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in some way. In each issue, we want to achieve two main goals with Bonfire. 1.) Celebrate! The very essence of a bonfire is to gather up a bunch of friends andfamily and have a great time in fellowship. 2.) Inspire! We really want to help people heat up their lives and B-On-Fire! Sprinkled throughout our premier issue are friends and family. People that have inspired us or supported us in some way. It’s truly an honor to share thisexperience with every one of them. I personally feel I am living my best life. I am enjoying having a new outlet to share my passion of living a full and rich life. I love my life. I can’t help it. I do. It’snot perfect, but it is what I have made it to be.

everyone enough for all the love that has come our way the past few months since we announced Bonfire Magazine. Not a day goes by, that someone does not reach out to me to ask about what we are about, what are we currently doing, what is next or how they love what we are doing. When my amazing publisher, Del Scheitler, approached me about this ideaback in March, there was no doubt in my mind that we had something special here. I personally believe that you don’t have be rich, to live a rich life. You can have a life full of happiness right here in Hampton Roads by taking a step back and appreciating all that this area has to offer. For our premier issue, I decided I really wanted to spend time on what we are all about, who we are as people and hopefully connect with each of you

WOW doesn’t even come close to summing it all up! What an amazing summer here in Hampton Roads - the best one yet for me! ECSC was the highlight of the summer for us at Bonfire Magazine as we were the title sponsor with ECSC360- the digital sponsor for the East Coast Surfing Championships 2013. I was given the opportunity to go out and do live video interviews with local business owners, pro surfers, vendor reps, and volunteers - Oh and not to mention being a judge for Miss ECSC - I know, I know - a tough job but somebody has to do it... We just recently had our first of many, Bonfire Gathering photo shoots - what a show of appreciation by close friends to help us with that - we are so blessed! The support for Bonfire Magazine has been nothing short of amazing. I cannot thank

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September 13, 2013- Yes, a Friday the 13th to be exact. And luck would need to be on our side as Bonfire Magazine prepared for our first ever “Gathering” photo shoot. The day couldn’t of been luckier. A beautiful mild weather day offered the perfect temperature for our photo setting. The location was in Shadow Lawn- one of the area’s oldest and most popular beach neighborhoods. Jason and Amy Prymuzala would welcome more than two dozen guests to their perfectly decorated home. Our Editor, Ben, worked feverishly to get everything coordinated. This was our first large scale (last minute) photo shoot. The pressure was on. As guests began to arrive, we quickly greeted them with instructions on what was required of them.

Guest List: Jenn Ferrer, Rohn Sitjar, RohnZit, James Jordan, Ashford Denman, Gloria Hill, Robin Dorough Kassir, Karen Gay Lane, Chanel Foxworth, Zouhair Elghazi, Kevin Kane, Amy Carroll Przymuzala, Jason Przymuzala, Stephanie Glasson Joseph, Leahmarie Gottlieb, Ted Laffkas, Matty Cox, Jennifer Acey Laffkas, Jen Crow, Brian Doyle, Tennys Doyle Kane, Robert Claunch, Amine Bensellam, Curtis Joseph, Mary Pruter, Francis PruterTiffany Pruter, Allen Pruter, Cianna Brueggemann, Lani BaraoChris Jackson, Travis Trawick &Cait Basnight

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After the photo shoot, everyone gathered around the outdoor kitchen and watched Matty Cox prepare the perfect margaritas with his USDA Certified Organic Tres Agave Tequila. The Bonfire team and friends were enjoying the night. Jason and Amy couldn’t of been more gracious hosts for the evening. See more photos online from the Gathering online.

prepared perfectly plated dishes for the shoot. The beautifully landscaped backyard was the perfect setting and showcased Jason and Amy’s pride of ownership. They had bought the house years ago and added on several additions and remodeled practically every bit of the home. The backyard was especially a labor of love for Jason. “We entertain a lot, so we love the pool and patio area. It’s perfect for friends and family to come over and hang out,” Jason tells us.

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to me and my friends having crabapple fights at the bus stop every morning. It was not uncommon for me to go to school with bruises from an epic crabapple war that morning.

LiFe WaS good. My brothers and I were surrounded by love and fellowship from our base community. I am the youngest of three. My oldest brother, Martin, was born with cerebral palsy and my other brother Jeffery has special learning needs. In our community though, we were kings. Jeff may have struggled to tie his shoes properly, but he was the best football thrower in our neighborhood. And as a kid, my biggest excitement was waking up to push Martin in his wheelchair to the curb where his bus would patiently await for both of us. His bus was the coolest bus I had ever seen. I’d roll him onto the platform while the bus attendant elevated him up high and rolled him into the bus. I was actually very jealous of him. So my childhood was filled with the best of military base life. Friends from all over the world. Great gatherings of Thai ladies in and out to help and support my mom. The best food and cookouts ever. Before I knew it, I had become quite a chubby child...That’s when you know you were happiest! When my father retired from service, we moved into civilian life. My father proudly purchased our first home in

I grew up most of my life in Hampton Roads. I am a Peninsula boy at heart. My family moved here per my father’s Air Force orders when I was very young. My first memories as a child were of playing on a swing set with other kids in the backyard of our temporary housing on Langley Air Force Base. I remember feeling like I had won the jackpot. I felt like my father was the richest man in the world because we had accessto our own playground just outside our home. I, like other military kids, enjoyed all of the comforts of base life. My own lakes. My own tennis courts. My own bowling alley. My own movie theater. And when I scraped my knee really bad trying to impress my friends with my new BMX bike, I was taken to my very own hospital. Man, I had it great! Living in base housing and among other military kids enriched my life more than I could of imagined at the time. My mother, a small tiny Thai woman, was everyone’s favorite cook. Whether she was cooking native Thai dishes, or throwing down some of the American classics like fried chicken and potato salad... her food won everyone over. I was truly a popular kid. Not to mention our corner house was also the bus stop which was perfectly decorated with a flourishing crabapple tree. That tree gave me some of the best memories I had as a child. From my mother and her friends picking the tart little apples for pickling,

Newport News. The house was built for us. I remember going with him and watching him take pictures of every single step of the building process. He was proud to accomplish this dream for his family. He had worked hard,made it to the top ranks of military service, and was looking for a few simple rewards to pat himself on the back. The home meant everything to him. His sons were getting older and health was always a concern... especially with Martin and Jeff. I rememberrealizing that I would have my very own room. I mean... I loved Jeff, but I really didn’t need him that close all the time... So having us in separate rooms actually helped in case one of us got sick. A simple cold would be disastrous for my oldest brother. As the years went on, civilian life sure was different. Not exactly smooth sailing. My mom had taken on her first American job to not only bring in extra money, but to give her some time away from the house. As we grew older, less and less time was focused on basketball and football, and more time focused on my brother’s health. Time in and out of hospitals became a regular occurrence. Christmases spent at The Children’s Hospital of The King’s Daughter were normal. Flu season was especially rough on Martin and I remember these times as my new reality. I still found the joy in them though. The fact that I was the luckiest kid in the world because my brother was in the best hospital, which meant at Christmas time I got to see all the houses lit up for the holidays during our long drive to

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talent development, marketing and business development, I have been blessed to work with the best and mentored by the best. I found my roots. Thailand is my second home. Where a large part of my heart lives and thrives. Spending time there makes everything have more purpose here. Thailand is one of the most humble countries and cultures you will ever visit. Last year, webrought my cousin over to live with us. Something my mother never thought would ever happen in her lifetime.

i FoUnd mY PUrPoSe I found my mission. Being an entrepreneur, I have finally let all of my creativity take focus. I have never felt more alive. More independent. Scared and stressed? Sure. But I live. I really live now more than ever. My team is made up of talented folks that have given me their trust, their time and in many ways their dreams to help realize. We’re all making dreams happen. I love each and everyone of them. I found a way to celebrate. Creating something special for our community with Bonfire Magazine, I want to celebrate with each of you, but I also want to inspire you through sharing of great stories and uplifting takes on life.

i FoUnd mY Home.i FoUnd mY PUrPoSe. and i enjoY iT aLL!

the same. Purpose and routine seemed lost forever. I went years trying to find what’s next. Various friends and relationships came and went. I searched for new experiences to fill the void. Making it in New York City became my obsession. If I could make it there, I could make it anywhere. Now was the time. Nothing to hold me back. I had in some ways been set free.I soon realized that freedom was a state of mind, and not something anyone or anything can give you. It’s also not free. It comes at a cost. You pay for it with your heart and soul, so you better be sure you know what you want. I was just looking for that same happiness and assurance I once felt as a child. Could I find happiness back home in Hampton Roads? It didn’t seem like I would, but my heart was there. So I came back to it. Back down from chasing clouds and I started to plant roots. Or in some ways, nourish the roots I had deep down inside... from seeds that were planted and cared for by acommunity that defined me more than I ever recognized. This is my home. I live here. I will succeed here.

