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Page 1: Family Record - Welcome - Congregation Beth Torah · Marty Fried . Executive VP . ... Family Record or M3 ... Cyd Friedman | President@congregationbethtorah.org. FROM CYD FRIEDMAN—PRESIDENT

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ATTENTION! CLEVER WRITERS NEEDED

Rabbi Zelony is looking for some help to write

short skits or songs to be performed between

each chapter of the Megillah reading. If you

think you're clever...or a bit witty...contact the

Rabbi about helping to write a ditty!

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In the event of an emergency—

For illness, death, or other family life cycle emergency after-hours,

please contact Rabbi Zelony at 310.409.6532.

Elana Zelony

Rabbi

Beri Schwitzer

Director of Congregational

Learning

OFFICERS

Cyd Friedman

President

Marty Fried

Executive VP

David Engelberg

Development VP

Justin Ross

Education VP

Aaron Drazin

Financial VP

Debbie Wills

Membership VP

Neil Burnstein

Ritual VP

Marc Machbitz

Treasurer

Lisa Miller

Board Secretary

Alan Hoffman

Past President

PAST PRESIDENTS

Howie Fields

Jerome Levy

Norman Kramer

Zelene Lovitt

Jerry Zeffren

Louis Fisher

Stephen Quinn

Nat Cohen

Ron Weller

Lou Kaiser

Rona Kesselman

Larry Strauss

Paul Koch

Garry Kahalnik

Tony Tello

Chuck Smith

Alan Hoffman

INSIDE THIS ISSUE

3 A Message From Our Rabbi RABBI ELANA ZELONY

4 Habitat for Halakha

5 A Message From Our President CYD FRIEDMAN

6 A Message From Our Director of

Congregational Learning BERI SCHWITZER

7 Ritual Acknowledgements

8 Member News CONDOLENCES, BIRTHDAYS, ANNIVERSARIES

9 Sisterhood

12 Men's Club

13 Inclusion Initiative

14 Shul Doings

14 Ongoing Adult Education Classes

16 Israeli Soldiers' Tour

17 Donations

18 All About Yahrzeits

19 This Month's Observances

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February is National Inclusion Month. Our sacred texts teach us not only to include

all, but to empower all to be independent. Take a look at this example from the

Talmud (Beitzah 16b).

“A certain blind man would recite mishnayot for Mar Shmuel, who saw that he

was sad. He said to him, ‘Why are you sad?’ He replied, ‘Because I did not

prepare an eruv tavshilin.’ He told him, ‘Rely on mine.’ Next year, he again saw

that the student was sad. He said to him, ‘Why are you sad?’ He replied, ‘Because I did

not prepare an eruv tavshilin.’ He told him, ‘…everyone else can rely on me, but for you it

is forbidden.’”

Mar Shmuel was a scholar. He was assisted by a blind student who had memorized texts,

mishnayot, and would recite them for his teacher. In those days, written words were rare and

expensive. Scholars would use the help of those who had the ability to memorize texts like

reference books during their studies. Mar Shmuel depends upon his blind student’s memory to

assist him in his studies.

The blind student was distressed because he hadn’t performed a mitzvah called eruv tavshilin. It’s

a mitzvah that enables the community to cook on holidays. The first year, Mar Shmuel reassured

the student that if one person in the community has made eruv tavshilin for the holiday, then

others in the community are covered by it. Mar Shmuel sought to comfort the blind student by

performing the mitzvah for him, which is a kind of inclusion. The next year, the student is still

upset. Mar Shmuel comes to understand that the blind man wants to perform the mitzvah. He

wants to fully participate in his society, and having someone do things for him doesn’t allow him to

be part of the larger whole. So, the clever teacher forbids the blind student to be dependent on his

eruv tavshilin. I would have found the story more satisfactory if it had ended with the teacher

helping the student make eruv tavshilin, but for an ancient text it’s insightful.

Inclusion has been a core value of Beth Torah for many years. It’s important to us that those who

see, hear, move, learn and think differently be integrated into the congregation so they can

express their Judaism fully and independently. Now my question is can we take this one step

further and share our congregation’s value with the larger Richardson community?

In Israel this summer I visited an all–abilities playground. This is a playground designed to be

accessible to all children and their caretakers regardless of how they move or their sensory needs.

Of course it was delightful to see children with limited mobility enjoying swings and merry–go–

rounds, but even more wonderful to me was watching children with limited mobility showing fully

mobile children how to play with the equipment differently. The children with physical differences

were at the center of the playground experience. An all–abilities playground allows children to play

independently instead of relying on others to move them around the playground. It’s much like

Mar Shmuel respecting that his student wants to do the mitzvah for himself instead of doing it for

him.

The Richardson East Rotary Club is working on a two–year project to install an all–abilities

playground in Cottonwood Park. I asked their leadership if there were ways for our synagogue to

get involved and, of course, the answer was yes. Wouldn’t it be wonderful to give back to the city

that has housed us for 42 years by

sharing in a project where our values

overlap? Let’s help build an all–abilities

playground for the children of the city of

Richardson!

Please stay tuned for more information.

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I love the moment during bar and bat mitzvahs when the child clasps the fringe of the

prayer shawl, brushes it against the ancient, sacred words of the Torah, brings the

fringe to parted lips and sings, “Blessed is God for eternity!” It is the heart of the ritual.

The child blesses the Torah for all us. The child steps up and becomes a leader of our

community who can fulfill commandments on behalf of other members.

The name for the honor of reciting the Torah blessings is aliyah which literally means

ascension. This begs the question, to what are we ascending? The origin of this mitzvah

lays hidden in a verse from Parshat Ha’azinu: “When I call out the name of God,

ascribe greatness to our God.” The Talmud interprets this verse to mean we must recite

a blessing before studying or reading from Torah. Since God permeates the Torah,

reading the Torah is “calling out” the name of God. If we call out the name of God, then

we must ascribe greatness to God. We ascribe greatness by reciting blessings. The

Bach, a 15th century scholar, writes, “These blessings express our wish to connect our

souls and the entire world with the essential holiness of Torah.” The prayer we recite

over the Torah can lift us up toward God’s greatness. Lofty heights indeed!

But not all of us feel comfortable with this mitzvah. We worry about kissing the tzitzit at

the right time, stumbling over the Hebrew, and knowing when to move to the other side

of the table. Yet all adult Jews have the privilege and the obligation to lead the

community in this way.

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Donations Needed Ted Hogan's Eagle Scout project helps Beth Torah!

But his project needs Beth Torah's help.

