the core dynamics of common problems in parenting! adriana bacelis presenter:

The Core Dynamics of The Core Dynamics of Common Problems in Common Problems in

PPAARREENNTTIINNGG!!

Adriana BacelisPresenter:

When Parenting doesn’t seem When Parenting doesn’t seem to be a gift but a struggle…to be a gift but a struggle…

Notice what you are thinking… You will Notice what you are thinking… You will discover that there is a reason for your stress:discover that there is a reason for your stress:

You get angry because ___________You get angry because ___________ You worry about ____________You worry about ____________ You feel guilty because ____________You feel guilty because ____________

If you allow yourself, you will notice that it is If you allow yourself, you will notice that it is not really about being a parent… and not really about being a parent… and sometimes it is not about your kids at all.sometimes it is not about your kids at all.

What is it all about?What is it all about?

It is about our background of It is about our background of unresoloved inner conflicts. unresoloved inner conflicts.

An Inner Conflict occurs when we An Inner Conflict occurs when we have a Natural Intention that have a Natural Intention that becomes mixed with our Conditioned becomes mixed with our Conditioned Responses. Responses.

Natural IntentionNatural Intention

Is the expression of our essential Is the expression of our essential nature, of our true self, of who we nature, of our true self, of who we really are.really are.

Conditioned ResponsesConditioned Responses

Are the behaviors that are the Are the behaviors that are the expression of what we have learned expression of what we have learned through our experiences in life, through our experiences in life, they are pre-verbal and pre-they are pre-verbal and pre-cognitive. cognitive.

They have become a part of who They have become a part of who we “think” we are and how we we “think” we are and how we perceive things.perceive things.

Identifications – Identifications – sometimessometimes getting getting the sense of who we are from what we the sense of who we are from what we think we are… and that becomes self think we are… and that becomes self defining. defining.

Unresolved Emotional Pain - Unresolved Emotional Pain - It is It is held in the body because of incomplete held in the body because of incomplete experiences in the pastexperiences in the past

Conditioned Responses are barriers that come from two

basic categories…

This is how it looks like…This is how it looks like… When a desire comes from a Natural When a desire comes from a Natural

Intention, it is valid from the origin… you Intention, it is valid from the origin… you don’t have to justify it or be right about itdon’t have to justify it or be right about it

When a desire comes from a Conditioned When a desire comes from a Conditioned Response, it needs to be validated or Response, it needs to be validated or justified – We have the need to be on the justified – We have the need to be on the “RIGHT” side of a conflict… There is “RIGHT” side of a conflict… There is where we find strugglewhere we find struggle

Just a thought…Just a thought…

““Children seem rebellious because Children seem rebellious because they enjoy breaking arbitrary rules… they enjoy breaking arbitrary rules…

This helps them reconnect with the This helps them reconnect with the truth that authentic power lies not in truth that authentic power lies not in the rules but in themselves.”the rules but in themselves.”

From: The Daily Groove by Scott NoelleFrom: The Daily Groove by Scott Noelle

For a Deeper UnderstandingFor a Deeper Understanding

When we are very little before we When we are very little before we even acquire language, we make even acquire language, we make decisions about ourselves and about decisions about ourselves and about our experience of the world around our experience of the world around us at the level of feeling… This is us at the level of feeling… This is why we call it pre-verbal why we call it pre-verbal conditioning.conditioning.

The Core Dynamics of Common Problems

Trying to Force

An Outcome

Looking forYourself Where

You Are Not

Resisting FeelingThings Fully

Illusions

Struggle Isolation

Frustration

Excluding OtherPerspectives

ManufacturingInterpretations

Over-reactingTo Circumstances

Ignoring YourIntuition

BeingJudgmental

AvoidingThe Present

Mistaking NeedFor Love

ResistingChange

Limiting Self Expression

The Core Dynamics of Common Problems

Trying to Force

An Outcome

Looking forYourself Where

You Are Not

Resisting FeelingThings Fully

Illusions

Struggle Isolation

Frustration

Excluding OtherPerspectives

ManufacturingInterpretations

Over-reactingTo Circumstances

Ignoring YourIntuition

BeingJudgmental

AvoidingThe Present

Mistaking NeedFor Love

ResistingChange

Limiting Self Expression

Need

validation

Ignore our

intuition and

act from fear

of the past or

future…

Need to control

Afraid

to correct

them

My story,

My way

They

push

my

buttons

Guilt

PARENTING!

