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Lesson Subject 01 7 Simple Steps To Overcome Shyness Now

02 Blood Types And Character

03 What About Love?

04 How Do You Like Korea?

05 Career Loyalty

06 Superstition And The Paranormal

07 Vacations And Mini-Retirements

08 Are You A Health Nut?

09 Are You Experienced?

10 Men, Women, And Household Chores

11 Transportation In Korea

12 Tongue Twisters

13 Divorce & Remarriage

14 First Lady Michelle Obama

15 How To Accept And Embrace Disagreement

16 How To Be Sociable At A Party When You Don’t Know Anyone There

17 How To Handle People Who Are Angry At You

18 How To Have An Opinion But Be Fair About It As Well

19 How To Make Up With A Friend

20 How To Remember Peoples' Names


This is without a doubt the most powerful of all the steps.

Smile warmly whenever you meet family, friends or work

colleagues. Smile pleasantly whenever you meet strangers.

Smiling puts people at ease and makes people feel good

about you and them. Smile whenever you can, wherever you

can and at everyone you can.

People are programmed to respond positively to someone

smiling at them. Get into the habit of smiling and, even if this

is the only step you implement, your social interactions will

improve enormously.

01 7 Simple Steps To Overcome Shyness Now

Step Number One – SMILE

Step Number Two - BODY LANGUAGE

Our body language directly influences how people judge

and treat us and, very importantly, how we feel about ourselves.

Holding yourself erect and looking straight ahead instead of

slouching around and looking down at the floor can

dramatically improve your mood and make you feel far better

in yourself.

People will be much more likely to approach you in a

positive and friendly manner if you look alert and interested in

what is going on around you.


Decide to be a kind, caring and generous person.

Be kind to your family members, to your friends and to strangers as much as

you can.

Show that you care about people other than yourself whenever possible.

For example, if you see someone struggling with heavy shopping, ask if you

can give them a hand. Should you be lucky enough to have plenty, share some

of your good luck with other people. If you have nothing, be happy to share

your time. When you focus on what you can do for others, it will take your

mind off yourself in social situations.

Step Number Three – BE KIND

Step number Four – BE CLEAN

Sometimes, depending on where we live and what

job we do, it's far from easy to keep ourselves clean.

However, it's well worth the effort because people

will treat us with respect when we are clean and we will

feel much more confident about ourselves. If we feel

dirty and unkempt, our confidence will be low.

However, simply having a wash or shower and then

pulling on a clean t- shirt or a pair of jeans can actually

make us feel happy and good about ourselves.

Work on improving your posture. Get into the habit

of sitting and standing up straight and looking the

world in the eye in a relaxed and friendly manner.

Confident body language sends positive self-image

messages to your brain and has beneficial effects on

your physical health too.


Get into the habit of saying "YES" as often as you can.

Should you be lucky enough to be invited to a sporting,

cultural or social event say "Yes, count me in.” Even if

you don't know anything about the activity, or even if

you think you may not like it, still say "yes" and go with

an open mind.

You could easily be surprised by how much you

enjoy something you didn’t expect to like or had never

considered doing before. The same principle applies to

foods, restaurants, movies and plays, etc. that you have

not tried before or never been to. A good idea is to

practice saying "Yes I can" in your head, or out loud if

you are alone. Become a "yes" person and a world of

opportunity will open up for you.

Step Number Five – SAY "YES"

Step Number Six – SAY "NO"

It's also important to get into the habit of saying

"NO" at the right times. If someone is taking advantage

of us, bullying us, or asking us to do something illegal

or against our beliefs, developing the courage to say

"no" can be a massive benefit. However, saying "no" is

not always easy. Saying "no" in an acceptable way is a

skill and we want to be able to say "no" without

upsetting anyone or making the situation worse.

For instance, if a colleague is trying to get us to do

work that they should being doing themselves we need

to be able to say "no" without offending them. A good

method in this kind of circumstance is to make a joke of

it and say something along the lines of "Sorry, no I can't,

but good try. I wish I could find somebody do my

work!"

Never put your self in danger, but refuse to accept

what you know is wrong.


Try this simple exercise when you first wake up in the

morning and whenever you have a spare moment

during the day. Using your imagination, picture yourself

as a confident, happy, well liked and respected person.

Imagine everything going well for you that day.

Imagine yourself talking easily to whomever you

encounter and see yourself, in your mind, smiling and

asking everyone that you meet how they are and how

things are going for them.

Try to get as clear a picture as you can in your mind

of what you want to happen and then just imagine it

happening the way you want it to. Set the bar as high

as you wish when imagining achieving your goals and

ambitions, just remember to see yourself as an

honorable person who is worthy of being granted your

wishes.

Step Number 7 – IMAGINATION

Well, you now have all 7 steps to overcome shyness! You have the tools to start enjoying your life.

Life is not a rehearsal. Once time has passed, it has gone forever.

Just remember: you can't win every game. So, relax and enjoy your life.


Blood Types And Character

It’s now a common thing in Korea for

people to socialize about blood types. We

make assumptions about someone’s character

or behavior through his or her blood type.

The whole blood type hype began when a

Japanese scientist Takeji Furukawa assigned

specific character traits to each blood group

back in 1972. Although medical experts

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There have been countless testimonials from people who went on blind

dates. And these people have one thing in common. They all have become an

advocate of the credo defining characters in accordance with blood types. Of

course, the information people pay attention to before going on a blind date is

a partner’s appearance, academic and family background. However, as each

partner or date reveals typical traits of a blood type described in various

sources, people are adding the blood type information as a tool to assume and

understand partners’ character in advance. Interestingly enough, this news is

not an isolated case, but a prevailing phenomenon in our society.

A recent survey conducted by a famous matchmaking agency showed that

seven out of ten women believe blood type is an important factor in selecting

a date. Furthermore, the survey found that a man with AB blood was the most

unwelcome. Blood type B and A followed. Blood type O was ranked as the

most favored.

