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WORKSHOP ON

IGNATIANSCHOOL

LEADERSHIPMarch 12, 2014Day 02

Morning

Tagaytay, PHILIPPINES

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Examining Leadership Stereotypes:

A Leadership of Reflection + Action

Sharing My Leadership

Journey:

A Personal Definition

of Leadership

Navigating the Messy World of Administration:

The Complex Problems of Leadership

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The complex world

calls for DISCERNMENT.

The inner complex world

calls for SELF-AWARENESS.

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BuildingMy Pillar of

Self-

Awareness

Ms. CORIE LUZ

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Self-Awareness

the

rst building blockof DISCERNMENT Especially for leaders

who live and movein complex worlds

outside and inside

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Some kind of

overview

A snapshotof ourselves

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Ignatian Discernment

A shared understanding

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Our dilemmas as leaders

are rarely right

vs. wrongdecisions.

They are usually right

vs. right choices.

Joseph L. BadarracoDefining Moments:When Managers Must Choose

Between Right and Right

TECHNICAL

ADAPTIVE

In making right vs. right choices,

we reveal our values,

test our commitment to those values,

and ultimately shape our characters.

We define ourselves

and the organization we lead.

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Mr. Tony LeungPrincipal

Justin BieberStudent

Ms. Toni ColletteEnglish Teacher

Promote the students formation.

Educate Justins parents.

Help Colette understand.

Keep teachers morale.

Maintain good relations with benefactors.

Keep integrity of the school.Keep construction project going.

righ

tvs.rig

ht

choices

In addressing these adaptive problems(and recognizing them in the first place!),

Mr. Leung clarifies his values, defines himself and the school.

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In Ignatian Discernment,

we believe that

in every given situation,

Gods Will is

the greater good

to seek the greater good

The greater good

is what makes us

less self-oriented

& more other-oriented.But Ignatius warns:

Gods Will is not always

what seems

more other-oriented.

Right vs. Rightchoices(or Adaptive Problems) call for DISCERNMENT.

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To discernTo strainto seedue to uncertainty,

distance or

darkness.

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IgnatianDiscernment

refers towhat we do

to discover

what God wantsfor us:Gods will,

the greater good.

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A true story...

Jill decided to call for a prayer meeting

so they all could pray for openness.To decide, they agreed to toss coins.

The outcome wasto be considered Gods Will.

Sarah, who got the assignmentnobody wanted

shrugged her shoulders and accepted her fate:Its Gods Will.

Jill could not make decisionsabout the assignments of her teachersbecause all had very strong preferences.

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Discerning Gods Will requiresa way of looking at God& a way of looking at life.

What is your face of God ?

What is your outlook in life?

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Godis a puppet

master.Gods

Will only.

Godis a watchmaker.Our Freedom

+ Nature only.

Godis a dancepartner.Gods Will +

Our Freedom+ Nature

Life is aPUPPET SHOW

Life is aFINISHED PRODUCT

Life is anONGOING DANCE

God is involved, butalso respects our

freedom & nature.

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Life as a

PUPPET SHOW

Life as a

FINISHED PRODUCT

Life as an

ONGOING DANCE

discernment

From absolutedivine controlto no involvement at all...

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Discernmentis possible and makes

sense only if we believe:that God is involved in our livesand that we have real freedom

within the constraints of nature.

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GOOD BAD

GREATER

GOOD

Discernment is a search for Gods Will.

God can only want what is good.So discernment is NEVER a choice between good and bad,

or a decision between right and wrong

because God never wants something evil.

Discernment = always a choice between two goods

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MoralDiscernment

hen what is right & wrong

isnt clear

Ignatian

Discernmentwhen the greater good

isnt clear

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NO PROB

NO PROB NO PROB

?

? ?

Discernment

is not

easy.

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theEMOTIONAL

self

theWISE +

DISCERNING

SELF

theLOGICALself

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True orFALSETRUE

FALSE

What do your responses tell you aboutyour beliefs about emotions & feelings?

The more TRUE responses you have,

maybethe less positiveyour attitude towards emotions?Maybethe less comfortable you are

with your feelings?

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For St. Ignatius of Loyola,

Discernment =interior movements

motions of the soul

examining our thoughts(understanding),

but also

& ESPECIALLY our feelings,

desires, memory, imagination

Reason is overratedin discernment:

Necessary but not suffi

cient.

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EXPERIENCE

REFLECTION

ACTION

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External Events

Internal Events

EXPERIENCE

REFLECTION

ThoughtsFeelings

Action Urges

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REFLECTING on Experience

DISCERNING My Response

PRAYING for Confirmation

IGNATIAN DISCERNMENT

The Ingredients of

DISCERNING My Response

PRAYING for Confirmation

REFLECTING on Experience

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Reection on external events andour interior movements

Ignatian discernment begins with

St. Ignatius invites us

to pay attention to our thoughtsand feelings, our imaginings,desires, attractions & repulsions.

REFLECTION ON EXPERIENCE.

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BRAND NEW BOSSA CASE STUDY

PAIR WORK

MISS MARIA SILVANew English Department Chair

Not an exercise in problem-solving

but an exercise inEMPATHY

Questions:

* What could Maria have been feelingtowards the end of her rst meetingwith her department?* What could have made her feel thatway?* If Maria were to react based on herfeelings, what would she feel likesaying and doing? (Be ready to act itout)

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What influences our feelings?

thoughts

feelings behavior

Give an example of how ourthoughts affect our feelings.What if we change ourthoughts?

Give an example ofhow our behavior

affects our feelings.What if we change

our behaviors?

events

GOD

InfluencesoftheGood&BadSpirits

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glad

sad

mad scaredAll emotions are ashade or a mix of

these 4.4 basic

emotions

Which oneis your "default"--even if not triggered

or warranted?

Feelings affect us

more than wesuspect, so its helpfulto know which one wefeel most frequentlyor in general--for no

reason.

hurt

surprised

Feelings?Intensity?

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Not questions, but statementsabout self, others, life, world...Where could these be comingfrom?

How valid are these thoughts and

beliefs?What would be theconsequences of believing them?

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We have often have unconscious or beliefsabout ourselves, others, the world, or life in general.

BELIEFS about SELF BELIEFS about Others

Im undesirable. Im inferior. Im notgood enough.

If others know me, they will reject. IfI put on a front, they may accept me.

I should be perfect. I cant makemistakes. I must be in control.

If Im not responsible, the world willfall apart. Others are unreliable.

Im helpless. I cant take care ofmyself. I need others to take care of me. If Ido it myself, Ill fail.

Im superior, special, or gifted. (Imactually inferior). I need to succeed.

If people dont treat me in a special,it means they dont value me.

Im nothing. Im not important. I need

to be noticed.

If Im not entertaining or dramatic,

others will ignore me and not like

I never fit in. Others have nothing to offer me.Relating with them will only harm me.

Theres something wrong. Im bad. Illsurvive if I depend on myself.

Other people will abandon me. Theycant be trusted.

What if I change them?

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REFLECT on Experience

DISCERNING My Response

PRAYING for Confirmation

IGNATIAN DISCERNMENT

The Ingredients of

DISCERNING My Response

PRAYING for Confirmation

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If a friend were in my place, what would I advise him/her?

How would I feel about my response years from now?

At my deathbed? At the Last Judgment?

for nowDISCERNING My Response

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You may have

undergone an

experience similar to

the case, one that

triggered emotions andcalled for discernment.

(Or you may currently

be going through one).

Use this worksheet to:

(1) recall & reect onthis experience

(external & internal), &

(2) make a discerned

response.