i FoUnd mY Home. I found my wife. I relentlessly pursued her for weeks at our local community college until she finally agreed to have coffee with me. We’ve been together ever since. We will celebrate 10 years of marriage next May. I found success. I have built a solid career. From operations management, human resources,

Norfolk. Not to mention, the large amount of teddy bears Martin would get with each stay. Guess who got to keep most of them? So life continued to be okay. Which in the scheme of things with all the stresses life threw at us, was pretty darn good. During this time, I found myself more of an introvert. I got into music, movies and all things creative. I didn’t care to go out much anymore. Maybe because I was too busy taking care of my brothers? Maybe because I knew my brothers couldn’t enjoy the same things that I would be able to? Or maybe because I no longer fit in with other teenagers? While they stressed about girls or who’s dating who, or sports, I stressed to make sure that my brother’s medication was given to him and that he’d been cleaned up after laying in bed all day... who knows? But I began to see the world differently. I began to write and create. During this time, I also began to wonder if there was more to life than just living here? Maybe I don’t fit in here? Maybe I should go elsewhere? Make a new life? Well, as much as I fantasized about such things, my reality kept me grounded. I was here to help my mother and my brothers. That was my life. Day in day out, no complaining, just taking care of those you love. It’s how my mother did it and how I will do it.

LiFe HaPPenS. I lost my brother Martin my senior year in high school. He had battled his final fight with pneumonia. Life had dramatically changed for all of us. Nothing was

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STrengTH I sit inside myself and sort out my thoughts. I look back at what made me and realize who I am. Where you come from and where you belong may seem far apart, but you can’t become anything more than a child unless you learn to let life’s lessons teach you the way...Nothing seems too uncertain now. I followed my path. A path set before me and handed down to me by God. And I follow through to the destiny I believe he gave me. Nothing is free... Nothing blessed can go unburdened. The tears we cry only add up in the barrels we’ll carry throughout our lives. It’s what makes us strong, builds up our endurance, and pushes us as far as it can. To bend the breaking point... So flexible it will become...

This is life. Nothing less. Lessons of misery to test us. There is no pass or fail. Only to live or die. Ultimately the choice is ours to make. But why survive for this long to let it break you now? Endure and conquer.

This is the way to heaven. No one comes unbeaten. We all have scars to show. But we will be healed. Yes, we will be healed. This is our destiny. The end of a road paved by fellow angels that bled for all our souls. From beginning to end, we’re following in line one after each other. Making it day by day. Never giving up... Never giving in to the madness. Exhale the air you once took in, and inhale once more with a new confidence.

Pain is for a reason that’s not always clear. But I stand here proud as I can be of who I am, and I realize I deserve to be proud...

Because God is good.-Del*

on Fire! LeaHmarie goTTLieB A self-proclaimed Social Entrepreneur, Leahmarie Gottlieb has been providing her talents to both corporate America and social causes for years. Receiving her B.A. in Sociology from Virginia Wesleyan College, Leahmarie embarked on a successful corporate career working for companies such as Union Camp Corporation, International Paper, and DaiEi International. Earlier this year, Leahmarie was named Publisher of Collide World Magazine. The magazine’s focus will serve an in-demand market for socially conscious business enthusiasts, also known as Social Entrepreneurs. The magazine’s content strategy will combine great business leadership with great philanthropic efforts- Providing dynamic coverage of both business leaders and everyday social activists making an impact in their fields and the world around them. “One day the earth was flat and the next it was round. One day I am this and that... And then one day I am a Publisher. I am profoundly humbled by the chance to provoke thoughts and conversation worthy of a new world and new reality... One that will collide the biggest hearts and biggest minds together to make a greater impact on the world.”

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on Fire! mike moriSi

How do you stay motivated? I wake up every day thankful for the blessings I have and make the best of every situation, every day. What’s the best advice you’ve been given? Never quit!How do you like to celebrate and have a great time? Concerts, dinner at some of my favorite local spots, and/or quiet nights at the beach. What makes you the happiest? Being with my family.How are you going to change the world? One person at a time... Mike is seen in our community as a motivator and a connector. He brings with him a wealth of experience in business, philanthropy and leadership. Always upbeat and assuring, Mike has never lost sight of what’s really important in life no matter how hard or unfair they seem at the time. “Serve others and have faith. That’s really all it’s about.”

successes. I give the glory to God and his grace for all of the blessings I have in my life.” Mike was born in Hawaii. His father was in the Navy and his family lived in Hampton Roads on and off for several years. They moved many times and lived all over the country, but always called Hampton Roads home. What do you love most about living in Hampton Roads? I love the diversity of the population, the amazing beaches and pride everyone has in their communities. It’s a large region, but a small town. What inspires you? Being given the opportunity to do something that inspires others and affords me the chance to give back. To lead people, learn what inspires them and provide it, empower them to feel confident and chase their goals and see them achieve them ~ that’s an awesome feeling.

If you haven’t heard the exciting news, Hampton Roads will soon be headquarters to a new airline named PEOPLExpress. Well maybe the name is not so new to those who flew in the eighties when PEOPLExpress was one of the largest domestic airlines offering passengers low fares and fun flight experiences. And now they are back and ready to take to the skies. Described as “annoyingly optimistic” by friends and family, Chief Operating Officer, Mike Morisi, believes he and his team can make flying fun again. “I have an amazing family and I am very blessed,” explains Mike. “My wife, Shannon, and I have four sons, Phillip (who passed away at age 25 last year), Collin (24), Dominic (7) and Daniel (4). I have also been blessed to have a spirit of entrepreneurship that has taken me on roads that were smooth and successful and some rocky ones as well. I have always kept a positive attitude that allows me to learn from failures and celebrate

PiLoTing HiS oWn coUrSe in LiFe & in THe SkY- making FLYing FUn again!

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on Fire! crYSTaL STUmP

Best advice you’ve received?You can lead a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink.Moment that changed your life for the better:Making the decision to be responsible for earning my own income using my own ideas, motivation, and skills from being a VA ABC Special Agent. Walking away from a secure career and stepping into what was for me the unknown of private business. It was extremely scary. But I am so blessed and thankful that I made the decision to start my own business. It is successful and I am very proud of what I have created.How do you like to celebrate?My favorite way to celebrate is sitting around a campfire in my backyard sharing great sparkling wines with friends. My favorite place to celebrate is at home.How are you going to change the world?One client at a time. I will continue to grow ABC Consulting, a woman owned business. I have plans to expand and have offices throughout Virginia in the near future. I am driven to make sure VA ABC licensees have the assistance they need to be successful in their own business! How can people connect with you?crystalstump.com crystal@abcconsultingva.com

drive to the coast. It’s perfect!” In 2009 she turned in her badge, gun, and police car in order to start her own consulting business, ABC Consulting. In operation for almost five years, ABC Consulting supports business owners with ABC licensing and requirements. Crystal created a very successful certification course called The Operational Alcohol Standards Training of Virginia (T.O.A.S.T. VA). The course is a Virginia state-certified program to educate alcohol sellers and servers on the Virginia Alcoholic Beverage Control (VA ABC) laws and regulations. With her vast experience and ability to relate to new business owners, her client base has grown substantially each year. And now, ABC Consulting serves clients in Northern Virginia, Hampton Roads, Richmond, and Central and Western Virginia.

in Her oWn WordS Cool accomplishments:I am an expert shooter from my academy class. I obtained a VA real estate license. I created a concierge business in 2009 which is still successful and in operation today. I imported and sold hand selected Balinese home furnishings from Indonesia. And my most recent accomplishment is learning advanced horsemanship.

