DYNAMICS MATTERS

Tameka Thornton

Professor Stephanie Quinn

April 08,2011

INTRODUCTION: THE GROWTH OF A CHILD

“The guys who fear becoming fathers don't understand that fathering is not something

perfect men do, but something that perfects the man. The end product of child rising is

not the child, but the parent.” ~ Frank Pittman

As a child grows they are unaware of what issues that one may face as living in the world.

The world can be a very cruel ,scary, dark and lonely place to be at times

Without the proper love and support that a child need to live life without getting taken

away by all the nonsense the world can give off then they ‘ll need the love the

understanding and stability within their family.

I t i s k n o w n a n d w e l l -

e s t a b l i s h e d i n

r e s e a r c h , & t h e o r i e s

a b o u t t h e n a t u r a l

p r o c e s s e s o f

H u m a n A t t a c h m e n t

a n d S o c i a l

p s y c h o l o g y, b e c a u s

e t h e y a r e

n e c e s s a r y f o r

h u m a n s u r v i v a l .

W h e n f a m i l y t i e s g o

a w r y, a m u l t i t u d e o f

n e g a t i v e

p s y c h o l o g i c a l

e f f e c t s o v e r t a k e t h e

b e h a v i o r s a n d

p e r s o n a l i t i e s o f

p e o p l e i n v o l v e d .

T h i s i n c l u d e s i n

e x t r e m e c a s e s :

p s y c h o l o g i c a l

t r a u m a , t e n s i o n s , b

i t t e r n e s s , f e a r s , a n

x i e t y, d e p r e s s i o n , f

r u s t r a t i o n , r e s e n t m

e n t o r h o s t i l i t y

a g a i n s t e a c h o t h e r .

FAMILY MATTERS

Marriage has many healthy sides in the development of child growth and good for communities.

Those that choose to marry and have kids will give their children a greater chance of;

• Succeeding academically going to college, physically healthier and emotionally as well

Just for women alone it can help to produce a more enhanced relationship with their child.

Communities in this case have;

Lower crime rate, higher rates of educated citizens

Home ownership and decrease need in social services

FAMILY RELATIONS (MARRIAGE)

SIBLING SUPPORT

T H E S E R E L A T I O N S H I P S A R E

E M O T I O N A L L Y P O W E R F U L A N D

C R I T I C A L L Y I M P O R T A N T F O R A

C H I L D H O O D A N D F O R T H E C O U R S E O F A

L I F E T I M E

A S I T V A R I E S A M O N G I N D I V I D U A L S , I T

D E P E N D O N O W N C I R C U M S T A N C E S A N D

D E V E L O P M E N T S T A G E S

ECONOMIC FACTORS

Today it is evident that the stress levels in families and relationships are

greatly heightened. Individuals devote so much time and emotion to

their job, in order to secure it, that they are to physically, emotionally

and mentally exhausted to dedicate the time they need to their family

Such stress often has negative effects on marriages, parenting, and

children's developmental outcomes. Although all ethnic groups and

social classes experience economic stress at some point in their

lives, minority families are especially likely to suffer such economic

problems. For instance, poverty rates for African-American and

Hispanic-American families are three times higher than for non-Latino

white families.

PARENTS EDUCATION CHART

PARENT EDUCATION ON POVERTY

It has been found that economic hardship such as unstable work leads to

feelings of economic pressure that, in turn, are related to higher rates of

depression for both mothers and fathers. Even those that may have

more than other haven’t escaped the composition of economic stress.

SCHOOL-AGED KIDS

CONTINUATION

Its been proven that children are not immune from economic stress and

may suffer adjustment problems as a result of family economic

adversity. In both ethnic groups, negative outcomes are related to

economic stress but the family pathways that lead to these problems

appear to be different.

For instance, in European-American families, an increase in hostility from

the father is linked with the greatest number of child adjustment

problems. In contrast, in Mexican-American families, the presence of

marital problems rather than hostile parenting styles is associated with

poor child adjustment

Few parents grasp the essential meaning of happiness for their children and fewer still understand how they can help their children to find it.

Parents' efforts at helping their children gain happiness are undermined by the distorted messages that popular culture communicates to parents about happiness --that happiness can be found in wealth, celebrity, power and physical attractiveness.

Yet research and anecdotal accounts of people who have these attributes show that pursuit of these "false idols" can actually cause unhappiness..

By understanding how happiness develops, you can help your children find true happiness. The real causes of happiness are all within your children's control, so they can actively do things that foster their own happiness.

HAPPINESS

Popular culture doesn't want your children to be human beings. Instead, it wants to create "human consuming" whose primary purpose in life is to spend and acquire. Human consuming buy, buy and buy in the mistaken belief that it will bring them happiness. You can observe ravenous young human consuming every day in the malls, buying clothes and shoes "they absolutely must have!"

Happy children are human beings, not human consuming's. Being involves with children finding happiness not in things, but in experiences, relationships and activities that offer meaning, satisfaction and joy. The ability to just be grounds happy children in who they are rather than what they own, and gives them control over what brings them happiness.

CONTINUATION OF HAPPINESS

Self-Esteem

Self-esteem is a powerful contributor to happiness. Self-esteem gives children a sense of security from which they can engage the world, which enables them to approach life with confidence. Self-esteem also offers children a strong sense of competence, in which they view themselves as able people who can master important aspects of their lives.

This faith in their abilities facilitates success, which can cultivate happiness. It also reduces worry and anxiety, which can cause unhappiness.

SELF-WORTH

COMMUNICATION SKILL

Inappropriate Language Youngsters sometimes experiment and use

language inappropriately, including highly unacceptable profanity, the meaning of which they probably don't know. How to handle such

situations?

Firmly and immediately! Letting it go until a later time means that the correction will lose its punch and

impact. What is needed is a strong (without anger), one that may not cause any discrepancy but some

understanding and meaning.

GETTING POINT ACROSS

Inappropriate Action

The same principal applies as above. Pushing, shoving, hitting or outright

inappropriate "pranks" need to be handled on the spot. No lecturing.

"I'm putting you in your room because you shoved Tommy" may be all

that is necessary. No "Why did you do that?", which only belabors and

clouds the situation and misdirects the thrust of the corrective action.

Yes, there will be times when your child had to take defensive action-

and you can deal with such situations by curtailing interaction with a

specific youngster who may indeed be taking advantage of your child's

vulnerability.

THINGS TO DO

Realize you are a parent and that your child comes first.

Plan to spend a particular number of hours a week with your child. And review the time

spent at the end of the week.

Be a good role model. You will spare a lot of disappointment.

Listen. They have so much to share.

Reprimands and punishment should be gentle and controlled. Do not punish in anger.

You may do more damage to yourself and your child.

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Keep track of what your child is learning and observing. You may need to put things in

perspective.

Go back to school. Try to share what your child is learning and get involved in his/her

school life.

Eating together. Just this simple act of togetherness can reinforce your child’s sense

of belonging.

Live what you preach. As actions speak louder than words, your principles and

character education are best represented by actions.

Teach them to accept and learn from their failures

THE END