Member Ted Hogan, working with his woodcraftsman uncle

and CBT member, Larry Darrow, will be building a floor-to-

ceiling cabinet to fill the alcove space. This new, large

storage area has been designed to store books and other

spiritual items. Ted needs to collect $1,000 for materials.

If you would like to help bring this cabinet to life, you can

send your donation to CBT, ATTN Hogan Eagle Project or

use a credit card online at http://cbt.news/CabinetProject.

If you’d like to learn more about this mitzvah and become more confident in how to perform it,

please join us for February’s Doing Jewish program, 7:30 PM Tuesday, February 21 at the home

Cyd and Cliff Friedman. Please RSVP to Rabbi's secretary, Heather Venable, at 972.234.1542

x227 or [email protected].

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I am so excited to announce that we have signed a new contract with Rabbi Zelony

for 5 years! Rabbi Zelony has brought renewed energy toward spirituality,

education for adults and children, music and community. We are thrilled that she,

Adiv and the kids are as happy here as we are to have them here.

Over the last two and a half years she has not only affected our daily lives in so

many enriching ways, but has built relationships and recognition in the Dallas Jewish Community

and the city of Richardson’s religious, civic, and business communities. As I work my way through

the many events around the Dallas Jewish community, I often hear lovely stories about those who

have had the opportunity to meet and interact with Rabbi Zelony in

a variety of situations.

If you haven’t had the opportunity to spend time in one of her

classes, hear her inspirational Shabbat sermons, or are just

overdue to hear her beautiful voice, we hope to see you soon. Also,

if you have any pastoral needs or concerns, please reach out to her

or her secretary, Heather, to set up a time to connect. We look

forward to continuing to grow together as a community.

Meanwhile, our synagogue continues to thrive and bond in so many special ways. Men’s Club had

their breakfast which brought in over 70 people to hear former secret service agent, Sam Horwitz,

speak about how she overcame PTS after 9/11 at the World Trade Center. Sisterhood hosted the

annual Intra–Faith lunch with two special speakers: Natalie Nanasi spoke about Modern Day

Slavery—Closer Than You Think along with Robbie Hamilton, a survivor of the local slave trade. We

were proud to host 95 women from Sisterhoods representing Beth Torah, Anshai Torah, Shearith

Israel, Tiferet Israel, Adat Chaverim, and Chabad. The Middle hosted their annual event at Pete’s

Dueling Piano Bar, which always draws a crowd, and everyone had a great time! Chai Lights had

their usual large attendance for speaker Dr. Deepa Pattani, who presented Safe Medication

Practices for all age groups, striving to keep you and your loved ones safe. Our USY kids joined

many others from the local community for an overnight at Group Dynamix and had a great time.

Are you missing out?!? Make sure to watch the weekly bulletin, enews, other emails, or review your

Family Record or M3 (monthly mailer) to find one of these terrific opportunities to spend time with

your current and new friends at a fun and interesting Beth Torah event.

On February 17, there will be a congregational Shabbat dinner—make sure to sign up! Last time,

we had over 130 people and had a wonderful time together. I hope to see you there! After dinner,

we will enjoy Joyful Noise A Capella, along with our incredible Learning Center children helping to

lead services. There will also be a special junior congregation on the 18th, with an introduction to

the new special siddur that Beri has been creating for our students. The new programs have

helped them learn the services so well, and we are excited to add this next piece to enrich their

experiences on Shabbat.

Submissions for the Family Record are welcome! The deadline for each issue is the FIRST OF THE MONTH prior to

publication month and can be done online at http://cbt.news/CBT-Announcement for shul–related items or http://

cbt.news/congregantnews for congregant news. The Family Record is published in color and mailed monthly, except

bi-monthly during summer, to those who subscribe ($50 per year subscription). Contact the office to subscribe.

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Heather Venable Monday to Friday

9:30 AM to 4PM

972.234.1542 x227

[email protected]

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FROM BERI SCHWITZER—DIRECTOR OF CONGREGATIONAL LEARNING Now that we’ve settled in to writing 2017 on our checks and notebooks, it’s time for

another “New Year.” Judaism, as you may know, has several—this time, we mark the New

Year for the trees on the holiday of Tu B’Shevat. This is not a holiday found in the Torah

but one that helps us recognize the importance of putting down roots and watching them

grow.

For me, I connect Tu B’Shevat with my relationship to our congregation. Our family, like the

greatest of redwoods, has weathered storms, survived droughts and difficult times yet we

continue to thrive when nourished by the spiritual connections that we’ve made to Congregation

Beth Torah.

Of course you can be Jewish and not belong to a shul. In fact there are approximately 7 million

Jews in the United States and less than half of these Jews are affiliated with a congregation. So,

why belong to a synagogue?

Certainly, many people belong to synagogues because they provide specific services that they can’t

get anywhere else. For example, baby namings, religious school, weddings and funerals, pastoral

care in times of trouble, or the opportunity for adult education. Some members belong to a shul

because of their commitment to social action. Others are looking for friendship and camaraderie.

Still others are away from their immediate families, so they seek out their Jewish family within a

community.

The word synagogue means a “place of assembly,” an English translation of the Hebrew words

“beit knesset.” It is the place where Jews come together, to be part of a Jewish community. More

importantly, it is the vehicle whereby generations of our people have pursued the perpetuation of

the Jewish people.

Synagogue is not only a place to learn and a place to pray, but it is also the embodiment of an

ideal. A belief that there shall always be a significant Jewish presence where you live.

Why should YOU belong to a synagogue? Because by belonging to a

synagogue—

Maybe you’ll feel a presence that lightens your heart.

Maybe you’ll hear Rabbi Zelony explain a Torah portion that adds

richness to your life.

Maybe, at a magical moment during the High Holy Days, a niggun (a

spiritual melody) will touch your soul.

Maybe you’ll see your child or grandchild take his or her first aliyah and

then read a Torah portion.

Maybe you’ll feel the warm hand of the rabbi, or a congregant, reach

across a hospital bed and assure you that everything will be all right.

Maybe you’ll stand at a graveside and hear the rabbi explain the meaning

of your loved one’s life to your friends and family.

Maybe you won’t experience any of the things I listed, but you will take pride in knowing that

what others have started, you are helping to perpetuate!

Belonging to a Congregation not only assures the perks of membership, but, more importantly,

belonging is a commitment to the institution of American Jewry. Assuring the future of Judaism

should be a source of pride and a sense of responsibility.