Crystal Stump grew up “in a loving household in a beautiful rural town” in southwest Virginia, Tazewell County. And after a successful and active high school experience, Crystal went on to further her education at Bluefield College. It was during college that Crystal discovered a passion for law enforcement while working as a dispatcher for the town police department. In the spring of 2004, she graduated from the Southwest Law Enforcement Academy as well as Bluefield College with a degree in Criminal Justice and a minor in Psychology. After graduation, Crystal was quickly selected as a special agent for the Virginia Department of Alcoholic Beverage Control. After accepting the job, she moved to Richmond and into her first beautiful apartment, complete with tennis courts, racket ball, pool, spa and a gym. She thought she had won the lottery! “With an unmarked police car, benefits and great pay, it was a great job for a 22 year old!” It was only a few months later that Crystal met Brian, her firearms instructor and more importantly, her future husband. They relocated back to Hampton Roads and finally settled in what Crystal calls “her piece of Heaven on Earth”. “Smithfield has the land, the rural lifestyle, but its still within a short

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• 2013 Genero.tv Finalists for Bare Naked Ladies & Patrick Watson• 2012 International 48-Hour Film Project Grand Champion (Screening at the Cannes Film Festival)• 2012 Doritos “Crash the Superbowl” Semi-finalist• 2012 Veer Local Music Award Nomination for Best Music Video (D*Nik)• In Advertising – Jon has won gold and silver ADDY Awards (from the American Advertising Federation)What Inspires?The short answer is music, art, ideas, stories and people. Jon is drawn to people with drive, passion and potential. If he can help someone achieve their goals - then he is motivated to get them there. When he sees opportunities to make a difference or given a chance to send a powerful message - he is inspired to take action. Jon definitely has an inner drive to do better with each attempt, regardless of what he’s doing - and generally speaking, has high standards for himself and for the people around him.

culturally rich circle. They have two children whom Jon considers the most “chill” kids ever. Nova, the 2-year old will eat anything, and is currently singing the Muppets’ song “Manamana” on repeat. Epic, their newborn has unleashed her adorable smile to the world and Jon and his wife have officially fallen for her gaze and squeals of delight. When John and Teviya first transplanted themselves here from Toronto almost 10 years ago, they thought maybe they would hang around for a few years. “Now with a house and two kids, we have become somewhat established. Funny how that happens,” Jon explains. Originally from:Kansas City, Missouri - Shout out to the KC Royals!Occupation:Technically, Jon is a filmmaker and works in advertising, but he is gradually accepting the roles of entrepreneur, creative director and super cool dude. Accomplishments:Lately, Jon had a string of film-awards and recognition - including:• 2013 Canon Imaginat10n Project Finalist

A while ago, someone told Jon Abrahams that he was a quintessential Renaissance Man, and he thought that was just the greatest compliment of all time. Jon is a firm supporter of art, life, stories and friendships. Whether it’s through music, film making, photography, marketing or any kind of collaboration – Jon enjoys working with others and creating something amazing. He treasures the process of making it all happen just as much as reflecting on the finished product. Jon wouldn’t be who he is without his supportive wife and artistic equal Teviya. Together they manage and co-own Jpixx LLC. Jon and Teviya met in college in the coed FineArts Dorm and “have been inseparable for more than 13 years”. Jon’s primary focus is strategic video marketing and narrative filmmaking. He hopes to be able to eventually merge the two. “The plan is to push the creative envelope in advertising, while pursuing artistic endeavors on the side.” Jon states. Jon’s family is a mix of Chinese (immigrated from Taiwan) and the good ol’ Midwest (Kansas City). Teviya brings in a Jewish heritage and Jon’s new brother-in-law adds Indian to our

on Fire! jon aBraHamS FaTHer | direcTor | PHoTograPHer | WriTer | markeTer | enTrePreneUr | mUSician

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2013. Sidelines will offer locals an intimate and relaxed sports bar feel. Equipped with flat screen TVs throughout the place, Nick shared that he has a few more he will install before the opening.

join THe grand oPening: October 11, 2013 Sidelines Sports Theater Bar & Grille3497 Holland Road Virginia Beach, VA 23452

by Amber and his partners, they have been working non-stop to get the location opened. On this night, we caught them coming back from yet another out of town restaurant auction trip. Their spirits were high and optimistic of the amount of work they will need to put in over the next couple of weeks. “We will be pulling more overnights this week,” Nick says. The goal for the couple is to host a grand opening on October 11,

Bonfire would like to welcome Nick Ford and Amber Lofton to Hampton Roads. The newly engaged couple moved down from northern Virginia last month and quickly found their location for their new restaurant, Sidelines Sports Theater Bar & Grille. Nick, a former general manager for The Green Turtle in Northern Virginia decided to move down to Hampton Roads to create a new sports theater concept. Joined

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something different - growing primarily fruits and vegetables. Mike would be the fifth generation, and his two children and his nephews are the sixth. Mike says it was a leap of faith that led him to end his career with VDOT as an environmental engineer, and run the family business full time. He says God is a big part of that, as well as the support from his wife, Jane. “I first got out of college at NC State

what’s behind the produce and home grown goods that are all part of what locals have come to treasure. Cullipher Farm Market is now located on Princess Anne Road, in the Pungo area. But the business began six generations ago, in 1850, on a farm in the Ahoskie, North Carolina area. Mike tells me his ancestors originally farmed peanuts and cotton, until the 1920s, when his grandfather decided to do

Holly Henry/Cullipher Farm Market in Virginia Beach Virginia Beach, Va. - When you think about the food you eat, you may not know where it came from, how it was made, or what is in it. But if you were to meet the Cullipher family at their family farm - you would know all of that, and more. I sat down with Mike Cullipher at his family farmers market, and got an inside look at

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are either friends, or people who became friends with us. So that’s the best thing about us. It’s the people. We’re a big family.” From April through October, they work seven days a week - that’s pumpkin growing season. “The heat during the summer time gets oppressive after a while. The humidity, it’s just so hot - you have to keep working, you can’t stop. But this time of year, as my dad says it, you get your batteries charged up again. Like a day like today, it’s cool, it’s crisp, I don’t know how to describe it, but that smell in the air. You can tell fall is coming.” Mike’s father, Louis Cullipher, is the patriarch of the business. Mike talked a little about how his father grew up, as opposed to how things are changing. “When my father was little, they only got oranges about once a year. Part of his presents at Christmas time were apples and oranges

and there’s a little bit of coolness in the air. There’s just something about it.” Fourth, fifth, and sixth generation Culliphers currently operate the business. They grow more than 250 varieties of the highest quality fruits and vegetables, specializing in strawberries, sweet corn, and tomatoes. For example, a fall basket would include things like spaghetti squash, tomatoes, snap beans, turnip greens, and zestar apples.“Strawberries, tomatoes, sweet corn, blueberries, and blackberries; we pick those every day, or twice a day. You just can’t substitute that freshness. They haven’t been stored or shipped, or whatever. Honestly and truly for us, the difference is the people. We have a really great group of people that work with us. It’s 12 family members that work and we’ve got probably 10 people that

and went to VDOT in Suffolk, worked on the farm on weekends and after work.” In 2001, Mike resigned from VDOT, and began working full time at the farm. “My wife was the one who encouraged me to do it, she said everything will work out and will be fine.” Mike says that despite some hardships, he is thankful for all that he has been blessed with. “A lot of people shy away from God and religion and things like that, and I don’t preach to anybody - but I believe God and Jesus really looked out for us. You have hardships and troubles, some days you think, what else is going to go wrong? Why am I doing this? But they have always looked out for us. It’s a struggle, it’s tough sometimes, but like right now the sun is setting and you know the farm is away from the road - and you don’t hear the cars and the trucks. It’s just birds, and I tell my son the first two hours of the morning and the last two hours of the evening are the best out of the day, it’s very tranquil.” Though it’s hard work to have a thriving business, Mike and his family find peace in what they do. Mike’s favorite time of year is the fall - September and October. “It sounds kind of cornball, but it really gets your juices flowing. I mean, what can’t you love about right now? The pumpkin vines are starting to turn, and like the corn, they kind of turn brownish. And as the pumpkins get riper, the vines start to dry like the corn does and they have a smell as they’re drying, and I don’t know how to describe it, but you always smell that this time of year when it’s kind of crisp

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finally told her, “You need to go buy your watermelon some place else.” Mike also said kale has been a big hit. “There must be something about kale. In the last three or four months we have gotten a lot of questions about kale.” Mike and his family believe that perhaps more people are starting to incorporate wholesome, more simple ways of living into their daily routine - and it’s working for them. “We’ve found that a lot of times, instead of going out to eat, people will come here, and figure out a menu, buy what they wanted, and that was like their ‘going out to eat’. They would go back and fix a meal, and just enjoy an evening, a night together that way. We think that started out of necessity, maybe people didn’t have the money to go out to eat as much as they did before. Instead of people going to eat at restaurants, they will come and buy what they want here and fix it. But now even though the economy may be better, people are still doing that, and I don’t know if it’s because they really enjoy it that much or they’re trying to eat better, or they really care about supporting local and staying in the community - or maybe it’s a combination of all of the above - but I don’t think it’s just a trend, I don’t think it’s a fad. I think people are still continuing to do it.” Mike and his family are optimistic about the future as well. “My daughter who is 16, and her friends, talk about watching what you eat, things like eating grass fed beef, no antibiotics and no hormones in the meat and stuff like that - I see a bright future for us with the ability to grow. I think Virginia Beach is a great place to live with the water, and you’ve got

