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How Long Do These Take To Learn?

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How Long Do These Take To Learn?

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When you were a little kid, learning was easy.

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Since it happened automatically, you didn't have to think about it.

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You just kept trying to do something until you could do it.

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This is how all humans learned, until very recently.

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When we try this as adults, it's called "modeling."

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Meaning we see somebody doing something we'd like to do, and then try and copy them.

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Unfortunately, it's not always so easy.

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Because not only do you have to DO what they do, you also have to NOT DO what they DON'T do.

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This is the missing ingredient if you've been trying to "learn" from gurus who promise to "show you step by step to get what I've done."

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Now sometimes, this is easy. If you're copying somebody's cake-baking technique, for example.

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Because when YOU operate on the ingredients, they will respond the same way they do when THEY operate on the ingredients.

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It doesn't matter WHO puts the batter in the oven.

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So long a the batter is prepared the same way, and the oven is the right temperature, you'll get the same cake.

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But often times we're copying people who have been INTERACTING with a certain environment.

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And unless YOU are interacting in the same environment in the same way, you'll get a different result.

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Let's say you wanted to study acting. And you copied the precise movements speech patterns of the most famous stage actors around.

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So much so you were EXACTLY the same.

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But unless you could reproduce the same audience, with the same expectations, you'll get a different result.

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It's sort like that old saying, "You can't step in the same river twice."

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Only it's WAY more complicated.

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No matter how much you model somebody, you'll ALWAYS be operating within a slightly different environment.

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Does this mean modeling is useless?

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Not at all.

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It just means that you need to model a meta-skill, rather than surface skill.

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What does this mean?

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Let's say you memorized a boxing match from Mike Tyson.

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You copied his EXACT punches, at the EXACT time.

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Obviously, this would NEVER work.

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Because all the punches and blocks would be based SOLELY on what the other guy was doing.

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Paying attention to feedback is the missing ingredient.

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No matter HOW WELL you copy some "step by step" procedure, if you don't pay attention to feedback, AND adjust accordingly, you're doomed.

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But paying attention to feedback is easy.

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It's natural.

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It's how you learned to walk.

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If you leaned forward too much, you'd fall on your face.

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And your inherent feedback-response mechanism told you to not lean forward so much next time.

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So long as you are ALWAYS open to feedback, and you are willing to adjust, you'll always get better.

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And then you'll learn the secret about things like learning Covert Hypnosis.

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You'll NEVER FINISH learning. Because you can always get better based on the feedback you get.

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Compared to others, who sit in a seminar and listen, or read a book and think they are DONE.

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YOU will always be improving, learning and getting better.

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