how to be good adults for children mørkved skole, brumunddal
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Relational competencesHow to be good adults for children
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Humanity
I need to be seen as the person I am
I have the right to succeed
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All the adults at Mørkved school works in an appreciative way, to promote children's health and development.
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Basic view of the adults
The quality of the relationsWe have adults who take responsibility
for the relationship quality in the interaction with children, by:
See the individual child on the child's own terms
Adapt their own behavior Be aware of when they react according to their
own needs
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Relational competences
The adults ability to:
See each child on the child's own termsAdapt their own behaviourTo be the leader
And to take the whole responsibility for the quality of the relation
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Relational competences – why do we focus upon that?
We shall look upon ourselves and our behaviour in our daily work
Am I sufficiently aware of this child, the child's feelings and needs?
How do I meet these needs of the child?How do I react when the child has a
challenging behavior?
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Relational competences – why do we focus upon that?
Awareness of our work with children:
Children’s needOur leadershipOur responsibility for the quality of the relation
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Relational competences – why do we focus upon that?
We need to change focus:
From ”the child” to ”the cooperation child – adult”
From ”the child’s actions” to ”my actions”
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Relational competences
How often do we replace authority by force? When we misunderstand the meaning of the concept authority and are rather authoritarian.
We are not allowed!
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Children cooperate
When children stop cooperating, it is either because they have cooperated too much too long, or because their integrity suffers. It is never because they are not cooperative.
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The responsibility for the cooperation
The adults has to take the responsibility
For the quality of the cooperation- especially when it goes wrong
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Children's behaviour
A child's behavior is an expression
for something it does for itself and nothing it does against the adult
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Recognition
To recognize a person,
and at the same time clearly stress
that some of its actions are not acceptable,
is possible!
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Self confidence
Is about our performance
What we're good at
An outer but not superficial quality
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Self-esteemIs about who I am:
To know myselfTo know my limitsTo be able to make personal choices
The spine of my life - it keeps me upAn inner core that develops throughout life
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Self-esteem
Gives the child the opportunity to:
To dare to go ahead with new and unknown things
To acquire new knowledge and new skillsTo provide peak performanceTo develop the ability to behave
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Good self-esteemIs knowledge and experience of who I am, and
what is good and bad for me
Is my human immune system that makes me less vulnerable to serious emotional experiences
Is the keynote of my psychological existence
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Developing self-esteem
Our children has good self-esteem, because the adults:
Appreciate the child as it isIs mentally present at the momentRealize and admit their mistakesPerceive children's behavior as communication
to the surroundings, no matter how difficult it is
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Healthy self-esteemSelf-esteem in children is growing healthy
when we change our evaluating communication with recognition
Recognition is necessary for the development of self-esteem, but the educational tradition of evaluating communication is often blocking this opportunity
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Self-esteem and Self confidence
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Is about «to be»
Recognition
Is about «to do»
Credit
Being under constant evaluation, is a threat to self-esteem
A child
A child live slowly - and reflection and wonder requires rest and time.
A child need time with adultsoffering their attentionrather than requiring the child's attention.
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