Friending Stress

Introduction to Research ID 6020

18th April, 2013

How heavy is this?

Demystifying this Fellow!

STRESSStress

Demystifying this Fellow!

Just to stress you

Definitions of stress ..

“The adverse reaction people have to excessive pressure or other types of demands placed on them.” (Health and Safety Executive)

 “Stress is not necessarily something bad – it all depends on how you take it. The stress of exhilarating, creative successful work is beneficial, while that of failure, humiliation or infection is detrimental.” (Selye, 1956)

“Stress is a condition or feeling experienced when a person perceives that demands exceed the personal and social resources the individual is able to mobilize.” (Lazarus, )

So what is…???

The greatest obstacle between you and happiness is stress.

Comes from the way we relate/react to events or situations.

Need to befriend this Fellow!

Anger/Frustration/ Depression /

Boredom

Sleeplessness

Fatigue / Burnout

Lack of Appetite / Binging

Indigestion / Diarrhea

Personality Disorders (diffidence, anxiety, worry, loneliness, moodiness, indecisiveness)

Obesity / Weight Loss

Alcochol/ Smoking

Computer Games / Internet

Memory LossSuicidal Tendencies

Reduced Productivity

BP , Ulcer, Migraine

Here I come…..Does my perception affect me?

The Window

A young couple

moves into a new

neighborhood.

The next morning, while they are eating breakfast, the young woman sees her

neighbor hang the wash outside.

.

Her husband looked on, but remained

silent.

.

“That laundry is not very

clean. She doesn’t know how to wash

correctly. Perhaps she needs better

laundry soap”, she

said

.

Every time her neighbor would

hang her wash to dry, the young woman would

make the same comments.

.

About one month later, the woman was surprised to see a nice clean wash on the line and said to her

husband:Look! She has learned how to wash correctly. I

wonder who taught her this.

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The husband said: I got up early this morning and

cleaned our windows!

.

And so it is with life:

What we see when watching others,

depends on the purity of the window

through which we look.

Before we give any criticism, it might be a good idea to check our state of mind and

ask ourselves if we are ready to see the good rather than to

be looking for something in the

person we are about to judge.

..

“ we don’t see things as

they are, we see things as

we are.”

?

?

?

The true man sees what the eye

sees, and does not add to it

something that is not there.

He hears what the ears hear,

and does not detect undertones

or overtones.

He is not busy with hidden

meanings…

Here I come….. The stimuli

Ticket waiting list, traffic jam, queues, ATM, tatkal Exam results, Job Family: Household chores, Illness to near/dear ones Academics: Time pressure, deadlines, ‘show results’ syndrome

Understanding the Root Cause

What are your beliefs?

Helpful or limiting?

Readiness to change?

Realistic vs. Unrealistic

change

Stress Audit-Routine or Specific?What reality do

you create?Shoulds, Musts..

Arrival Patterns in IIT Life…….

Selection of Guide

Identifying Research Problem

Zeroth DC / GTC

Grades in Course Work

Comprehensive Viva

Hostel and Food

First DC / GTC

Data Collection

Delays in Thesis Correction

Scholarship stopped

Journal / Conference Papers and deadlines

Thesis Writing (IIT Format)

Job!! (No job, Joining date)

Synopsis

Post-IIT Stress

Data Analysis, Results

Expectations of Guide

Family and Financial Issues

Welcoming Stress with RED CARPET…..Adhyatmika Adhibauthik

a Adhideivika

Multi-tasking

Procrastination

No Personal Hygiene

Neglecting Health

Swallowing more than you can chew

Lack of order and planning in life

Staying away from work until last minute

No proper diet and exercise regime

Improper Communication Not openly communicating with people who are stressors

Stress and My IIT Friends

Workload given by Guide Differences

in Expectation

setting

Fear to communicate or discuss

Family Issues

(Separation, Marriage)

Took to alcohol/smoking – 8 years

PhD

Running around for

data collection

No Journal / Conf Paper

Striking a chord with this fellow…

Benchmark Use Humor

TIPS n TRICKS!know your limits and thresholds of pain and knowledge – I Know that I Know Nothing – The Buddha

Use TO-DO Lists, POST-IT Notes, Outlook Calendar

See STRESS as a Challenge / Opportunity

Be Realistic

Lean to SAY NO!

Take ONE STEP at a time

Discuss with Friends Forgive and Forget

Have a Personal Health Plan – Diet, Nutrition, Exercise, Yoga, Meditation, Sleep

Feed Your Mind – Hobbies, Interests, Sports, Relaxation, Start something New

Pearls of Wisdom

Meditation

Detached witness

Visualize and invoke

peaceSurrender

Equanimity

When we are angry, step back from the wave of anger and try to see and feel, “anger is happening in me, but I am not in it; I am untouched by it. I watch it raise, fall and pass away like waves at the surface of my being.”

To find perfect composure in the midst of change is to experience ‘nirvana’, bliss.

I treat both success and failure as one and the same…

Your Sun Diagram

Feeling engaged

“To relieve tension, minutes of real calm, inner and

outer, are more effective than all the remedies of

the world”.

SHAKE hands with STRESS

Way forward……….