The Cullipher Farm Market Policy is that the customer has to be 100 percent satisfied with whatever they buy. But one customer gave him a laugh. “I remember a funny story. Our policy is you have to be 100 percent satisfied with whatever you buy. Well, if you buy tomatoes, go home and eat them all, then say they didn’t taste right, come back and tell us, we will give you your money back or we will give you as many tomatoes back as you paid for for free, no questions asked - we believe you. Well, we had a woman who ate the whole watermelon, brought the rind back, and said it was bad. And she did that four times. She would eat the whole thing and bring the rind back. Finally, the fifth time, I told her, I said, ‘Ma’am, I just don’t think we have a watermelon good enough for you.’ But she ate the whole thing, brought the rind back and told me it was bad four times in a row. I

- especially oranges. That’s what was in their stockings. It wasn’t Playstation cards and games and stuff like that. It was oranges and apples. We’ve become spoiled as a country, but I think a lot of people are paying more attention, and becoming more aware of getting back to the connection...you may be doing it for health reasons, it’s not just because doing the cool thing is buying strawberries from us - but, it’s eating better and that you’re healthier. That fruits and vegetables are really good for you, and it’s part of a lifestyle thing. People are paying more attention to being in shape and working out. A lot of our customers are vegetarians, and they’re into yoga. It’s the whole lifestyle - it’s not just, ‘I’m gonna go eat a strawberry.” Mike says he and his family will do anything for their customers. “We always try to accommodate the customers and make them happy.”

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Special thanks to the Cullipher Farms:Louis Cullipher, Mike Cullipher, Becky Cullipher, Pam Walsh, Kim Cullipher, Hunter Walsh, Reid Walsh, Jane Cullipher, Dillon Cullipher, Jeb Cullipher

paddleboarding, canoeing, and kayaking and things like that. Eating fresh fruits and vegetables goes with that lifestyle.” Mike and his family truly love what they do and there is no denying that love goes into every piece of produce that’s for sale. “My friends that farm, we all comment on the same thing: it’s not to make a million dollars, it’s not to see how many pounds of tomatoes you can sell or whatever, but just the feeling you get on a day like today. If you don’t enjoy a day like today, then something is wrong with you and you should do something different.”What is the best thing about running a family owned farmers market? “The reward that we get is from producing the crop, growing the crop. It’s not about how much crop we made this year. You know, you have to make a profit to stay in business, I mean that’s obvious. But that’s not what drives us. What we get out of it is that you plant a seed, watch it grow, harvest it, and come up here and sell it, and people appreciate it and they really enjoy it. And that’s what we do it for. It’s not to get rich, to have big houses, or take big vacations or anything like that. It’s the satisfaction that somebody came and really enjoyed what we grew. That when they took it home and cooked it and prepared it, that they really enjoyed it. So that’s what makes us feel good. That’s our payment, if you will.”

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kind noTeS Thank you to Navely at Plaza Azteca on Holland Road. We love dining there and being greeted by you. You always makes us feel welcomed and deliver great service with a smile. -Melissa Jones

I’d like to thank my neighbor for taking time each weekend to stop in and say hello to my elderly mother. My mother enjoys the company and I love seeing her interact with others besides our family. I can’t thank you enough, Connie. It means more than I can tell you. -Jason

A few years ago I decided to end my marriage of 16 years. This decision was one of the hardest I have ever had to make. I questioned every option. There seemed to be no other choice. I was alone for the 1st time and had to go out and try to make a life. In my early 20’s, I felt invisible, now I wasn’t so sure. A friend of mine from a previous job offered to take me to lunch one day. The conversation was a powerful one. The kind of conversation that two women who’ve been through a lot and needed to take charge of their lives could only have. I left the lunch feeling empowered and grateful for such a wonderful friend. We took the notes we wrote down during that lunch and started our own business together. We will celebrate 4 years next month. I couldn’t of done it without you, Stacey! -Your BBF and Co-Diva

Thank you mom for moving here close to me again. And being my very best friend. I know I’m older now, but I still need you in my life. Now more than ever. I love you. -Cassidy

I need to thank my wife. She never asked to be married to an entrepreneur... Or at least, she didn’t realize it until just a few years ago. I know I have made life a bit more challenging and at times uncertain. Your faith, love and support mean the world to me. -Del

THankS To aLL THe WonderFUL miLiTarY SerVice men and Women in HamPTon roadS. i THank YoU For aLL YoU do For US. YoU make oUr commUniTY ProUd. -PaTricia SmaLL

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and was a sister restaurant to Famous Uncle Al’s. Matt knew right away that he did not want to grill hot dogs all day long. He quickly admits there is nothing wrong with hot dogs, but he knew he could offer something unique and different. He wasn’t sure exactly of what he wanted the restaurant to be. He knew lunch, and possibly breakfast would be a great starting point. He worked tirelessly on a menu filled with great sandwiches, some salads and soups. While Matt and Melanie were starting to understand their culinary identity, they found out that they were expecting their first child. In 2010, they welcomed Charlotte into the world. Melanie worked right up until the day Charlotte was born on Sept 16. Matt recalls how rough the first couple of years were for he and Melanie. They were newly married with a newborn girl and money and time were as tight as ever. “The original menu, which included a variation of a couple items that are still on our menu, just wasn’t working. I felt like I was holding back on my menu a little bit in an effort to capture the business of the hot dog shop people,” Matt remembers. Over time, their restaurant, The Cutting Edge Cafe, had finally garnered enough good feedback on social dining sites to be recognized. Business seemed to pick up, but Matt still wasn’t satisfied. “I still wasn’t serving the food I wanted to serve,” he explains. It was at that time in January 2011 that Matt decided to scrap everything and basically start over. This was a risky move for an upcoming restaurant trying to make a name for itself and build a loyal customer base. Matt redid the menu and started working more and more with local vendors and farms. The change ignited something in him. Creativity was at an all-time high and Matt started having fun cooking again. He would just have to cross his fingers that people would like it. With each day, things started to gradually get busier and busier. After a year, Matt and Melanie felt it was time to start marketing their new culinary focus and menu to a hungry clientele also looking for a good deal.

Matt exudes tremendous pride for his time at The Grill. The restaurant has been around for 20 years and consistently wins Best of Chesapeake awards for burgers and breakfast. Matt’s favorite is the Philly Cheesesteak. “It’s as authentic as it gets and the best in the area hands down,” he boasts. After The Grill, Matt basically bounced around working at a few uninspired chain restaurants. When he started college in 2004 at Old Dominion University, he met Melanie. Matt’s roommate, Mary Ellen, made the introductions and they have been together ever since. The two became engaged at the end of 2007 and married in May 2009. “We decided to open the restaurant in Feb 2009 by chance. After seeing an ad in the newspaper reporting that a place was up for sale. It seemed like a great deal. With the help of some of the financial support from my folks in the beginning, Mel and I figured why not,” he says with a smile. “We kind of just jumped in head first and started working.” The place they bought was originally a hot dog shop called Perfectly Franks

When you walk into The Cutting Edge Cafe located in Sam’s Circle off of Greenbier Parkway at lunchtime, you are instantly hit with the aromas of food cooking on the grill and the sounds of plates hitting the counter ready to be served, you look around and, with relief, see the last remaining open table in the back. Who has created this experience? Owner/Chef Matt Hayes. Matt Hayes was born in Virginia Beach, but grew up in Chesapeake. The graduate of Hickory High School has always been drawn to the smells and sounds of the kitchen. He started working in the food industry when he was 15 years old. His first job was at a mom & pop breakfast/lunch place in Great Bridge called The Grill at Great Bridge, run by the husband and wife team of Gary and Anne Pyle. He describes the place as “really tiny with 4 small tables and a counter.” Matt worked for them for 3 years while in high school. Matt looked forward to helping Gary with day-to-day prep duties and other various tasks. “If you haven’t been there, you definitely need to give it a try,” suggests Matt. conT on Pg.75

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Makes about 3 quarts | Cooking time 45-60 minutes

ingredienTS• 2 ½ lbs (about 8 medium sized) sweet potatoes – peeled and diced• 1 carrot – peeled and diced• 2 ribs celery – diced• 1 medium yellow onion– diced• 3 leeks – chopped and washed of sand• 2 cloves garlic – chopped• 1 inch ginger root – peeled and minced• 2 inch strip orange peel• 1 Tbsp Madras Curry• 5 cinnamon sticks or ½ Tbsp ground cinnamon• ¼ cup Sherry or dry white wine• 2 quarts crab or shellfish stock• ½ quart water• ½ cup 35% cream• 1 lb fresh lump crabmeat• 1 Tbsp neutral oil such as canola or vegetable• Sea Salt• White Pepper (or black)

