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Communication & Peer Communication & Peer RelationshipsRelationships

Listen to the Listen to the following…following…

On a blank piece of paper, listen to the directions and draw.

PURPOSE OF ACTIVITY: EVERYONE INTREPRETS THINGS

DIFFERENTLY, even when the directions/circumstances are the same.

If you are not specific or clear things can be taken differently than you had intended.

CommunicationCommunicationThe process of sharing information, thoughts, or feelings.

Communication occurs whenever you use words, sounds, gestures, or body movements to interact with other people.

Effective Effective CommunicationCommunication

1. Active Listening2. I-Message3. Body Language4. Assertiveness

Active ListeningActive Listening Focus your full attention on what the other person is

saying. Show interest and understanding by nodding

your head. Make eye contact Offer comments such as, “I know what you mean” Don’t steer the conversation away from them and

onto you Show you were listening by summarizing their

thoughts, “It sounds like you are angry because…”

I-MessageI-Message Is a statement of feelings and expectations that

does not blame or judge the other person. In order to communicate effectively, you must

be able to take ownership over your own feelings.

Ex: “I am upset that you did not call last night” Focusing on yourself and how the situation made you

feel, without placing blame on the other person.

Body LanguageBody Language Communicating information or feelings

nonverbally through body movements, posture, gestures, and facial expressions.

People can be unaware of the messages sent by their body language.

Can send mixed messages when your “listening” and texting…

Refusal and Refusal and Resistance SkillsResistance Skills

Refusal Skills: a strategy to avoid doing something you don’t want to do. Suggest something else.

Assertive Communication: honest expressions of thoughts and feelings without threatening others. You are cool, calm, and collected BUT still get

your point across. Clearly state the word “no” and don’t waiver in

your decision.

Do NowDo Now Think about a conflict that you have

recently had with someone. What did you do to resolve the conflict? What could you have done differently in

the whole situation? Could having better communication

skills help the conflict resolve faster?

Conflict Resolution and Conflict Resolution and Responding to Peer Responding to Peer

PressurePressure Assertive: Express your true feelings and standing up

for your own rights in a way that does not threaten the other person or make them feel uncomfortable.**Think about the consequences, and STATE them in your reason.

Passive: Holding back your true feelings and giving in, or backing down.

Aggressive: Communicate your opinions and feelings in a way that may seem threatening, disrespectful, overly forceful, and hostile towards others.

Scenario: Jessica is taking a final exam and has prepared for it by studying for several days. Her boyfriend, Collin, is sitting next to her, he whispers to her that he studied the wrong thing. Collin is sure Jessica will give him the answers. Jessica’s grade on this exam is very important to her. She needs a high grade in order to keep the scholarship to college she has been offered. If she loses the scholarship, then she cannot go to college. Collin will not graduate if he fails this class. The final exam counts for a large portion of the final grade for the class. Jessica knows that if she doesn’t help Collin, he will be very mad at her and probably will break up with her.

How would you handle this situation if you were Jessica? Be specific with details.

Give an example of how Jessica would respond if she was being Passive, Aggressive, and Assertive

Peer PressurePeer PressurePeer Pressure: the control and

influence people your age may have over you.

There are different forms of peer pressure Spoken Pressure Unspoken Peer Pressure

Peer Pressure Peer Pressure Peer pressure evokes a broad range of

feelings— Positive: pride, importance, belonging, etc. Negative: confusion, insecurity, isolation, etc.

Why do people give in to peer pressure? to improve social or academic standing to broaden their group of friends or acquaintances to attract or deflect attention to avoid negative repercussions to attract positive feedback to learn something

Do Now!Do Now!

Think about some of the groups or cliques that you have seen here at Summit HighWhere do you fit, within these groups?What are the stereotypes of each?

Manipulation: a sneaky or dishonest way to control or influence others.

Ex: using guilt-person makes you feel bad for not doing

what they want you to do he said, she said-person tells you what someone else

said was the “right things to do” confronting statement-start an argument to then make

you feel bad over something you didn’t do or say but for which you should feel guilty for

self-pity- the person makes you feel sorry for them for being a victim, unloved, sick, etc.

Manipulation

What can you do if you think you are being manipulated? Remove yourself if the situation becomes

dangerous suggest alternative things to do do your best to avoid situations where

pressure to make unhealthy decisions may become a problem

If possible, avoid individuals who use manipulation tactics

Prejudice, Prejudice, Stereotypes, & CliquesStereotypes, & Cliques

Stereotypes: an exaggerated or generalized belief about an entire group of people, such as an ethnic group, religious group, or gender.

Prejudice: is a negative feeling towards someone or something that is not based on personal experience but based on a stereotype.

Cliques: a narrow exclusive group of people with similar backgrounds and interests. Often members experience peer pressure to conform to the expectations of the clique. Advantages and Disadvantages?

Effective Effective Communication and Communication and

““Mean GirlsMean Girls””

Mean GirlsMean Girls 9:12 minute mark—20:00 22:50—25:30 29:00—33:00 (4-way calling scene)51:00----

55:00 1:17:30--end

““Mean GirlsMean Girls”” Lets learn from it…You will be responsible for providing

examples from the Movie on the Quiz for this unit. Think about the following terms and look for them within

the movie. Take notice how they are used well or not used well. Also, take any notes that you think may help you. Active ListeningCliques Assertiveness Relationships Stereotypes Peer Pressure “I message” Manipulation Body Language Refusal Skills Cooperation Compromise

““Guilt by AssociationGuilt by Association”” The people you hang out with and

associate yourself with impacts your reputation.

Associate with people who have qualities and characteristics you want to represent you.

Do NowDo Now Analyze the friendships/relationships that you

have seen so far in Mean Girls Cady and Regina Cady and Janice/Damien Cady and Aaron Samuels Cady and Gretchen/Karen

Are they healthy relationships? Why or Why not? How would you categorize a healthy friendship?

Healthy relationship?

Mean Girls Mean Girls AssessmentAssessment

Using your notes from the movie, write about at least 3 of the following communication topics.-Active Listening -Cliques -Cooperation-Compromise -Refusal Skills -Body Language-Assertiveness -Relationships -Manipulation-“I message” -Peer Pressure -StereotypesFor each example, you are expected:

define the term provide an example of it that was in the

movie explain whether the example was healthy or

unhealthy and why.