Just in case you are planning to go on a blind date, here is a little

information provided by people who have carefully analyzed blood types.

assume the widespread belief is completely groundless, the thought has

become an important factor for people that are trying to find a new date or

love.


Type O: They have strong control of their

emotions. They are unyielding and full of

self-confidence. They tend to be very calm

and patient.

Type A: They are mild mannered. They tend to

worry much and are very cautious with

everything. They are self- sacrificing.

Type B: They are extremely sensitive, yet very

sociable. They are cheerful and

independent.

Type AB: Simply put, they are blood type B on the

outside, and blood type A on the inside.

1. Who assigned specific character traits to each blood group?

2. What was the result of the survey conducted by a famous matchmaking agency?

3. What are the characteristics of Blood Type A, B, O and AB?

Questions for Comprehension

Questions for Discussion

1. What is your blood type? Does your blood type match the description in the article?

2. Do you believe the description of each blood type made by Takeji Furukawa?

3. Is blood type a factor when you go on a date?


What About Love?

This Lesson is about enabling you to talk

freely among yourselves without regard to

any set lesson plan. In this lesson, we will

focus on discussing different questions about

and aspects of love.

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Have you ever been in love?

Who was your first love?

What is your definition of love? Is it a feeling? Is it an

emotion?

How is love for family and friends different from love for

a boyfriend / girlfriend / husband / wife? Is it just the

romantic side, which is different?

If you didn’t marry your first love, will you ever forget

him/her? Do you believe in love at first sight?

Do you think men fall in love more easily than women? Is

it possible to love (in a romantic sense) more than one

person at the same time?

If you break up with someone you love, do you still love

them? Can you stop loving someone?

Does “love conquer all” or are there limits to love?

Is it possible to be happily married without loving your

spouse? Do you believe in unconditional love, or can love

be selfish?

Target Questions


If you were the leader of a country, would you rather

be loved or feared?

Have you ever had a case of “puppy love?” Have you

ever been in love with your teacher?

Have you ever been in love with someone who had a

boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife?

Do you love to talk about love?

The topics included in this section will enable

you to talk freely among yourselves about

interesting and engaging topics without regard to

any set lesson plan. This topic will deal with the

different aspects of dating and the complex

relationship between men and women. Discuss

your ideas after reading the following article.

Dating

Cafes, theaters, popular hot spots for young Korean dating couples. When it

comes to where couples actually go on a date not that much has changed

over the years. However, the changes in the way the dating ritual is carried out,

from making the first move to paying the bill, are revealing of the general

attitudes of a generation.

First, the concept of a café has changed so that it is now regarded as a

comprehensive leisure venue. The added attraction is entertainment. Rock cafes

were the rage a couple of years ago; this year it’s jazz cafes, pocket ball cafes,

sports café and for the serious, even business cafes.

Another major change from the old generation is the role of women in

dating. From passive receivers women have become more active players often

taking the initiative by making the first move, deciding where to go, and

paying the bill.


1. What’s the best way to pay for a date: to take turns paying, or to have one partner pick up the whole tab?

2. What are dates like in Korea? Do you think going for a dinner or the movies are the best forms of entertainment for a date?

3. Where is the best place you’ve been on a date? Describe the best date you’ve ever had. What would be your dream date?

4. Do you have any good friends of the opposite sex? Do you believe that men and women can “just” be friends?

5. Do you believe that men should always make the first move?

6. How is dating in Korea different from dating in the West?

7. Is it ok in Korean culture for a girl or boy to date multiple people before they get married? How serious is a dating relationship in Korea?

8. How does the older generation feel about dating? If you have a girlfriend or boyfriend, do they expect you to marry that person?

As in the past, for most people, their date partners are those who have been

introduced through friends or relatives. Not knowing someone’s background

and position in society makes people wary of asking someone out that they

have met on the street or bumped into in line at the bank.

Another show of conservatism is the widespread belief that the man should

be the one to make the first move: For university students the old ritual of the

“meeting” is still a popular one. But it is increasingly something for the

younger generation. In a recent survey 40 percent of high school students said

they have been to a meeting at least once and some middle school students

also.



9. What does it mean to have a girlfriend/boyfriend in Korea? Are you allowed to hang out with other friends of the opposite sex when you were young?

10. Have you ever been hurt in a relationship before? How did it feel? How did you deal with the pain?

11. Do you think that the changes in boy/girl relationships in Korea over the last 20 years are positive? Why or why not?

12. If you have kids someday, what advice will you give them about dating? Will you allow them to date freely?


How Do You Like Korea?

Most people travel to different parts of the world

and experience the new and the different. Traveling,

however, takes planning. Before you go to another

country, it is a good idea to ask about the country

of destination.

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What are some of the most popular

tourist attractions in Korea?

If I could visit one place in Korea, which

one would you recommend?

When is the best time to visit Korea?

Where is the best place to see

traditional Korean culture?

What are some interesting things about

Korean culture?

Target Questions

Ana: Hi, my name is Ana. Nice to meet you.

Hee Jong: Nice to meet you, too. My name is Hee Jong.

Ana: I just arrived in Korea yesterday, and I don’t know much about the country. Can I ask you a couple of questions about Korea?

Hee Jong: Sure.

Ana: What are some of the most popular tourist attractions in Korea?

Hee Jong: There are too many to list. But, you can check out all the famous palaces, temples, mountain…

Conversation Practice


Ana: Well, if you had to pick one place to go, which would you recommend?

Hee Jong: Umm, I’d say you should go to Kyung Ju.

Ana: Why Kyung Ju?

Hee Jong: Kyung Ju was the ancient capital during the Shilla dynasty. Kyung Ju has many historical sites and attractions. Besides, it’s a beautiful city.

Ana: Could I experience traditional Korean culture there?

Hee Jong: Definitely

Ana: That sounds great. Thanks!

Hee Jong: You’re welcome. Have a good trip.

