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MENTORS TRAINING
IBSB
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What You Should Know
1. The Relationship: The Basis ofMentoring
2. Understanding Youth
3. Understanding Your Role as Mentor
4. Using the Program
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1. The Relationship
Any impact you have on youth willhappen through your relationship withthem.
The relationship is the foundation onwhich mentoring is based.
Building a strong relationship will taketime and patience. A goodrelationship is not built on divulgingdeep secrets, but comes through
empathy and understanding.
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TRUST
JOHARI WINDOW
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TRUST
1. Who do you trust? Think of a personyou trust.
_____________________________________________________________________________
2. Why do you trust them? (List
specific characteristics you canidentify in the person you listedabove.)
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MentoringRelationship, Youth AND
Mentors need: Commitment Mutual trust
Understanding To feel liked
Respect
A connection
A sense of humor
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A Mentor is a:
guide partner
wise and trusted teacher friend listener cheerleader
confidant linkto other cultures,
role model
attitudes, and behaviours
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A mentor is NOT a:
savior
foster parent
therapist parole officer
cool peer
Make a habit of two things: to help, or
at least to do no harm.- Hippocrates
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2. Understanding Youth
Before you can teach me you haveto reach me!
Social
Emotional
Physical
Mental
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Social characterisics
Outside Influences8-10 years:
11-13 years:
Team games become popular Interested in earning their own money
Can be very competitive
Worshipping heroes, TV stars,
and sports figures is common
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Emotional characteristics:
8-10 years
Are sensitive to praise andrecognition
Feelings are hurt easily
Conflicts can arise between friendsrules and parents rules
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11-14 years:
Are sensitive to praise andrecognition
Feelings are hurt easily Conflicts can arise between friendsrules and parents rules
Are caught between being a childand being an adult
Loud behaviour and showing off can
hide a lack of confidence
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Physical Characteristics
8-10 years:
Are very active and need
frequent breaks from tasks for fun
Bone growth is not complete
Early maturers may be upsetwith
their size
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11-14 years:
Small muscle coordination is good
Interests in art, crafts, models, and
music are popular Early maturers may be upset withtheir size
Are very concerned with theirappearance and self conscious
Diet and sleep habits can be bad,
resulting in low energy levels
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Mental Characteristics
8-10 years:
The idea of fairness becomes a big
issue Are eager to answer questions
Are very curious and are collectors of
everything Interest may jump to other objectsquickly
Want more independence, but know
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11-14 years
Tend to be perfectionists
May try too much and feel frustrated
or guilty Want more independence, but knowthey need guidance/support
Can have a longer attention span
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Social Issues Facing Youth
Family: economic, lifestyle, singleparent
Teen pregnancy Gangs
Drugs
Pressure to fit in
Pressure to succeed in school andathletics
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Personal Issues Facing Youth
Depression
Physical appearance
Suicide Losses
Identity
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Support
Young people need to be
surrounded by people wholove, care for, appreciate,
and accept them.
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Empowerment
Young people need to feel
valued and valuable.This happens when youth
feel safe and respected.
oun ar es an
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oun ar es anExpectations
Young people need clear
rules, consistentconsequences for breaking
rules, and encouragementto do their best.
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The mirrorImagine looking into a mirror that onlyshowed your faults (real or perceived).
What would you start to believe about
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Ask yourself:
What type of mirrorwill you be for the
youth you mentor?
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Qualities of a Good Mentor
Is an advocate for youth
Uses good communication skills
Provides new experiences Shows empathy
Has a sense of humor
Is consistent
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Communication- the secret
1. The Judge - This person judgeswhatever is said. Youth may say, Idont have any friends and Judge
responds, You have a bad attitude. Ifyou were more optimistic, peoplewould like you.
2. The Oh Yeah, Ive Been There -This person always has their own storyto tell. Youth says, I got my leg cut
once. Oh Yeah says, Wow, I tore my
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Communication- cont.
6. The Doctor - This person respondsby telling people why they do thingsor feel they way they do about what is
happening to them.
7. The Questioner - This personquestions the person about what they
think should have been done. Youthsays, I got an F. Questioner says,Well, did you study?
8. The It Will Be OK - This person
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Insteadyou should
Use Empathy: Listening and Restating
Restate what you think the youth saidto make sure you understood.
Request Clarification
Ask the youth to explain vague
statements Own Thoughts and Feelings: IStatements
Say I feel frustrated when you are
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The mentoring program
weekly meetings
Notify the teachers
Use resources Monthly reporting to Miss Aida
Confidentiality !!!
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Good luck!!