my value system

7/31/2019 My Value System

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Journeying Forward:

Examining

My Value System

Resource Person: Mr. Earnest Tan


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Perhaps your greatest

statement of love is

to be able to say: I am,

I am becoming not only

for me, but for everyone.

-Leo Buscaglia


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Introduction

It is essential that we periodically take time

out to examine our values

Values are guiding stars by which we

navigate our lives

They give our lives direction

One of the greatest tragedy in life is togrow old with regrets because we have not

lived the life we desired


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Values are what we consider as essentialin giving our lives meaning and as such,they deeply motivate our behaviors

There are many types of values they canbe of a physiological, psychological,socio-cultural and religious-moral-spiritualnature

Common mistake is to equate values withvirtues (religious-moral-spiritual)


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To examine our values, we simply have to study

the choices we make

Some of us question our freedom of choice and

therefore lead a victim and martyr lifestyle We always have choices

We must learn to tap our freedom and be

conscious and responsible of all the choices wemake, especially the values that will lead us to

the life we desire


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Either-Or Forced Choices

Which are you more of?a living room or a bedroom?a moon or a sun?

a turtle or a racehorse?a hammer or a nail?a parent or a child?a here and now or a there and then?

a yes or a no?a Christ in manger or a Christ on cross?


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Guide Questions

How do you feel about the choices you

made?

What do your choices reveal about you

in terms of your person and values?

How are your choices reflected in your

everyday behavior?


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Most of us grow up being dictated as to whatvalues we should uphold; these are norms,standards and expectations which tell us who we

are as we should be The valuing process introduces to us the balance

by inviting us to decide who am I as I really am

This facilitates our effort at integration especially

as we acknowledge and reconcile between ourideal and actual selves, our role and true selves,and our social and real selves


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This is a process that challenges us to

define ourselves to others and presupposes

some level of freedom and empowerment

Most people continue to allow external

factors to dictate and define them

One aspect by which we must beempowered is the ability to decide on our

own values


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Values may be discerned as we look into our

cognitive structures and recognize the various

choices we make and the meaning or meanings

we give to these choices To test our values, it must pass through these

three dimensions:

* The choice is made freely* It is made from alternatives

* It is made after considering consequences


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Values are further validated as we check our

affective life; a value passes through these

two criteria

* We feel good and happy with our

value decision

* We are willing to publicly affirm thischoice


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Values are ultimately reflected in our

behavioral patterns; They pass through

these two criteria

* The value is acted upon

* Not only once, but repeatedly and

consistently throughout ones life


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The goal of the valuing process is to arrive atwholeness and integration

Wholeness and integration however are lifetime

processes; we must continue to work out ourincongruence

Integrating virtues, as Christians, requires aconscious effort; since they are higher level

values, discipline must be practiced We must constantly catch the moment from which

we can discern our values


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Value Ranking

List down 5 qualities you consciously try to uphold asa leader

List down 5 priorities you give in your leadership asreflected by the amount of time you give to them

List down 5 priorities you give in your leadership interms of the amount of money you spent on them

Rank order each set according to importance (1) formost and (5) for least important

List down one thing you would never ever compromisein your leadership (if that happens, you would nothesitate to resign as leader)


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Charting My Personal Consciousness Track

The Consciousness Track will provide us withroadmap from which we can see: Where am Inow? Where can I move towards? How doI move from here to there?

Based on all the reflection and sharing, identify15 to 20 values that seemed to be consideredas important in your life at present

Transfer the chosen values to theconsciousness track; refer to the coding toknow where it is located in the track


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There is a big difference between having manychoices and making a choice. Making a choicedeclaring what is essential to you creates aframework for a life that eliminates many choices but

gives meaning to what remains.-Sue Bender

Values are developed not by forcing (young people) to

memorize words which they do not understand and

are not interested in; rather, by letting them talk,ventilate their issues, search for their own valuesand eventually articulate their God within.

-Andrew Greeley


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Levels of

Consciousness


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Phase 1

Simply me

World is a mystery; Self is the center

The self exists in a hostile world

Locus if control: Interplay between what nature providesand my needs

Core values

Self gratification, Self- Preservation, survival, pleasure,

comfort, securityMoral Basis

Self- Happiness/Avoidance of Pain


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Phase 2

Conscious me

World as a problem which I can cope with

Self as belonging

Locus of control: External AuthorityThe self does things to succeed and belong in social

world

Core Values

Self-worth, Belonging, Peer Approval, socialAcceptance, Tradition, status

Moral Basis

Authority/Good-Bad orientation


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Phase 3

Emerging I consciousness

World as a project in which I must participate

Self as Unique and Independent

Locus of control: The Confident ICore Values

Mission: True to Yourself

Being my own person, Independence, Freedom, Self-

Actualization, persona Growth, Service vocation

Choice Values

Moral Basis:

Personal Conscience (Inner Voice)


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Phase 4

Harmonizing We

World as a mystery which we care for

Selves as Life Givers

The self participate in giving life to the global worldLocus of control: Sense of We - ness

Core Values

Synergy, Interdependence, Truth and Wisdom,

Harmony, Creating a new world

Vision values

Moral Basis:

Social conscience


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There is a big difference between having many choices

and making a choice. Making a choicedeclaring what is

essential to youcreates a framework for a life that

eliminates many choices but gives meaning to what

remains.-Sue Bender

Values are developed not by forcing (young people) to

memorize words which they do not understand and are not

interested in; rather, by letting them talk, ventilate their

issues, search for their own values and eventually articulate

their God within.

-Andrew Greeley

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