Examine the following list of popular Korean

tourist attractions. Mark the ones that you have been

to or that you know about. Then discuss your travel

experiences and which one of the following would

you most strongly recommend to a foreign visitor.

Add some good reasons for your choices.

Pagoda Park / Folk Village / Yongpyeong Resort /

Panmoonjum / Namsan Tower / Everland / Gyeongju

/ Jeju-do / Namdaemun / 63 Building / Incheon /

Gyeongbokgung / Jamsil Stadium / Taejongdae /

Biwon (The secret Garden) / Jirisan

Best Places to go in Korea


Career Loyalty

When employers open their businesses and

employees start their careers, both usually have one

similar goal to succeed. During the beginning of

this 21st Century, the work office is full of tough

competition. An interesting part related to this is

the different view of loyalty between employers and

employees.

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Companies must be competitive with their market rivals. The management

executives expect employees to show their loyalty to the company by taking

on additional tasks or working overtime (OT) hours more often. For example,

instead of a dozen people working in the Human Resources (HR) Department

for a full workday, through restructuring many companies have downsized and

gotten rid of some positions so that only nine people do the same work as

twelve. This usually requires employees to work more OT to complete the extra

assignments.

As a result, the employers are pleased. This

saves the company some overhead cost, which

indirectly increases their profits. This money can

be used to make them more competitive with

their market rivals. The employers believe the

honor of working for a leading competitive

company will make the employees more loyal.

What might be occurring is actually vice versa.

For the employees, the benefits are not quite clear. Showing their loyalty by

working more means that they could have less leisure time and yet they could

still be sacked at any time. These work conditions could reduce

competitiveness as the employees’ morale decreases and they are burnt out

from working too many hours. This could actually trigger the employees to

look for another job with better conditions (better salary, fringe benefits,

working hours, location and so on). If this happened, some money the

company saved by downsizing to make it more competitive with market rivals

would then have to be spent on training new employees.


21st Century : In accordance with the Gregorian calendar, it began on January 1, 2001, and will end on December 31, 2100.

Ex) Better technology will be used in business during the 21st Century.

Market rivals : Competitors, companies

competing to be more efficient

Ex) What company is our main market rival?

Restructuring : Reorganizing a company to be more efficient

Ex) Restructuring mainly benefits employers more than employees.

Vocabulary

Downsized : Lay off employees to be more competitive by lowering costs

Ex) Asian companies downsized after the 1997 Asian Financial Crisis.

Overhead cost : Cost to run a business not related to producing and selling goods or services (eg. Salary, electricity and rental fee)

Ex) High overhead costs in Paris forced the company to move to Jakarta.

Vice versa : The reverse, the other way round

Ex) The employee really likes his boss and vice versa.

Morale : Enthusiasm and loyalty for the job

Ex) The morale at the office was bad because of low sales.

Fringe benefits : Employees’ non-cash benefits in addition to salary that is paid by employers (eg. Medical and pension plans, a company car)

Ex) I chose to work for his company due to its generous fringe benefits.


Taking on : Accepting new responsibilities

Ex) I will be taking on new projects next month.

Gotten rid of : Removed or done away with

Ex) Have you gotten rid of the old data yet?

Be sacked : Have their job terminated; be fired

Ex) He will be sacked for arriving late at work too often.

Burnt out : Tired and needing some time off from work

Ex) She is burnt out because her boss always tells her to work overtime.

Trigger : Cause

Ex) Rude comments can trigger an argument between colleagues.

Expressions

1. What work conditions do you consider fair for both the employers and employees?

2. How is loyalty rewarded at various companies you know? For instance, do the employees receive a special bonus or an extra day off?

3. How can companies stay competitive by decreasing costs, yet still maintain enough employees? For example, could the executives reduce their entertainment account or could the company move to a less expensive office location?

4. What have you done to prepare for your future in case your job position is not as solid as it was before?



Superstition and the Paranormal

Are Koreans more superstitious than people

in other countries? Perhaps. Is there a culture

that doesn’t have any superstitions? That’s

quite unlikely. We all have our old wives’ tales.

In the West, many children don’t look under

their bed, and they can’t go to sleep if their

bedroom door is closed, claiming that a ghost

or monster might be lurking.

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Koreans generally give more credence to

what a fortune-teller might tell them than

Westerners do. The practice of visiting a

fortune-teller before making a major

decision, such as opening a business or

getting married, is very common in Korea.

People in the West do visit fortune- tellers,

but for the most part, the predictions are

not taken seriously. Most of the time,

psychics are consulted as a form of

entertainment or just out of curiosity.

It is true that not everyone in the West is superstitious, but a lot of people

do have their share of supernatural beliefs. Many people would feel a little

uncomfortable if they broke a mirror or spilled salt and then forgot to throw

some over their left shoulder to protect themselves from bad spirits.

Many Westerners do believe in UFOs. There are many claims of sightings,

and people can’t seem to get enough information and material on this subject.

There are several conspiracy theories about government cover-ups and alien

abductions.


1. Are Koreans generally superstitious than Westerners?

2. Do you have any lucky charms or items you carry with you on special occasions? Do you have a lucky hat/shirt/pencil for exams?

3. Do you know anyone who visits psychics regularly?

4. Have you ever visited a fortune-teller to know your “Sa-Joo”? 1 {See notes below} Do you believe in “Sa-Joo”?

5. Will or did your mother visit a fortune-teller to hear your “Goong-Hap”? 2

6. What happens to people after death? Are they reincarnated? Do they go to Heaven or Hell?

7. Do you think there are some truths behind superstitions? Would you write someone’s name in red?

8. What superstitions did you have as a child? What about now? Were you afraid of the dark when you were young? If so, what did you do?

9. If someone you trust told you they’d seen a ghost, would you believe them? Why or why not?

10. Do you believe in miracles? Do you know of any miracles?

11. How many Korean and Western superstitions do you know of? Name some.

12. Have you or anyone you know ever seen a UFO? If not, how would you respond if someone told you they’d seen one? If you had no proof, would you tell someone you’d seen a UFO?


