living well - health communication - rural institute
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Chapter 6: Healthy Communication:
It Takes Two to Reach an Understanding
Section 1: Understanding others by using active listening
• The first and most important step in good communication is learning to truly understand others.
• A common communication problem is believing that you know what someone is saying without checking it out.
Take a guess, Check it out, Respond
Four ways to take a guess:
1. Repeat
2. Rephrase
3. Get the intent
4. Reflect feelings
Repeat
• Simply repeat back to speaker exactly what was said.
Rephrase
• Saying what the person said, but in different words.
• Begins to show the other person that you understand what they meant.
Get the intent
• Guessing at the person’s main point.
• Going beyond the words to get the meaning of what was said.
Reflect the feelings
• This is like getting the intent, but instead of addressing thoughts you address their feelings.
• Sometimes, you need to get the intent and the feelings to truly understand someone.
Check it out
• You need to find out if your guess was correct.
• Don’t move on to responding before you get the speaker’s agreement that you understood his or her point.
Respond
• The process of deciding what you want to do with what the speaker said.
• Sometimes, it is enough to simply let people know you heard them.