build your resilience

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At Work and Home

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Stuff happens

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And happens

Some

in your control

You chose

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And happens

Some out of your control You do not choose

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With a 25 question quiz at

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. . . the ability to cope with or

recover from change, loss,

mistakes, adversity or the poor

behavior of others or yourself!

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is like

a Rubber Band at its potential— stretched, yet flexible and able to spring back.

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But remember:

We differ in how much strain we

can handle.

Dr. Al Siebert author of The Resiliency Advantage

You demonstrate when you are:

Up

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Up again, old heart.

said Emerson

I am greater than this experience.

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High?

Low?

Malala Yousafzai

Who is your resilient role model?

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Stronger in the Challenged Places

Stronger?

More self-aware,

caring, resourceful,

patient, forgiving,

assertive, flexible

. . .?

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That which does not kill me

makes me stronger.

Wilhelm Nietzsche1844 –1900

German Philosopher

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4. Increase your INTERNAL Locus of Control

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The last of human freedoms

is one’s ability to choose

one’s attitude in a given set

of circumstances.

Viktor Frankl

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Those who view life and their

response to it as happening to them

have an EXTERNAL Locus of Control

Those who view life and their

response to it as their choice have an

INTERNAL Locus of Control.

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Locus of Control

Belief/Attitude

Internal External X

Where are you?

Where would you like to be?

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Internal

Honor feelings

External

Feel victimized

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Internal

Feel empowered

External

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Feel powerless

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Internal

External

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Get Stuck Expect Up and Downs

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Internal

Think Optimistically

External

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Think Pessimistically

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Internal

Seek solutions

External

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Blame

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What is your

“favourite” role?

Your 2nd ?

Victim

Rescuer Persecutor

Avoid the Drama Triangle

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Click for more on

Relationship Drama Part 1

Relationship Drama Part 2

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Avoid thinking or saying:

You make me crazy.

You make me angry.

You make me sick and tired.

You make me (you fill in the blank).

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I make me!

And you make you!

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What 3 or 4 words do you see?

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Woes: Internal and External

Yours?

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Name Your feeling When I think about my challenge I feel . . .

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Do you need to strengthen your:

self-protection ?

self-nurturing ?

communication ?

action ?

connections ?

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It is important to Self- Protect

O Canada,

we stand on guard for thee.

Sir Adolphe-Basile Routhier

It is important to Self-Nurture

When the dog bites

When the bee stings

When I'm feeling sad

I simply remember my

favourite things

And then I don't feel so bad!

Oscar Hammerstein

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It is important to Communicate

Try to see it my way,

Do I have to keep on talking till I can't go on?

While you see it your way

Run the risk of knowing that our love may

soon be gone.

We can work it out. We can work it out.

John Lennon

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It is important to Take Action

The ants go marching one by one.

Hoorah! Hoorah!

The ants go marching one by one.

Hoorah! Hoorah!

The ants go marching one by one;

The little one stops to suck his thumb,

And they all go marching down into the

ground

To get out of the rain.

Boom, boom, boom, boom!

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It is important to Connect

Winter, spring, summer or fall

All you have to do is call

And I'll be there,

You've got a friend.

James Taylor

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THREE Cards Each

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