TiPS and noTeSChop all vegetables into a consistent size to ensure even cooking time. Chop leeks then submerge in cold water to quickly rinse away any sand. Any curry powder will suffice in this recipe as they all vary wildly, but I like the extra spice that Madras curry adds. If you have a favorite blend, then just use that. The crab can

be blue crab or red crab, even fake crab if your into that. You can use back fin, claw meat, lump, whatever, just keep in mind your desired final consistency. Back fin and claw will break up in the soup more, as lump will give you much larger sweet bites of crab.

inSTrUcTionS• In a large stock pot, heat oil over medium heat until hot. Add carrot, onion, celery, garlic, and ginger. Season with salt and pepper and sauté until the vegetables start to get soft and translucent, about 10 minutes.• Add sweet potatoes to the pot, along with the curry powder and cinnamon (if using ground cinnamon) and stir everything together for 2-3 minutes.• Add Sherry to deglaze pan then add your stock and water. • Bundle the cinnamon sticks and orange peel in cheesecloth, tie it off and add to the pot.• Bring to a boil then reduce to a simmer for 20-30 minutes, or until sweet potatoes are tender enough to mash with the back of a spoon.• Remove from heat and process in batches in a high speed blender (preferably Vita-mix) or with an immersion blender until smooth. Pass bisque through a fine mesh sieve or strainer lined with cheesecloth if needed and return to pot.• Over low heat, stir in cream and crab meat. Season with salt to taste.

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Community Manager for our area. “It’s a perfect way to help connect people with great local businesses.” When he’s not running around town putting on and enjoying local events, he spends time with his main love, his Puggle named Bogey. Speaking of love, let’s get back to his new relationship status. “It’s great,” he beamed. He explained how there was a time in his life where he was once very shy. Now he just owns it and realizes that ladies like a man who’s confident. We talked about the future and how not having a plan is a first in many ways for him. He explains that he is taking life one day at a time. “I’m just enjoying living my life. I’m not trying to plan too much. I just want to see where it takes me,” he explains. He sat there with a big smile and a calmness that not only exuded confidence, but also an assurance that this is the right time for him. And he is loving it! More about Xerxes- His loves: Golf, ethnic foods and trying new places to eat, cheesecake, cheese danishes, cheese fries, dogs, working out, kickball and occasionally, four hour naps on the weekend.Giving back: So many people have helped Xerxes along his life that he tries to dedicate as much time as possible to helping others. “I’ve been on the Leadership Board for the Hampton Roads Chapter of the American Diabetes Association for the last three years. Recently, five fellow gents and I started the Beach Ambassadors, a grassroots group putting effort in supporting Hampton Roads charitable organizations through community service projects and hosting social and sporting events. We recently raised $3,200 for both Seton Youth Shelters and For Kids through two beer events in August called the Battle of the Beers. We plan on growing the event each year and raising more funds for local organizations that can use the financial support.”

Quirky things about Xerxes: • I make my own shredded cheese. • I bounce at the gym to 80s music and/or Bieber. “Oh the fever” • Working for Yelp really fits into my lifestyle. I essentially eat, drink,

Xerxes raved about his new girlfriend and how they met. Sky Bar strikes again... it appears! We managed to put away two and a half plates of Indian goodness. Our plates were dominated with some of our favorites like Karara Murg, Palak Kulcha, Naan and Onion Chutney and the finishing touch was two bowls of Keer. (We’d love to go into detail about each of these dishes, but we recommend you try them for yourselves.) His family is originally from the Philippines. His father joined the Navy in 1977 and the family currently resides in Virginia Beach. He graduated from Old Dominion University with a business degree in management,marketing and finance. He is a certified Financial Planner and owns Virginia Financial Planning and The Virginia Health Insurance Group. Along with running his successful business, Xerxes took on the task of Yelp

Bonfire Magazine recently caught up with great friend and community ambassador, Xerxes Nabong. If you don’t know him, you have most likely run into him at various restaurants and bars around town. As the Hampton Roads Yelp Community Manager, you may have even communicated with him on various businesses you find of interest. On this day, we received a quick text from him saying “Lunch today at noon?” We quickly decided that we would meet at Nawab Indian Cuisine on 1st Colonial in Virginia Beach. The Indian restaurant is a favorite of Xerxes for business lunches. “I love spicy ethnic food, so Nawab is perfect. I welcome my lunch guests to try new things. Nawab’s delicious lunch buffet is both cost effective and perfect for folks that don’t know what they like.” Most of the lunch was used to catch up. His new relationship status dominated a large portion of the lunch.

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three years. I play golf from sunrise to sunset receiving donations for every hole I play. Each year I’ve raised over $3,000 for the ADA with my record playing 203 holes in a single day last year.What inspires you?The pursuit of happiness. I try my best to keep a smile on my face and laugh as much as possible. Life tends to be A LOT better when you have a positive outlook on things. We simply have to play the cards we’re dealt so I make the best of it.How do you stay motivated?I surround myself with people who are more successful than me. It always helps to see success around you. Quite frankly though, you can learn from anyone. Lately, it’s the happy go lucky people that motivate me to always stay positive.What’s the best advice you’ve been given?Tiger Woods told me while giving me a golf lesson in 2000. “Practice, work hard and stay focused.” I believe those words will help you with anything in life.

shop, play and throw awesome parties and I get paid to do it. • Recent addict to Candy Crush and Vine. • I am absolutely terrible at karaoke, line dance with two left feet and require the use of a fork to eat sushi.What do you love most about living in Hampton Roads? The water. We have inlets, bays and beaches. It’s a peaceful place to be and we have so many options throughout the 757. There’s nothing like seeing the sun set or the reflection of the moon on water. Hampton Roads is home. I love the hustle of big cities like San Francisco, Chicago and NYC. Sure, big cities, nonstop living and the hustle all appeal to me. I’d love to just get up and move but I think I’ve come to the conclusion that Hampton Roads will be my rock and I’ll just travel often. Accomplishments: Financial Advisor for Ameriprise Financial. 2009 Inside Business’ Top 40 Under 40. In regards to giving back, I’ve done a golfathon for diabetes fundraiser over the last

Tell us about a moment that changed your life for the better? My sister called me months ago and told me she was pregnant. Hearing the excitement from her and her husband made me realize that life is better when sharing it with others. So now I look forward to the day I get married and having a family.How do you like to celebrate?Life is one big celebration, right? Let’s break some bread together and throw down at Skybar.What makes you the happiest? Music. It’s where I can really find myself. I’m lost in the moment without a care in the world simply enjoying peace. This could be while I’m driving or working out. I get to reflect on what’s going on in my life and put pieces together. It’s my “quiet” time away from the world and when I find to be the happiest.How would others describe you? Workaholic. Never sleeps. Nonstop. How does he do it? People that follow my Facebook tell me that I live the life of celebrity. That’s just how I roll.

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Matthew Cox, better known as “Matty Cox” Republic National Distributing Company On-Premise Sales Rep/ Tidewater Area and Williamsburg

In a market flooded with new and exciting flavors, the consumer in my opinion has lost touch with the cocktails that best express the taste, history and dedication that goes into distilling a particular spirit, in this case bourbon whiskey. As I have noticed, these hand crafted cocktails are embraced by Bourbon and Whiskey drinkers who truly enjoy the Spirit. The Old Fashioned is a cocktail for the true bourbon and whiskey lover.

