john caldwell, rwr group - the turning point from victim to survivor - advice from a bullying...
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John Caldwell, Australian of the Year in Victoria, Bullying Survivor & Youth Advocate, Group CEO of RWR Group delivered this presentation at the Inaugural Workplace Bullying Conference. This event brings together HR, WHS Managers, Workplace Psychologists and Academics to discuss policy and practices for combatting workplace bullying. Find out more at http://www.informa.com.au/workplacebullying_13TRANSCRIPT
Surviving the epidemic BULLYING
My Story
Excerpt – Full Throttle
Full Throttle
No one stopped to look at what was happening at home Teachers claimed I had a learning disability Family members claimed I was “not all there and socially
awkward” Parents didn’t care
Bullied Everywhere
Students Parents Foster Parents Neighborhood friends Teachers
FREAK
LOSER
BUSHO GOT NOTHING
USELESS WORTHLESS
DREAMER FAGGOT
WANNA BE POOR PER
My worth– Age 15
My Worth
D DAY
The Next hurdles
First job was no smooth ride – Again people didn’t get me Manager’s didn’t get me Young kitchen hands didn’t get me
Thankfully I eventually made great friends!
Progress
Turning Points My first team member award My first manager who believed in me My SECOND team conference My first go back in the classroom This was the start of my new life
What isn't bullying
Bullying isn't: single episodes of social rejection or dislike single episode acts of nastiness or spite random acts of aggression or intimidation mutual arguments, disagreements or fights. These actions can cause great distress. However, they're not examples of bullying unless someone is deliberately and repeatedly doing them to you.
Broadies Law
What to do
Have a bullying policy Take it seriously – NO grey areas, make it clear (Also what is not bullying) Make it safe for people to report (consider online or anonymous) Create a safe workplace, meetings, conferences etc Formalize performance discussions and 360 reviews. Make it easy to speak up Celebrate small wins people will come alive Work this into the culture not tack it on Don’t work for an organization who only pays lip service to this
Do it because it’s the right thing to
do