ic chapter 10 relationships part 3 (friendships_and_romance)
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INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION
CHAPTER TEN RELATIONSHIPS PART 3- FRIENDSHIPS AND
ROMANCE
PREVIEW: FRIENDSHIP ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS
DEFINITION OF FRIENDSHIP
QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED:
WHAT ARE FRIENDSHIPS?
HOW DO FRIENDSHIPS CHANGE OVER TIME?
HOW DO FRIENDSHIPS AT
DIFFERENT STAGES OF LIFE DIFFER?
WHAT ARE SIMILARITIES AND DIFFERENCES OF SAME SEX
AND CROSS SEX FRIENDSHIPS?
LEVELS OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS
1. ACQUAINTANCES2. WORKPLACE RELATIONSHIPS3. FRIENDS4. FAMILY5. ROMANTIC PARTNERS
ACQUAINTANCES
THOSE PEOPLE WITH WHOM WE INTERACT ON A REGULAR OR SEMIREGULAR BASIS, WHOSE NAMES AND FACES WE
KNOW, BUT WITH WHOM OUR INTERACTIONS ARE LIMITED. -FUJISHIN
FRIENDSHIP
DEFINITION
LIFE STAGES OF FRIENDSHIP
SAME SEX FRIENDSHIPS
CROSS-SEX FRIENDSHIPS
DIVERSE FRIENDSHIPS
WHAT ARE FRIENDSHIPS?
A RELATIONSHIP OF CHOICE THAT EXISTS OVER TIME BETWEEN
PEOPLE WHO SHARE A COMMON HISTORY
(ARGYLE, 1991).
A KEY TO THE UNDERSTANDING OFRELATIONSHIPS BASED ON FRIENDSHIP
AND ROMANCE IS THE ROLE OF INTERPERSONAL INTIMACY IN EACH ONE
REVIEW-INTERPERSONAL INTIMACY
DEGREE TO WHICH RELATIONALPARTNERS MUTUALLY ACCEPTAND CONFIRM EACH OTHER’S
SENSE OF SELF
FRIENDSHIP-BASED INTIMACY
INTIMACY BASED ON
FEELINGS OF WARMTH, UNDERSTANDING, AND
EMOTIONAL CONNECTION.
-BEEBE AND BEEBE
PASSION-BASED INTIMACY
A TYPE OF INTIMACY
BASED ON ROMANTIC AND SEXUAL FEELINGS
-BEEBE AND BEEBE
FRIENDSHIP QUALITIES: SELF DISCLOSURE OPENESS COMPATIBILITY EGO-REINFORCEMENT RESPECT TRUST EMPATHY
FRIENDSHIP BENEFITS: COPING WITH STRESS CARE FOR PHYSICAL NEEDS CRISIS HELP SHAPE ATTITUDE AND BELIEF COPE WITH UNCERTAINTY MANAGE THE MUNDANE BOLSTER SELF ESTEEM MATERIAL HELP
"A FRIEND MULTIPLIES OUR
JOYS AND DIVIDES OUR SORROWS."
-CICERO
FRIENDSHIPS AT DIFFERENT
STAGES OF LIFE
STAGES OF FRIENDSHIP: CHILDHOOD 5 STAGES FROM MOMENTARY PLAYMATES TO INDEPENDENCE
STAGES OF FRIENDSHIP: ADOLESCENT RELATIONSHIP FOCUS ON PEERS NOT PARENTS ROMANTIC OPPORTUNITIES SEEK INCREASED INTIMACY CLIQUES DEVELOP NUMBER OF FRIENDS PEAK LATE ADOLESCENCE
STAGES OF FRIENDSHIP YOUNG ADULT AFFECTED BY PATH IN LIFE (COLLEGE, JOB, MARRIAGE, FAMILY) LEARN AND HONE SKILLS NEEDED FOR SUCCESSFUL ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS DEVELOP CONFIDANTS WITH WHOM TO DISCUSS ROMANTIC EXPERIENCES
STAGES OF FRIENDSHIP ADULT FROM AGE 30'S THROUGH 60'S FRIENDS FROM YOUNG ADULTHOOD, COWORKERS, NEIGHBORS, RELATIVES, MEMBERS OF ORGANIZATIONS MARRIED COUPLES HAVE LESS FRIENDS OVER THE COURSE OF THEIR LIVES
STAGES OF FRIENDSHIP LATE ADULT LESS LIKELY TO FORM NEW FRIENDSHIPS ESTABLISHED FRIENDSHIPS VALUED MOST FRIENDS MORE IMPORTANT WITH TIME TO SOCIALIZE, RETIRE, ETC.