We welcome your continued membership, your continued support and your continued commitment

to the promise that there will always be a home for Jews (whatever their background) at

Congregation Beth Torah. I look forward to perpetuating and growing these traditions with you. And,

thanks for belonging!

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Friday Night Leaders Rabbi Elana Zelony, Elizabeth Stein, Leslie Morgan, Joyful Noise

A Capella, Earl Bills, Garry Kahalnik

Psukei D’Zimra Rabbi Elana Zelony, Arny Felner

Shacharit Rabbi Elana Zelony, Jerry Zeffren, Arny Felner, Joe Liken

Hallel Joe Liken

Torah Service Emma Berlin, Theresa Wilson, Rabbi Elana Zelony, Phillip

Kopita, Phil Stayman, Elizabeth Stein

Gabbai Cliff Friedman , Garry Kahalnik, Chuck Smith

Torah Readers Rabbi Elana Zelony, Eleanor Eidels, Jerry Zeffren, Myrna Silver,

Phil Stayman, Elizabeth Stein, Theresa Wilson, Rabbi Jordan

Parr, John Wills, Paul Utay, Barbara Rosen, Laura Halper, Roz

Wiener, Aliza Capen, Joe Liken

Haftarah Jerry Zeffren, Theresa Wilson, Rabbi Elana Zelony, Paul Utay,

Chuck Smith, Jessica Winter

Sermons and Sermonettes Rabbi Elana Zelony, Theresa Wilson, Earl Bills, Rabbi Jordan

Parr

Musaf Megan Fehler, Phillip Kopita, Earl Bills, Ron Blumka, Arny Felner

While we generally

do not schedule

service leaders and

Torah readers in

advance for the daily

minyanim, we would

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everyone who steps

forward and helps

our daily services be

just as enjoyable

and participatory as

during Shabbat and

the Chagim

(Holidays).

On behalf of the congregation, the Ritual Committee wishes a hearty

Yasher Koach and Thank You to the following congregants, friends and

family who led a service, read from the Torah, or chanted on Shabbat

during the month of December 2016:

See the

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service

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BIMAH BUDDIES Our Learning Center students are offered the opportunity to assist during

Shabbat services. You will see them turning the page flip chart and/or helping

with pieces of the service they are learning about or are already familiar with.

We extend a BIG thanks to our Bimah Buddies in the month of January 2017—

Zachary Simpson and Landon Cox

FROM OUR RITUAL COMMITTEE

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MAZAL TOV TO… Amelia Rowe, daughter of Marci Rowe and

Gary Rowe and sister of Eleanor, who will be

called to the Torah to become a Bat Mitzvah

February 23.

CONDOLENCES TO… Sarah Korman on the passing of her mother,

Alegre Tevet.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO... Zachary Austein 17-Feb

Martin Fried 17-Feb

Alastair Lyon 17-Feb

Brian Zeff 17-Feb

Joshua Nevelow 19-Feb

Michael Precker 19-Feb

Tim Wolff 19-Feb

Fernando Chavez 20-Feb

Andrew Rosenbaum 20-Feb

Allan Schmidt 21-Feb

Robbie Siben 21-Feb

Andrew Blum 23-Feb

Linda Bradley 23-Feb

Jay Eisenberg 24-Feb

Amanda Avnery 25-Feb

Claire Meth 25-Feb

Emma Berlin 26-Feb

Mary Liuzza 26-Feb

Amelia Rowe 26-Feb

Adriane Dela Cruz 27-Feb

Jaden Portnoy 27-Feb

Sam Starobin 27-Feb

Chad Grossman 1-Feb

Katie Rifkin 1-Feb

Paul Utay 1-Feb

Arlene Navias 2-Feb

Cecilia Shorr 2-Feb

Gilda Daniel 3-Feb

Frances Fass 3-Feb

Miriam Smith 4-Feb

Laura Kreditor 5-Feb

Abigail Shaub 5-Feb

Caren Tate 5-Feb

Esme Wandrey 5-Feb

Jeff Orkin 6-Feb

Janine Bergknoff 7-Feb

Jonathan Bergknoff 7-Feb

Rachel Elad 7-Feb

Miriam Leventon 7-Feb

Kenneth Robins 7-Feb

Seth Block 8-Feb

Nanci Dubrow 8-Feb

Michael Leve 8-Feb

Drew Meyerhardt 9-Feb

Merilyn Robbins 9-Feb

Simon Fass 10-Feb

Darrin Goldin 10-Feb

Caleb Leventon 10-Feb

Jason Mandell 11-Feb

Mindi Sue Rubenstein 11-Feb

Michael Wald 11-Feb

Benjamin Daneman 12-Feb

David Gerstein 12-Feb

Laura Halper 12-Feb

Joseph Orr 12-Feb

Alan Hoffman 13-Feb

Jackie Wald 13-Feb

Anndi Hogan 14-Feb

Jessica Schnitzer 14-Feb

Lauren Braunfeld 15-Feb

Alexander Farin 15-Feb

Robyn Meth 15-Feb

Richard Stayman 15-Feb

Herbert Weinstein 15-Feb

Nesya Zelony 15-Feb

Carol Rosen 16-Feb

Lisa Miller | [email protected]

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO... Jeremy & Cecilia Shorr 4-Feb

Laslo & Magdi Olah 6-Feb

David Goldstein & Laura Levy 8-Feb

Steve & Jane Simmons 9-Feb

Michael & Elizabeth Brothman 12-Feb

David & Michele Mandell 19-Feb

Paul & Ruth Feldman 22-Feb

Brad & Carol Boa 26-Feb

Sam & Sarah Starobin 27-Feb

Roderick & Linda Bradley 28-Feb

MEMBER NEWS AND UPDATES

MAZAL TOV TO… Ethel Gruen on the January

2017 wedding of her

granddaughter Alyssa Gruen

and her fiancée, Alexander

Sicular.

Linda & Garry Kahalnik

on the March 2017 wedding

of their son Elan Kahalnik

and his fiancée, Jenna

Streusand,

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Knitting Circle 8 & 22 February, Wednesday, 7PM (CBT)

Our circle includes experienced knitters and beginners. Bring your current project and questions,

or work on items to donate, and join our schmooze! Check in at the Member's Lounge. Questions?

Contact Kimber Miller—[email protected]. Upcoming: 8 & 22 March.

Torah Discussion 9 February, Thursday, 5:45–7:30 PM (Oneg)

Our monthly dinner meeting features a discussion based on Rabbi Barry L. Schwartz' Judaism's

Great Debates: Timeless Controversies from Abraham to Herzl. Read chapter 5 for February

session. $10 per session for dinner. Pre—pay for all five sessions and receive a 20% discount

when you complete your membership form. RSVP to Nancy Siegel at [email protected].

