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Emotional Empowerment

TrainingM I C H E L L E B E R S E L L , M . A . , M . E D .

S U P P O R T @ I I E E . T R A I N I N G

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F E E L :

D I S A P P O I N T E D Signals Setback

D I S A P P O I N T M E N T S I G N A L S :

Something Is Actually Wrong

Something Is Perceived as Wrong

NEGATIVE OUTLOOKNEGATIVE CIRCUMSTANCE

A N T I D O T E :

D I S A P P O I N T E D Reassess & Regroup

• Using a negative experience to define you.

• Focusing on everything that is wrong.

• The power of your inner critic voice.

• Negativity.• Looking for examples to

diminish your self-worth.

These behaviors increase sadness/disappointment

EliminatingBehaviors

• Using the negative experience to reexamine any necessary changes.

• Find a balanced/fair perspective of self and life.

• Increase your sense of gratitude or look for the silver lining.

• Listening.• Find examples to honor self,

others, and life despite setback.

These behaviors decrease sadness/disappointment

Elevating Behaviors

DISAPPOINTED EMPOWERED ACTION

F E E L :

ANXIOUS Signals Uncertainty

A N X I E T Y S I G N A L S :

Something Is Actually Wrong

Something Is Perceived as Wrong

TRYING TO CONTROL WHAT YOU CAN’T

(EXTERNAL FACTORS)

NOT CONTROLING WHAT YOU CAN

(YOUR RESPONSE TO SITUATIONS)

A N T I D O T E :

A N X I E T Y Trust

• Self-doubt/ second-guessing self.

• Trying to control aspects that deplete you because you can’t control them: ie. what others think of you, outcomes, being perfect, etc.

• Focus on future.

These behaviors increase anxiety.

EliminatingBehaviors

• Self-trust • Take responsibility for your

response to circumstances.• Make adjustments to elevate your

situation.• Focus on showing up the best you

can with self-compassion & acceptance.

• Focus on present moment.

These behaviors decrease anxiety.

Elevating Behaviors

ANXIOUS EMPOWERED ACTIONS

F E E L :

ANGRY Signals Injustice

A N G E R S I G N A L S :

Something Is Actually Wrong

Something Is Perceived as Wrong

BEING WITHOUT POWERBEING POWERED OVER

A N T I D O T E :

A N G E R Respectful Power

• Blaming, shaming, or disrespecting self or others.

• Physically harming self or others.

• Defensiveness or need to be right.

• Taking things personal that aren’t personal.

These behaviors increase anger.

EliminatingBehaviors

• Respectfully speaking your truth.• Finding the courage to have

difficult conversations.• Take responsibility for creating

change.• Being vulnerable or flexible

enough to recognize own fault &/or see another viewpoint.

• Calmly sticking to the facts.• Giving the benefit of the doubt.

These behaviors decrease anger.

Elevating Behaviors

ANGRY EMPOWERED ACTIONS

EMOTIONAL EMPOWERMENT CHEAT SHEET

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SETBACK

REASSESS & REGROUP

DISAPPOINTMENT

SIGNAL:

ANTIDOTE:

INJUSTICE

RESPECTFUL POWER

ANGER

SIGNAL:

ANTIDOTE:

UNCERTAINTY

TRUST

ANXIETY

SIGNAL:

ANTIDOTE:

What am I feeling?

What are the disempowered thoughts/messages tied to this feeling?

Are the messages absolutely true? What is the proof these messages aren’t true?

How am I not integrating the antidote & what is the result?

How can I better apply the antidote & how will I feel in doing so?

5 Question Emotional Empowerment Framework: