affairs of the heart part a
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Affairs Affairs of the
of the
HeartHeart
Presenter : Rev. Teddy A. Jones
Presenter : Rev. Teddy A. Jones
RENEWED MINISTRIES
RENEWED MINISTRIES
Exploring two
Exploring two critical elements in
critical elements in the the Foundations
Foundations to to a a HealthyHealthy Relationship
RelationshipAffairsAffairs of the
of the HeartHeart
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““what a what a wonderful
wonderful building!” building!”
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PrettyPretty Colours
Colours
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foundation of the
foundation of the building -building -
that part of the building that
that part of the building that
goes beneath the soil,
goes beneath the soil,
beneath the floor.
beneath the floor.
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Compounding defectsdefects““Mistakes
Mistakes you make you make
in the in the foundation
foundation of of the building will only
the building will only get get worse
worse as you go as you go upup””
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Relationships
Relationships do not so do not so
much depend on the length
much depend on the length
of time you have spent
of time you have spent
together but rather on the
together but rather on the
strengthstrength of the
of the foundationfoundation
you built together.
you built together.
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St. Augustine wrote
St. Augustine wrote““Do you wish to be
Do you wish to be great? Then begin by
great? Then begin by being.being. Do you desire to
Do you desire to construct a vast and
construct a vast and
lofty fabric? Think first
lofty fabric? Think first
about the foundations of
about the foundations of
humility. The higher your
humility. The higher your
structure is to be, the
structure is to be, the deeper must be its
deeper must be its foundation.”
foundation.”
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God wants us in
God wants us in strong healthy
strong healthy relationships;
relationships;
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Marriages are failing
because single people are
not working through their
issues properly Dating people have a
skewed sense of what their
relationship is supposed to beCourting people have no
clear sense of boundaries
So by the time they get to
marriage there is so much
corrective work to be done.
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Coming
of the of the RainRain
The Rising of
The Rising of
the the StreamStream
The Blowing
The Blowing
of the of the WindWind
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The key is, before anything
else, you must have a good
foundation. This foundation
is a ‘private victory,’ a self-
mastery which comes before
the success we aspire to achieve in our
interdependent social
environments – our work,
our business, our familyMark Harrison
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Self-mastery I mean the ability to
I mean the ability to effectively lead and
effectively lead and
manage your mind and
manage your mind and
your heart towards
your heart towards
wholesome, purposeful
wholesome, purposeful
and constructive ends.
and constructive ends.
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Most of us have Selfish and Self-centred
tendencies
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He says, He says, “I did not bargain
“I did not bargain
for this! I deserve better!”
for this! I deserve better!”
Someone else comes
Someone else comes
along and begins to make
along and begins to make
him feel him feel happy, make
happy, make him him
feel feel the happiness
the happiness he he
knows he deserves
knows he deserves. Soon, . Soon,
an affair begins, emotional
an affair begins, emotional
distancing begins to take
distancing begins to take
place from his wife and
place from his wife and
enmeshment takes over
enmeshment takes over
with the new source of his
with the new source of his happiness.happiness.
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75% of marriages
between affair-partners result in divorce