Joint Breakfast Program 19 February, Sunday, 9:30 AM (Oneg)

Men's Club and Sisterhood invite you to get ready for the Academy Awards. Dallas’ two leading

film critics, Stephen Becker of KERA and Chris Vognar of The Dallas Morning News will join us to

chat about movies, the Oscar race, and all things cinematic. Instead of popcorn, we’ll serve up the

award-winning combination of Men’s Club lox and bagels and Sisterhood fabulous desserts. $7

members, $10 non-members, and $5 students.

Ladies Who Lunch 21 February, Tuesday, 12:30 PM (RSVP for location)

Go Dutch once a month and gab with the girls while enjoying a new culinary spot around town. For

location, RSVP at least a week in advance to Carol Taper at [email protected]. All locations

chosen offer dairy and fish options. Future dates: 21 March, 16 May, 13 June, 11 July, and 8 Aug.

Torah Fund Luncheon 26 February, 12:00 PM (Offsite)

This is annual event where Sisterhood raises funds to support the five Jewish Conservative

Seminaries in the world where education and training for rabbis, cantors, and Jewish educators

are provided. This year's honoree is Stacey Clark (see next page)! Watch your mail for your

invitation—same hotel as always, but we’ll be in a new room downstairs. Contact Esther Cohen at

[email protected].

Coming in March Purim Bag Assembly 4 March, Saturday, 7:30–9:30 PM (Oneg)

Come help assemble the Purim bags. We need lots of hands to make this happen. Great

opportunity to earn mitzvah hours, honor society hours, and Scouts volunteer hours so bring those

teens. Snacks provided! Sign up at http://cbt.news/purimbags2017.

Purim Bag Delivery 5 March, Sunday, 9:30–11:30 AM (Oneg)

Want to do a mitzvah? Have a car? Sign up to deliver Purim bags to fellow congregants. We need

drivers to pick up and deliver bags. Delivery can take place that day or during that week. Sign up

at http://cbt.news/bagdelivery2017.

Sisterhood Shabbat 31 March, Friday, 6:30 PM (CBT)

Reach out to Lisa Miller if you are interested in participating in services in any way

([email protected] or 214.240.4384) and plan to join us for a wonderful Shabbat dinner,

as well, with your Beth Torah friends and family.

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FROM SISTERHOOD Submitted by Harriet Gross

It’s an understatement to say that Stacey’s childhood in any way resembled a more

usual Jewish upbringing. Yes, she was born Jewish in Brooklyn, but her two siblings

were much older; after her mother died, plus a two-year period during which her father

lost both his parents, he remarried and moved the family to Puerto Rico for business

reasons.

“This is what defined who I am,” Stacey says today. When she arrived there at the end

of first grade, the Jewish school had a two–year waiting list, “…so I was enrolled in a

Spanish–speaking–only Catholic school,” she says. “I had 90 days to learn Spanish or

I couldn’t go to school. Confusion and guilt shaped me…”

When she had finished Grade 4, the family moved again, this time to Cartagena,

Colombia. First, Stacey was sent stateside to live with relatives in New York, but then

it was back to a Spanish–speaking school in Cartagena. Later, the family relocated to

North Miami Beach, where she went to junior high school—and had her first Jewish

boyfriend! In early life she’d gone to synagogue, and had been cooking (kosher!) since

age 10; but in Miami, “Everything is Jewish!” she recalls. So Judaism triumphed, and

when she came to Beth Torah, she was—finally—totally at home.

“My favorite thing here is Shabbat,” she says, “the Kiddush, and fellowshipping with

the many active members, sharing our love of Judaism.” But her love crosses

denominational boundaries; she is involved with Ohr HaTorah and DATA as well.

Stacey’s work in direct sales, centered in areas of health and nutrition, brought her

into first contact with Henry Clark, originally from Richardson. Since 2010, the two

have lived within easy walking distance of Beth Torah and offer their house, with its

kosher kitchen, as a central “home–away–from–home” for members of United

Synagogue Youth—“and anyone needing a Kosher, walking–distance place to stay!”

Food has become Stacey’s major Beth Torah activity. “Give me a reason to cook…” she starts to say,

then breaks off: “I don’t need a reason!” For the synagogue, she plans menus, shops for, and

supervises preparation of many Shabbat dinners and Kiddushes, the annual Second Seder, and her

major breakfast/lunch event for Karen Leynor Mitzvah Day—most occasions involving 150 to 200

hearty eaters. “One of the things I was most attracted to here,” she says, after the Dallas area move,

“was the opportunity for this kind of volunteer involvement.”

Stacey recalls being taken away from Judaism and living many confused years, but she’s returned

with a vengeance! At Beth Torah, she’s also in charge of Sisterhood’s annual Mishloach Manot effort,

saying “I take reinventing Purim baskets every year very seriously!” In the local Jewish and secular

communities, she has served on the Board, and most recently as president of Hillel of North Texas;

works with the Greater Dallas Council on Alcohol and Drug Abuse, and directs efforts toward helping

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Stacey Todd

Clark has

been chosen

by the CBT

Sisterhood

as recipient

of its 2017

Torah Fund

Award. She

will be

honored at

this year’s

annual

brunch, to be

held on

Sunday,

February 26,

at Addison

Crown Plaza

Hotel.

2017 Torah Fund Honoree

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Torah Day School and Jewish Family Service’s Cancer Support Group. And Henry adds that she is also

an “avid blood donor.”

After having lived in many places, (including California, where she studied with Rabbi Bradley Shavit

Artson), Stacey now says “I have an amazingly rich Jewish life here. I never thought this would be

where I would find and celebrate my Judaism!”

The forthcoming 2017 brunch will be Sisterhood’s 24th; Esther Cohen was the first Torah Fund

honoree in 1994. By tradition, all past honorees serve on the Brunch Committee, with those most

recently honored chairing the event. This year, 2016’s joint honorees, Evelyn and Paul Utay, are in

charge.

Cost of the dairy brunch is $40; a separate, minimum contribution of $18 to Torah Fund

is required, in support of Women’s League for Conservative Judaism’s projects to further

the training of future rabbis, cantors, and Jewish educators. For additional information

and to make reservations, contact Elaine Scharf—972.307.3521 or [email protected].

