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BALANCE YOUR CONFLICT
Dr. Jody Janati
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“RUDENESS IS THE WEAK MAN’S IMITATION
OF STRENGTH”
~ Eric Hoffer
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ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATIONPursue your best interests w/o denying another’s Separate the person from the problemFocus on shared interests, “what do we both…”Generate options to solve problemsChoose “I” statements before “You” statements, “I feel
uncomfortable when you use language…”Stick to the factsExpress little to no emotion during an interactionFace difficult interactions squarely and authentically
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FEELING+
NEED
LANGUAGE OF COLLABORATION
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HOW DO WE BALANCE BEHAVIOR?
Create little to no resistance“Ask; Don’t Tell; Offer Choices”
Be consistent “Consistency Over Time = Trust”
Awareness = ChangeCommit to making other’s aware“I noticed…I see you are…”
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1. Tell them what they did [fact]
2. Tell them how it made you feel -or-
State a consequence of their behavior
3. “Point it out, Bring it up, Put it on your radar, Thought you shouldknow, Wanted you to be aware...”
BALANCING BEHAVIOR
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TIME TO ACT! Step 1 - A Ask them to meet with you
[give them at least 10 min.]
Step 2 - C Clear concise statement [10 -12 words]
Step 3 - T Transfer responsibility [repeat about 10 times]
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“ANGER IS ONE LETTER SHORT OF DANGER”
~ Eric Hoffer
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DRAMA“What Do You Do?”
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“When I think the thought “_______________,”
my thoughts and behavior towards this
person become “_____________________.”
Control your thoughts or they will control youTHANK YOU!
You are “Response – Able!”
May You Find Your
“Conversation Peace”Dr. Jody Janati
[email protected] | 651.210.2246 www.communicationinnovation.vpweb.com