helping kids be naughty no more jodi mullen, phd integrative counseling services

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THE NAUGHTY NO MORE STORY

IDENTIFYING FEELINGS& COMMUNICATING UNDERSTANDING

Verbally

Non-verbally

facial expressions

body language

Para-verbally

Even when freshly washed and relieved of all obvious

confections, children tend to be sticky. 

Fran Lebowitz

WHAT’S THE FEELING?

WHEN THEY CAN TALK IT OUT THEY DON’T HAVE TO ACT OUT

• Use feeling words

• Use interjections

• Use developmentally appropriate language

• Use culturally-centric language

• Exaggerate your tone

• Exaggerate your non-verbal language

• Match non-verbal & verbal language

Play is the Way

Changing your lens:

Manipulative >

Hyper>

Stubborn>

Childish>

Whiny>

Disrespectful>

THE POSITIVES DETECTIVE

What are some positives in yourself as a parent/teacher/caregiver?

What are some positives in this child?

I’M THE BOSS OF ME! Below put an X next to all this times when you have let anger be the boss. I get angry with myself when I…  feel tired say things that are mean hurt other people make a mistake don’t do well in school when I lose say things that I do not

mean  You add some more…        

 Now try this, put an X next to the ways that you can be the boss of you even when anger is trying to be the boss.In order to feel better I can…

take a breath give myself a time out go for a walk (My mom says you

have to ask a grown up first) PLAY draw pretend talk to someone You add some…

STABILITY & CONSISTENCY

How do you create it in your home or classroom?

TimeSoundSightsResponsesRitualsTraditionsCelebrationsWays of getting recognition

MealsDaysExpectationsConsequencesOf your wordEmotionResponsibilitiesSmells

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