SAME-SEX FRIENDSHIP
HOW DO MEN AND WOMEN APPROACH FRIENDSHIP WITH THE SAME SEX? ONE THEORY-WOMEN DEFINE FEMALE FRIENDSHIPS BY INTIMACY AND MEN DEFINE MALE FRIENDSHIPS BY ACTIVITIES. SAME-SEX FRIENDSHIPS SERVE SIMILAR FUNCTIONS FOR BOTH WOMEN AND MEN THE DIFFERENCE IN FRIENDSHIPS IS MORE ONE OF DEGREE THAN QUALITIES
CROSS-SEX FRIENDSHIPS
CROSS SEX FRIENDSHIPS
FRIENDSHIPS BETWEEN
PEOPLE OF THE OPPOSITE SEX
"THE ELEPHANT IN THE ROOM" OF A CROSS-SEX
FRIENDSHIP
THE CHALLENGE OF UNDERLYING SEXUAL
ATTRACTION
"MEN AND WOMEN CAN'T BE FRIENDS. THE SEX PART
ALWAYS GETS IN THE WAY."
-WHEN HARRY MET SALLY
STUDIES ACTUALLY FIND THAT WHILE SEXUAL
ATTRACTION MAY BE AN ISSUE, IT IS REDUCED WHEN A COMMITMENT
EXISTS TO DEVELOP AND MAINTAIN A RELATIONSHIP
AS FRIENDS.
"FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS"
RELATIONSHIPS WITH
BOTH SEXUAL AND NONSEXUAL
INTERACTIONS IN WHICH THE PARTIES DEFINE
THE RELATIONSHIP AS PRIMARILY NONSEXUAL.
CAN BE A STEPPING STONE TO ROMANTIC
RELATIONSHIPS.
IMPORTANCE OF CROSS-SEX FRIENDSHIPS -GAINING INSIGHT INTO HOW OTHERS THINK -MEN REPORT FEELING MORE NURTURANCE AND INTIMACY IN CROSS-SEX RELATIONSHIPS -WOMEN ENJOY MASCULINE INTERACTION STYLE, THE FUN ACTIVITIES AND LEARNING FROM MALE PERSPECTIVE
DIVERSE FRIENDSHIPS
INTERGENERATIONAL
FRIENDSHIPS
INTERCULTURAL AND INTERRACIAL FRIENDSHIPS
INTERGENERATIONAL FRIENDSHIPS
THE OLDER WE BECOME, THE
LESS IMPACT AGE DIFFERENCES HAVE ON US
THEY REQUIRE SPECIAL
EFFORTS TO MAINTAIN SO THEY ARE MORE LIKELY TO
BE CASUAL
INTERCULTURAL AND INTERRACIAL FRIENDSHIPS
FRIENDSHIP EXPECTATIONS VARY AMONG CULTURAL AND RACIAL GROUPS FACTORS: -CULTURAL SIMILARITIES
-CULTURAL DIFFERENCES
-PRIOR EXPERIENCES
-TARGETED SOCIALIZING (ESCALATING A RELATIONSHIP WITHIN ONE PARTNER'S CULTURAL NORMS)
FRIENDSHIP DEFINITION LIFE STAGES SAME-SEX FRIENDSHIPS CROSS-SEX FRIENDSHIPS DIVERSE FRIENDSHIPS
ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS
ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS DEFINITION LOVE AND COMMITMENT PHYSICAL ATTRACTION AND SEX FROM FRIENDSHIPS TO ROMANCE
ROMANCE DEFINITION
ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS
WHAT COMPRISES A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP??