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Sisterhood Book Club 15 March, Wednesday, 7:30 PM

The Ice Cream Queen of Orchard Street by Susan Jane Gilman

As a child in 1913, Malka Treynovsky flees Russia for New York with her

family—only to be crippled and abandoned in the streets. Taken in by a

tough–loving Italian ices peddler, Malka survives. When she falls in love

with Albert, they set off together across America in an ice cream truck to

seek their fortune; slowly, she transforms herself into Lillian Dunkle, "The

Ice Cream Queen of America"—doyenne of an empire of ice cream

franchises and a celebrated television personality. Spanning 70 years,

Lillian's rise—fraught with setbacks, triumphs, and tragedies—is inextricably

linked to the course of American history itself, from Prohibition to the disco

days of Studio 54. And when her past starts catching up with her, her world

implodes spectacularly.

The March meeting is when we select our books for 2017/2018. Please bring your selections

for our discussion/selections.

We will be meeting at the home of Carol Rothschild. Please RSVP to 972.805.3612 or

[email protected] so that she can plan accordingly.

Upcoming book discussions—

May 17 The Marriage of Opposites by Alice Hoffman

July 19 The Secret Chord by Geraldine Brook

Visit http://congregationbethtorah.org/bookclub/ for the most current book descriptions.

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February is here and it brings exciting things for you and your Men’s Club! After a great January

breakfast featuring former Secret Service Agent Samantha Horwitz, we are looking forward to a

busy month with some great programing. We’ll start out on Saturday night, February 4 at 7:30 PM

with a new event—Havdalah & Whiskey Tasting. Watch the congregational e-news for more

information. The next morning, we’ll join the Men’s Clubs from Anshai Torah and Shearith Israel as

Anshai’s Men's Club hosts the annual World Wide Wrap. They have a great breakfast and program

planned for us all (this event is FREE to all). Later in February, we look forward to our annual joint

breakfast with Sisterhood with our traditional and ever–popular OSCARS breakfast talk. See page

9 for further details and, as always, all are welcome!

We’re also starting the process of planning the Third Annual Dallas Kosher BBQ Championship. If

you are interested in being a part of the committee, let us know by sending us an email at

[email protected]. We need folks with all types of talents and backgrounds to make our

event a success, so if you think you’d like to be a part of it, just let us know and we will include you

on the committee!

And last, but not least, we are looking for some great guys to join the CBT Men’s Club Board. If you

are interested in a position as an at–large or committee chair (or more) let us know! For questions

and/or interest, our nominating chair would love to talk to you. Send us an email.

A few other things to take note of NOW so that you won’t miss them later—

Men’s Club Shabbat 24 / 25 March, Friday / Saturday

Cigars & Spirits Spring Edition 8 April, Saturday

Annual Men’s Club Shred–A–Thon 9 April, Sunday

Reading of the Names 22 / 23 April, Saturday / Sunday, 9PM–9PM

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CBT MEN’S CLUB TO HONOR DAVE GERSTEIN WITH NEW MEN’S CLUB

LIFETIME ACHIEVEMENT AWARD DURING MEN’S CLUB SHABBAT

On March 25, during Men’s Club Shabbat, the Congregation Beth Torah Men’s Club will

honor Dave Gerstein for his lifetime of impactful contributions not only to the CBT Men’s

Club, but to the Federation of Jewish Men’s Club’s (FJMC) Southwest Region and to the

FJMC national organization. The Men’s Club is creating this award to recognize

members who have made a lifetime commitment of work on behalf of the club. The

award is named “The David Gerstein Lifetime Achievement Award” and will be

awarded to others when the Men’s Club determines that it is appropriate to do so.

Per Brian Rubenstein, president of the club and a proponent of this award, “As our

members age and their ability to contribute may not be as viable as it once was, we want

to honor those contributions that have helped make this one of the most successful clubs in

the country. With this award, we recognize Dave, and we honor his lifetime of dedication to our club, and

to FJMC.” The award committee consisted of Alan Hoffman, Ed Matisoff, Rusty Dworkin, Phil Stayman,

Michael Precker, Jeff Markowitz, and David Mandell, all past presidents, as well as Sandy Dorf, and David

Duchin. Noted Rusty Dworkin, award committee chair, “When the time came to come up with a name for

the award, the committee and the board were unanimous that not only would Dave be our first awardee,

the award itself would carry his name in recognition of how special Dave is to this shul and to the Men’s

Club. I am personally grateful for the mentoring Dave provided when I was president, and for his passion

for the work we do.”

We invite all congregants and friends to join us on March 24 and 25 as Men’s Club conducts our annual

Men’s Club Shabbat, and help us honor this special man, Dave Gerstein.

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Several years ago, Ellen Goodman and a few others collaborated to develop The Conversation

Project, an offering that deals with talks about end of life issues. We all know that these

conversations are not easy. Most of us also know how easy it is to avoid these issues. “Parents

are reluctant to “worry” their adult children; children are reluctant to bring up dying with their

elderly parents. We like to say “it’s too soon,” when we know it’s always too soon until it’s too

late.” (TCP)

Plan to join us as Peggy Papert leads a discussion to prepare us for those critical conversations.

We will be getting together at the home of Miriam and Al Creemer on Thursday, February 23 at

7PM. Although there is no cost for attending, please RSVP to me at the email to the left.

Some of the issues that are part of the conversation include sharing what’s most important to you,

knowing who you want (or don’t want) to be involved in your care, and worrying that you won’t get

enough care or that you’ll get overly aggressive care. Participating in The Conversation Project can

alleviate the awkwardness and discomfort of sitting down with our loved ones to uncover desires

regarding end of life decisions.

One of the final acts of love is knowing and following the end of life wishes of those we hold dear

in our hearts. This isn’t an easy task so come and learn how to prepare yourselves for approaching

the important conversation.

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The 2016 International Convention of USY was recently held in Dallas and your Inclusion

Initiative was asked to offer a presentation on a special needs and inclusion topic

Perseverance and Disabilities. How proud we were to lead a session of over 70 youngsters.

These young people went through exercises and small group discussions that sensitized and

engaged them regarding barriers to participation in life. It was a pleasure to see our Jewish

future on their faces and to know that CBT contributed to shaping that future.

THE FAREWELL PARTY (Film Program) RSVP to Dr. Lazar | 972.979.2779 | [email protected]

19 February, Sunday, 7PM (MPR)

Join us for a poignant and humorous film about life in an Israeli nursing home that deals with

end of life decisions followed by discussion. Dr. Myron Lazar, PH.D., Psychoanalyst and

Clinical Psychologist will moderate. Discussants will include Mary Turner, PH.D., expert in

treating geriatric patients with chronic illness and life issues and Paul Chavetz, PH.D., works

with aging adults struggling with difficulty transitions.

