giving your child the world by dr. hamden
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… association between two or more people
at any aspect of Human Existence Home, Recreation, Business, Spiritual
BELONGING
intimacy & friendship
Vulnerability
TRUST & RESPECT
COMMITMENT (responsibility & loyalty)
Values Attitude
Traditions Customs
Morals Ethics
Communication can be perceived as a two-way process
in which there is an exchange and progression of thoughts, feelings, behavior, or ideas
towards a mutually accepted goal or direction.
Study Dunlap and colleagues (2006) found that
young children who have challenging behaviors are likely to have problems with mental health, academic achievement, as well as socialization in adolescence and adulthood.
Significance The importance of parenting and child rearing
Solution The development of… social emotional competence
� Also referred to as “character education” � A set of acquired skills that can be developed
beginning from childhood and promote a deeper bond
à Practice active or empathetic listening techniques with your child.
à Help your child overcome feelings of despair and stress through meditation
à Read stories and then discuss the ethical ideas with one another
“What was the last bad thing to happen to you?”
Other or none
Interpersonal conflict or problem
Health problem (self or other)
Economic, work or legal problem
Death of significant
other
20%
30%
23%
14%
14%
Source: Veroff, Douvan & Kulka (1981) survey of ~2,200 Americans
7%
36%
57%
“What was the best thing that happened today?”
Interaction with friends
or family
Health and body-
related
Work or school-related
Source: Gable & Reis (2010), Advances in Experimental Social Psychology
♦ Denmark is the happiest country in the world, and the primary factor contributing to its happiness is the nature of Danes’ social connections (Diener, 2008).
Teaching children how to be independent is helping them become more Emotionally Intelligent
For instance
v Coping with an immediate situation
v Solving problems of an interpersonal nature
v Being sufficiently positive
v Understanding our own strengths and weaknesses
Ø Response Inhibition The ability to resist saying or doing something
impulsively without letting a certain amount of time elapse
Ø Emotional Control The ability to manage emotions, in order
to attain goals
Ø Sustained Attention The ability to attend to tasks in spite
of distractions
Ø Task Initiation The ability to begin a task without ` `
procrastinating
Ø Flexibility The ability to adapt in changing conditions
Ø Goal directed persistence The drive to follow through the completion of a goal
� Foster a positive attitude à Be optimistic (EI) à This decreases the tension in times of hardship � Change negative attitudes at an early age à Let your child openly discuss their feelings (SEL) � Teach your child self-care à For instance, by eating properly and exercising � Have a daily routine à This creates organization à It becomes an easy system to follow
Building resilience (the ability to thrive regardless of the challenges)
Autonomy, self-esteem, and
future time orientation
Adaptability
Precursors to…
q We are not born with the ability
to be responsible. q Responsibility is acquired over time
with practice. q Teaching your child to be responsible at
an early age serves as a catalyst to make your child more competent and resilient in the future.
� Let them understand what they are feeling and why they are feeling that way
à Let your child express negative emotions because this can turn inward and harm your child. This may even lead to the development of clinical depression or anxiety
à Watch out for the use of negative connotations in your child’s expressions, such as “I’ll never make any friends” or “I cannot do it because I’m not good enough”
� Allocate time for your child to help others à Volunteering, assisting other in the areas
that your child excels à This gives them a productive sense
q Be a good role model One way children learn is by
imitating parents
q Praise good behavior When your child uses respectful language, such as “thank you”,
“please”, “welcome”; Intangible rewards –
recognition and privileges
q Correct inappropriate behavior Do not ignore misbehavior Be sturdy, firm, and direct
q Listen to your tone instead of your words
q Children sense what their parents are feeling q Sometimes they’re not listening to your words
so much as looking at your face and reacting to the tone of your voice
q Purpose of study To teach children about fairness and to decrease their engagement in gender-prejudice behaviors
q Sample Boys and girls aged 10-13 years old in Western USA
q Results The students in the experimental group that completed the awareness program reported experiencing less gender-prejudice behavior by their classmates.
These students also learned to challenge gender role stereotypes.
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