parenting the “net” generation: what makes our kids “click”? the answers – well kind of…...
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Parenting the “NET” Generation: What makes our kids “click”?
The answers – well kind
of… Ask Me… Homework
…
Let’s review
where we were… In
OUR day…
The Places
they go and
why…
Some questions to
start…
More Questions…
Presentation Intentions
Today for our
kids
Presentation 1
Presentation 2
Our First Session•What do we want for our kids?•Questions???•When WE were young…•Our Children’s NEEDS…•Who are these Cyborgs?•Why do they go online?•What are the challenges?•What are the opportunities?•What do we do about it?
What do we want for our kids?
Some Questions…
• How many of you have a personal profile online?
• Who has posted videos or pictures of themselves or their family online?
• Who here engages in IM? Texting?
• How many of you have an iPod/iPhone?
• Who plays video games?
Learning Intentions• To examine our children’s use of
technology • To increase your awareness of the
potential challenges around technology use
• To provide you with support and resources to better understand these issues
• To encourage practical, proactive parenting strategies to maintain connections with your children
Remember When…• Life was a lot
simpler when we were kids…
Right???
The World has changed…
• Thomas Friedman “The World is Flat”
While we were busy growing up…
• The fall of the Berlin Wall, and the rise of the Windows PC
• Wiring – the dot com era
• Outsourcing
• Web 2.0 tools (move from passive retrieval of information to creating and sharing knowledge)
For our children…•Our children have never not known the Internet•There has always been only one Germany•DNA has always been admissible in court•They are wireless, yet always connected
•They have outgrown faxing as a means of communication•“Google” has always been a verb•Text messaging is their e-mail•They have rarely mailed anything using a stamp
The 4th Screen
What are their needs?• Even though the world has changed
dramatically, our kids “needs” remain the same
Why do they go online/use technology?
What needs does it meet?• Fun• Independence• Communication• Connection• Adventure• Creation• Sense of Belonging• Risk• Being heard• Identity
The Places They Go?
Flow Theory - Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
SKILLS
CHALLENGES
Apathy
Worry
Anxiety Arousal
FLOW
Control
RelaxationBoredom
What do you want for your children…with technology
Safety Balance Healthy screen time
Digital Literacy
Social/Digital ResponsibilityPositive Social Networking Responsible E-
communication
Possible Questions for me…
• How much technology should I allow my children use?
• What can I do about issues around email; msn; social networking?
• How do I prevent these issues from happening?
• How do I learn more about tech and the issues surrounding it’s use?
• How does this help my parenting?
Some more questions for YOU…
• Where is/are your computers in your home?
• Do you place limits on your Children’s computer use?
• Who has had a conversation with their child about Internet Safety or Cyberbullying?
• Who here has adopted family expectations for children around online/computer use?
What are WE going to do about it?• Generate expectations (Proactive)
• Have the conversations and generate ownership
• Prompts (YouTube videos, case-based scenarios, teachable moments)
• Establish a response “plan” (Reactive)
• Be available to “support not punish”
• Preserve your attachment
Be Involved and connected…• Get online…
• Communicate…
• Share…
• Interact…
• Play games…
• Watch…
• Create…
• Engage…
…with THEM!
Contact information and Resources
• Dave Sands • [email protected] or
• Site• http://connectandprotect.wikispaces.com/
This is only the beginning…
Homework…1. Visit my Wiki page and look at 3
different articles/videos.
2. Go online and establish 3 new accounts on web 2.0 tools (e.g. Facebook, Club Penguin, MSN, Youtube, ePets, Twitter, WebKins, etc.).
3. Talk to your child/ren about one or more of these tools.
Intentions• To examine and engage in our
children’s technology tools• To increase competence around
addressing the potential challenges these tools present
• To provide you with support and resources to better understand these challenges
• To encourage proactive strategies to maintain connections with and guide your children online
The
• MSN Messenger
• Club Penguin
• Youtube
MSN Messenger• Instant Messenging (IM)
• Lingo
• Contacts
• History
• Family Live
Club Penguin• Intro to Social Networking
• Intro to IM (Safe Chat)
• Safety
• Limits
• Parent Controls
• What is a Social Network?• What is a Friend?• Privacy Settings• Applications
Do’s and Don’ts
DO DON’TUnderstand BanMonitor ControlConnect IgnoreEngage AvoidCommunicate
Disregard
Contact information and Resources
• Dave Sands • [email protected] or
• Site• http://connectandprotect.wikispaces.com/
This is only the beginning…