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oLd FaSHionedBernheim Wheat Whiskey Larceny Purist ingredients • 2-3 ounces “slugs” of bourbon • 1-2 cubes of sugar • 3 dashes Angostura bitters • Rocks glass • Ice • Lemon or orange peel

Non-Purist includes a maraschino cherry and one orange slice

Featured in the photo at the barFour Bourbons from Heaven Hill Distilleries Inc. • American Whiskey Collection • Elijah Craig 12 Year Small Batch • Evan Williams Single Barrel 10 Year • Bernheim Wheat Whiskey Larceny (8 Year Small Batch)

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Become a LocaL LiFe enTHUSiaST“LiFe iS WHaT HaPPenS WHiLe YoU are BUSY making oTHer PLanS.” - joHn Lennon

permission. Ride a bike around the neighborhood. Pick up a game of soccer. Go for a long walk.3. Drive and see. You probably see the same roads everyday. Switch it up. Pick a great city to explore (like Poquoson, ever heard of it?). There are some beautiful homes and land out there. Go see it.4. Eat. We have some fantastic local restaurants. Here’s an idea. Go more than 5 miles for dinner next weekend. Try something new in an area you aren’t familiar with like maybe Passion The Restaurant in Chesapeake or Vintage Tavern in Suffolk.5. Enjoy. Art, festivals, plays, music concerts. Let’s get real– we have a ton of opportunities to enjoy such great things in life. Get over the parking issues. Take the Tide Light Rail!6.Think local. And we mean shop local! Be aware of the local retailers in our market. They come with unique contributions to our community. Support them!

we interrupt your life plans to remind you to actually live your life. Many of us need to wake up to this conclusion. Many of us realize this when life makes the choice for us. After we experience the loss of a loved one, a diagnosis of bad health, the loss of a job, a bad relationship ends and so on and so on... We need to be reminded that life is worth enjoying. If you’ve ever said the following statement, then these 10 tips are for you.

“I wake up, go to work, come home, eat and wake up and do it all over again.”

1. Take some time for yourself. If you’re a person always on the rush, take a moment to do nothing. That’s right. Living life can also include doing nothing! Give yourself a rest. You just might appreciate doing the rest of this list more.2. Go outside. Play. It’s OK. You have

7. Find a reason to laugh. Life can be way too serious if we let it. Do something that makes a fool of yourself. Take comedy classes at The Funny Bone. Scare yourself silly at Hunt Club’s Haunted Hayride! Do karaoke (yes we went there)!8. Support our troops! We are a military family. Support our men and women whenever an opportunity arises. Celebrate a homecoming with a sign of support and appreciation. October hosts our Navy’s Fleet Week. What are you doing to celebrate it?9. Give back. Giving back is taking care of our community- our neighbors, our co-workers, our family members. There are a host of various ways to give time, money and support to local charities.10. Wake up and do it all again. This is life! Enjoy it!

Honorable mention- Get a dog! Life in Hampton Roads is so much better with a dog!

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But thErE’s a rainBow aBovE youYoU BeTTer LeT SomeBodY LoVe YoU, BEforE it’s too LatE

All throughout my life, I’ve heard countless mentions of how important it is to love others. But what I’ve recently realized is that there is something just as important as loving others. And that is to let others love you.

Love can be a risky endeavor. Why? Because there is no guarantee that the one you love will love you back. There is always a risk of getting hurt, possibly even scarred for life. So after having been in a variety of relationships, be it personal or professional, that hurt me, I smartened up. I decided that I will become independent. That I will no longer let others hurt me.

But for the past few years, I’ve been pursuing an idea. An idea that I strongly believed in. And around the 3rd year mark of pursuing the idea, I went online and told the world what the idea was, and how strongly I believed in it.

And the world answered. Positively.And I panicked.

All of a sudden, I felt a sense of tremendous burden. I began to ask myself what it was that I had gotten myself into. How I was to answer to their expectations? What would happen if I were to fail them?

But then it occurred to me. This was not a burden. It was love. It was an indicator that I was not alone. That I was part of a larger community of people who believed in the idea.

As the saying goes, if one sincerely wishes to see a change in the world, one must start with being that change. But, just as important as being that change, is that when others approach you with love, you receive them with your whole heart. You open yourself up to be loved.

In the past, whatever it is I did, I thought I had to do it alone. Involving others in my own beliefs felt selfish, and weak, But it turns out, when there is sharing of ideas, letting others love you is not selfish, it’s not about boosting your ego, it is about letting go of your ego such that you can do what is right. It is to put the idea above yourself, your own desires to not be a burden, or to be strong. If anything is the ego, it is what is holding yourself back from being loved.

Is there a chance that I’ll be hurt in this process? Of course. But for some reason, I am no longer worried. For some reason, I simply want to do a better job, to be stronger.

And that, to me, is the power of letting others love you.

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Tough Mudder, The Nations Triathlon and The Rock N Roll & Shamrock Half Marathon. Her love of fitness and helping others is what drove her to pursue personal training. She has received her CrossFit Level 1 Trainer Certification and USAW Level 1 Sports Performance Coach Certification. “I love constantly learning and challenging myself and my clients.” Amanda loves that her job gives her the ability to change a client’s outlook on exercise and life. “There’s nothing better than to see confidence instilled into a person as they start seeing results,” she says with a smile as people start showing up for her monday classes. Amanda acknowledges that change does not come without challenge, and

Amanda Cabrera sure knows how to motivate locals to get fit and fuel them to live a healthy lifestyle. She’s been doing it as a certified personal trainer for more than 8 years. With her blonde hair pulled back into a tight ponytail, she powers through her workouts with little to no room for excuses. There are no excuses for herself and those that walk into her training sessions. Amanda believes being fit is a lifestyle. She started Trainers On Call, LLC to eliminate any excuse that would keep you from reaching your fitness goals. Young and ambitious, she changed the perception of strength fitness training being just a guys only world. Amanda has always been active and has completed numerous races such as The

meeT Her aT THe Barshe is always honored to have played a small part in the lives that have been impacted by Trainers On Call. Trainers On Call offers programs for every level of fitness – beginners to advance. They offer Olympic Lifting, F.I.T. Classes, Sports and Conditioning Camps, Personal Training, Group Training, Corporate F.I.T. Classes, Bridal Boot Camps, Beach F.I.T. Classes, Online Training, Nutritional Counseling, In-home Training, and more! Trainers On Call also provides personal training out of Anytime Fitness Oceanfront & Holland Rd and the Pivot Center in Norfolk. No matter what the goal, Amanda and her team will help you reach it!

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While training with Trainers On Call fitness coaches, clients gain insight into the 3 key areas of fitness: nutrition, cardiovascular endurance and strength training. Clients learn the tools they will need to get results, and hopefully keep them. Amanda believes in strengthening the body, mind and soul. Her workouts will challenge clients and push them out of their comfort zone. Her and her team train clients to be mentally and physically tough. Plans for life coaching will be available in the near future. Over the years, Trainers On Call has trained all types of clients, from athletes to people that have never stepped foot in the gym. Amanda and her team believe whether you are just starting your fitness journey, or if you have been working out for years, Trainers On Call can help take your training to the next level. Bonfire is excited to celebrate Amanda’s success. She has been a shining example of beauty and strength beyond just her role in our community as a fitness trainer. She is actively involved in her local church and is a huge supporter of our military service members and their families. She can be found supporting several local causes and lending her support and knowledge to those in need.

Amanda looks forward to helping locals start a transformation today!

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Grateful does not begin to describe how Chanel Foxworth feels. “I’ve been very blessed to have a wonderful and creative family in my life. Their diverse talents have all inspired me.”

Chanel Foxworth, a successful model and jewelry maker, comes from a very creative family. Chanel’s father has an industrial engineering background, and her mother was very artistic. Her mother has an English degree and played the Oboe. Chanel’s brother is a highly successful hair stylist. He has a degree in Sound Engineering, plays guitar and DJ’s a local show on the side. Her paternal grandmother was a very elegant, regal woman. “She gave me my first Vogue when I was five years old. I’ve been reading Vogue, cover to cover, every month since then,” she tell us. That is where Chanel’s interest in fashion, jewelry, design and art began. She started modeling around age eleven. Modeling offered Chanel wonderful opportunities to travel, learn etiquette, meet and work with very talented people, and develop proper networking and social skills that have served her well her whole life. She also had the opportunity to travel with her parents to beautiful places like France, Thailand, the Philippines, and all over the United States.