Learn more about—

· Dr. Turner online at http://profiles.utsouthwestern.edu

· Dr. Chafetz online at http://www.paulkchafetz.com

A program of Congregation Beth

Torah's CLC Adult Education. For

questions, contact Beri Schwitzer at

972.234.1542 x 232.

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FESTIVE FIRST FRIDAY SERVICE 3 February, Friday, 8PM

Join us for this special monthly service

celebrating upcoming birthdays and

anniversaries.

MC HAVDALAH WHISKEY TASTING 4 February, Saturday, 7:30—10:30 PM (Oneg)

Contact Brian Rubenstein

[email protected]

Join Men's Club for havdalah followed by a

whiskey–tasting with spirits provided by Trinity

River Distillery. We'll sample their signature Texas

Silver Star Whiskey and other products from their

Fort Worth distillery.

WORLD WIDE WRAP 5 February, Sunday, 9AM (Offsite)

Contact Brian Rubenstein

[email protected]

Join the World Wide Wrap hosted at Anshai Torah

this year (5501 W Parker Rd 75093). For

questions, contact [email protected] or

972.473.7718. There will be minyan at CBT at

the regular time.

TALK ‘N FOLD (M3) 8 February, Wednesday, 2PM (Oneg)

Contact Lisa Miller

[email protected]

Come help fold, seal, label, and postage the

monthly mailing. This mailing is done the second

Wednesday of each month at 2PM so put it on

your calendar!

ANNUAL KASHRUT AND SHABBAT

POLICY MEETING 12 February, Sunday, 10–11AM (Sanctuary)

Contact Heather

[email protected]

Please join Rabbi Zelony for the annual review of

our congregation's kashrut and Shabbat policies.

This will be an opportunity to learn what policies

we have, ask questions about the policies, and

we'll examine how they have worked in the

community over the past year.

THE TALMUD WITH RABBI ZELONY Mondays following 6:45 AM Minyan

Contact Rabbi Elana Zelony

[email protected]

The Talmud is the foundational text upon

which all modern forms of Judaism stand.

Come explore, spar with, and make meaning

of this sacred book. Open to all learners.

Hebrew text is provided but class discussions

will be based on English translation.

INTRO TO JUDAISM: ON ONE FOOT 7, 21, 28 February, Tues, 6:30 PM (Library)

Contact Beri Schwitzer

[email protected]

This course covers the sweep of more than

3,000 years of history, encounters texts and

teachers both ancient and contemporary, and

most importantly—gives you the opportunity to

reflect on your place in the narrative of the

Jewish people.

JEWISH & CHRISTIAN STUDY 6 February, Monday, Noon (Oneg)

Contact Earl Bills / [email protected]

A unique interfaith study group of Jews and

Christians learning about each other as we

study primary source texts (Bible, Mishnah).

We are currently looking at the development

of early Christianity.

JEWISH SPIRITUALITY

5, 12, 19, 26 February, Sunday, 8AM (Rm 11)

Contact Rabbi Zelony

[email protected]

The Mystical Tradition and How it Speaks to

Our Everyday Lives— Come explore essays of

the Chassidic masters and modern scholars to

understand what Judaism has to say about

God, inner transformation, spiritual practice,

compassion, healing, tshuva, halacha, and

mitzvot.

ONGOING CLASSES

SHUL DOINGS

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KADIMA GOES TO WHIRLYBALL Grades 6 to 8

12 February, Sunday, 12:45 PM (Offsite) Contact Megan Fehler [email protected]

Come join Kadima for an afternoon of fun!

Whirlyball combines elements from basketball

and lacrosse and is played using bumper cars.

You don't need any experience to play, and it is

loads of fun! $10 for Kadima members, $15 for

non-members. You may bring extra money to play

laser tag or arcade games if you would like. RSVP

by February 3..

JOINT BREAKFAST PROGRAM 19 February, Sunday, 9:30 AM (MPR)

See page 9 for details on this joint Men's Club

and Sisterhood program.

THE FAREWELL PARTY 19 February, Sunday, 7PM (MPR)

See page 13 for details on this film program.

SHUL DOINGS

CONGREGATIONAL

SHABBAT DINNER (SERVING CHINESE FOOD)

6:30 PM February 17 Let's get cozy with family and friends with some

hot and spicy Chinese food. Learning Center and

Youth will lead Friday Night services following

dinner at 7:30 PM. $10 per person. $36 per

family of four ($10 per additional person).

Children under 5 eat free! Register online at

http://cbt.news/cbtdinner.

TEXAS HOLD’EM POKER 21 February, Tuesday, 7PM (Oneg)

Contact Neil Burnstein

[email protected]

Come for a night of fun and friendship. $20

members and $25 non-members.

DOING JEWISH—ALIYAH TO TORAH 21 February, Tuesday, 7:30 PM (Offsite)

See page 4 for details on this class.

THE CONVERSATION PROJECT 23 February, Thursday, 7PM (Offsite)

See page 13 for details on this special program.

ISRAELI SOLDIER TOUR 25 February, Saturday, during Kiddush lunch

See page 16 for details on this special program.

SCHMOOZING WITH THE MIDDLE 25 February, Saturday, 8PM

Contact Gloria & Phil Stayman

[email protected]

The Middle is a purely social, all-inclusive, non-

exclusive group of post-carpool, pre-retirement

age people. Email Gloria & Phil for details.

SISTERHOOD TORAH FUND BRUNCH 26 February, Sunday, Noon (Offsite)

See page 11 for details on this annual event.

USY AND KADIMA HAMENTASCHEN

MAKING 26 February, Sunday, 12–1:30 PM (Youth Lounge)

RSVP to Megan Fehler or Ralph Landau [email protected]

[email protected]

Calling all USYers and Kadimaniks! We're making

hamantashen! RSVP so we'll have enough dough.

BOARD MEETING 27 February, Monday, 7:30 PM (Oneg)

Contact Lisa Miller

[email protected]

Monthly board meetings are open to all CBT

members with Minyan starting at 7:15 PM.

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following

"Israeli" Kiddush Luncheon with Special Guests Come hear the stories of two inspiring young Israelis—their struggles, their

successes, their military service, and their hopes and dreams. Ask the tough questions, and learn what it is actually like to live in a country that is the subject of so much discussion in the media and on campus. The soldiers speak in dozens of cities across North America each spring, in venues

including college campuses, high schools, synagogues, and churches. By the time the annual tour is finished, our soldiers will have shared their personal experiences with tens of thousands of students and community members.