13. Is it possible that UFOs exist? Where could have they come from?

14. Do you think that aliens might be smarter than us? Do you think they would be friendly or hostile? What do you think they might look like? Describe one.

15. Can you remember your dreams? Do you often have dreams? How about recurring dreams? How about nightmares?

16. Have you had any “Tae-Mong kkum”? 3


17. Do dreams come true? Do they predict the future? What experiences have you or anyone you know had with this phenomena?

18. Do you believe that houses can be haunted? Have you or anyone you know ever been in a haunted house?

19. Do you believe that there are people, like the “Mudang,” 4

20. who have special abilities to communicate with the spirit- world and see the future and the past?

21. Why are some people afraid to admit that they’re superstitious? Are they afraid that others will think that they are weak or foolish?

1. Sa-Joo is known as the “Four Pillars” : the year, month, day, and hour of one’s birth, which are supposed to influence one’s fortune or fate. See these links:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_Pillars_of_Destiny

http://kwon3002.blogspot.kr/2009/07/blog-4-goong-hap.html

2. Goong-Hap : Marital harmony (as predicted by a fortuneteller)

3. Tae-mong goom : Dreams about a baby to be born like gender, etc.

http://community.babycenter.com/post/a21983857/superstition_tae_mong_kkum

4. Mudang : A shaman, usually female, in Korean traditional indigenous religion.

http://asianhistory.about.com/od/glossaryko/g/What-Is-A-Mudang.htm

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_Pillars_of_Destiny�

http://kwon3002.blogspot.kr/2009/07/blog-4-goong-hap.html�

http://community.babycenter.com/post/a21983857/superstition_tae_mong_kkum�

http://asianhistory.about.com/od/glossaryko/g/What-Is-A-Mudang.htm�


Vacations and Mini-Retirements

Employees need vacations to

stay productive and recuperate

from stresses and pressures at the

office. A number of countries fully

agree with this philosophy. Take

France as an example, which has a

workweek that is only thirty- five

hours to improve the quality of life

there. And the Germans almost

believe that their one month

vacations are a sacred right.

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Other countries have opposite practices, though. Japanese employees use

only a small fraction of their yearly vacation time because they want to be seen

as full contributors to the team. In the US, work habits continue to change.

Fewer employees take all their entitled vacation days, which equals about nine

days per year. The worsening economy is partly to blame for the change. Many

employees fear layoffs as companies post weaker profits, and so they want to

be viewed as hard workers.

But a growing number of people support mini-retirements. Rather than take

short vacations every year, or no vacation at all, the mini-retirement can be

taken as a plausible alternative. Mini-retirements advocate an active youth

instead of working until old age and then taking a "macro" retirement. Several

months away from work allows employees to pursue personal goals and

dreams. And if the person travels abroad, then he can immerse himself in the

foreign country and culture. With remote technology, Internet cafes, and free

Wi-Fi services, it's even possible to stay up to date with the developments in

the office as well.

Life should be more than work, money, and savings. Hopefully, more offices

around the world will not only encourage vacation, but take up the mini-

retirement concept, too.


1. “I work too much!”

2. “I look forward to my retirement.” (Or “I'm already retired and I really enjoy it.”)

3. Employees shouldn't take long vacations because there could be problems at the office.

4. “I would be much happier and enjoy life much more if I could take at least one long vacation every year.”

5. Vacations don't have much benefit.

Do you agree or disagree? Why?

1. Have you ever canceled, postponed, or limited your vacation because of work? Please explain.

2. What do you think about the idea of mini-retirements versus regular vacations? Please explain.

3. What are the pluses and minuses of mini-retirements from an employer's point of view? Please explain.

4. What are the pluses and minuses of mini-retirements from an employee's point of view? Please explain.



Are You a Health Nut?

The topic of health is one of extreme importance

and one that everyone should be aware of. We all

hear about beauty and about how we should be fit

and in shape to look good, but there is much more

to it than that. A healthy diet and nutrition are

important not just for its intrinsic value, but also in

the way these make people feel good about

themselves.

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To most, good health is usually associated with a long healthy life. Healthy

people are likely to live longer. Good health is a basic component of a person’s

well-being and a necessity for earning a livelihood.

1. Do you regularly think about your health? Why/not?

2. How healthy are you? Please explain.

3. Have you ever been very sick or in the hospital?

4. How often do you go to the doctor to check your health? Should you go more often?

5. Do you exercise?

6. How often do you go on a diet? Why/not?

7. What are your opinions about vegetarians and vegans? Would you ever consider trying that lifestyle?

8. What do you think about diets that promise dynamic results in only a short amount of time? Have you ever tried such a diet? If yes, what were the results?

9. In today's fast-paced society, how easy is it to eat healthily? Why do you think so?



10. Do you think that the food we eat affects our physical and mental health? Why/not?

11. If there were a pill that allowed you eat anything without putting on the pounds, would you take it? How would you answer if there were side effects too?

12. Agree or disagree: You are what you eat. Why or why not?

13. Agree or disagree: The happiest people are healthy people.

14. In countries with national health insurance, do you think obese people should pay higher taxes for health coverage? How about people who smoke? Why/not?

15. Who is primarily responsible for our health, the government, or ourselves? Why?

16. What impact does the environment play on our health as individuals?

back on your feet

To recover, usually from an illness; to feel better after being sick.

Ex) Glad to see you back on your feet, you were very sick last week.

in someone’s hair

Constantly annoying, bothering someone repeatedly.

Ex) My boss is always getting in my hair.

Slang Expressions


Are You Experienced?

Here is your chance to tell us all about

any experiences that play a roll in your

day - something that has changed your

life or the way you think about things. It

could be something bad, or a life-

changing accident, or even something

completely amazing like climbing a

mountain or walking the desert.

