Dating

IntroductionIncident #1When did you have your first crush?How did you act?How long did the crush last?Had you ever talked to the person

before you decided you Liked them?

IntroductionIncident #2 Why was it so frightening for

teenagers to talk on the phone with someone of the opposite sex?

Have you ever experienced such a situation?

How is the best way to handle phone calls?

What can you talk about to ease the tension?

Purposes of Dating Socialization – to develop appropriate social

skills; to practice getting along with others in a different setting

Recreation – to have fun and enjoy the companionship of others; to try new and different activities

Mate Selection – to see others and compare their personalities and characteristics

Purposes of Dating Try different things

- to know what you really like- it’s boring to always do the same thing

- there may be another one just as good or better out there

Others influence our Choices Sometimes things are not what they

seem

Avenue of Adolescent Attractions

Getting Acquainted St.Conversations during class or in the hall, glances, smiles

Friendship Blvd.Sharing common activities or friends, writing notes/texts, friendly shoves, hits or pushes; common work place or community groups.

Avenue of Adolescent Attractions

Phone Call CircleSilly calls or calls for information about a school project or another friend; an occasional prank-call

Group Socialization St.Sharing gossip, hugging, working on school activities or projects, going to the movies, mall, or to another person’s house to watch a movie or eat

Avenue of Adolescent Attractions

Group Dating DriveGroups of 3+ girls and 3+ boys, meeting for specific activities – movies, dinner, sports, etc. Pairing off doesn’t occur; group members are simply friends

Double Dating Drive2 girls and 2 boys who have paired off go together for an activity of any kind; a romantic attraction is involved

Avenue of Adolescent Attractions

Pairing Parkway1 girl and 1 boy who have paired off go together for an activity of any kind. The couple know each other well, and want to spend time together alone.

Stages of Dating – #1 Gushy

Want to please each other

Write name on everything

Tend to like the same things

May not tell the complete truth

Need to touch & hug; physical

Co-equals in relationship Never late Lots of kissing and talking on the phone Swollen lips from so much kissing Forget your friends Everything is funny

Stages of Dating – #2 Playing Games

Swollen eyes from crying (girls)

Crossed out name Lots of ups &

downs Remembering your

friends again

Trying to get the other person to do something Jealous Power struggles

Stages of Dating – #3 Goal Directed

Trust Like to see them do

things w/ their friends

Don’t paw all over each other

Want to see each other happy

More mature & real Can show each other the good and bad sides Looking to make a commitment

You can move through all 3 stages Each couple will have their own speed You can skip stages or repeat them

Stages of Dating

3 A’s of Emotional NeedsAcceptance - receive with approval or

favor

Affection - fond attachment, devotion, or love

Appreciation - gratitude; thankful recognition

3 A’s of Emotional NeedsLove Language is The way one sends and receives messages of

Acceptance, Affection, and Appreciation

It is much harder than sexual expression

Dating Right of Ways1. Be Yourself2. An enjoyable, safe date3. Have your values respected4. Care for and protect your body5. Establish and protect your reputation6. Be free from guilt and fear7. Say “NO”8. Write 3 more dating rights you feel are

important and that are not listed above

Dating