Ido is currently a student at Tel Aviv University studying philosophy, politics, and economics. He was born and raised in Ramat Hasharon, a small city next to Tel Aviv, and has a twin brother named Roee. At the age of eighteen, Ido joined the army and

served as an infantry officer. In that role, he led operational activities across Israel’s borders and participated in two major operations against Hamas in the Gaza Strip. After he completed his service, Ido moved to Tel Aviv with his girlfriend Shira. Last year he participated in the StandWithUs Fellowship Program, where he found his passion for public diplomacy.

Eden is currently a student at Ben Gurion University in the Negev, pursuing her BA in political science and business management. Eden is originally from a small town located between Tel Aviv and Jerusalem, but she currently lives in Tel Aviv and works for Intel. During her military service, Eden served for

three and a half years as a social welfare officer and completed her service as the commander of the Israel Defense Forces’ Social Welfare Course. Upon completing her service, Eden traveled for eight months in the Far East and South America. Currently, Eden volunteers with sixty members of a youth group that she meets with once a week in an organization called ‘Light to Excellence’. In her free time, Eden loves running, dancing, reading, and traveling.

Israeli Soldiers' Stories Real Soldiers. Real Lives. Real People.

CONGREGATION BETH TORAH

720 W. LOOKOUT DR., RICHARDSON TX 75080

[email protected]

FROM ADULT EDUCATION

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David Engelberg | [email protected]

WE GRATEFULLY ACKNOWLEDGE THE FOLLOWING CONTRIBUTIONS

BURN THE MORTGAGE

—David Decker & Michelle

Gordon

A Speedy Recovery For

Jo & Jerry Zeffren

—Elaine & Bob Scharf

—Esther & Nat Cohen

—Sue Chizeck & Bill Pervin

In Celebration Of

Ellen & Gary Ackerman's new

grandchild —Sue Chizeck &

Bill Pervin

Nat & Esther Cohen's

Anniversary —Sue Chizeck &

Bill Pervin

Roz Wiener's 70th birthday—

Esther & Nat Cohen

In Honor Of

Scott & Vikki Silvis' new

grandchild —Elaine & Bob

Scharf

Paula Wolf & Lary Dial's

grandson, William —Elaine &

Bob Scharf

Ellen & Gary Ackerman's new

grandchild —Elaine & Bob

Scharf

In Memory Of

Ann Cohen and Benjamin

Wills —Debbie & John Wills

Benjamin Wouch —Amy and

Martin Wouch

Charlotte Glunts —Sue

Chizeck & Bill Pervin

Dale Steven Greenblatt—

Merilyn Robbins

Pauline Westerfeld —Amy and

Martin Wouch

Sarah Korman's mother,

Alegre Tevet —Jo & Jerry

Zeffren

Sophia Weinstein —Sue

Chizeck & Bill Pervin

Yetta Wouch —Amy and Martin

Wouch

CEMETERY

In Memory Of

Joseph Shane —David

Goldstein & Laura Levy

CONGREGATIONAL LEARNING

CENTER

In Memory Of

Sarah Korman's mother,

Alegre Tevet —Harriet Gross

INCLUSION INITIATIVE

In Memory Of

Edward Newman —Marsha

Kreitman

Fred Grossman —Jo & Jerry

Zeffren

Robert Harris —Jo & Jerry

Zeffren

MARK A. SIEGEL ADULT

EDUCATION

A Speedy Recovery For

Jo & Jerry Zeffren —Nancy

Siegel

In Memory Of

Jack Fredine —Nancy Siegel

Steve Halper —Nancy Siegel

OPERATING

—Becky & Jeremy Reichman

In Memory Of

Felicia Rubin's father, Easer

Rovinsky —Cyd & Cliff

Friedman

Sarah Korman's mother,

Alegre Tevet —Cyd & Cliff

Friedman

Sophia Weinstein —Cyd & Cliff

Friedman

RABBI DISCRETIONARY FUND

—Donald & Henci Goer

In Appreciation Of

Rabbi Zelony —Jay & Esther

Rae Weinstein

In Memory Of

Harold Hainebach —Ronnie

& Anne Davidoff

Jack Fredine —Bob &

Kathleen Glosser

Steve Halper —Bob &

Kathleen Glosser

RITUAL

In Memory Of

Felicia Rubin's father, Easer

Rovinsky —Eileen &

Howard Kessner

Moe Kuchinsky —Arnold &

Miriam Kuchinsky

Zelda Kuchinsky —Arnold &

Miriam Kuchinsky

RITUAL—KIDDUSH

In Memory Of

Sarah Korman's mother,

Alegre Tevet —Evelyn &

Paul Utay

ROBERT LINKER LIQUOR FUND

—Stephen & Robin Popik

SHIELD OF DAVID

—Jack & Susan Cooper

—Allan Robins

—Lev Gelb & Amy Walker

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LIGHTING A CANDLE Perhaps the best known custom for

observing a Yahrzeit is lighting a candle

made to burn for at least 24 hours. We light

the candle at home on the evening that the

Yahrzeit begins. It is a symbol of the soul

and spirit of the deceased. If a Yahrzeit falls

on Shabbat or a Holiday, the candle is

typically lit before the Shabbat or holiday

candles. Although there is no formal blessing

when lighting the candle, a meditation may

be said. It is appropriate, of course, to use

your own words and thoughts.

ATTENDING SERVICES The Yahrzeit observance lasts a full day and

it is customary to attend services on the

Shabbat before the Yahrzeit. You will receive

a reminder from the office each year,

sharing with you the date in which the name

of your loved one will be read, and the name

will be read prior to the Kaddish prayer.

Should you wish to change the date in which

you want the name to be read, please

contact the Synagogue office at

972.234.1542 x221.

TZEDAKAH It is traditional to do Tzedakah—righteous

acts of charitable giving—when observing

a Yahrzeit to honor the memory of the

deceased. The annual reminders you receive

from the shul includes a donation slip if you

wish to give to Beth Torah.

Yahrzeit is a Yiddish word meaning “a year’s time”

and it is the remembrance of the anniversary of a

loved one’s death. It is observed each year on the

date of death.