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The purpose of this lesson is to share and elaborate on an appealing

experience from your life. Personal experience focuses on your experience and

its importance and impact on you. Describe a situation you consider crucial in

your development.

Whatever topic you decide on, keep in mind that your aim is to convey its

importance. Your narration should give a deep insight into the details of the

event and must gain some meaning why this very experience is so remarkable

to you.

1. What does experience mean?

2. Have you had an interesting life so far? Why or why not?

• Have you ever thought your life was boring? Why or why not?

3. Have you ever followed your dreams? Why or why not?

• What have you always wanted to do? Please explain.

• What have you never wanted to do? Please explain.

4. What is the most boring place you have ever been to?

• Why was it boring?

• How about the most interesting place?

• How about the most dangerous place? Please explain.



5. What is the scariest experience you have ever had? Why was it so scary?

6. What is the most embarrassing experience you have ever had? Why was it so embarrassing?

7. What is the biggest mistake you have ever made? Please explain.

8. Have you ever met anyone famous? If yes, who did you meet? If no, who would you like to meet?

9. Have you ever wanted to try something really dangerous? Why or why not?

10. Have you ever wanted to try something really difficult? Why or why not?

11. Have you ever met someone really amazing? What made the person so amazing?

12. What have you always been good at? Why?

• What have you never been good at? Why?

13. What important things have you learned from your parents?

14. What important things have you learned from your friends?


Men, Women, and Household Chores

The data has been examined, the

results tallied, and the conclusions

reached: Men create more housework

for women. Although he may mow the

lawn, shovel snow, or tinker with repairs

here and there, a husband adds seven

hours per week to the load of chores

conducted around the house. The

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information comes via the analysis of time diaries and questionnaires from men

and women from regions all across the US between 1996 and 2005.

Of the people surveyed, single women in their twenties and thirties did the

least amount of housework, with roughly twelve hours per week. On the other

hand, married women did the most, about seventeen hours on average.

Marriage means more work for women and less for men. In addition, the

situation worsens when children come on the scene. With three kids, the wives

took on twenty- eight hours of chores per week, while hubbies did only ten.

There were some surprises, too. Older men were more likely than younger

men to pitch in, even though surveys from thirty years ago showed that men

contributed only six hours per week to household chores. Women in their

sixties and seventies still did the most amount of work. Single women did the

least amount, or about twelve hours each week.

So what does it all mean?

Women have traditionally adopted more

responsibility around the house, and the sphere of

work and careers have been relegated to men.

Despite equal rights and better career

opportunities for women, traditional patterns

remain taken for granted by both sexes.


1. How much work do you do around the house each week? What kind of chores do you do? Please explain.

2. Why do you think men do fewer chores than women? Please explain.

3. Would you ever consider becoming a househusband? (Or would you want your husband to become one?)

4. How will the results of future surveys change in another thirty years? Why do you think so?

5. If housework were a job that paid money, what would be a fair hourly wage? Please explain.



Transportation in Korea 11

There are several choices available for transportation in Korea: taxis, buses,

and the subway. Almost any point in Korea can be reached using one of these

modes of transportation.

The basic idea behind building Seoul's transportation network was to

connect the bus routes to the subway system.

The average Korean uses public transportation daily. The traffic situation is

very serious in Seoul, especially during rush hour, which is from 7 - 9 in the

morning and from 4 - 7 in the evening. It's a good idea to avoid being out

during rush hour, if possible, but buses and the subway are still very good

transportation to travel around Korea because they are very inexpensive,

convenient and easy to use.

1. Do you use public transportations such as buses, trains, and taxicabs?

2. How often do you use them?

3. Which one is much faster to use: the subway, buses or taxi?



4. Some say that taxicabs in Korea are dangerous because drivers drive fast. What do you think of that?

5. Which do you think is much better: Take public transportation or drive your own car?

6. How’s the traffic situation in Korea?

7. What do you do if there’s traffic and you’re in the bus? How do you feel during that time?

8. They said that subways are often crowded during rush hours. What do you think of that?

9. Compare public transportation in Korea to other countries’ public transportation.

WORDS AND EXPRESSIONS

Day by day : every day

Ex) He is very sick. Day by day, he gets weaker.

Come up : provide, give, make

Ex) You should come up with a new design.

Commute : travel a long distance everyday between your home and another place.

Ex) Mike commutes to Seoul every day.

Hail : praised publicly

Ex) US magazines hailed him as the greatest Hollywood actor.

Cabbie : a person who drives a taxi

Ex) On the way to the airport, the cabbie asked us where we were going.

Got on : ride on a car or bus, get in

Ex) She got on the bus so fast, she almost hurt herself.


Tongue Twisters 12

Oh, The Sadness Of Her Sadness

Oh, the sadness of her sadness when she's sad.

Oh, the gladness of her gladness when she's glad.

But the sadness of her sadness, and the gladness of her gladness,

Are nothing like the madness of her madness when she's mad!

Whether The Weather Be Fine

Whether the weather be fine,

Or whether the weather be not,

Whether the weather be cold,

Or whether the weather be hot,

We'll weather the weather,

Whatever the weather,

Whether we like it or not.


Divorce & Remarriage

Once there was a beautiful woman

who dreamt of finding a rich and

handsome husband. Helena, with all her

luck in the world, met Peter Anderson in

a social gathering one fateful night. Peter

was working in a prestigious firm with an

MBA.

It was a love at first sight for both of

them. Peter loved Helena’s auburn hair

and her hair-bell blue eyes. She, on the

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on the other hand, was overwhelmed by Peter’s vast wealth. When he

proposed to her with a 24-carat diamond ring, she immediately said yes. Their

romance happened in a whirlwind and they got married after 3 months of

knowing each other.

He bought his Helena a lovely home in the suburbs. In return for beautiful

clothes and elegant jewels, she was a dutiful wife who devoted herself to their

children.

