Building Self-esteem and Confidence

Jayne Bakewell

Objectives

To consider the factors which contribute to self esteem and confidence

To enhance awareness of personal strengths and build confidence

To practise presenting a positive image

Self –confidence exercise

Individually, fill in the sheet giving examples of 2 situations in which you feel confident and 2 situations in which you would like to feel more self-confident.

Working in pairs, reveal one of each to each other.

The Chain Reaction

High self esteem self confidence personal effectiveness employability

Self esteem/inner confidence

Self love

- be your own cheerleader

- reverse negative thoughts e.g.

“I am weak” ”I can be strong if I try”

“I am powerless” “ I can take control”

“Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent” Eleanor Roosevelt

Self esteem/inner confidence

Self awareness

Clear goals

Positive thinking

Outer Confidence

Effective communication

Assertiveness

Positive (and realistic) self presentation

Sound emotional control

Practical tips for building self confidence

Learn to take compliments graciously

Give up “toxic worrying” }

} SUMO Let any guilt go }

Never go to “if only……..” land

Practical tips for building self confidence

Always ask for help

Find a mentor

Set your goals

Do something outside your comfort zone

Practical tips for building self confidence

Convince yourself that it’s OK to make mistakes

Take responsibility for your own successes and failures

Be determined

Practical tips for building self confidence

Be self-reflective

Be relaxed

Confidence in skills

Knowing your strengths and weaknesses is important

Valuing your skills is also important

Skills rating exercise

Individually, rate yourself on each skill listed in the sheet

Working in pairs(3s) choose one skill area that you have identified as a high rating

Working with your partner “BOAST” about your high-rated skill to your partner, giving an example to evidence the skill.

Skill rating exercise

Whole group – present this skill to the whole group

Presenting a positive image

Dress – appropriate Body language Language Preparation Punctuality

First impressions are created by:

What people see 55%

What people hear 38%

The words they use 7%

Summary

We can build our self confidence by making sure we:

- know and value our strengths

- are “comfortable in our own skins”

- know where we’re going

- recognise failure as a learning opportunity

- practise using positive language

Summary

Positive language is important in all professional situations – writing applications, presenting in meetings, being interviewed for a job, pitching for business.

Using dynamic and positive vocabulary contributes to the image of a confident, competent and professional individual