What Stresses me out listWhat Stresses me out list ImpatienceImpatience Crying and whiningCrying and whining All kind of WorriesAll kind of Worries

Getting in troubleGetting in trouble Low Performance in Low Performance in

school school Negative InfluencesNegative Influences SicknessSickness

Sibling Rivalry Sibling Rivalry

I feel I am invisibleI feel I am invisible My kids seem to be My kids seem to be

deaf they don’t obeydeaf they don’t obey Dealing with boundariesDealing with boundaries

I can’t get them to go to I can’t get them to go to bedbed

My kid wants to skate My kid wants to skate without a helmetwithout a helmet

Free Time ManagementFree Time Management

Why does this work?Why does this work?The Program acts on both… The Program acts on both…

Level of Understanding, Level of Understanding, not just with not just with your intellect but to really be clear “under” your intellect but to really be clear “under” where you are “standing”where you are “standing” Learn what is really causing the problemLearn what is really causing the problem Make a clear distinctionMake a clear distinction between our between our

Conditioned Responses and our Natural Conditioned Responses and our Natural intentionsintentions

Dismantling the habitsDismantling the habits We are conditioned to think that habits are We are conditioned to think that habits are

just there… and that it is very hard to end just there… and that it is very hard to end them or replace them… them or replace them…

What if you could learn THE POWER OF HOW to What if you could learn THE POWER OF HOW to dismantle them through great Techniques that dismantle them through great Techniques that will allow you to act from your “inner knowing” … will allow you to act from your “inner knowing” …

What if you could also be able to teach your kids What if you could also be able to teach your kids how to solve the basis of their own anger, how to solve the basis of their own anger, frustration and fear.frustration and fear.

PARENTING PROGRAM PARENTING PROGRAM PART 1PART 1

Deep understanding of the Core Dynamics Model.Deep understanding of the Core Dynamics Model. Resolve The main conditioned responses that we come up Resolve The main conditioned responses that we come up

with when raising our kids… with when raising our kids… ““My Way” , “Frustration”, “Need external validation” “Ignoring My Way” , “Frustration”, “Need external validation” “Ignoring

my intuition”, “Control Freak” , “Overreaction-Guilt” my intuition”, “Control Freak” , “Overreaction-Guilt”

All sorts of fears and identificationsAll sorts of fears and identifications

Presentation and Practice of The Pure Awareness Presentation and Practice of The Pure Awareness TechniquesTechniques

Will be covered in 8 / 1 hr webinar once a weekWill be covered in 8 / 1 hr webinar once a week

PARENTING PROGRAM PARENTING PROGRAM PART 2PART 2

PPAARREENNTTODDSODDSKids up to 6 years oldKids up to 6 years old

PPAARREENNTKIDSTKIDSKids from 6 – 11 years oldKids from 6 – 11 years old

PPAARREENNTEENSTEENSKids from 12 – 16 years oldKids from 12 – 16 years old

The group will be divided according to kids ages

Coaching Group SessionsWill be covered in 16 / 1hr webinar sessions, 1 session a week for four months

How much does the program How much does the program cost?cost?

Part 1Part 1

$ 295.00 dls.$ 295.00 dls.

Include:Include: 8 - 1 hr. webinar 8 - 1 hr. webinar

sessionssessions

Part 2Part 2

$100.00 dls. a month $100.00 dls. a month

For 4 monthsFor 4 months

Include: Include: 16 – 1 hr. group 16 – 1 hr. group

coaching sessions coaching sessions

When does it start?When does it start?

Morning SessionsMorning Sessions Monday, May 11Monday, May 11thth 11 am to 12 pm PT11 am to 12 pm PT

Evening SessionsEvening Sessions Monday, May 11Monday, May 11thth

8 pm to 9 pm PT8 pm to 9 pm PT

Thank youThank you

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