However, Helena never saw Peter. He worked long hours and stayed out late

at night, sharing wind, and expensive meals with potentials clients in order to

cultivate good connections. There were also rumors that he was seen dining

with attractive women in the business world.

She was growing more lonely and disconnected. One day, after looking at

the emptiness of her life, she decided to go back to college and get a career.

After watching her husband, she knew she didn’t want to be rich and

successful. She was hungry for something much deeper and more meaningful.

Something in Helena awakened as she gained new knowledge. And, one day

in class, her eyes locked with those of a handsome man who was also looking

for something that would give more meaning to his life.


1. What did Helena do in return for the beautiful clothes and elegant jewels?

2. Did Helena and her husband often enjoy themselves together?

3. While she was alone at home, what did her husband do?

4. After watching her husband, what did she want?

5. How long did she contemplate her divorce?


He was tired of the demands of the business world, and like our

protagonist—he wanted something deeper.

After a year of contemplation, Helena divorced her husband (who to this day

remained baffled but still busy) and remarried the nice man in her class. He

became a good stepfather to her children, and he always came home from

work in time for the family dinner. They weren’t rich, but they lived happily ever

after.

1. What would you consider as factors for filing a divorce? Talk about situations in which you consider getting a divorce.

2. Who is in a better position to take care of children when a couple gets divorced, the husband, or the wife?

3. If your spouse had an (extramarital) affair, would you file for a divorce or forgive him or her?

4. How could you tell that your spouse is having an illicit affair?

5. How can we reduce the number of divorces and broken marriages?



First Lady Michelle Obama

When people ask First Lady Michelle Obama to

describe herself, she doesn't hesitate to say that

first and foremost, she is Malia and Sasha's mom.

But before she was a mother - or a wife, lawyer

or public servant - she was Fraser and Marian

Robinson's daughter.

The Robinsons lived in a brick bungalow on

the South Side of Chicago. Fraser was a pump

operator for the Chicago Water Department, and

despite being diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at

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a young age, he hardly ever missed a day of work. Marian stayed home to

raise Michelle and her older brother Craig, skillfully managing a busy

household filled with love, laughter, and important life lessons.

A product of Chicago public schools, Mrs. Obama studied sociology and

African-American studies at Princeton University. After graduating from Harvard

Law School in 1988, she joined the Chicago law firm Sidley & Austin, where

she later met the man who would become the love of her life.

After a few years, Mrs. Obama decided her true calling was working with

people to serve their communities and their neighbors. She served as assistant

commissioner of planning and development in Chicago's City Hall before

becoming the founding executive director of the Chicago chapter of Public

Allies, an AmeriCorps program that prepares youth for public service.

In 1996, Mrs. Obama joined the University of Chicago with a vision of

bringing campus and community together. As Associate Dean of Student

Services, she developed the university's first community service program, and

under her leadership as Vice President of Community and External Affairs for

the University of Chicago Medical Center, volunteerism skyrocketed.

Promoting Service and working with young people has remained a staple of

her career and her interest. Continuing this effort now as First Lady, Mrs.

Obama in 2010 launched Let’s Move!, a campaign to bring together community


leaders, teachers, doctors, nurses, moms and dads in a nationwide effort to

tackle the challenge of childhood obesity. Let’s Move! has an ambitious but

important goal: to solve the epidemic of childhood obesity within a generation.

Let’s Move! will give parents the support they

need, provide healthier food in schools, help our

kids to be more physically active, and make

healthy, affordable food available in every part of

our country.

In 2011, Mrs. Obama and Dr. Jill Biden together

launched Joining Forces, a nationwide initiative

that mobilizes all sectors of society to give our

service members and their families the

opportunities and support they have earned, and

to raise awareness of military families' unique

needs as pertains to employment, education and

wellness. Joining Forces has been working hand

in hand with American businesses that are committed to answering the

President's challenge to hire or train 100,000 unemployed veterans and military

spouses by 2013.

As First Lady, Mrs. Obama looks forward to continuing her work on the

issues close to her heart — supporting military families, helping working

women balance career and family, encouraging national service, promoting the

arts and arts education, and fostering healthy eating and healthy living for

children and families across the country.

Michelle and Barack Obama have two daughters: Malia, 14, and Sasha, 11.

Like their mother, the girls were born on the South Side of Chicago.

Source: http://www.whitehouse.gov/administration (As of April 2014)


1. After reading the article, how would you describe the First Lady of the United States of America?

2. What are her passions in life?

3. She is being dubbed as a Fashion icon, what can you say about her style?

4. If you can be Michelle Obama for a day, what would you to tell Barrack that might inspire him on his presidency?


true calling : passion, interest, fervor, boundless enthusiasm

skyrocketed : rose rapidly and suddenly

Vocabulary


How to Accept and Embrace Disagreement

Accepting and embracing

disagreement is difficult for some

people who seek harmony and

cooperation all of the time.

Yet, without dissent and differing

opinions, the world would be a very

bland and conformist place indeed.

Embracing disagreement is a valuable

way of learning new ideas, tempering

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1. Remember that disagreement does not equal conflict. Sometimes

disagreement can lead to conflict, but it can also lead to discussion and

learning.

2. Express disagreement respectfully. When someone makes a statement that

you do not agree with, there are various ways to express your dissent.

"You're SO wrong" isn't a good one. Make a "disarming" preliminary

statement before you express your own opinion, which is different from

theirs:

“Interesting. It seems we have different points of view. Do you mind if I explain where

I'm coming from?”

“Really? I've made different observations, probably because I had different

experiences...”

“If two men on the same job agree all the time, then one is useless. If they disagree all the time, then both are useless.” - Darryl F. Zanuck.

your own ideas into workable outcomes, and reaching solutions that everyone can benefit from.

Try the following steps for acceptance of the disagreeable.

S t e p s


3. Exercise an open mind. Ask a lot of questions - try to understand why and

how the person drew the conclusion that you disagree with. You might find

that they've experienced things that you did not, and that those

experiences can shed light on your own beliefs.