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Every morning Bonfire Editor, Ben Doyle, says he wakes up excited and ready to conquer his day. “A new day for me, means another chance to live it well,” he explained in between light changes during a photo shoot for Bonfire. “My life is full of wonderful blessings and amazing opportunities.” The Bonfire team had congregated at Ben’s house on an early Sunday morning. Ben was in his usual positive and easy-going spirit. The morning temperatures were the lowest of the month yet,and Ben was anxiously awaiting to jump into his backyard pool for the shoot. “I’m a surfer, so I’m used to cold waters.” As the photo shoot went on, and Ben had a chance to relax his camera-perfect smile, he shared with us his outlook on life. “Wake up and love life everyday,” he told us. Ben admits he used to think life was about the “big” things – living to the fullest by having the nicest things and traveling to the furthest locations. He soon realized even nice things and tripsweren’t enough. “I can remember some mornings where I would wake up with a void in my life that was unsettling. Don’t get me wrong, I still enjoy some of these nice things, but I’ve learned to lower the importance of them in my heart.” “The word “more” began to really play into my head,” he told us. Ben decided he wanted more of what truly made him happy. Spending time with family, trying new things and pushing his physical limits were all at the top of his list. “I became passionate with the “more” in life in a new way. Almost as if I couldn’t settle on less. I knew I wasn’t going to have a life less than the most it can be.” “I wake up and think about all the possibilities my day can offer,” he says while drinking his morning coffee from his favorite monkey cup. It’s a perfect compliment to the seriousness in hisvoice and his playful nature as he awaits the next photo set up. For Ben, family means everything. He explains his core happiness in life has always been found in his two sons, Jasper (12) and Kaleb (8). “They are my best buds. I can’t wait to spend time with them. I try to set an example for them that life is too short. I always tell them our time together is the best life can offer. We create memories we will have

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for a lifetime. We can take the smallest window of time and come away with laughs and great memories. I never say no to an opportunity to kick the soccer ball with them, to throw the lax ball, to throw a football, to shoot basketball, to snowboard, to surf, to do homework or study for a test - you name it - we do it- you never know when that opportunity will go away.” Ben believes, “ if we learn to say “yes” more, we open our lives up for more experiences. We fill our days with experiences that soon will be reflected in our memories and will fuel our hearts. It’s a winning combination, if you ask me.” “Even as my boys are growing up, we discuss and value the importance of family time in a way that money cannot buy. That was something that my parents always gave to me and my siblings,and I appreciate and understand more and more with each passing day.” “Today, I am still living life to the fullest, but in a new way. I do not wake up with that void or that unsettling feeling that I once felt. Many days begin just out back by the pool having coffeeand breakfast with the boys just soaking in what we appreciate in life and reflecting upon the day before and the day ahead. Other mornings with a view of the sunset on the beach while runningor just walking with the family dog, TJ.So my “more” in life really is nothing more than saying “yes” to experiencing the most life offers. Yes, I want to participate in that triathlon next weekend. Yes, I will take my boys surfing this evening. Yes, we can have a family movie night. Yes, I will meet a friend for lunch and catch up during a busy work week. Yes, I will take on a new magazine. Yes. Yes. It’s that simple. By saying yes more, I have much more love for life than I ever imagined. It’s pretty great. I hope to never stop saying it.

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their inner happiness. Yogis claim to be happier than most people due to their daily practice of meditation. Runners run daily to achieve that “runners high” which is the surge of adrenaline and endorphins that put you in a blissful state to help you go farther and run harder. When I think back at what has made me happy this past week, the only thing I can remember that may have possibly made me happy is the pint of rocky road ice cream I ate in one sitting and cashing my paycheck at Town Bank because it meant I would not be late on paying two of my credit card bills this month. Obviously, I may need to

There are a million quotes regarding “Happiness”. As I’m writing about this, I’ve already misspelled the word 3 times – hapiness, - hapinness, and – happyness. (Thank goodness for Editors.) As defined on-line in Wikipedia (because who the hell uses a dictionary anymore) happiness is defined as “a mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.” Considering I could not even spell the word on the first attempt, I’m curious… “How easy is it to be happy?” Buddhist Monks teach how one should cultivate

research this a bit more to find out what my happiness should be. Being a career minded, single woman in these times does not make it easy in the search for happiness. It takes energy, focus and a strong will to get up every day and have the determination to be happy all day long. I think many must start their morning the same way I do, ready to take charge of the day with a non-fat-soy-cappuccino-mocha-latte-no whip, venti, half-calf coffee drink. But, as soon as that first car cuts you off while you’re in traffic on your commute to work or you realize you may have forgotten to lock the front door of your

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of our life, whether we feel happy or sad or indifferent, then maybe, just maybe more of the happy moments and happy feelings would stand out more and last longer. So what makes me happy? Hmmmmm….. C’mon….think, think, think. If there is an “art to being happy”, then I believe each person should paint their own canvas. The color of the foliage in the fall when walking through First Landing State Park. My boss telling me “good job” even though what I did was a piece of cake. A fun first date with a cute guy I met at the ECSC. My mother cooking my favorite meal when I visit. Sipping margaritas with good friends on the patio of Garrison’s Bar & Grill. Laughing so hard your sides literally ache. My cat smiling at me and purring loudly. Working out with my best friend at Anytime Fitness. Shopping at Clothes Mentor with my BFF and finding great deals on clothes.Making new friends and reconnecting with old friends while sitting around a bonfire…

house (and will now have to obsess about that all day) – you’re screwed. Pharmaceutical Corporations and home shopping channels love that fact that a large percentage of the population is so unhappy. We spend millions of dollars and thousands of hours trying to find something or someone that will make us happy, even if it’s just a temporary fix. I purchased a pair of shoes on-line this past week. When I received the package and tried them on, they hurt my feet. They didn’t even look like what I saw on my laptop screen when I bought them. They turned out to be a terrible pasty orange color. I was happy when I bought them and then not so happy when I finally had them. So what did I do? I decided to take my daily dose of prescribed Wellbutrin because that is what my doctor said would help me be happy. Really, do I really need this stuff??? So, why are we so obsessed with being happy??? If we could just relax and be appreciative of each and every moment

Maybe being happy is easy after all! Well, I’ve decided that what should make me happy is ME! Happiness is a conscience decision. So instead of being frustrated over traffic on I-264, I can be happy knowing that I have more time to listen to my favorite songs playing on 94.9 The Point. Instead of feeling broke all the time, I should be happy that I can at least afford to buy a box of donuts and bring it into the office for my co-workers. I can be grateful for the fact that I have a car to drive and a home to come home to. CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY. You can choose to be sad, angry or hurt about someone or something but CHOOSE HAPPY. Laugh as hard as you can. Smile or at least fake it until it starts to happen naturally. Find out what makes you happy and do more of it. Stop complaining. Do not let anyone else be responsible for your happiness. Let go of the things that are out of your control. Celebrate life and practice being happy every day until you get it right!

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Opposite Page: The marriage of Alexis Ann Holland to Dr. Charles Holland Rawls, III took place on September 14, 2013 at the Cavalier on the Hill in Virginia Beach. Dr. Stephen N. Jolly officiated.

Top Left: Grayson Kellam Siver and John Richard Siver II reaffirmed their wedding vows last May. Their ceremony, which included their son, Jack, and the lively celebration that followed took place at the Cavalier Golf and Yacht Club.

Top Right: Sarah Elizabeth Rhodes and Gregory Nye Creech are planning for a Spring 2014 wedding.

Bottom Left: Melanie and Robert Maroon were officially married 3/13/13 in Ponte Vedra, Florida. The celebration party was held in Virginia Beach on July 6, 2013 at First Landing State Park.

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SeLecTing a Wedding giFT When you are choosing a gift for a couple to be married, you will certainly want to select something that reflects their taste and needs as a couple. A good starting point is always the wedding registry. The best gifts, however, are the ones that also reflect the guest’s taste and closeness of the relationship with either the bride, groom or both. If your niece is the bride and you took her to the beach on summer afternoons when she was a child, why not select something that reminds her of those special times together? If the gift choices don’t quite work, try a shell tied into the bow of the wrapping and include a personal line in the enclosure card. Many couples appreciate those personal touches and will love the memory that is elicited every time they use your gift in their home.

HeLPFUL TiPS • Registries are helpful because the couple has already selected what they like and need. They are not mandatory, however. If you find something unique and complimentary to what they have \ registered for, you should feel good about giving it. • Be as generous as your budget allows, but don’t spend more than you are comfortable with. • The general rule for wedding gifts is that they may be purchased for up to one year after the wedding. However, purchasing a gift before the wedding, or very soon after, means you will have many more options to choose from the registry. Therefore, you won’t be selecting from limited choices or searching for hours for something from the registry that you hope they will like.

Finally, for your sake and the couple’s sake, please send the gift directly to their home rather than bringing it to the reception. Some local businesses provide a complimentary or low cost delivery service to a designated home prior to the wedding. You will also enjoy having your hands free and lower any risk of damage or even theft of gifts brought to the reception.

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Wine enTHUSiaST 3. Must be humid 4. Must be dark 5. Keep still and on its side Make sure you keep things consistent. It’s more important than being exact. Keep the temperature between 45-55 degrees Fahrenheit to keep wine from aging too quickly. Humidity levels between 60-70% keep moisture inside the bottle. Too low of a humidity will cause evaporation through the cork and too high can cause micro-organisms to grow causing your wine to spoil. Keeping wine in the dark keeps light from affecting flavor. Most bottles offer UV protection, but why risk it? Vibrations and movement of the wine bottle negatively affects wine

People are finding more reasons to celebrate with a good bottle of wine. According to the 2012 Wine Market Council Research, wine drinkers double those who drink beer/spirits and 25% of adults are core wine drinkers- meaning they drink wine regularly. With the growth of consumption comes an increased desire to collect fine wines.

