last COR Meeting In Hershey

The members of NASAP’s Council of Representatives (COR) met in Hershey, PA for the last time at the end of October. Several exciting ideas were discussed and a Task Force was created to address issues of diversity. This new committee will examine how to broaden the diversity of NASAP’s membership as well as offer recommendations to the COR concerning the possibility of a new Section on diversity and social equality.

In addition, a new Telecommunications working group was convened in order to pull the talent and resources of the smaller Publications, Public Relations, Technology and Website, and Membership Comittees. This working group will be looking into innovative ideas for The NASAP Newsletter, revamping NASAP’s website, and other membership-related issues.

The conference proposals for NASAP 2011 were reviewed and acceptance letters will be sent out soon. Conference plans continue to evolve and the local group in Vancouver is very excited to be hosting again this year. Information concerning travel plans to Victoria is included in this issue of TNN.

From Vancouver, the most popular option is the BC Ferry (www.bcferries.com) from Tsawwassen to Swartz Bay, both a 30-minute drive from each downtown. The ferry transports both vehicles and foot passengers; if you need transportation to and from each ferry terminal Pacific Coach Lines (www.pacificcoach.com) provides complete bus service from downtown to downtown. Alternately, both Westjet (www.westjet.com) and Air Canada (www.aircanada.com) fly from Vancouver International Airport to Victoria International Airport. If you’re brave enough to fly in a seaplane, Harbour Air (www. harbour-air.com) offers a harbour to harbour flight and if you’ve always wanted to fly in a helicopter, Helijet (www.helijet.com) offers exciting downtown to downtown flights.

From Seattle, the Clipper (www.clippervacations.com) offers passenger-only ferry transportation directly into Victoria Harbour (one block away from the Fairmont Empress) from downtown Seattle. The Coho ferry (www.cohoferry.com ) offers both vehicle and passenger transportation to Victoria Harbour from Port Angeles, WA, which is about a 2 hour drive from Seattle. The Washington State Ferry (www.wsdot.wa.gov/ferries) offers seasonal service from Anacortes, WA to Sidney, BC, 25 minutes north of Victoria. If you’re looking to fly directly from Seattle International Airport, Alaska Air (www.alaskaair.com) flies into Victoria International Airport and for those seaplane daredevils, Kenmore Air (www.kenmoreair.com) flies directly into Victoria Harbour.

Whichever way you decide to get to Victoria, it’s sure to be a great start to your west coast adventure. I highly recommend taking the time to browse the Tourism Victoria’s website (www.tourismvictoria.com) for more information on how to get to Victoria, things to do when you get here and details on events you won’t want to miss. We’re looking forward to seeing you May 12 – 15, 2011!

Reminders for NASAP 2011

• Dan Siegel will be offering a two-day workshop, co-sponsored by the Justice Institute of British Columbia and the Adler School of Professional Psychology, May 11 and 12, 2011. Registration for this is separate from the NASAP conference registration - SPACE IS LIMITED so if you are interested, register for this opportunity now. More information can be found by going to this website: http://learning.jibc.ca/TPOnline/TPOnline.dll/Public%20Course/COURSENO=COUR2010061515380903340266

• US citizens will need a passport to re-enter the US upon returning from the NASAP 2011 conference. Don’t forget to apply for your passport sooner rather than later to ensure ample processing time.

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