ed batista, interpersonal dynamics, class 9: from the lab to the real world
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Dynamics InterpersonalEd BatistaWinter 2016CLASS 9: FROM THE LAB TO THE REAL WORLD
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Vulnerabilityhangover
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VulnerabilityhangoverThe morning after the [2010 TED] talk, I woke up with one of the worst vulnerability hangovers of my life… What did I do? 500 people officially think I’m crazy & it totally sucks.
~Brené Brown
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If that’s nottherapy, what is it?
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Comfort withdiscomfortDisclosures aren’t intended to heal or solveGreater capacity to share & witness Very real-world problem
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Discuss with your
How you helpedWhat I’m thankful forWhat I learned about support
support group
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DebriefWhat did you learn?How might this apply in the real world?
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Learning & stress
Stress
Learning
Eustress Distress
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Safety, trust,
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intimacy
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CONTEXT Learning,
Awareness,& Behavioral
Change
Experimentation,Risk-Taking,
& Vulnerability
Safety, Trust, Intimacy
Initial Conditions
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Emotions areattention magnets
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Social identityContinuum of social behavior IntergroupInterpersonal
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It’s usually both
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FeedbackStressfulConfusingUnwelcome
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It’s not like this…
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It’s like this
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3 triggers
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TruthRelationshipIdentity
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The netMe You
Yourrespons
e
Mybehavi
orMyintention
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5 levels1: Ritual2: Extended Ritual3: Content4: Feelings About Content
5: Feelings About Each Other
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A soft start
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Like this
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Begin with authentic positive intentEmphasize mutual goals
A soft start
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Connections
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ConnectionsA bid can be a question, a gesture, a look, a touch—any single expression that says, “I want to feel connected to you.”
~John Gottman
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StatusCertaintyAutonomyRelatednessFairness
SCARF model
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Stereotype threat
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Microaggressions
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The balcony &
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the dance floor
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Dissecting a
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group
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EQ and groupsMutual trustGroup identity (feeling of belonging)Group efficacy (belief in value of the team)Strongly affected by group EQ
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EQ and groupsEmotional awarenessEmotion regulation (≠ suppression)Inward (one’s own emotions)Outward (others’ emotions)
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Kantor’s 4 players
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Kantor’s 4 playersMover initiates
Follower supportsOpposer challengesBystander observes
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Vulnerability
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Pfeffer & Cuddy
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CuddyInfluence = warmth + strength(Establish warmth first)
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…and Top Quartile in Leadership
Effectiveness
Bottom Quartile in Likeability…
1 in 2000
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PfefferAmbitionEnergyFocusSelf-knowledgeConfidenceEmpathy for othersCapacity to tolerate conflict
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What is support?
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Consciousness
Competence
1
2 3
4
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Act
Reflect
Conceptualize
PlanPrepare & develop a
future course of action.
Identify principles that help explain the results & update old theories.
Assess my behavior & its consequences.
Experientiallearning
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Form groups of 6Each group gets a whiteboard
What we’ve learned & how we’ll apply it
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Overused
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strengths
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Dynamics InterpersonalFor more:www.edbatista.com/interpersonal-dynamics.html