FORMALLY MARK
MILESTONES?
SEX?
MATING AND CREATING A FAMILY?
ROMANCE DEFINED: -LOVE -COMMITMENT -SEX AS EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION -SELF DISCLOSURE -SAME SEX AND CROSS SEX COUPLES
LOVE
STERNBERG'S TRIANGULAR THEORY
LOVE IS COMPRISED OF INTIMACY,COMMITMENT,
AND PASSION
COMMITMENT
ANOTHER ASPECT OF LOVE IS THE CONCEPT
OF COMMITMENT
COMMITMENT
PARTNERS ARE EXPECTED TO BE
FAITHFUL, RESPECT US, HELP MAINTAIN
FACE DURING TROUBLE IN THE
RELATIONSHIP, HELP THROUGH HARD TIMES
PHYSICAL AFFECTION AND SEX
PHYSICAL AFFECTION AND SEX
PHYSICAL AFFECTION
THE USE OF TOUCH TO CONVEY EMOTIONAL
FEELINGS OF LOVE AND CARING FOR
ANOTHER PERSON
PHYSICAL AFFECTION AND SEX
WHAT IS THE ROLE OF SEX IN A ROMANTIC
RELATIONSHIP?
TO PROCREATE? TO EXPRESS THAT A PARTNER IS VALUED? TO RELIEVE STRESS? TO SHOW OR FEEL POWER? PLEASURE? NURTURE OF PARTNER?
PHYSICAL AFFECTION AND SEX
POINT TO TAKE AWAY:
TALKING TO PARTNER ABOUT SEX HAS BEEN FOUND TO INCREASE
RELATIONAL SATISFACTION AND
INTIMACY
PHYSICAL AFFECTION AND SEX
POINT TO TAKE AWAY: BEING OTHER ORIENTED ABOUT YOUR PARTNER'S
EXPECTATIONS CAN AFFECT RELATIONAL
SATISFACTION
FROM FRIENDSHIP TO ROMANCE
FROM FRIENDSHIP TO ROMANCE
MOVING FROM FRIENDSHIP TO
ROMANCE INVOLVES ADDING PASSION BASED
INTIMACY TO FRIENDSHIP BASED
INTIMACY
FROM FRIENDSHIP TO ROMANCE
PASSION BASED INTIMACY-INTIMACY BASED ON
ROMANTIC AND SEXUAL FEELINGS
FRIENDSHIP BASED INTIMACY-WARMTH, UNDERSTANDING,
EMOTIONAL CONNECTION
SO DIFFERENCE IS ONE OF BOTH QUALITY AND DEGREE
FROM FRIENDSHIP TO ROMANCE
"TURNING POINTS" MARKS THE TRANSITION
LEADING TO DISCUSSION
OF ROLES AND EXPECTATIONS,
CHANGES IN SOCIAL NETWORKS,
ASSESSMENT OF COSTS AND REWARDS, ETC.
FROM FRIENDSHIP TO ROMANCE
"SECRET TEST" BEHAVIOR DESIGNED TO INDIRECTLY DETERMINE A PARTNER'S FEELINGS
IN MOVING FROM FRIENDSHIP TO
ROMANCE, WE BEGIN IN BEHAVIOR KNOWN
AS "DATING".
WHAT IS A DATE?
WHAT DO WE CALL IT WHEN ONE PARTNER
WANTS A MORE INTIMATE, ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP THAN
THE OTHER PARTNER?
UNREQUITED ROMANTIC INTEREST WHEN ONE PARTNER WANTS A MORE INTIMATE, ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP THAN THE OTHER PARTNER
ENGAGE IN RELATIONSHIP TALK
RELATIONSHIP TALK
TALK ABOUT THE NATURE, QUALITY, DIRECTION, OR
DEFINITION OF A RELATIONSHIP
SUMMARY:FRIENDSHIP -DEFINITION -LIFE STAGES -SAME SEX -CROSS SEX -DIVERSE ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS -LOVE AND COMMITMENT -PHYSICAL AFFECTION AND SEX -FROM FRIENDSHIP TO ROMANCE