Foundations of a Healthy Relationship- Day 1

Respecting Yourself and Others-Day 2Communicating Effectively- Day 3

Review- Day 4Test- Day 5

Foundations of a Healthy Relationship

Building strong relationships is important to your overall health.

relationship

friendship

citizenship

role

interpersonal communication

cooperation

compromise

You have many types of relationships in your life, and you play different roles in all of them.

Building and maintaining healthy relationships can help you meet the need to belong and feel loved.

You have relationships with family members, friends, teachers, classmates, and people in your community.

RelationshipA bond or connection you have with other people

Some of the most important relationships in your life are with the family members who share your home, such as parents or guardians, brothers, and sisters.

  One thing that makes family relationships

special is that they last your entire life.

Healthy family relationships strengthen every side of your health triangle.

Physical

Mental/Emotional

food, clothing, and shelter

love, care, and encouragement

Social

values andsocial skills

Although you probably have many friends your own age, a friendship can form between people of any age.

FriendshipA significant relationship between two people that is based on trust, caring, and consideration

Good friends can have a positive influence on your self-esteem and help you resist harmful behaviors.

Being part of a strong community has a positive impact on every aspect of your health.

  It can promote healthful behaviors and

also provide resources to help you when you’re in trouble.

You reinforce your ties to the community through good citizenship.

CitizenshipThe way you conduct yourself as a member of the community

Good citizens work to strengthen their communities by

obeying laws being friendly to neighbors

helping to improve the places where they live

In the course of a single day, you may play many roles with different people.

RoleA part you play in your relationships

In a healthy relationship, people respect and support each other.

Healthy relationships nurture you, bring out the best in you, and encourage you to make healthful choices in your life.

Qualities of Healthy Relationships

mutual respect

caring

honesty commitment

Mutual Respect

You treat other people with respect, and they respect you in return.

You accept each other’s opinions, tastes, and traditions, even if they are different.

At times you may agree to disagree instead of trying to force your opinions on each other.

You treat other people with kindness and consideration.

During difficult times, you show empathy and support.

You’re also willing to help out others.

Caring

You are honest and open with others rather than concealing your thoughts, feelings, or actions.

Honesty

You contribute to the relationship and work to keep it strong, even if it means making some sacrifices.

You deal with problems in a positive way and are able to overcome them.

Commitment

The Three Cs of Healthy Relationships

Communication Cooperation Compromise

In relationships, people need to understand each other.

  It’s important to learn effective

communication skills so you can express your thoughts, feelings, and expectations to others and understand theirs in return.

In relationships, people need to cooperate with each other. Cooperation can strengthen your relationships.

CooperationWorking together for the good of all

Sometimes, when people in relationships want different things, they may decide to compromise.

CompromiseA problem-solving method in which each participant gives up something to reach a solution that satisfies everyone

Demonstrating the six traits of good character can strengthen your relationships.

Six Traits of Good Character

Trustworthiness Respect Responsibility

Fairness Caring Citizenship

After You ReadReviewing Facts and Vocabulary

Sample answer: Family relationships, friendships, relationships in my community

1. Identify three kinds of relationships you have in your life.

After You ReadReviewing Facts and Vocabulary

2. Define citizenship and give an example of good citizenship.

Citizenship is the way you conduct yourself as a member of the community. An example of good citizenship is being friendly to neighbors.

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3. What are the three Cs of healthy relationships?

Communication, cooperation, compromise

Respecting Yourself and Others

You can promote healthy relationships by showing respect for yourself and others in your life.

personal identity

values

prejudice

stereotype

tolerance

bullying

hazing

Self-respect will strengthen your relationships.

When you respect yourself, you’re more likely to seek out relationships with people who treat you with respect.

Having self-respect is an important foundation for developing and maintaining healthy relationships.

  Self-respect makes you less likely to let

other people talk you into taking risks that could harm your health.

When you are clear about your values and uphold your values, other people will know what you believe in and understand what’s important to you.

  You also show that you respect yourself

and you respect others.

It’s important to treat people with respect.

You can strengthen your relationships with all the people in your life by treating them with the same respect you’d like them to show you.

With strangers and casual acquaintances, you can show respect through common courtesy.

  You might hold a door open for someone

or say “Thank you” to the checker at the grocery store.

With close friends and family members, you can show respect in more significant ways.

Listen to other people.

Be considerate of others’ feelings.

Develop mutual trust.

Be realistic in your expectations.

Lending your MP3 player to your brother is one way to show that you trust him.