4. Use nonviolent communication. To prevent the discussion from escalating

into any kind of argument, communicate empathetically by stating

observations, feelings, needs, and requests in that order.

5. Embrace the difference. Somewhere in there, be sure to thank the other

person for expressing their opinion.

Disagreement means that the person you are dealing with is bringing a

different perspective into the mix and offering you a chance to broaden

your horizons. You can appreciate someone's viewpoint without agreeing

with it. E.g. "You know, while I still think we have different approaches, I

understand yours a little better now. Thanks for discussing it with me."

6. Know when to agree to disagree. If the discussion drags on in a stalemate

of sorts, it's probably better to move onto to talking about something that

you do agree on.


Joel Osteen, whose ministry reaches to millions of weekly viewers, suggested

5 steps forming the word P.E.A.C.E.

P: Plan, that involves finding the right timing, think of what you’re going to say,

how that eventually you do not hurt the person.

E: Embrace the other person’s point of view.

A: Actively seek for a solution.

C: Confront the problem, not the person.

E: Emphasize on the reconciliation. It’s not about winning or getting your

demand met. It’s about reconciling the relationship

Be useful, express disagreement, and

embrace disagreement. We don't want to

relate with useless people...

You have to express disagreement. DO

NOT become a passive person. Dr. Henry

Cloud said, “It is difficult to feel close to a

passive person, for we always have to

guess what they want.”

Tips

Warnings


How To Be Sociable At A Party When You Don’t Know Anyone There 16

1. Relax. Think positively; take a deep breath and go. You may be alone in

there, but it's a party, and you're supposed to have fun.

2. Approach people. Look for a group of people that seem to be friendly.

Take a deep breath and go up to them. Smile and ask if you can join them,

and they definitely will let you join them if you show a friendly smile.

Introduce yourself and please, never forget their names.

3. Be open and just talk. Being shy will never help you. Talk about yourself,

ask people about themselves, pay compliments, and laugh at their jokes. If

you are open and totally relaxed, you will shine. People will instantly like

you if you just act yourself around them.

4. Make contacts. Tell them you enjoyed meeting them. If you would like to

stay in touch with them, exchange phone numbers or e-mail addresses.

5. Enjoy yourself. After all, it's a party, so forget all the bad thoughts and

problems you have; try to be lively, dance, flirt, and just act like yourself,

even around strangers!

S t e p s


When you arrive at the party, do not worry - think that when the party ends,

you will feel great for what you have done and also have met some new

friends. It will just give you a lot more confidence in yourself.

Try to remember people's names. They will think you are rude if you forget

their name. A good way to remember it is to repeat their name in your mind

many times, and repeat their name when you talk to them. But don't forego

talking to someone again if you forgot their name, just ask for it again with

something like "I'm sorry, I forgot your name, and what is it again?" Chances

are the person won't be upset with you, and may have forgotten your name

as well.

Tips

Do not use drugs or drink too much alcohol, you definitely don't need those

things to have fun. Safety is more important.

Don't attempt to fit in with a crowd you know wont accept you.

Do not act cocky in anyway, this shows you're over confident and usually

causes people to dislike you.

Warnings


1. Do you like going to parties? Why or why not?

2. Remember a party that you like best? How

long did the party last? What made it best?

3. What other activities do you do at parties?

Do you perform? Do you sing or dance?

4. Have you attended a lousy party? What made

it lousy?

5. Are you sociable or do you just keep yourself

to yourself when you attend a party?


lousy (1) informal word; it means “very poor or very bad”

Ex) I had a lousy weekend. (2) it means “very ill”

Ex) I feel lousy. I’m going home. keep yourself to yourself

(1) phrasal verb; to not talk to other people very much

Ex) He's a very private person - he keeps himself to himself.

Expressions


How To Handle People Who Are Angry At You 17

1. Assess the reason why the person is angry with you. Try

to put yourself in their shoes. What if you have done

something to them? Don't be afraid to admit you did

injustice to them. It's an act of courage, as long as it

doesn't become a habit.

S t e p s

It can happen virtually anywhere with anyone, at work with your boss, at

home with your mother-in-law or in traffic with that mad taxi driver. People

may start shouting at you or won't talk with you for a while, make offensive

gestures, or threaten to beat you up. How do you handle it the civil way?

2. Accept the fact that this person is angry with you, regardless if it's true or

not, let them vent, stand back, DON'T get in their way. Show them you

actually listen to what they say. That might already be part of the solution.

Normally people calm down if they see you have a sincere interest in what

they’re saying. Communication is the keyword.

3. Let it be time that heals. Hurt feelings can make people not able to reason

well. Some people react by avoiding the person they are angry with for a

while. This isn't necessarily a bad thing. It gives us time to reflect, and in

many cases, it is only then we realize how much we care about the other.

4. Let them be - for now, if the person is still angry with you even though

you think it isn't your fault and you tried to tell them that. If it's a stranger,

you might tell them you're sorry. In any case, just move on. It's more useful

and easier to educate people you know than a stranger you might not ever

see again.

Don't resort to violence! This can lead to legal action and that is only good

for lawyers, nobody else.

If you suspect aggressive behavior from the angry person, step back. Be

ready for defense or backing out. Ensuring safety comes above getting your

rights.

Warnings


How To Have An Opinion But Be Fair About It As Well 18

1. Try to think about the other person's feelings.

Empathize for a minute about why they have

their opinion and why you have yours. If they

are thinking differently, agree to disagree, but

do it in a kind way so that no one's feelings

are hurt and you can remain on good terms

together.

S t e p s

Everyone has an opinion on something... and everyone is passionate about

at least one cause or belief. This article discusses how to have your own

opinion, and discuss it with others as well, without offending anyone holding a

different belief.

2. Try to point out the good points in both yours and their beliefs. Even if

you don't completely agree, being a little open-minded and understanding

can always help to "put yourself in their shoes" for a while. It isn't

something you have to do for the rest of your life; just for the time spent

with this person.

