Are you who you want to be?

Jan van Deventer

EISLAB

October 16, 2006

Goal of the lectures

• Discuss deep issues within the division

• Boost feeling of self-worth

• Boost interdependence

• Build a strong team

• Division gains international fame

Stimulus and response

Stimulus Response

Proactivity: 30 days test

• Work only in your circle of influence• Make and keep small commitments• Be a light, not a judge• Be a model, not a critic• Be part of the solution,not of the problem• Do not argue for people’s weaknesses• When you make a mistake, admit it & learn• Do not get into blaming & accusing• Work on what you have control over

Begin with the end in mind

• Think of your funeral

• What legacy do you want to leave?

Rescripting or paradigm shift

• Imagination

• Conscience

• Self-awareness

Things are created twice

• House with blueprints

• Article and drafts

• D program

Principle centerness

• Security

• Guidance

• Wisdom

• Power

Alternative centers

• Spouse centeredness

• Family centeredness

• Money centeredness

• Work centeredness

• Procession centeredness

• Pleasure centeredness

• Friend/enemy centeredness

Personal mission statement

I am Arselan and I shall maintain.

I constructively influence all I encounter.

Values (1 of 2)ｷｷ Christianity: I keep Jesus Christ as my role model.

ｷｷ Integrity: I am true to my beliefs and myself.

ｷｷ Respect: I value all being as they are without prejudice.

ｷｷ Patience: I am strong enough to fight circumstances and others who could impair my (sound) judgment.

ｷｷ Communication: I honestly and assertively share my opinion with others while listening to their opinions.

Values (2 of 2)

ｷｷ Family: I am a good role model and lead my life in a way that makes me proud of myself.

ｷｷ Creativity and imagination: I look @ life and things from different perspectives.

ｷｷ Service: I provide a helpful hand.ｷｷ Cheerfulness: I do it all with a smile and empathy.

ｷｷ Growth and improvement: Both physically and mentally, I reach beyond where I am today. I free myself of bad habits and learn good ones. I take time for (self) refection.

Roles (1 of 2)

ｷｷ Arselan (Myself): I am responsible for myself. I take the time to reflect on my views, my accomplishments, my behaviors, and my interactions with others, my eating and exercising habits, in order to be a balanced person who reflects the light of God.

ｷｷ Father (Rebecka, Frank, Eric, Oskar): I am pleasant, patient and supportive towards my children. I also understand the great influence I have on them and therefore strive to be a good example.

ｷｷ Leader and manager (EISLAB): I lead my team with the aim that its members feel well both individually and as a group while being productive towards a clear common goal. I am responsible for balanced work and financial load.

Roles (2 of 2)

ｷｷ Director (CASTT): I coordinate relationships between the automotive industry and the university and moreover within the university. I am a catalyst to reach the highest potential of yield.

ｷｷ Teacher (Students): I understand the subject I teach and its importance in the curriculum of an engineer. I am able to present this importance as well at the material in a way that enables the students to fully grasp the concepts.

ｷｷ Advisor (Yassin, Kimmo, Elena): I understand and can clarify the problems or issues at hand to the advisee. I can guide him /her to find the answers. I am supportive in his/her communication of the results.

• Researcher (Myself, research society): I am able to understand and explain what the problems or issues are. I am able to put forward theories, experiments and results. I can clearly communicate with others throughout the whole process.

Who do you want to be?

• When you react to a stimulus or situation, is your response inline with whom you want to be?

• Are you response able?

• Are you your own master?

Discover yourself

• What is your mission in life?

• What do you value?