Sometimes people treat others with disrespect because of prejudice.

PrejudiceAn unfair opinion or judgment of a particular group of people

Assuming that all boys like sports is an example of a gender stereotype.

StereotypeAn exaggerated or oversimplified belief about people who belong to a certain group

People who have tolerance value diversity and can appreciate differences in other people’s cultures, interests, and beliefs.

ToleranceThe ability to accept others’ differences

Victims of bullying are verbally, emotionally, and sometimes physically abused.

BullyingDeliberately harming or threatening other people who cannot easily defend themselves

Bullies may tease their victims, spread rumors about them, try to keep them out of a group, or even physically attack them.

  Bullies are more likely to drop out of school

and to have problems with alcohol or violence.

Bullies may intimidate through verbal attacks, malicious rumors, or even physical force.

Hazing is often meant to humiliate new members of a group. It can be physically or emotionally harmful.

HazingMaking others perform certain tasks in order to join the group

After You ReadReviewing Facts and Vocabulary

Listen to others, be considerate of others’ feelings, develop mutual trust, and be realistic in your expectations.

1. Identify four ways to show respect in your relationships.

After You ReadReviewing Facts and Vocabulary

2. What are stereotypes?

Stereotypes are exaggerated or oversimplified beliefs about people who belong to a certain group.

After You ReadReviewing Facts and Vocabulary

3. List three reasons some teens bully others.

To make themselves feel superior, to feel they are part of a group, to keep from being bullied themselves

Communicating Effectively

Effective communication is a key to building healthy relationships.

aggressive

passive

assertive

“I” message

active listening

body language

There are three types of communication styles.

Becoming aware of your communication style will help you to understand how others perceive you.

Three Styles of Communication

Aggressive Passive Assertive

People with an aggressive communication style may not pay attention to others’ thoughts, feelings, or needs.

AggressiveBeing overly forceful, pushy, or hostile

People may adopt a passive communication style because they dislike conflict and will go out of their way to avoid an argument.

PassiveBeing unwilling or unable to express thoughts and feelings in a direct or firm manner

Being assertive involves standing up for your rights and beliefs while also respecting those of others.

AssertiveExpressing your views clearly and respectfully

To communicate effectively, you need to learn speaking skills, listening skills, and nonverbal communication.

Communication is a two-way street.

The key to good communication is to say what you mean.

  It’s not reasonable to expect other people

to read your mind or be able to pick up on subtle hints.

One way to make sure you don’t sound disrespectful when talking about a touchy subject is to use “I” messages. 

“I” messageA statement that focuses on your feelings rather than on someone else’s behavior

“I feel hurt when I’m left out of a conversation.”  

“You always ignore me when your other friends are around.”

“It bothers me when I get home and find all my CDs in your room.”

“You’re always taking my CDs without asking.”

“I’m feeling stressed because I have a big project due tomorrow. I’ll take out the trash as soon as I finish working on this.”

“I said I’d take out the trash, and I will! You don’t have to nag me about it every five minutes!”

“I feel like my suggestions aren’t being taken seriously.”

“You never listen to anything I say.”

“I really don’t like to be left waiting—it makes me feel like you don’t think I’m important.”

“Why can’t you ever show up on time?”

“You” Messages “I” Messages

Make sure other people’s messages get through to you by practicing active listening.

Active listeningPaying close attention to what someone is saying and communicating

Don’t interrupt.

Show interest.

Show empathy.

Restate what you hear.

Ask questions.

Your body language affects the meaning of the messages you send.

Body languageNonverbal communication through gestures, facial expressions, behaviors, and posture

“I’m really interested in what you’re saying.”

“I don’t want to talk to you.” “I’m worried.”

Offering constructive feedback can improve your relationships with others.

The goal of constructive criticism is to bring about positive changes.

To offer constructive criticism:

Use “I” messages that focus on the problem, not on the person.

Point out a specific problem, explain why it bothers you, and suggest a solution.

Letting people know how their actions make you feel isn’t something you should do only when there’s a problem.

  Let the people in your life know you value

them and appreciate what they do for you.

After You ReadReviewing Facts and Vocabulary

Aggressive, passive, and assertive

1. What are the three main styles of communication?

After You ReadReviewing Facts and Vocabulary

2. List three ways to show interest in what another person is saying.

Sample answer: Face the speaker, make eye contact, nod or make comments at appropriate times

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3. Define the term body language and give an example.

Body language is nonverbal communication through gestures, facial expressions, behaviors, and posture. Nodding to show you agree is one example.

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