3. Don't get frustrated if they act rudely toward you, even after following

these steps. People will stick to their opinions, right or wrong. If they act

defensive or mean about it, talk about something else instead. There's

nothing worse than continually arguing over a small disagreement.

4. Celebrate your differences. Being happy about how diverse and different

you are can lead to a much happier outlook on your different opinions. So,

don't be ashamed to think differently just because you're afraid of being

ignored!


Have empathy. Understand that every person is different and make sure they

know it's alright to be different.

Don't be harsh while disagreeing. Being too defensive or acting too

offended never works out well.

Most importantly, stay true to your own beliefs while celebrating your

differences! Continue to have your beliefs, even if you are fine with the other

person. Be proud of what you stand for.

Tips

Don’t be too aggressive.

Don’t get disgusted if they judge you on what you feel even after you

express that you’re okay with the differences. If they’re that shallow, then

you probably don’t want them as a friend/ partner /acquaintance in the first

place.

Don’t feel ashamed of what you believe just because the other person may

disagree with you.

Warnings

Confidence

Empathy

Beliefs

A Good attitude

An open mind and heart

Things You'll Need


How To Make Up With A Friend 19

S t e p s

Making up with a friend is key to maintaining harmony and good relations

generally; it is also vital if you haven't been seeing eye-to-eye with your friend

for days or even weeks and you'd like things to get back to the way they were.

Here are some suggested ways for making up with a friend.

1. Work up the courage to talk to your friend again. It may be intimidating

and you have to be able to face your fears and try to resolve the problem.

It's okay to cry, and feel depressed. Even if you feel like never talking to

that person again, do try. These are all normal reactions to a fight. You just

have to realize that you want to be friends again and want to try to resolve

it.

2. After the fights, disagreements and quarrels, never regret having him or her

as a friend. And do not focus on his/her weak points or negative side.

Instead, do consider thinking about your friend's strong, positive points

and side.

3. Make contact with the "friend" you have been fighting with. It can be

through e-mail (not SPAM), phone, letter, or IM. The choice is up to you.

But you have to make that initial contact if he or she hasn't after a few

weeks.


4. Ask your friend why he or she is acting the way he or she is. Ask him or

her if you have done anything wrong that you can fix. Talk to your friend

until he or she can tell you exactly why you are fighting and he/she might

apologize. Do not be afraid to say you are sorry, too.

5. Work it out. Keep your friend talking. Don't let him or her leave the

conversation until you have resolved your issues. Then see your friend as

soon as you possibly can and tell your friend you love him or her and be

friends once more.

If your friend really doesn't want to be friends ever again, you have to

accept this decision. If you don't accept it, ask your friend if this problem is

really something to break up a friendship over.

If the problem is fixable, then fix it.

Sometimes your friend needs to cool off. If they don't respond to your

apology, wait a week or so, and try again. Don't continually pester them.

Tips

Do not use foul language. Swearing and being rude

will not make your friend understand. It will make

him or her madder at you. Try to be polite but firmly

get your point across.

Don't say ‘whatever’ or make mean faces at that

person...

Do not involve other people. It is best to approach

your friend directly. Also, the person in whom you

confide may side with the other person; by then it

would be two against one.

Warnings


How To Remember Peoples' Names 20

S t e p s

It's not as hard as it sounds when remembering people's names. Here are a

few pointers to improve your social skills and not find yourself in an awkward

situation. Using a person's name in a conversation is polite and will make the

person feel good. Practice makes perfect!

1. Repeat his or her name when you are introduced. Say the person's name at

least ten times in your head. Repetition will help you remember. If you do

not understand how to say the name, ask the person to repeat it.

2. Try to remember only his or her first name; don't worry too much about

the last name, if you can't handle it.

3. Focus on when hearing someone's name for the first time to create a

mental picture of this new person standing beside somebody else you

already know well with the same name. When you need to remember the

new person's name again, you can usually remember the mental picture

you had of this person and who they were standing with.

4. Find an animal with the same letter as the person, for example: Kimberly-

Kitten or Billy-Bear. Or associate the name with a word that it rhymes with

such as "Terry Berry".


5. Jot down the name if you have a planner or agenda and put a picture in

there if you have one.

6. Remember when learning someone's name to look at them long enough to

register what color eyes they have. Once you've learned what color eyes

they have, your mind will have registered their name.

11. Remember to lean over and ask your partner if they remember the new

person's name! Or, if you have a helpful friend with you who hasn't met the

new person, ask them to go and introduce themselves, then when you join

the conversation, your friend can say something along the lines of, "John

and I were just talking about cars...", giving you the person's name.

12. Think about the alphabet in your mind. For example: A, no. B, no. C, yes

her name is Celia... etc...

13. Spell their name out. If you aren't sure as to how to spell their name, ask

them, and don't be embarrassed or ashamed to tell them that spelling out

their name helps you remember names.

7. Try to remember their initials.

8. Get a picture of them and write their name

on the back.

9. If they look like someone else you know,

then try to associate the name you have

just learned with the name of the person

you already know.

10. Make a paper bracelet and write

something like "Susie and John’s Best

Friends.”


You are more likely to remember names of people who you have heard

something about before meeting them.

Try to at least get the first letter correct, so that your chances of guessing

correctly or figuring it out later increase.

Choose a distinguishing feature about the person and try your best to

associate it with their name.

If they were talking to someone else before you and the other person said

their name, try to remember.

If you cannot remember a person's name, then apologize to them and tell

them you are terrible with names. Ask them to tell you their name once

more and remember it!

Tips

Don't be afraid to ask their name. Most people understand and won't be

offended. Especially if you admit that you have difficulty with names.

Warnings

1. Do you have any experience that you forgot

your colleague’s/friend’s name? What did you

do to make it not too awkward for him/her?

2. Are you good with names?

3. What would you feel if someone forgets your

name?

4. Do you agree that practice makes perfect?



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