One of the many services that Congregation Beth

Torah offers to its members is the reminder of

family yahrzeits. Yahrzeit is the memorialization of a

loved one on the anniversary of their death. It is a

very emotional time for family and friends of the

deceased and, at CBT, we do our best to ensure

that yahrzeits are announced and family members

are notified in a timely manner. We depend on the

family to inform us of the date of a loved one’s

death. It is the tradition at CBT, and of Conservative

congregations in general, to observe a yahrzeit

based on the Hebrew calendar. To make it easy for

those congregants who may not be familiar with the

Hebrew calendar, we ask for the secular calendar

date and we make the conversion. However, while a

day on the secular calendar starts at 12:00 AM,

midnight, and goes through 11:59 PM, the day on

the Hebrew calendar starts at sundown and goes

through sundown. Therefore, it is very important

that when you report the date of a yahrzeit, you

must specify whether the death occurred before or

after sundown on the secular date so that we can

convert it to the correct Hebrew date. If you are not

sure if it was before or after sundown, provide the

date and the time of death (always listed on the

death certificate) and we will determine when

sundown was.

QUESTIONS? If you have any questions about yahrzeit dates, or anything having to do with the rituals and customs

surrounding the end of life experience, contact—

Rabbi Zelony ([email protected])

Ritual Committee ([email protected])

Cemetery Committee ([email protected])

ALL ABOUT YAHRZEITS

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Although there is no prescribed prayer for

lighting a yahrzeit candle, you might

include the following meditation in

addition to your own personal memories:

I haven't forgotten you, even though it's

been some time now since I've seen

your face, touched your hand, heard

your voice. You are with me all the time.

I used to think you left me. I know better

now. You come to me. Sometimes in

fleeting moments I feel your presence

close by. But I still miss you. And

nothing, no person, no joy, no

accomplishment, no distraction, not

even God, can fill the gaping hole your

absence has left in my life. But mixed

together with all the sadness, there is a

great joy for having known you. I want to

thank you for the time we shared, for the

love you gave, for the wisdom you

spread. Thank you for the magnificent

moments and for the ordinary ones too.

There was beauty in our simplicity.

Holiness in our unspectacular days. And

I will carry the lessons you taught me

always. Your life has ended, but your

light can never be extinguished. It

continues to shine upon me even on the

darkest nights and illuminates my way. I

light this candle in your honor and in

your memory. May God bless you as you

have blessed me with love, with grace,

and with peace. Amen.

These names will be read at Shabbat services on the

dates listed. To make a correction or add a new name,

contact the office at 972.234.1542 or go to

http://congregationbethtorah.org/yahrzeit-info

FEBRUARY 3 & 4

Jacob Oberstein

Susan Blumka

Harriette Leve

Sarah Kreitman

Ida Kahn

Lillian Davis

Max Mond

Murray Finkelstein

Rachel Oberstein

Louis Chavkin

Beatrice Kolton

Cecil Liken

Edward Newlander

Harold Orkin

Joseph Roth

Richard

Rosenbaum

Sol Rosen

Edward Wyman

Florine Lustgarten

Jessard Wisch

Mildred Popik

Geneive Ansher

Max Ingber

Ruth Zeiger-

Shapiro

Sabina Stern

FEBRUARY 10 & 11

Bernard Shapiro

Jay Davis

Etta Barenblat

Leah Goldberg

Renee Chilton

Rhoda Liken

Sidney Glantz

Sylvia Levine

Kaplan

Anita Zucker

Charles Goldberg

Esther Korman

Harry Wasserman

Morris Watkins

FEBRUARY 10 & 11

Dora Dorf

Fred Gans

Jeff Cohen

Louis Burnstein

Adelaide Rose

Celia Kahalnik

Gary Schmidt

Jose Baum

Lillian Jacobs

Alfonso Granado

Florence Faber

Julius Ingber

Sally Kopita

Shirley Narzem

Stanley Rubenstein

Theodore Garber

Frances Glantz

Gussie Rose Morris

Lydia Wasserman

Brand

FEBRUARY 17 & 18

Fred S. Kramer

Grace Bradley

Joe Berger

Joshua Wells

Samuel Agatstein

Estelle Goodman

Goldie Saffran

Helen Rosenzweig

Leonard

Kesselman

Resel Turitz

Goldfarb

Abigail Shack

David Rubin

Fedora Gorkavaya

Gertrude

Lieberman

Lewis Sham

Martin Gluckman

Simon Pasternack

Stanley Thorne

FEBRUARY 17 & 18

Alan Sigman

Djoulia Cohen

Bernard Weiner

Eva Parks

Franklin Oberstein

Abraham Frumker

Janice Berger

Morris (Mike)

Tisser

Rebecca Shane

Robert Sharfstein

Sharon Myers

FEBRUARY 24 & 25

Benjamin Herman

Cecil Mindle

Dorothy J. Thorne

George Goer

Harold Goldberg

Henry Herman

Paul Balkin

Abraham Newman

Daniel Paul

David Koff

Jean Pappworth

Jeanne Conners

Lorraine Wells

Maurice Koch

Milton Goldstein

Rose Levin

Alice Hodan

Burton Sobol

Jerry Chait

Lucielle Hebert

Sol Soman

Bessie Smith

Donald Kaplan

Geraldine Weiss

Louis Kahalnik

Marilyn Adler

Beatrice Goldstein

Michael Agatstein

THIS MONTH'S YAHRZEITS

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Congregation

Beth Torah 720 W. Lookout Drive

Richardson, Texas 75080

Services

SYNAGOGUE

OFFICES ARE

OPEN — Sunday—Friday

9:30 AM to 5:30 PM

Minyan

9:00 AM Sunday

6:45 AM Monday, Non-Holiday

8:30 AM Monday, Holidays

Shabbat

9:30 AM Main Service

Babysitting in Room 1

10:30 AM Junior Congregation

11:00 AM Tot Shabbat (second and

fourth Shabbat of the month)

Kabbalat Shabbat

6:30 PM Friday

8:00 PM Festive First Friday! Join us on

the first Friday of each month for

a special service where we

celebrate the month’s upcoming

birthdays and anniversaries—

February 3

March 3

April 7

May 5

June 2

ISRAELI

DANCING Contact Linda Kahalnik

[email protected]

All dancers welcome! We meet on

Wednesday evenings in the Multi-

Purpose room (unless otherwise noted

on the synagogue calendar). Free for

members. $5 for non-members. 7:30

PM to 8:15 PM beginners. 8:30 to

10:30 PM for advanced.

TOT SHABBAT Contact Jessica Winter

[email protected]

On the 2nd and 4th Saturday of the

month at 11AM in the MPR room, bring

your tot and enjoy singing, dancing,

storytelling and a snack. It’s a fun-filled

ritual to educate, entertain, enthrall, and

envelope our youngest members.