Meeting 1: Getting to know each other and what the program is all about

Table Of Contents

5 Slides and activity sheets

11 Taking the program home

13 Tips & tools

19 Home Practice sheet

Meeting 1: Getting to know each other and what the program is all about

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WelcomeMeeting 1: Getting to Know Each Other and What the Program Is All About

Slides and activity sheets

WELCOME!

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• Two ways the program helps:1. Support you provide each other2. Family-care and self-care tools that

you’ll learn and practice at home• Group guidelines

03 mins

Welcome

• Introductions • Sharing about the death• Self-care • Changes for parents and children• Overview of how the program helps• Personal Goals

02 mins

Today’s GroupGetting to Know Each Other and What the Program Is All About

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• Your name• Name of person who

died and relationship• Children’s names

and ages

07 mins

IntroductionsGroup Family Tree

Tell us • About the death• One thing that has been difficult for you

following the death • One thing that has helped

25 mins

Share

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To take care of your family, you need to take care of yourself.

• Find comfort• Have compassion for yourself• Take care of your feelings• Do things you want or need to do

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Self-care

02 mins

Self-careComforting Activities

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• What gives you comfort?

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ShareComforting Activities

1.5 mins

Changes in Your World and Your Children’s World After the Death

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• Increased distance between parents and children• Instability• Children unhappy • Parent unhappy• Not as much fun to be a parent• Tension, fights, chaos• Less tolerant of children’s misbehaviors• Unrealistic expectations for children and parents

Changes in Relationships Between Parents and Children

03 mins

Changes in Children’s World Changes in Parent’s World

Children’s Emotions and Behaviors

Parent’s Emotions and Behaviors

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Bereavement Stories of Children and Parents

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How the Program Can Help

Helping Children Cope

Rules

Listening

Strong Family Bonds

Self-care

01 min

Five Building Blocks of Resilient Parenting

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What You Practice Grows StrongerHome Practice: Self-care

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Home Practice: Self-careWhat You Practice Grows Stronger

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Personal Goals: Things you want or need to do for yourself, but have been difficult to make happen.

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Personal Goals and Small Steps

Online Resources02 mins

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Next meeting• You’ll learn a self-care tool for having self-

compassion.• You’ll learn a family-care tool to strengthen

family bonds.

Closing ritual

02 mins

Wrap-up

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; Home Practice sheet

Taking the program home

1. Look through Tips And Tools

2. Do a comforting activity at least once or as often as you want

3. Write down your Personal Goal and one small step

Complete

and bring to

Meeting 2:

Remember… Home Practice IS

the program!

How did it go?

Home Practice Sheet

Comforting Activities

Personal Goal - Things you want or need to do for YOURSELF.

What is your personal goal? Why is this important to you? What might make it challenging to do? What is one small step you could take?

Write down anything that other parents said during the meeting that you found helpful for your own self-care or family care.

(turn in at Meeting 2)

Meeting 1 Name

Awful Bad Okay Good Great Did not do

How did it feel to set a personal goal?

Awful Bad GoodOkay Great Did not do

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List each Comforting Activity you did since we met last and tell us how well it worked for you.

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Ideas for Personal Goals and small steps

Personal Goals: Things you feel you want or need to do for yourself but have been difficult to make happen.

Personal Goals Small steps

Take care of financial issues Identify someone to help

Get involved in an activity you enjoy such as a hobby, hiking, listening to music

Identify a time you could do this

Start an exercise plan Identify exercises you have done in the past

Plan a way to remember the person who died

Make a list of several ways you and your children could consider

Tips and Tools

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Ideas for comforting activities

Listen to your favorite music

Take a walk or hike

Watch a movie

Enjoy your favorite tea

Take a bubble bath

Read a chapter in a book

Call a friend

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Home Practice

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How did it go?

Home Practice Sheet

Comforting Activities

Personal Goal - Things you want or need to do for YOURSELF.

What is your personal goal? Why is this important to you? What might make it challenging to do? What is one small step you could take?

Write down anything that other parents said during the meeting that you found helpful for your own self-care or family-care activities.

(turn in at Meeting 2)

Meeting 1 Name

Awful Bad Okay Good Great Did not do

How did it feel to set a personal goal?

Awful Bad GoodOkay Great Did not do

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List each Comforting Activity you did since we met last and tell us how well it worked for you.

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