No longer is wine collecting a luxury only the richest can afford. For those looking to collect, it is important to store wine properly so you can enjoy it at its peak flavor. When storing wine, there are five important things to remember: 1. Consistent environment 2. Must stay cool

quality and should therefore be avoided. And keeping wine on it’s side allows the cork to stay moist and not dry out. A dried out cork can shrivel and allow oxygen into the bottle, causing spoilage.

A popular alternative to home storage is off site cellars where these conditions can be guaranteed. They have the capabilities to ensure conditions are maximized for storage and remain consistent. There is nothing worse, after all, than opening a bottle of wine only to realize your investment has spoiled before you had a chance to enjoy it.

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On a perfect Sunday evening, we met up with Gloria Hill, for some fun shopping and dining at Peninsula Town Center. Gloria proudly serves in the Navy and looked forward to coming over to this side of the water to have some fun and to check out a few local businesses. “I enjoy coming over here. After a week of working, it’s nice to leave Virginia Beach and spend time walking around and shopping at The Town Center,” she said while walking along with our photographers. Gloria loves many of the name brand stores offered at Peninsula Town Center, but she also loves that there are many locally-owned businesses there as well. Among retail giants like, Macy’s, Express, Hollister, Victoria’s Secret and Teavana, she found herself indulging in great local businesses like Animare Aveda Salon & Spa operated by Gretchen Arnt and her husband, Ethereal Cupcakes owned by Loranzo Whitfield and the Gallery at the Chapman which features local artists. “The wonderful staff at Ethereal Cupcakes are very special. They really love their jobs. Their service is phenomenal. I instantly felt welcomed by each of the workers. Loranzo has a great team there. The cupcakes were absolutely the icing on the cake! I didn’t want to leave.” Gloria’s shopping day was made perfect with an amazing sunset. She would continue to shop and enjoy herself as the street lights began to hint that nighttime was upon us. As she walked through several picturesque walkways, she stopped in for a quick drink at Monsoon Indian Cuisine. There she met up with Pra Shant who quickly greeted her and made her a fabulous cocktail. “A girl’s got to have a sip of something after all this shopping,” she told us. Pretty soon Gloria’s phone began to vibrate with messages of friends that were near by. She had previously posted on Facebook of her location. She agreed to meet up with them at Bar Louie- a perfect spot for friends to gather and have a few drinks. She was ready to call it quits on shopping and was ready to relax with some friends. But first, she had to change into her new pink dress she had picked up earlier. She wasn’t about to look like she had been shopping all day.

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much more exclusive with who they worked with.” But Matt was confident that as long as he could get people to try the food, he would quickly make them repeat customers. Matt and Melanie also continued to use social media sites like Facebook and were also consistently getting great reviews on Yelp and Urbanspoon. “People were hearing about The Cutting Edge Café and giving the new menu a try.” Matt recalls the craziness of the Summer of 2011. The busy days quickly turned into busy weeks, which then turned into busy months. The new focus was paying off. “And things haven’t slowed down a bit”, said Matt with a smile. This new focus relied heavily on keeping the food fresh, which meant putting a lot of time and effort into each new recipe. Matt worked with new local farmers to develop different and interesting flavors and dishes. At the same time, he also focused on balancing time with his daughter, Charlotte, as well as keeping the workload from burning him out. “I like to have my hands on everything in the kitchen at all times,” admits Matt. “So I know there are definitely some control and delegation issues that will need to be addressed as the business grows. Its all part of growing a successful business.” But The Cutting Edge is more than just a business. It is more than a culinary playground for his creativity. It can also make an impact. Whether by serving on the Buy Local Hampton Roads Board or providing a pick up point for CSA’s (Community Supported Agriculture), Matt believes it is all worth it. Getting to know the local suppliers, farmers and other local chefs are all very important to Matt. “I firmly believe that hard work pays off, especially if you are doing what you love. I cook the food that I like to eat. “It’s all a delicate balancing act, really. Balancing time, balancing new ideas in a way that works with our business model – fast, relatively

on Fire! joHn aBraHamconT From Pg.29Moment that changed my life? Jon mentions two.1.) Somewhat cliche, but the birth of Jon’s first child really put some things in perspective for him. Not only did it bring him and his wife closer together, it helped him become less selfish and more attentive to the relationships around him.2.) Winning and placing in several film festivals / contests, capped by the 48-Hour Film Project International Win and subsequent trip to the Cannes Film Festival - really clarified the fact that he possesses something special and should be devoting more of his time into his passion (storytelling) on a grander scale.How I celebrate?Jon likes to find reasons to celebrate. The Royals win! It’s Nova’s 28th month birthday! First day of Autumn! Jon likes to celebrate with people, and for him, just sharing a drink, a meal or a laugh will suffice. We all need to celebrate the world around us more.Others describe me?Tough to answer for oneself, but Jon would be flattered if he were described as a leader, creative, a family man, an artist and an innovator.Change the world?More than likely video, advertising and technology will evolve so rapidly in the next few years that Jon can’t even envision how it will happen - but he dreams of making a string of powerful multimedia pieces (paid by a financier) to bring to light common human elements that resonates with the masses and causes them to act for the betterment of humankind. “Ambitious?” Jon asks with a smile. Find out more about Jpixx and see Jon’s award winning work at Jpixx.com.

FreSH cHeFconT From Pg.41 “Remember when Groupon first came out?” said Matt. “They were

inexpensive, seasonal and exceptionally delicious,” says Matt. The Cutting Edge has been open for almost five years. Matt believes that he and Melanie got where they are today through hard work, a love of the industry and a love of food in general. “I don’t have the most impressive lineage as far as chefs go,” he admits. “I haven’t had any type of formal culinary training. I just believe that cooking is an art, and like any other art, if it’s driven by passion, then the passion is what will be expressed. I have a passion for cooking and I think it shows in our food. And I am excited for the opportunity to share my passion with the world.”

XerXeS naBongconT From Pg.45How are you going to change the world?I’ll help others see things optimistically. Life is too short to stress over things. What’s that saying? YOLO? “You only live once.” I dig it. Live every day like it’s your last. Never go to sleep angry at someone. Remind others that you truly care about them and value them as people and for who they are. It’s those simple things that don’t necessarily change the world but that can change someone’s world. It’s a collective ongoing effort... How can people connect with you? Facebook Page | Twitter | Business EmailSeveral ways. • I’m on Facebook and I’m pretty sure no one else has my name. • Twitter: @xerxesnabong and @yelp757hrva • Instagram: @xerxesnabong • about.me/xerxesnabong • xerxesnabong.yelp.com • xerxesnabong@gmail.com

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inspiration from a variety of sources; architecture, buildings, hardware, traveling, foreign countries, other cultures, and my own personal style. The items I use in my products are composed of either repurposed, recycled, or vintage materials

SeUng cHan LimconT From Pg.50 Seung Chan Lim, author of Realizing Empathy: An Inquiry Into the Art of Making was first brought to the attention of Bonfire Publisher, Del Scheitler earlier in the year. Seung (Slim as his friends call him) had just published his first book after a very successful Kickstarter campaign. After visiting the website and watching Slim’s videos, Del knew he would be working with him. Joined by powered advocate and a Kickstarter backer for Realizing Empathy, Leahmarie Gottlieb, Slim has joined forces on Collide World Magazine. “I am very blessed to have Slim in my life. he has instantly become family. His message is powerful and touching and making an impact on those that receive it.” -DelRealizingEmpathy.com

cHaneL FoXWorTHconT From Pg.57 Since college, Chanel had been working in the financial services industry. Looking for a new challenge and a break from a few hardships that had occurred back to back (including an apartment fire), she headed back home to Indiana for few weeks. While there, Chanel ran an errand to the local hardware store. Wandering around—looking at all the bolts, nuts, screws, couplings, adapters and such—it dawned on her that she might be able to make something pretty rad with some hardware materials. “I filled my cart with all the things I thought would be useful and that’s how it began,” she explains. Chanel, a lover of fashion and art, would find her new passion as a jewelry maker. She had zero experience making jewelry, but found it was fun playing around with different techniques and doing research to educate herself. “Ideas come to me daily for new things to design and make. I’ve drawn

combined with leather, and other items as I see fit.” She began creating her business, Ms.Foxworth, at the beginning of 2013. “This is what I love. This is my passion.” This is who I am. Modify. Make. Build.

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