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Are You the Leader of Your Own Life?

Forum for Diplomacy & International RelationsUniversity of Belgrade

March 27, 2014

Belgrade, Serbia

Tom Kelly

Resident Senior Director, NDI Serbia

[email protected]


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Leadership is the art of getting someoneelse to do something you want done

because he wants to do it.

- President Dwight D. Eisenhower

What is Leadership?


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What is Leadership?


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What is Leadership?

What is a leader?

How does a leader lead?Why do they do it?

What is the difference between a leaderand a manager?


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What is Leadership?


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What is Leadership?

Awareness: Who am I?

Vision: Where do I want to go?

Adaptability / Resilience: What Do I fear?


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What is Leadership?


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What is Leadership?

Self Mastery

Understanding & Engaging Others

Yourself As A Hero


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Self Mastery

7 Habits of Highly Effective People - Stephen Coveyhttps://www.stephencovey.com/7habits/7habits.php

1. Be Proactive

2. Begin With the End in Mind

3. Put First Things First

4. Think Win-Win

5. Seek to Understand, Then To Be Understood

6. Synergize

7. Sharpen The Saw


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7 Habits of Highly Effective People#1Be Proactive

Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom

to choose.

Proactive people subordinate feelings to values.

Circle of Influence VS. Circle of Concern.

Research, Planning Preparation and Anticipation.


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7 Habits of Highly Effective People#2 - Begin with the End in Mind

Develop a Personal Mission Statement

We detect rather than invent our missions in life.

Peak performers are visualizers.

Writing distills, crystallizes, and clarifies thought and helpsbreak the whole into parts.

An effective goal focuses on results rather than activity.


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Leadership Decides What First Things Are.

Effective Management is putting first things first, thenhaving the discipline to carry it out.

Focus on Prevention, Relationship Building, Planning, &Research.

Dont focus on things and time, focus on preserving andenhancing relationships.

7 Habits of Highly Effective People# 3 Put First Things First


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You cant have the fruits without the roots.

Self-mastery and self-discipline are the foundation of goodrelationships with others.

Make deposits in Emotional Bank Accounts with others.

Understand people.

Keep Commitments, Clarify expectations.

7 Habits of Highly Effective People#4Think Win/Win


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7 Habits of Highly Effective People#4Think Win / Win

Show personal integrity. Honesty is telling the truthConforming our words to reality.

Integrity is conforming reality to our wordsin otherwords, keeping promises and fulfilling expectations.

Maturity is the balance between courage andconsideration.

Live under the abundance mentality.


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7 Habits of Highly Effective People#5 - Seek First to Understand, Then to Be

Understood

Practice empathetic listening.

Diagnose before you prescribe.

Seeking to understand requires consideration;

seeking to be understood takes courage.

Character, Reason, Emotion.


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7 Habits of Highly Effective People#6 -Synergize

The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.

We seek not to imitate the masters, rather we seek what

they sought.

Seek transformation, not merely a transaction. Get what

you want and build a relationship.

Value Differences


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7 Habits of Highly Effective People#7 - Sharpen the Saw

Balance Your Life:

Physical- SocialEmotionalSpiritual - Mental

Influence, not recognition, becomes the your motive.

For Leaders - Service to others is the rent we pay for the

privilege of living on this earth.

Your economic security does not lie in your job; it lies inyour own power to produceto think, to learn, to create, toadapt.


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What is Leadership?



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Engaging & Understanding Others

Self-mastery and self-discipline are the foundation ofgood relationships with others.

Make deposits in Emotional Bank Accounts with others.

Value Differences

Get What You Want & Build a Relationship

Understand people.


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Understanding PeopleWhat can we learn from The Dog WhispererCesar Millan?

(Malcolm GladwellWhat the Dog Saw.

Movement & Temperament

Intention Movement & Phrasing

Your Sagittal Plane, Eyes & Breathing

Ronald Reagan, Bill Clinton & Zoran Djindjic


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Understanding People

The Wisdom of CrowdsWhy the Many Are Smarter than the Few

- James Surowiecki


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- James Surowiecki

Diversity of OpinionEach person must have private information

even if it's just an eccentric interpretation of the known facts.

IndependenceA persons opinions aren't determined by theopinions of those around them.

DecentralizationPeople are able to specialize and draw on local

knowledge.

AggregationSome mechanism exists for turning private judgmentsinto a collective decision.


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- James Surowiecki

Francis Galton, Oxen & 787 Guesses The group guessed 1,197pounds and the ox weighed 1,198.

U.S.S. Scorpion & Bayes Theorem(1968)A diverse group ofmathematicians, naval engineers, seamen located the sub 220 yardsfrom where the group said it should be (Air France #447MH 370?)

Who Wants to Be A Millionaire?Lifelines Work / GroupIntelligence 91Experts 65.

GoogleThe PageRank algorithm works by noting what websites on

the Internet votes for.


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- James Surowiecki

Jelly Beans, Betting Lines & Bees People are able to specialize

and draw on local knowledge.

Experts are OverratedThe Bay of Pigs & The Challenger Disaster.

Diversity is UnderratedHomogeneity fosters conformity.


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- James Surowiecki

It is possible to describe how people in a group think as a whole.

In many cases, groups are remarkably intelligent and are oftensmarter than the smartest people in them.

The four conditions for a group to be intelligent are diversity,independence, decentralization and aggregation.

The best decisions are a product of disagreement and contest.


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- James Surowiecki

Too much communication can make the group as a whole lessintelligent (Contamination of individual thought).

The right information needs to be delivered to the right people in theright place, at the right time, and in the right way.

There is no need to chase the expert.


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Effective Leaders

Are humble

Solicit Information from Others

Listen to Everybody

Ensure Diversity of Opinion on Their Team

++++++Particularly in a democratic society++++++


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What is Leadership?

Yourself As A Hero?


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Yourself As A Hero

The Hero With a Thousand Faces

Joseph Campbell

Comparative Mythology - revealed common themes in

myths through time

Identified a Similar Heros Journey in Myths fromaround the world


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The Heros Journey

Call to Adventure;

Crossing the Threshold;

The Heros Path.an authentic path brings helpers;

FulfillmentReaching the goal

Re-Crossing the Threshold - Return

Bringing back the Jewelwealth, power, wisdom.


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The Heros JourneyRequires

Giving up Where You Are;

Going into the Realm of Adventure;

Coming to an Actual or Symbolic Realization /Understanding About Life or Yourself;

Returning to Your Normal Life;

Sharing What You Have Learned with Others


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Effective Decision MakingRequires a System

W.R.A.P

Widen Your Options

Reality-test Your Assumptions

Attain Some Distance Before Deciding

Prepare to Be Wrong

++Decisive: How to Make Better Decisions in Life & Work

- Chip & Dan Heath


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Assignment

Awareness: Who are you?

Vision: Where are you going?

Adaptability / Flexibility: How Will You Get There?

Leadership: Who Will Go With You?

Letter to Self: Where Will You Be in 5 Years?


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