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Bill Milford

Families As Small Groups

One Big Happy Family…

Or Not So Much

The Truth is Closer to a Small Group

Universal Truths in Group Theory

Group Process….FormNormStormPerformAdjourn

Structure…

HierarchyAnarchyCollaborative

Universal Questions….

Who’s In Charge?

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How Are Decisions Made…?

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#1. Am I Included?

If so, how important am I?

Where Are the Bathrooms?

What is a game?

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1. Rules

2. Fun

3. Inclusive

Inclusion

Peer Pressure versus Comfort Zone

Social Anxiety = No Fun

4. Sometimes … Insightful

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Insight = Connection

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Connection = InclusionConnection with Self = Wholeness

Connection with Others = Community

Connection with Spirit = Continuity

Summary: Games Are Great! Clear about rules Have an element of fun Are within each participant’s

comfort zone Promote insight and

connection

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