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Engaging Parents
March 11 2014
NICKY HUTCHINSON & CHRIS CALLANDNot Just Behaviour www.notjustbehaviour.co.uk
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In this session we will
Consider attachment theory and the needs of troubled children
Identify the barriers to parental engagement
Look at ways to develop an effective relationship
Focus on practical problem solving strategies and ways to engage parents and children
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AttachmentAttachment is a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another across time and space (Ainsworth, 1973; Bowlby, 1969).
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Secure Attachment
Insecure Attachment
Avoidant
Ambivalent
Disorganised
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For a direct comparison. Normal 2-year old. 2-year orphan.
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Barriers….
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What needs to be in place for a good partnership with parents?
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Active Listening
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Core Conditions
Acceptance Genuineness Empathy
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Keys to Good Listening Allow Pauses Open Posture Turn Off Your Own Words Listen for Feelings Use reflective Listening Paraphrase Open questions Be tentative
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Solution focused approach
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Why use it?
Simple Short term Positive They are part of the solution
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Connect
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Identify resources
Skills Abilities Qualities
◦ Supportive relationships
Internal
External
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Possible questions
So what did it take for you to achieve that? How did you get through it? How did you deal with that experience What did you learn about yourself? What do you think it might have taught others about you?
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Preferred futures.... Focus on the future What do you want to achieve? What will that look like? What will you be doing differently? The ‘miracle’ question... Keep it real
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The scaling question
Focus on the positive
Find a good enough number
What if they go below 0?!
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Review
Review positives
Give constructive feedback
Remind them of positive targets/actions agreed
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Next steps……