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2. Avoiding Violence in the Family Eduardo B. Castillo Principal IV Bautista National High School 3. 3 Family - generally regarded as the basic social institution that must be cherished, preserved and protected. 4. Violence - is generally defined as an act committed with the deliberate or perceived intention of hurting another person 5. Family Violence - is a violent act between members of the family 6. It may occur in the following relationships Relations between husband and wife Relations between parents and their children Relations among other descendants and ascendants Relations among brothers and sisters 6 7. Family Violence Physical violence Sexual violence Emotional violence Psychological violence Verbal abuse Financial or economic violence 7 8. Physical Violence occurs when someone uses a part of their body or an object to control a persons action. 8 9. hitting, pinching, hair pulling, burning, stabbing, punching, force-feeding assault with a weapon or other object deliberate exposure to severe weather room temperature tying a person inappropriate use of medication murder 9 10. Sexual Violence occurs when a person is forced to unwillingly take part in sexual activity 10 11. touching in a sexual manner without consent forced sexual intercourse forcing a sexual acts that may be degrading or painful beating sexual part of the body forcing a person to view pornographic materials exhibitionism withholding sexual affection purposefully exposing the person to sexually transmitted infections 11 12. Emotional Violence occurs when someone says or does something to make a person feel stupid or worthless 12 13. . name calling blaming all relationship problems on the person not allowing the person to have contact with family and friends destroying possessions jealousy humiliating or making fun of the person threatening to hurt oneself if the person does not cooperate threatening to abandon the person 13 14. Psychological Violence occurs when someone uses threats and causes fear in a person to gain control 14 15. destruction of personal property socially isolating the person treating a person like a child or a servant withholding companionship or affection use of undue pressures 15 16. Verbal Abuse occurs when someone uses language, whether spoken or written to cause harm to a person 16 17. recalling a persons past mistakes expressing negative expectation yelling telling a person that she or he is worthless or nothing 17 18. Financial or Economic Abuse occurs when someone controls a persons financial resources without the persons consent and when a person is forced to do labor for the abusers advantage 18 19. forcing the person to do work outside the home refusing to attend school improperly using a persons money, assets or property withholding money selling property without permission not paying bills 19 20. Neglect occurs when someone has the responsibility to provide care and assistance but does not abandonment failing to meet the needs of a person who is unable to meet those needs alone 20 21. Causes of Family Violence domestic violence in the household in which the person was reared positive results for the abuser economic hardships jealousy anger 21 22. Impacts of Family Violence on Children Behavioral Developmental problems 22 23. Behavioral like extreme shyness, nightmares, loneliness, fear of strangers, phobias, loss of faith, fighting with peers, early use of drugs, feeling of being out of control 23 24. Developmental like eating disorders ,diminished mental and physical health, inability to work, withdrawals from school, low self-esteem, dissociation 24 25. If you are the abused break your silence develop a safety plan call for a help seek medical treatment 25 26. If you are the abuser get help for your self Renewal you must be nourished by love everyday Gratitude stop trying to fix people Time treasure your relationships not your possessions Service make your love genuine Forgiveness heal your wounds Self Love love yourself Celebration make your home happy 26 27. *Know your duties as parents 1. Give him affection, companionship and understanding 2. Extend to him the benefits of moral guidance self discipline and religios instructions 3. To supervise his activities including his recreations 4. To inculcate in him the value of industry, thrift and self-reliance 5. To stimulate his interest to civic affairs, teach him the duties of citizenship and develop his commitment to his country 6. To advise him properly on any matters affecting his development and well being 7. To always set a good example 8. To provide him with adequate support. *Respect your childs rights 28. Don't give up.....Don't give up..... 29. One day I decided to quit... I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality... I wanted to quit my life. I went to the woods to have one last talk with God. One day I decided to quit... I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality... I wanted to quit my life. I went to the woods to have one last talk with God. 30. "God", I asked, "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?" His answer surprised me... "Look around", He said. "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?" "Yes", I replied. 31. "When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. 32. In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. He said. "In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. I would not quit." He said. 33. "Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant... But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive. 34. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle." He asked me. "Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots". "I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you." "Don't compare yourself to others."He said. "The bamboo had a different Purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful. "Your time will come", God said to me. 35. You will rise high, How high should I rise? I asked. How high will the bamboo rise? He asked in return. As high as it can? I questioned. Yes. He said, Give me glory by rising as high as you can. I left the forest and brought back this story. 36. Never Give up. Don't tell the Lord how big the problem is, tell the problem how Great the Lord is! 37. Maraming Salamat! 37 38. 38